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Bonafide Hustler

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  1. Completely Agree
    Bonafide Hustler got a reaction from Dalal in Women And Makeup In Islam   
    makeup contradicts hijab
    if u gonna wear makeup to look nice infront of fellow sisters, then u can do that without wearin hijab
    but if ur wearin hijab and then u do makeup, like wth? for who? for us bros
    sorry to break it to u, but us brothers dont find makeup hijabis attractive
    i know it hurts, and the whole world has jus come crushing down on u upon this realization, but its the truth, ohhhh all the thousands of dollars spent to no avail
    to all the sisters who wear hijab and then pound thier faces with makeup
    u need to read the following book
    what a brother wants by Ayatollah habib
    and
    sisiters its not working by sister ******
  2. Haha
    Bonafide Hustler got a reaction from Flying_Eagle in Woh Kia Cheez Hai (plz Answer)   
    salam
    lol mushkil sawal hai, 3 ghuntay mein exam hai
    cant think
    someone please answer
  3. Disagree
    Bonafide Hustler got a reaction from amethyst_b in Engament Ring?   
    OPPS got deleted...
    Why do you need to buy her a diamond in the first place? Whats the point of buying a the most useless piece of rock that will outlast your own relationship. Well if the diamond prices will quadruple within the next 2 years then thats a diff story.
    If I were you, I would grab those shiny diamond rings from the dollar store with a return policy.
    Also why are u trying to impress her girlfreinds?? do you want to get with them? STUPID WIFEYS GIRLFREINDS always ruin relationships cuz they cant stop running their damn mouths about the most useless things. You should start ignoring them so they can perhaps move onto discussing bigger and better things... wont happen though.
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    Bonafide Hustler reacted to forte in Attitudes towards mental illness and suicide.   
    There is a lot of confusion due to a lot of misinformation about mental illness. There are some crazy and bizarre cultural ideas about people with mental illness and this can create some pretty harsh, judgemental opinions.  
    Severe, life changing psychiatric conditions are almost always due to a neurochemical imbalance and they are genetically loaded. They are usually treated with long term medications and therapy.
    Psychological conditions are behavioural and are due to a way of thinking (brought on by environment, drug use, life happenstance) which can produce behaviours harmful to the point of creating a miserable, unproductive life. They are treated with rest from environmental and/or chemical stressors, cognitive therapy and sometimes when there are severe symptoms, with temporary medications that facilitate access to therapy.
    Sometimes, there is a combination of both. For example, clinical depression can be very complex with both psychiatric and psychological factors and can be difficult to treat even by people who have a vast educational background and have years of experience working with these patients.
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    Bonafide Hustler reacted to forte in Capital Punishment/Death Penalty   
    Not necessarily.  The death penalty is permissible but I am not aware of where it absolutely must be applied.  The judge has the right to discretion when applying sentence.  Mitigating factors can be taken into account such as mental health issues, circumstance, power position of the individuals involved etc.  Countries applying Sharia law differ in their interpretation of when the death penalty should be used.  Tunisia, for example, rarely uses the death penalty.  Then again, there is forgiveness by family members and the possibility of blood price.
    Muslim family members who forgive the killer of their loved ones are definitely saying no to the death penalty.  If it is applied, it is yet another life taken and it has no constructive purpose other than to hurt another family. The woman in the film clip above wants to have her son's death have some sense of meaning so it is not just a senseless loss.  If she can turn this guy's life around, she can benefit his family and hers and is ultimately working for the greater good of the community.  
    Being a Muslim means you accept that the death penalty is permissible, but you do not have to support its application.
    My biggest objection is that it is grossly disproportionately applied to people with low social-economic status in both Muslim and non Muslim countries and therefore open to abuse.
    I dont know either.  I know that Saudi applies the death penalty as a punishment for more than just murder; they have a myriad of reasons as to why they execute people, including political, so it would be hard to correlate.  It is easier just to look at countries that do not have the death penalty vs countries that do not have the death penalty and then. compare violent crime statistics
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    Bonafide Hustler reacted to forte in Why homosexuality isn't great   
    Pedophilia is a medical, mental health disorder that you can find listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Health Disorders, 5th edition (DSM 5).  It is clearly defined and delineated from similar manifestations of behaviour.  Here is more information:  http://jaapl.org/content/42/4/404   Hoards of medical professionals from around the globe, after YEARS of consultations and research and debate (the current edition of the DSM took over 15 years to develop) define what is a diagnosable disorder and what isn't.
    Medical diagnoses are based on objective research methodology results that are to be as free of bias due to tradition or superstitious beliefs, as humanly possible. A medical diagnosis is based on concepts that reflect legitimate evidence-based contributions. 
    A medical diagnosis is the first step in modern medical practice.  The purpose is to guide the management and treatment of the patient. In contrast to previous belief system approaches, where "disorders" were determined on culture or myth based systems, modern medical guidelines are based on examination of current evidence using modern diagnostic techniques and treatments that are to be free of bias, culture or myth.  Again, all humans have bias due to acculturation, but this is goal for which we continually strive. Consultations between medical professionals are common place to support the practice of objectivity.
    There is a wealth of information as to why homosexuality is not included as a psychiatric disorder that has come from many years of examination from many different angles.  If you are interested in exploring this further, there is plenty of information at your google finger tips.
    Society's excessive, extreme punitive approaches to homosexuals have probably caused more damage than homosexuals themselves.  There are some very famous examples of people who contributed greatly to society who were imprisoned, tortured and/or killed.  A modern example is Alan Turing.
  7. Angry
    Bonafide Hustler reacted to rkazmi33 in Not allowed to eat   
    I have sympathy for your mom. You are obviously insulting her house keeping skills and you are being ungrateful. 10 pounds is not such a big weight loss and you can obviously get something from outside to eat. If your mom was really cruel, she would make you do all the work at home. If you had to wash not only your dishes, but all dishes and clean the house, I wonder if you would remain so obsessed with cleaning. Perfectionists are spoiled, they are never victims. I repeat, you can buy something from outside to eat since you are 18 years old. You are just trying to be a victim. I hope shiachatters give you the usual lectures they give to kids in threads about abusive parents. 
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    Bonafide Hustler reacted to Gaius I. Caesar in Not allowed to eat   
    I'm going to probably upset you but you really are talking a bunch of nonsense right now,  first you say the OP is ungrateful and then you spew this spiel? Please, your attitude is exactly what is wrong with Ummah and mental illness. You should stop before embarrassing yourself further, I am disgusted with you. The OP can't help it, it's a uncontrollable obsession that affects her quality of life.  Starving her and making her lose ten pounds in a week isn't going to fix OCD. It's mental illness, stop being ignorant.
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    Bonafide Hustler reacted to Gaius I. Caesar in Not allowed to eat   
    The problem is that she suffers from OCD, something that is not her fault and her mother is starving her,. it's abuse. It's not a matter of tolerance but a matter of safety and well-being. I have no idea how old the sister is or where she lives but this is something that APS and CPS deal with everyday.  I respect you a lot but this is not the way to handle the situation, there is no excuse for her mother's behavior period.
  10. My Prayers
    Bonafide Hustler reacted to forte in Not allowed to eat   
    The mom could possibly be upset that the girl is leaving as she is her stress release.  Who knows why she is upset and behaving in a way that sounds like a kind of BPD but it is not for someone who is struggling so much internally to have to deal with.  Making nice does not usually improve the situation.  The girl needs to gain control of her life and her reactions to life and relinquishing control to an unstable person is not the way to go.  She has to gain some strength and be able to separate herself from someone else's crazy making.  You are assuming the mom is just a little out of sorts.  Starving her child and potentially causing her harm is way out of that ballpark.  My immediate thought was that the mom is going to manipulate her into staying.  The girl needs to take control of her life, and she needs to do it now.  She needs to recognize her mothers behaviour for what it is, understand that she is NOT responsible for it and view things in a much healthier environment.  When she is with her mother she has to create that environment for herself.  i think I echo a few posters in that we tend to minimize oft heard phrases that are passed around for fun.  However, OCD is a serious disorder.  
  11. Completely Agree
    Bonafide Hustler reacted to forte in Not allowed to eat   
    Really disagree here.  This is not about mom.  Walking on eggshells around someone like that (Mom) to try and curb their behaviours toward you is not usually effective; in fact, it often encourages the very behaviour you want extinguished.   And, it is a big enough job to try to develop individual strategies to cope with OCD.   At this time, Mom is  a clear bonafide part of these OCD cycles, given, at the very least, her reaction to the OP and then the OP's consequent reaction to her mom.  To encourage (which is what "make her life easier" does) Mom's dysfunctional part of the OCD cycle can self defeat the OP's efforts to reduce the impact of this disorder on her own life.  Also, Mom threatening and refusing food is pathologically controlling.  Absolutely no need to soft peddle that. Keep it real.  It is best for the OP to recognize and acknowledge Mom's behaviour  for what it is as it relates to her (the OP), and then compartmentalize it.  The OP then needs to try and separate from Mom's behaviours (not engage them) and take care of her own symptoms (without this toxic punitive baggage) into the future.  
  12. Like
    Bonafide Hustler got a reaction from Aflower in Ideal Looks of a Couple   
    If you are a guy you shouldn't worry too much about appearances.  Enough decent women will always gravitate towards guys with attractive personalities.  It maybe cliche but just be confident in yourself and command respect.  A sense of humour and ambition also go a long way.  Unfortunately for women it is different and looks tend to play a bigger role. 
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    Bonafide Hustler reacted to forte in [MATURE] Husband Issues   
    This is currently not a good marriage and it does not seem to be headed for a bright future.
    Focusing on whether he has other wives or is allowed to have wives, etc, is not addressing what is really going on here.  It is just a distraction.  
    You are not being treated as a wife.  You are being disrespected and hurt and told that your unhappiness is not worthy of addressing (biggest red flag).  You are emotionally and verbally abused, his parents don't like you and it seems your husband doesn't either.  Your husband does not appear to be concerned about the deterioration of your marriage. He is actively avoiding addressing these issues. Marriages are not one sided. Apparently, as he has a life that meets his needs outside of his marriage to you, he is fine and has no incentive to change things. However, it is his responsibility to care for your well being, and he is not.
    What are the positives in your marriage? Are your needs being met in any way?  Can you focus on the strengths of your marriage to help you through this situation?
    You say you are working.   Keep and save your salary.  It is your right and he cannot deny you this.  Could you be self supporting if needed?
     Is your family supportive?  Do they know of the situation?
    It is important to recognize that you have options. It lessens the fear of assertively addressing the issues with him. Let him know that you will not be ignored.
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    Bonafide Hustler got a reaction from Hameedeh in Ideal Looks of a Couple   
    If you are a guy you shouldn't worry too much about appearances.  Enough decent women will always gravitate towards guys with attractive personalities.  It maybe cliche but just be confident in yourself and command respect.  A sense of humour and ambition also go a long way.  Unfortunately for women it is different and looks tend to play a bigger role. 
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    Bonafide Hustler got a reaction from Nitidum in Ideal Looks of a Couple   
    If you are a guy you shouldn't worry too much about appearances.  Enough decent women will always gravitate towards guys with attractive personalities.  It maybe cliche but just be confident in yourself and command respect.  A sense of humour and ambition also go a long way.  Unfortunately for women it is different and looks tend to play a bigger role. 
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    Bonafide Hustler got a reaction from Hameedeh in Diabetes Prevention   
    stop watching tv and playing xbox and go out and play some sports or anything to stay active like gathering wheat from wheat farms
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    Bonafide Hustler got a reaction from Yasmin P in Feeling Guilty After Mutah   
    thankyou
    ill look further into this, however 99% of the time, mutah is motivated through fornication and not chastity in todays world, this is why only the strongest of muslims should even consider it.
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    Bonafide Hustler got a reaction from Nadia. in Feeling Guilty After Mutah   
    thankyou
    ill look further into this, however 99% of the time, mutah is motivated through fornication and not chastity in todays world, this is why only the strongest of muslims should even consider it.
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    Bonafide Hustler got a reaction from Tonks in Boy=Girl=S   
    Salam rehmat ullah illa billa
    ugh so many sisters around here assumed I was a sister so they could get with me on msn. I used to initially think sis zahratulislam was a brother cuz she would be debating outrageous in the political forum. But then one day she stated she was taking driving lessons as a 16 year old and that too in the latest mustang..... not a journey some wise brother would embark on... so that was a bit awkward... plus her mischievous fast typing. Anyhow I have been able to pick out fake genders like a mango farmer would pick be able to pick out a chaunsa from a box of anwaratols. Its ok, some of the sisters have male tendencies, is it insulting pointing these out? you be the judge. baha
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    Bonafide Hustler got a reaction from Akbar673 in What Do Sunnis Think About The 12 Imams?   
    I am not a sunni, but i have been around sunnis all my life, and they dont think much about the Imams, they have high respect for the first 3 Imams, the rest they really dont even know or mention much
    its simply alll about the sahaba, everything is through the sahabas
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    Bonafide Hustler got a reaction from Gotham in What's Your Ethnicity?   
    Saiyan.
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    Bonafide Hustler reacted to Deewan in Norman Finkelstein In Iran   
    Isn't this debate a silly one? Zizek has made some invaluable contributions to theory and our understanding of ourselves and the world around us, but the breadth and scope of his work and thought is no where near that of Chomsky. There are few living parallels to Chomsky's academic contributions. I've engaged far more with Zizek's work, particularly his critique of neoliberalism. So, I would agree that often Zizek complements Chomsky. But it's a huge stretch to try to make the two of them sound comparable to each other.
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    Bonafide Hustler reacted to Marbles in Norman Finkelstein In Iran   
    Well, Zizek is cool but he writes in a grandiose style and often employs sophistry to make his point, which is entertaining and puts a smile on the reader's faces. This is just not how Chomsky operates. Besides, we are talking about serious political commentators and historians. Emotional outbursts and flights of fancy are for the novelists and poets.
     
    Those who deprecate Chomsky's tremendous, tremendous scholarship put a question mark on their own understanding of solid, quality academia.
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    Bonafide Hustler got a reaction from Wisdom Lion in Parents Don't Want Me To Marry Yet?!   
    Jeez, kids these days just don't have a clue about the never-ending responsibilities of marriage, in all probability, given we generally need to worry about religious compatibility, personality match, physical attraction, social/family/financial responsibility, cultural differences, an insanely long full time commitment, outside interference and on and on and on, I doubt whether more than 20% of married couples are actually in a good place.
     
    As far as children are concerned, muslims produce too many already, overpopulation is a serious concern in major muslim areas, lets be nicer to the countless unattended, oppressed and uncared for ones first, instead of these personal ambitions of 5-6 of our own.
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