Jump to content
Guests can now reply in ALL forum topics (No registration required!) ×
Guests can now reply in ALL forum topics (No registration required!)
In the Name of God بسم الله

Hajar

Advanced Members
  • Content Count

    7,223
  • Joined

  • Last visited


Reputation Activity

  1. Completely Agree
    Hajar got a reaction from Dalal in Shisha - Haram or not?   
    Salaam alaikum,

    According to everything I have read smoking is haraam, unless you got addicted before you knew it was haraam, and then it's makrooh.  I have never seen any specific fatwas saying one form of smoking was ok and the others weren't.  Smoking tobacco is what is haraam, I don't see how smoking it in a water pipe would make it halal.

    Culture doesn't play a part in it. It's haraam cause it's harmful to your body, not because it is or is not in someone's culture.  

    WaSalaam, Hajar
  2. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from Vindemiatrix in Step parents   
    Salaam alaikum,

    When a woman marries a man, her daughter becomes mahram to him. Later if she dies, the daughter remains his mahram. Another point is that if a woman marries a man, and later divorces him, her children from future husbands will be mahram to him as well. These rules are because a man can't marry a daughter, after he has married the mother. So the daughter would always be mahram to him, since mahrams are people you can't marry. The only time it would be different, is if the marriage with the husband wasn't consumated. Then in that case the man could marry the daughter after divorcing the mother.

    [4.23] Forbidden to you are your mothers and your daughters and your sisters and your paternal aunts and your maternal aunts and brothers' daughters and sisters' daughters and your mothers that have suckled you and your foster-sisters and mothers of your wives and your step-daughters who are in your guardianship, (born) of your wives to whom you have gone in, but if you have not gone in to them, there is no blame on you (in marrying them), and the wives of your sons who are of your own loins and that you should have two sisters together, except what has already passed; surely Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.
  3. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from funklebits in Where do shiites say allah is?   
    Salaam alaikum,

    Since you quoted two of our Imams, I guess you already know what we believe.  Our belief is the same as yours.
    Allah is not confined to any place or direction, and he has no body.

    However, I am not so certain that those who have different beliefs are kafir.  This is a serious accusation against people who claim to be Muslim. An accusation that certain Muslims throw around too often and take too lightly.  Prophet Muhammad(pbuh&hp) said that if someone calls his Muslim brother a kafir, then one of them is.  This is very dangerous.

    Maybe they just have a mistaken belief, but still love and worship Allah(swt) to the best of their knowlege and abilities.  Their beliefs may seem strange to us, but I think it's better to let Allah judge them.  

    WaSalaam, Hajar
  4. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from funklebits in Why we should lay off israel   
    It would be so nice if people could read some history before they reveal their ignorance in public.  The Palestinians (not Moslems) are fighting for their land that the zionists are trying to take away.  The Palestinians (not Moslems) have never taken any land from the zionists,  the zionists have taken land from the Palestinians. The zionists have also tried to take land from the nearby countries, but they were not as successful.  One example was when they invaded Southern Lebanon.  Hizbollah kicked them out.



    Edited By Hajar on 1028263849
  5. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from Panzerwaffe in Shia Iran   
    (salam)
    When I was in Qum, I didn't see many serious Pakistani students. The Pakistani students that I saw were young men and women who were sent there by their families, until it was time for them to marry. The young men and women didn't want to be there and found ways to get into trouble anyway. A few were sent home for doing things that were really bad. Those who stayed, planned to finish the four year basic program and then go home.
    The purpose of the howza isn't to babysit or to straighten out wayward youth.
    I'm sure there are some serious students, but when you have parents sending their kids for these reasons, it makes it hard for everyone else.
    WaSalaam, Hajar
  6. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from Three-One-Three in Women in paradise - What do they get?....   
    Salaam alaikum,

    Is there something in the Quran that says they won't get the same things men get?

    WaSalaam, Hajar
  7. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from the-truth123 in Human cloning? - Shari3ah?   
  8. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from SouthsideShia in Need some advice...   
    Salaam alaikum,

    I think she should go and not worry about what the family says.  It's so easy to manipulate women by using their children, but Islam doesn't put this responsibility on women.  Islamically the children became the responsibility of her husband's father or some other male in his family, once he died, so they are guilt tripping the wrong person.

    WaSalaam, Hajar
  9. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from wrangler in Ribena and Lucozade are HARAM!   
    (salam)
    I have never heard of Ribena or Lucozade, so I guess I'm safe. :)
    But as for small amounts of alcohol being allowed, it depends on your marja. Some allow it, some don't.
    Examples:
    Sayyid Khamene'i: (doesn't allow small amount)
    Question 317: There is a substance called 'kafeer' which is used in food and medical industries, and during fermentation 5% to 8% alcohol is produced in the final product, and this small quantity of alcohol does not cause any kind of intoxication. Is there any problem from the shar 'i viewpoint in using this substance?
    A: The alcohol present in the product, if it is itself intoxicating, is najis and prohibited, even if it is not intoxicating for the consumer due to its presence in a small quantity and being mixed with the thing produced. But if there is a doubt as to its being intoxicant in itself or as to its being originally a liquid, the rule will differ.
    Sayyid Fadlullah: (allows small amount)
    Q: When is beer considered lawful to drink as non-alchoholic?
    A: The percentage that makes the beer lawful to drink is the one that could be considered as virtually as non-existent and it is usually very much less than 1% according to the experts in this field. This percentage ranges between 0.05% and 0.03%.
    WaSalaam, Hajar
  10. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from hasnainabbas786 in is cursing aisha haram?   
    (salam)
    No it's not. Disassociating oneself from them is wajib, but not cursing them.
    WaSalaam, Hajar
  11. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from Hameedeh in An important marital issue - I need some serious feedback!   
    Salaam alaikum,

    Brother Ali, I have seen this happen in some marriages.  Mostly I see it happen in the marriages where the couple have their seperate lives and don't spend enough time together.  Like the men will leave work, come home and eat, and then go visit their friends or somewhere else, the wife stays home alone or with the kids.  This isn't good, it builds up a wall between the couple.

    Why is it like this?  I don't know for certain.  I think it may be because the couple really don't have much in common.  Try to marry someone who has similar tastes, interests and goals as yourself.  Or someone who is at least willing to do the things you like, and you are willing to do the things they like.  There has to be compromise in a marriage or the couple will grow apart.

    Me and my husband don't have all the same interests.  For example he loves camping and hiking in the mountians.  I'm not much of an outdoors person.  But I go with him camping and all that cause he likes it.  I have other interests and he does those things with me, cause I like them.

    Whenever my husband is not working, he is usually with me and the family. Even when he is working he phones me a few times throughout the work day.  We do things as a family and very rarely do things without each other.  The only time we do things seperately, is like I go shopping  by myself.  My husband stays home with the kids and I go shopping.  It's faster like that, and I need some time away from the kids.  He also takes the kids to his Sisters house sometimes so I can take a rest.  He goes hunting with a friend, during hunting season, and I stay home with the kids then.  Other than these times, we are usually together.  Our life is centered around each other and the kids.

    The couple have to be willing to spend time together and work as a unit.  Otherwise it's just not going to be a very fun marriage.  Living together and raising a family is hard work.  But it shouldn't all be work.  The couple should have fun with each other and enjoy the company of each other.   Sometimes this takes some effort, but it's worth it.

    WaSalaam, Hajar
  12. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from Gypsy in All in favour of closing down the sisters forum?   
    Probably to annoy women. There is nothing worse than plopping down on a toilet and falling in, cause some numbskull left the seat up.
  13. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from habib e najjaar in hair under hijab   
    (salam)
    Sisters, part of hijab is not describing what is underneath your covering. It's improper to describe your hair on a public message board, such as saying whether it is long or short. In order to protect the hijab of Sister who were perhaps not thinking, I have deleted all references describing the hair of individual Sisters.
    WaSalaam, Hajar
  14. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from ireallywannaknow in Marriage for older man?   
    Salaam alaikum,

    My great-uncle remarried when he was 84. His wife of 60+ years had died a year or so before. He went to a funeral and saw a woman he had gone to school with there. He had wanted to marry her when they were young, but she married someone else. Her husband had passed away a few years before he saw her again. Anyway, they had coffee and began phoning one another. Then they got married. The family was kind of surprised, well more like shocked. But they were both healthy for their age, and it was his choice, so no one said anything. He died a few years later, but was apparantly happy those last few years with his new bride.

    WaSalaam, Hajar
  15. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from Ali_Hussain in Ibid - What is it?   
    Salaam alaikum,

    Ibid is an abreviation for the word ibidem.

    It's so funny how many Salafi argue using Ibid as a source.  Once this guy was arguing with me in one of those text chat rooms, that something was in our books.  The conversation when something like this:

    Me:  Which Shia book is that from?

    Him:  Ibid

    Me: Ibid is the name of the book?  

    Him:  Yes, and it's a Shiite book.

    Me:  You read this book yourself, or you found it quoted somewhere?

    Him: I have the book and read it myself!

    Me:  Are you sure, maybe you found it quoted somewhere and are quoting that book.

    Him:  No way, I am not a liar like Shiites, I read the book myself.  I have it right here.

    Me: Really, do you know what Ibid means?

    Him:  It's a Shiite word, I don't know all the Shiite words.

    Me:  So Shias have their own language?

    Him:  Yes they have code words so they can practice taqiyya and lie to other Muslims.

    Me:  LOL ok you are the one lying and I can prove it.

    Him:  I am not lying, it's in the book.  You are trying to do taqiya to fool innocent Muslims.

    Me:  There is no Shia book named Ibid.  Ibid is the abreviation for the word Ibidem.  It is used in books and articles when you are listing more than one quote from the same book.  You quote the book and then you put ibid for the next quote, that tells you that the information is found in the same book as the previous quote.  ( I then copied and pasted the dictionary definition of Ibid, and gave the website for the dictionary)  So you are lying, you found this quote in a book about Shias not a Shia book.  You do not have a Shia book named Ibid and you did not read it.  You have no knowlege as to whether or not this is in a Shia book.

    Him:

    Me:  Hello?  Are you there??

    Someone else:  He has left the room.



    Edited By Hajar on 1030724167
  16. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from Gypsy in Ibid - What is it?   
    Salaam alaikum,

    Ibid is an abreviation for the word ibidem.

    It's so funny how many Salafi argue using Ibid as a source.  Once this guy was arguing with me in one of those text chat rooms, that something was in our books.  The conversation when something like this:

    Me:  Which Shia book is that from?

    Him:  Ibid

    Me: Ibid is the name of the book?  

    Him:  Yes, and it's a Shiite book.

    Me:  You read this book yourself, or you found it quoted somewhere?

    Him: I have the book and read it myself!

    Me:  Are you sure, maybe you found it quoted somewhere and are quoting that book.

    Him:  No way, I am not a liar like Shiites, I read the book myself.  I have it right here.

    Me: Really, do you know what Ibid means?

    Him:  It's a Shiite word, I don't know all the Shiite words.

    Me:  So Shias have their own language?

    Him:  Yes they have code words so they can practice taqiyya and lie to other Muslims.

    Me:  LOL ok you are the one lying and I can prove it.

    Him:  I am not lying, it's in the book.  You are trying to do taqiya to fool innocent Muslims.

    Me:  There is no Shia book named Ibid.  Ibid is the abreviation for the word Ibidem.  It is used in books and articles when you are listing more than one quote from the same book.  You quote the book and then you put ibid for the next quote, that tells you that the information is found in the same book as the previous quote.  ( I then copied and pasted the dictionary definition of Ibid, and gave the website for the dictionary)  So you are lying, you found this quote in a book about Shias not a Shia book.  You do not have a Shia book named Ibid and you did not read it.  You have no knowlege as to whether or not this is in a Shia book.

    Him:

    Me:  Hello?  Are you there??

    Someone else:  He has left the room.



    Edited By Hajar on 1030724167
  17. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from -Enlightened in Shia Astrology   
    Salaam alaikum,

    I think this topic should be called Shia astronomy, not astrology.

    waSalaam, Hajar
  18. Like
    Hajar got a reaction from yahossein in Bahai   
    Salaam alaikum,

    I think this might indirectly answer your question.

    Sayid Khamene'i:

    Question 340: Please answer the following questions:

    First, what is the rule for Muslim students intermingling and shaking hands with students belonging to the deviant Baha'i sect at the primary, secondary, and high school levels, irrespective of whether they are boys or girls, mukallafor non-mukallaf, within or outside the school?
    Second, what should be the behaviour of the teachers vis-a-vis students who either declare that they are Baha'is or are known to be such?
    Third, what is the rule pertaining to using things used by all the students, such as drinking-water taps, latrine taps, pitchers, soap, etc., with the knowledge of presence of wetness on hands and the body.

    A: All members of the deviant Baha 'i sect are considered najis and their coming into contact with something requires observing the rules of taharah in cases where taharah is required. But the behaviour of the headmasters and teachers with Baha'i students should be in accordance with the regulations and Islamic ethics.

    Question 341: Please elucidate the duty of the believing men and women vis-a-vis the deviant Baha'i sect and the complications that arise due to the presence of the followers of this sect within Islamic society?

    A: If is obligatory for all believers to counter the deceit and corruption of the deviant Baha 'i sect and to stop others from being misled and carried away by this deviant sect.

    Question 342: At times the followers of the deviant Baha'i sect bring us food or something else. Is it permissible for us to use them?

    A: It is not obligatory to return their gifts or refrain from accepting them, and in cases where you have a doubt that their bodies may have come into contact with these things in a state ofwetness, it is permissible for you to presume laharah. But you should try to guide them and lead them towards Islam.

    Question 343: A large number of Baha'is live in our neighborhood and often visit our home. Some say that the Baha'is are najis while others say that they are clean. These Baha'is also exhibit good morals. Are they najis or clean?

    A: They are najis, enemies of your religion and faith. So beware of them. my dear child.

    WaSalaam, Hajar
×
×
  • Create New...