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Maisam Haider

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  1. Yes, that shows getting married doesn't mean that a halal way to fulfill sexual desire will always be permanently available. There can be long periods in a married man's life where there is no chance to satisfy the natural urges. The reasons can be numerous. Therefore patience to safeguard oneself from sexual sins like masturbation is a life-long battle and has to continue even after marriage.
  2. One thing surprising is how there are some people in this world for whom finding any suitable person for marriage is extremely difficult and very challenging and very hard, with no easy solution and years of unmarried life ahead of them - and absolutely no halal way to fulfill natural desires. On the other hand are people who are not only permanently married, but can also engage in mutah whenever they wish, as many times as they wish, without any difficulty or hardship, with full liberty and absolutely no obstruction for fulfillment of halal desires. The contrast is striking and the
  3. Yes, of course. But I believe the other purpose of sexual desire is that how much effort can a person put in to limit this sexual desire only to that which is halal. Getting married is not wajib but avoiding sins is wajib. That means it is more important to not have haram pleasures than it is to have halal pleasures. So this sexual desire is a test of patience and a big challenge of life, not just a means of pleasure.
  4. Most men masturbate. Now if masturbation causes normal sexuality to become dead, then it means when most men get married, they find sexual intercourse less comforting, less pleasurable, less satisfying than masturbation. They would prefer to masturbate than to have sex. But masturbation after getting married is even a worse sin than masturbating before marriage. That means a person who masturbates a lot before marriage should keep in mind that even though it is obligatory for him to get married, it wouldn't necessarily mean that marriage would grant him more sexual pleasure than he is al
  5. A person who has no desire for intimacy may not feel any urge to get married. That is an issue because if he doesn't get married, then how will he be tested with all the responsibility that comes with marriage. But at the same time, having no sexual desire would also mean that the person doesn't commit any sins of sexual nature because he doesn't feel any need for this. That is a big plus point. What more could a man want than being protected so easily from sins of sexual nature?! No sexual desire, no sexual sins. Maybe the man should thank Allah that he is free from sexual sins in
  6. I didn't say they are not culturally imposed. I agree that Islam doesn't put any baseless restrictions on early marriages and most of the hindrances are due to society. But even if a person resists the culture and makes his maximum effort to get married early and tries his level best, it is still possible that he might have to wait for a long time, extending over several years, because making an effort to get married early is not a guarantee that early marriage will actually take place, because the resistance from the society may be greater than maximum effort the man can put in. I
  7. Yes, but when a man rightly makes the ultimate decision to get married soon, against all odds, that doesn't necessarily mean that his marriage will actually take place as soon as he wishes. Even if he tries his best he may have to wait for several years for nikah or even mutah to take place. That's because getting married is not something which is in every man's own personal control. Had that been the universal case, most young men would have been married at young ages. Circumstances today can make it so extremely hard to get married for a young man, that several years of wait is a very r
  8. Found the following by internet search but it is Sunni: Regarding this issue, the Islamic Research Academy at Al-Azhar issued the following resolution on Thursday, March 27, 2008: It is not permissible for one of the conjoined twins or both to get married from another person. The reason of prohibition in this case is that marriage has requirements and marital affairs that one of the conjoined twins is not allowed to watch. It should be noted that the conjoined twins are not considered one person, and it is not permissible for a person to marry from two female conjoined twins as
  9. What does Islam say about conjoint twins who are adults, cannot be separated and wish to get married? Is it haram for them to ever get married, because they are two different individuals and cannot be married to one spouse? Is marriage categorically forbidden for them in Islam and if yes, what options do they have to satisfy their needs without committing any sexual sins? If there are two brothers, is it possible for them to get married to two different women? How would that practically work because there would be no privacy? There have been some cases where conjoint brothers have married
  10. Suppose there is a young unmarried man. He is very pious, religious and God-fearing. Like other young men, he has high sexual desire but still he controls his urges and restrains himself from sexual sins. He finds it very difficult to maintain full chastity but still he is able to achieve this goal by putting in a lot of effort. Although he is very patient, still he does have fear that at some point in life, if he continues to remain unmarried, he might commit some sin. He understands that it is obligatory for him to get married and he is trying all within his reach to get married or do mutah
  11. In 1204, it was converted by the Fourth Crusaders to a Roman Catholic cathedral under the Latin Empire, before being restored to the Eastern Orthodox Church upon the return of the Byzantine Empire in 1261. The doge of Venice who led the Fourth Crusade and the 1204 Sack of Constantinople, Enrico Dandolo, was buried in the church. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hagia_Sophia The graves are still there, as far as I know. If you walk up the ramp which leads to the first floor, on the way up, there is an opening in the wall where I think it was marked that the graves were there.
  12. I have visited Hagia Sophia. Yes there are Christian holy figures burried there.
  13. And this is a big challenge and very complicated and worrisome issue. Many people have no access to any marja or their wakeels. If you give khums to any online Shia charity, they might not provide receipts from Iraq from marjas office. What do you do then....bury khums in the ground for the imam as. to recover when he returns? Finding a reliable collection service for khoms is really a very, very big issue and a very serious matter. I often think most of the khoms I have given in my life, I have no way of confirming whether Ayatollah Sistani office was ever informed of not, because I do n
  14. There is a tradition that there will be two men who will be exactly equal in their good deeds but one of these men will be given hoouris in jannah and the other will not get any. The reason for this would be that the one who will get hoouris will be the person who used to make very frequent duas to get hoouris, while the other person did not make any dua to get them. But it is possible that hoouris are not pretty girls, but infact represent some sort of menifesatation of love of Imam Hussain as. I think there is a tradition that houris are made up of Noor of imam Hussain as.
  15. Thanks, I will do that because at the moment I'm not sure if we are allowed to deliberately dry up any part of the skin before wudo finishes.... and pulling up the trousers to wipe the feet may be considered as deliberately making the hand dry. That was my original question. Who said it is a bath?
  16. Thanks. So does it mean that it is permissible to intentionally dry any part of the skin which has already been washed even before the Wudho finishes? For example, after washing the right arm, a person takes a towel and dries up the arm completely leaving only moisture on the palm for wiping the feet, and then proceeds with washing of the left arm ..... Is this permissible ?
  17. What does "suchlike" include actually? Does it mean that if a man washes his face and then quickly dries it with a towel and then proceeds with the remaining Wudho, it would be valid because it is done in close succession? If it is not allowed to dry the face with a towel before washing the arms, how do we then know that pulling a pyjama up to wipe the feet will be allowed, when we know that doing this will dry up the hand?
  18. Ruling 282...if when one wants to wash or wipe a place, the moisture on all the places that he has already washed or wiped has dried up, the wuḍūʾ is invalid.
  19. Salam One of the conditions of Wudho is that the parts of body which have been made wet should not dry up before the Wudho is complete. Now if one has to wipe the feet but the trousers or pyjamas are covering the foot and the person has to pull the trousers up with his hand, would that invalidate the Wudho because the hand would dry up?
  20. Not all apostates can be killed. Only those who turn apostates and then preach apostasy and are actively driving people away from Islam may be killed, if other conditions are met, as far I know.
  21. It depends on the scenario. If the wife has started living with you and you are paying her nafaqa, and have paid Mehr, then it is only between the man and his wife to decide when they would like to engange in sexual activity and when to they wish to avoid it. But if there was a condition in nikah contract that there will be no sexual intimacy for a set period of time, or the wife demands that Mehr is paid before you touch her and you are unable to pay it, or the wife hasn't started living with you yet and her parents had put in the condition that there will be no physical contact after n
  22. An excerpt from another topic on this forum:
  23. Yes, Ive thought about this monk many times. If a human like this monk has the ability to withstand fire in such a manner, then does it mean that we Muslims should also have similar ability? Should we train ourselves to become so strong, that we can sit in fire easily, for the sake of Islam? If a monk can become so strong, are we Muslims expected to become stronger, or at least at par with him. If a Muslim faces difficulties in life and he says he cannot bare these hardships, can Allah say in return that if a monk can sit quietly getting burnt, then we must also become as strong as him and sho
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