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  1. (salam) so the objective behind the Iddah period is to rule out pregnancy, So does it make any difference if the couple had already been separated for a year, and have not had sexual relations for one year? does the woman still has to observe iddah after the divorce ?
  2. In fetal life,the heart forms and starts beating long before formation of any specific brain tissues.. And the fetus is considered alive as long heart activity is present...so in IMHO a person should not be considered dead as long as heart is beating irrespective of the brain activity... Beacuse heart activity is indicator of life from the most initial stage of human development
  3. sisters........ i need urgent duas for my daughter........ time is passing by and last day tomorrow ........:(( cant go in the details now sisters please please pray that Allah and Imam e zamana (a.s) relieve me and her of the difficulty before tomorrow ends
  4. salam bros and sisters.. how does one keep their hopes up in times of difficulty...... i am praying and reciting ziyarat e ashura everyday.... and trying to keep my faith strong by remembering the 12th Imam (a.s) please if anyone could tell me of any personal experiences how they passed through the difficult times in there lives, it would help me see light at the end of the tunnel. i shall be very grateful kindly pray for me......need them badly
  5. thank you ! May Allah shower his blessings upon you
  6. salam can someone explain these verses to me 37:172-178 i know its pretty simple.but still (١٧٢)[That] indeed, they would be those given victoryBahawa sesungguhnya merekalah orang-orang yang diberikan pertolongan mencapai kemenanganوَإِنَّ جُندَنَا لَهُمُ ٱلْغَٰلِبُونَ (١٧٣)And [that] indeed, Our soldiers will be those who overcome.Dan bahawasanya tentera Kami (pengikut-pengikut Rasul), merekalah orang-orang yang mengalahkan (golongan yang menentang kebenaran).فَتَوَلَّ عَنْهُمْ حَتَّىٰ حِينٍ (١٧٤)So, [O Muhammad], leave them for a time.Oleh itu berpalinglah (wahai Muhammad) dari mereka, (jangan hiraukan celaan mereka serta bersabarlah) hingga ke suatu masa.وَأَبْصِرْهُمْ فَسَوْفَ يُبْصِرُونَ (١٧٥)And see [what will befall] them, for they are going to see.Dan lihat (apa yang akan menimpa) mereka; tidak lama kemudian mereka akan melihat (kemenangan yang telah Kami tetapkan untukmu).أَفَبِعَذَابِنَا يَسْتَعْجِلُونَ (١٧٦)Then for Our punishment are they impatient?Maka tidaklah patut mereka meminta disegerakan azab (yang telah ditetapkan oleh) Kami!فَإِذَا نَزَلَ بِسَاحَتِهِمْ فَسَآءَ صَبَاحُ ٱلْمُنذَرِينَ (١٧٧)But when it descends in their territory, then evil is the morning of those who were warned.Kerana apabila azab itu turun dalam daerah dan kawasan mereka, sudah tentu buruklah hari orang-orang yang tidak mengindahkan amaran yang telah diberikan.وَتَوَلَّ عَنْهُمْ حَتَّىٰ حِينٍ (١٧٨)And leave them for a time.Dan berpalinglah (wahai Muhammad) dari mereka, (jangan hiraukan celaan mereka serta bersabarlah) hingga ke suatu masa.[As-Saffat - سورة الصافات 37:172 - 178] - See more at: http://quran.islamicevents.sg/37/172/178#sthash.t9jvVkUs.dpuf
  7. i want to know the islamic ruling about the money and jewellery that was given to the wife at the time of marriage ... this wasnt part of mehr.. the jewellery was gift by husband's relatives and the money was given to her by husband soon after marriage .... now the husband and wife have seperated , they havent decided about divorce yet, but the husband is demanding the things back........ what is the islamic ruling regarding this? can/should the wife too ask back for the gifts she gave to his family?
  8. Thank you bro ali,those are all very good suggestions but unfortunately i dont think i will be able to put any of them to practise. The reason that the in laws were successful with their interference was my husband's attitude. In the past he never did anything to protect me and the children. I dont think he's going to do much now,despite admitting that his family are the ones who are behaving badly. My children are too young to understand whats going on. All the suggestions you gave require a united front (not letting them enter house without permission etc) by husband and wife, unfortunately, its nt so in my case. Husband is fully aware of his responsibilities regarding this matter but is full of excuses when comes to fullfill those. So it all falls on my shoulders to do protect myself and my children. In that too, my hands are tied as he insists that we go visit them like things are normal. Any attempts to put distance between me,kids and them hav resultd in my husband throwing a fit. Husband himself does nothing to protect us and will not let me do whatever i can. What options am i left with??? Bro ali, needed a clarification, cutting off ties with blood relatives is haram,my in laws are not my blood relatives,is that haram too. Though they have never shown any affection towards my kids i will let the kids go visit them as soon as they are old enough to understand things a bit
  9. Thanks for ur replies, can anyone provide me any rulings relevant to this matter
  10. @ varun: there's nothing left to explain,husband know everything but is unable resolve things @keystoparadise : askd husband to move away several times but he's not going to,had we been living sum distance away i might not hav felt the need of taking this step,but since we r going to live in close proximity to them i need to draw clear lines to keep them from interfering,hence.....
  11. Salam everyone,i wont go in the details but my inlaws have always treated me v poorly ever since i got married 6yrs back,neithr me nor my husband has been able to come up with a good explanation of their behaviour,its just that they never accepted me ,i hav always tried to be good to them.they interfered so much in our marriage and nearly destroyed it. Even the birth of our children changed nothing for them.most of the time they ignore my children or openly show preference to other kids, some of those are not even family,yet they get preferred over the children of their only son.at other times their attitude towards the children have been callous.i do not want my children interacting with them lest the unkind behaviour harms their innocent minds.my husband so far has never taken any practical steps for the children's well being,though he doesnt deny their unkind and unjust treatment and also acknowledges my efforts to have a good relationship with his family.but now i hav reached my ropes end.me and my husband are making one last effort to salvage whats left of our marriage.since my husband is not able to do anything about their interference and because i believe that their toxic behaviour will not only strain relations between husband and me(last straw on the camel's back) but are also extremely unhealthy for our little children,i am planning to cut off ties with them.my husband says its not a problem for him if its allowed islamically,given the circumstances. Can anyone tell me the islamic ruling regarding this?they are not my blood relatives,am i still under the obligation to keep in touch with them?my children who are still babies have never recieved any affection from them,rather faced unkind behaviour on some occasions,for the sake of keeping ties is it okay to expose them to it? I knw a lot of u will disagree with me just by reading the words "cutting off ties" but these are the people who have ruined my marriage,driven me and husband to discuss divorce. I dont plan on keeping my husband,their son away for them.he's free to see them and take care of them as long as he fulfills his duties as husband and father. Thank you all
  12. good point, i think she probably can........ if that guy hasnt gotten resident status yet, no she doesnt have to pay back any money.......... just get a divorce....... people from her family can pressurise him he isnt behaving
  13. algerian shia....... if he is willing to gove it another chance...... why not????? some many men i know had affairs outside their marriages, some of their wives came to know abt it........ what happens...... lots of times nothing..........you ll find so many posts on shiacht and on the web about husbands being into porn.......addicted to it....... does that mean that the wives should automatically divorce them..........??? while i admit that this brother should have been stronger in some aspects........ in other ways i think its very wise of him to give his wife and his marriage another chance, he is just trying to salvage the situation.......... but in my opinion it should be just once... divorce is going to get no one nowhere...... the child life will be badly affected, and the wife's boyfriend..... will he marry her.??????...... i dont think so........
  14. salam sis, please can someone tell me from where i can get those arm covers/gauntlets in pakistan? i dont seem to find them anywhere, i am desperate.
  15. just reading the Q&A on najaf.org out of interest............... most of the answers seem to be ambigious, not very clear cut and difficult to make out
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