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  1. Salaam alaikum, Thought some history of high heels would be nice. Apparantly it was *men* not *women* who wore them first. :o The History of Heels The history of heels is clouded, although they date back to pre-Christian times. Egyptian butchers wore high heels to raise them above the carnage, and Mongolian horseman had heeled boots for gripping their stirrups firmly. The first recorded year heels were worn for vanity was 1533, when Catherine de Medicis brought heels from Florence to Paris for her marriage to the Duke d'Orleans. The style was immediately set forth by ladies from the French court. Within the next century, European woman walked on heels 5 inches and higher, balancing with canes so as not to fall. As the working class couldn't afford to wear such shoes high heel shoe heights fell. And therefore after they rose or fell according to the fashion. In the 19th century the high heeled shoe became the top style to own. Although Europe brought the new trend for high heels, America wasn't far behind in becoming of style. In 1888 the first heel factory in the United States opened. Making it unnecessary for women to import their shoes from Paris. Newly liberated, women in the early part of the 20th century favored sensible shoes. But in the 1920s, as hemlines rose, legs and feet were suddenly on display and shoes needed to be as beautiful as they were practical. Always in and out of style, high heels reached new level with the advent of the stiletto in the 1950s. And to the dislike of many women, high heels popped up again in fashion magazines in the 1990s. Still, whether a woman thinks heels are the height of fashion or the height of pain, she usually has a least five pair in her closet for the occasion when flat shoes just won't do. High Heels - A Historical Chronology. 1533 Short-statured Italian bride Catherine d'Medici, married at 14 to the Duke of Orleans, wears shoes with two-inch heels to exaggerate her height. The high heel may have been invented by Leonardo da Vinci (1452-1519). 1553-1558 Mary Tudor ("Bloody Mary"), another vertically challenged monarch, wears heels as high as possible. From this period until the early 19th century, high heels are frequently in vogue for both sexes. Mid-1500s An extreme shoe style called chopines, popular among women in Italy, Spain and France, had pedestals of cork or wood as tall as 24 inches. A Venetian lady wearing chopines needed two servants to help her in and out of a gondola. 1660 French shoemaker Nicholas Lestage, so clever at his trade that some accuse him of sorcery, becomes shoemaker to Louis XIV. The heels of Louis's shoes, some decorated with miniature battle scenes, are as tall as five inches. High "Louis" heels are also fashionable for ladies. 1745 Madame de Pompadour, tiny-footed favorite of Louis XV, popularizes high, narrow "Pompadour" heels. Ladies tape their feet to reduce their apparent size and faint at court. 1793 Marie Antoinette ascends the scaffold to be executed wearing two-inch heels. However, in the wake of the French Revolution heels become lower than at any time in the 18th century. Early 1800s Flat shoes and Grecian-style sandals become popular. Approx. 1865 The "sneaker" or plimsoll, a canvas-topped, rubber-soled shoe, is invented for badminton and tennis. Ladies' heel heights vary but stay below two inches during the rest of the century. 1888 The first heel factory in the United States opened. Making it unnecessary for women to import their shoes from Paris. 1904 The ladies' "pump" or court shoe, a British invention, reaches America. Shoe stores begin to stock shoes with a range of widths around now. Approx. 1955 Tall "stiletto" heels for women's shoes, invented in Italy by Roger Vivier for Dior, become a fashion rage. Very pointed toes come into vogue for both sexes. 1970s Return of the platform shoe. 1980s Return of high heel shoes. Athletic shoes also feature heavily in fashion. 1990s Return of the platform shoe in various styles and designs including sandals and tennis shoes.
  2. (salam) The iddah for mutah is two menstrual cycles or 45 days. The three month iddah (or three menstrual cycles) is for divorce after permanent marriage, not mutah. WaSalaam, Hajar
  3. Salaam alaikum, If that was the case, why didn't the storm hit Washington DC? Or some other wealthy area? Why the poor South? WaSalaam, Hajar
  4. Salaam alaikum, The only sea creatures we can eat are fish with scales and shrimp. Sayyid Seestani: A Code of Practice for Muslims in the West 163. In order for fish to become permissible for a Muslim, it must have the following conditions: (a) The fish must have scales on it. [That is, it should not be a skin fish.] (B) The Muslim should be certain or satisfied that the fish has come out of the water alive or that it died while it was already in the fishing net. It is not necessary for the fisherman to be a Muslim or to utter the name of Allãh for the fish to become halãl. So, if a non-Muslim catches a fish and brings it alive from the water or it dies after getting caught in his fishing net or fishing line, and it has scales on it, it is permissible to eat. A Muslim can ascertain the first condition by examining the fish if it is being displayed or by observing its name [which can tell you whether it is a skin fish or a scale fish] as long as you can trust the authenticity of the label. A list of scale fish has been appended at the end of this book. The second condition is fulfilled in almost all the countries, as they say, because the universal method in fishing ensures that the fish comes out of the water alive or they die after they are caught in the fishing net. Based on this, it is permissible to eat the fish that one gets from a non-Muslim just as one gets from a Muslim, irrespective of whether it is canned or uncanned. (See the question-answer section below.) 164. It is permissible to eat shrimps, if they are brought out of the water alive. It is forbidden to eat frogs, lobsters, turtles, every amphibious animal, snails, and crayfish. (See the question-answer section below.) WaSalaam, Hajar
  5. Salaam alaikum, Much of Louisiana is below sea level or near sea level. The place I grew up in was only 6 feet above sea level. New Orleans has been an important city for a long time. It is (or was until now) a major port city on the Gulf of Mexico, and the Mississippi river also joins the Gulf of Mexico there. It was useful for both boats comming from the gulf and things being transported down the Mississippi river. So there were good good reasons for building the city there. This hurricane was huge and not something that happens everyday or that was expected. Just like the tsunami, things happen that people can't plan for. BTW, my son is here visiting me now, and his car is at the airport in New Orleans. We don't know if it's still there are not, but that's where he left it. WaSalaam, Hajar
  6. Salaam alaikum, If moving to North Carolina is a good opportunity for you and your children, you should take it. I would consider these two things seperately, not lump them together. Meaning just because you move, doesn't mean you have to marry this man. I believe you said there aren't many Muslims where you live. Are there more in that city in North Carolina? Who knows, maybe you will go there and meet someone else. Wasalaam, Hajar
  7. (salam) http://al-islam.org/organizations/aalimnetwork/msg00747.html QUESTION: I was wondering about a few things. Kindly help answer my questions. I am under the taqleed of Aqa e Seestani. (1) If a shia couple got married through a Sunni Maulvi is their marriage contract valid or not? I mean can shias marry through a sunni maulvi if a shia one is unavailable? (2) What are the valid points for a woman to be able to take a divorce from her husband. *What if he could not support her? *Could not provide a house that is protecting her from her brother-in- laws in the matters of Hijab etc.? And any other info that you can give. ANSWER: 1. If the Nikah is read according to Shia FIQH, it will be valid - otherwise not. 2. Divorce from husband can be obtained with the permission of Marja on the following grounds: a. If the husband does not maintain her. b. If he disappears totally. c. If he is given a long term imprisonment, which would be humanly intolerable for wife. d. If he is cruel to her. e. If he is impotent, or becomes impotent. With Salaams, Asgharali M M Jaffer WaSalaam, Hajar
  8. (salam) You aren't even allowed to spy on your own children, how can you spy on a wife. It's wrong and tell the guy so. He may have a problem where he is too suspicious, don't help make the problem worse. WaSalaam, Hajar
  9. (salam) Rape and artificial insemination are two other ways.
  10. (salam) The woman a man commits adultery with, does not become haram for him. She would only become haram for him, if she was married. This is because it is haram to marry or have relations with a married woman. On the other hand, since a man can have four wives, it's not haram to marry a man that is already married. Adultery with a married man is haram, but it doesn't make the couple haram for each other, if the woman was unmarried. Apparantly this woman was single, so she would not become haram for you. But it is recommended for you both to repent before marrying. The deed has been done, at this point and since your wife agrees to the marriage, I think it would be best if you married the woman. It will most likely be difficult for her to get married to anyone else, if they find out what she has done with you. WaSalaam, Hajar
  11. (salam) From what I have read, it's mustahab to sleep on the right side. So I wouldn't worry about it. Just sleep on your right side. You can write to your mujtahid for more information on the recommended sleep position. WaSalaam, Hajar
  12. (salam) Why don't you ask something more realistic. No one has ever mentioned getting a breast augmentation, why are you stuck on that one? Why don't you ask them about facial cosmetic surgery? WaSalaam, Hajar
  13. Salaam alaikum, Congratulations to your fiance and best wishes to you. WaSalaam, Hajar
  14. (salam) Even if the child is proven not to be her husband's, that is not evidence of adultery. There are other ways for her to have conceived a child. WaSalaam, Hajar
  15. Salaam alaikum, Ok, he played for two days and took breaks to sleep and go to the bathroom. He must have been really weak to begin with, if that exhausted him. WaSalaam, Hajar
  16. Hajar


    (salam) I don't think keeping birds in a cage is cruel. I have birds cages. There are hadiths that recommend keeping birds. That's why I have them. I haven't seen any hadiths that recommend keeping dogs or even cats. Not saying there aren't any, but I haven't seen them. WaSalaam, Hajar
  17. ^ Or he could have been talking about a particular situation, and not women in general.
  18. ^ That view only works if you consider women to be more than chattel. There are men, of any religion, who don't consider women as much more than objects designed to satisfy thier desires.
  19. From all the women I have talked to in the last 50 years, I would say the usual cause is the husband isn't satisfying his wife. No one wants to do something that invariably ends up in frustration. Would a man be gung ho to be intimate, if the wife always got up and left in the middle of things? Not very likely.
  20. I think you are getting closer to the truth. Now let's go a step further and find out why anyone would be teaching hate.
  21. (salam) It doesn't matter how many times you've done something, you can just slightly turn the wrong way and hurt your neck or back. My friend was trimming hedges and turned a bit to the side to trim one part, and got a slipped disk in her back. It was awful, she phoned me and I had to rush her to the Dr. She was in severe pain, just from trimming some bushes. WaSalaam, Hajar
  22. (salam) I'm not. I don't know what the problem is, we weren't given enough information to know that. But the husband is the one complaining, so he obviously has a problem with some actions/inactions of his wife. For all I know, the wife could be oblivious to all this. That's usually the case, because most men have poor communication skills. WaSalaam, Hajar
  23. (salam) Polygamy is not the solution for a screwed up marriage. He already has a problem, why ignore the problem and perhaps create more problems? It would seem more logical to straighten out the marriage he already has, than to get another with it's own set of problems. Such "solutions" only serve to prove that men don't respect their wives, or think of them as equal human beings. WaSalaam, Hajar
  24. Salaam alaikum, It depends on when one gets online. If you are referring to your report this morning, I reviewed it when I got online, I didn't see the offense the report claimed. If you feel I have reached this conclusion in error, then send another report and quote the objectional paragraph. wasalaam, Hajar
  25. (salam) What's the burqa got to do with it? Was the suspect wearing a burqa to hide his identity? WaSalaam, Hajar
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