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shadow_of_light

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    shadow_of_light got a reaction from Peace! in Is My Husband Committing Adultery In His Heart?   
    Dont ruin your life. Separate from this cruel man as soon as possible. You deserve to have a better husband.
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    shadow_of_light reacted to ילדת מלך in Favourite Accessories--   
    I am the only child of my parents, do not want to live without my father; I have lived my entire life in hostels ,now finally I got to stay with my Baba, no intentions of losing the paradise----once lost, it's so hard to regain--
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    shadow_of_light reacted to ילדת מלך in Favourite Accessories--   
    ^^^
    wow, spectacular--
    I have jewels studded jewelry, none of it is mine actually, belonged to my mother and grandmother; it's so graceful and majestic,but I do not wear it.
    I just wear the hair accessories which were in day to day use of my mother when she was alive. She was very fond of pearls and Sapphires, so the most jewelry she got from her mother is pearls and sapphire studded.
    I ,too, like sapphires, some how I never liked rubies.
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    shadow_of_light got a reaction from hasanhh in Study In Iran For Foreigners   
    Yes I know that UNFORTUNATELY some people of my country (not the majority) are racist and I mostly blame Pahlavi dynasty and the channels I mentioned above for it.
    Many Iranians even dont know that Afghans are very close to them ethnically and culturally.
    Some of them hate Mongols because several centuries ago they attacked Iran and destroyed our civilization (they had a rule according to which, they had to destroy any living being even trees and animals). I personally hate those Mongols but not those ones who live in our time. Every one is responsible for his own deeds not for his ancestors'.
    Some Iranians hate Arabs because they attacked Iran at the time Of Ummar. Some believe that Arabs destroyed Persian civilization. But I believe that Islam speeded up our civilization. It is why during Islamic era, we had a lot of scientists but during Sassanid era, we had very few scientists (because ordinary citizens didnt have any right to education).
    Some Iranians also hate Arabs because they have seen some bad behaviours from them. But it is not fair to generalize about the whole people of a nation.
    I personally, only hate bad people and I dont care their race or religion. If they are good people, I respect them.
    As to black people from Africa or Latin America, I think many people have better attitudes towards them. I know a black woman from Latin America who married an Iranian man.
    As to owning lands, yes, foreigners can not own land. It is a rule in many countries because it may cause some problems (remember how zionists occupied Palestine through buying their lands).
    But foreign citizens can have bank accounts if they fulfil the requirements.
    As to owning cars, I dont have any information but I think many foreign ambassadors have their own cars.
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    shadow_of_light reacted to UmmAhmad in Favourite Accessories--   
    That's so sweet!!! :) In my family we have an heir loom ring- really fancy and beautiful. Its given to the first born daughter. So my grandmother has it, then my mother, then me. My grandpa was given a baby ring when he was born, around the 1950's, and he gave it to my little Ahmad. :)
    I had the same problem and found that I can only tolerate pure gold or silver. Needless to say I have only a few pairs of earrings. LOL
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    shadow_of_light got a reaction from ShiaBen in Study In Iran For Foreigners   
    Yes I know that UNFORTUNATELY some people of my country (not the majority) are racist and I mostly blame Pahlavi dynasty and the channels I mentioned above for it.
    Many Iranians even dont know that Afghans are very close to them ethnically and culturally.
    Some of them hate Mongols because several centuries ago they attacked Iran and destroyed our civilization (they had a rule according to which, they had to destroy any living being even trees and animals). I personally hate those Mongols but not those ones who live in our time. Every one is responsible for his own deeds not for his ancestors'.
    Some Iranians hate Arabs because they attacked Iran at the time Of Ummar. Some believe that Arabs destroyed Persian civilization. But I believe that Islam speeded up our civilization. It is why during Islamic era, we had a lot of scientists but during Sassanid era, we had very few scientists (because ordinary citizens didnt have any right to education).
    Some Iranians also hate Arabs because they have seen some bad behaviours from them. But it is not fair to generalize about the whole people of a nation.
    I personally, only hate bad people and I dont care their race or religion. If they are good people, I respect them.
    As to black people from Africa or Latin America, I think many people have better attitudes towards them. I know a black woman from Latin America who married an Iranian man.
    As to owning lands, yes, foreigners can not own land. It is a rule in many countries because it may cause some problems (remember how zionists occupied Palestine through buying their lands).
    But foreign citizens can have bank accounts if they fulfil the requirements.
    As to owning cars, I dont have any information but I think many foreign ambassadors have their own cars.
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    shadow_of_light reacted in Why Do People Jump Over The Fire Before Nowruz?   
    (bismillah)
    (salam)
    HH
    From Kalam, God acts according to justice and justice is not according to His acts. The Qur'anic verse denying God's act but for justice proves this.
    From the Qur'an, we understand that human fitra contains the principle of morality. Fraud, for example, offends our consciences.
    It is without doubt that bondage of human beings against their will and without just cause offends the conscience. It seems to offend religion too. Otherwise, the Lord would not insist on freeing slaves or buying slaves to free them on various occasions. Normally, "freedom" is preferable and not "bondage to another human". It follows from this that slavery cannot be a norm. It must be an exception.
    The question is: what are the exceptions?
    -------------------
    On the one hand we must reason. On the hand we must obey. What a hard intellectual life we lead.
    (wasalam)
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    shadow_of_light got a reaction from Kaniz e Zahra in Would You Ever Hit A Woman?   
    Not all scholars agree that the word "واضربوهن" means beating. Some believe that it means "leaving".
    The Prophet(s) said: "The best of you are those who have the best behavior with their wives and the worst of you are those who have the worst behavior with their wives".
    He also said: "I am astonished to see a man beating his wife while this is he who deserves to be beaten".
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    shadow_of_light got a reaction from ImAli in Would You Ever Hit A Woman?   
    Not all scholars agree that the word "واضربوهن" means beating. Some believe that it means "leaving".
    The Prophet(s) said: "The best of you are those who have the best behavior with their wives and the worst of you are those who have the worst behavior with their wives".
    He also said: "I am astonished to see a man beating his wife while this is he who deserves to be beaten".
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    shadow_of_light reacted to Hameedeh in Iran Ban On Sunni Eid Prayers - Why   
    (bismillah)
    (salam)
    It was an old news story written last year,Wednesday 31 August 2011. The journalist was talking about Eid-al-Fitr prayer after completion of the Holy Month of Ramadan.
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    shadow_of_light reacted to Peace! in Worst Nightmare You Have Ever Had?   
    Sis, I am going to follow that advice from now on.
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    shadow_of_light reacted to 1472Maryam in Teach Me About Iran   
    (salam)
    Thank you Shadow of Light. I think that Iranians are so used to being Iranian, they may not realize what may be interesting to someone just learning about the country and its people. Since I am not Iranian, though, I always say that at the beginning of the posts in this thread so people can correct any misconceptions that I may have.
    Here's another snippet of information:
    Hot and Cold Food
    When Iranians talk about hot and cold food, they may not be talking about spicy vs bland,nor about steaming vs freezing. What they are instead talking about is an ancient classification of the nature of food, and that diseases can be caused by an imbalance in one or the other nature. For example, meat and sweets are considered hot, but many vegetables are considered cold. However, people's opinion of what is hot and cold may vary by region, so if anyone disagrees with that last statement, I may not be surprised. Some people say that this concept began with Avicenna, others that it is older than that and came through Zoarastrianism. Not having researched the history, I am only reporting what people have said to me.
    So, if you are visiting with Iranians who believe in this concept and begin not to feel well, they may carefully analyze what you recently ate, and anounce that you had too many hot foods (garmi) and that you must now eat some cucumber, or other food which has a cold nature (sardi) to offset that.
    There are also many folk remedies for various ailments - teas, herbs, and such. Of course, you can go to a doctor, and most people do, but the old remedies still hold on.
    Which brings me to another subject...the Iranian "fear" of cool moving air. ;) In the US, we often say that we must've gotten a cold because we were out in cold weather. In Iran, they take it to another level. In the middle of the heat of the desert summer, the hosts that you are staying with will insist that you cover your hair after you wash it until it is dry, because you might catch cold (and believe me, this is not in situations that call for hijab). They will make sure that fans are not blowing directly on you, and will use air conditioning sparingly. Many times you may go to a home and find that they both have the air conditioning on and a window open. This is to provide some relief but avoid the danger of catching a cold.
    Now if you do catch a cold despite all their best efforts, the remedy is the same as ours in the US....chicken soup. :)
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    shadow_of_light reacted to Abu Hadi in Wow   
    I will say that I disagree with Yasir Habib on many thing (and I don't know too much about him because I don't live in the UK) such as his celebration of the death of Aisha, Umar and Abu Bakr. Our Imams(a.s) did not do these things. Although they condemned their actions and advocated for their (the Imams of Ahl Al Bayt) rights, they did not stoop to the level of insulting and mockery. So yes, these reverts should realized that mockery and humilition, even to those who betrayed the Prophet(p.b.u.h) is not part of the practices of Ahl Al Bayt and if our role models didn't engage in this, we shouldn't either.
    At the same time, if they realize this fact, they have a more clear path to realize the truth than, say, someone who reverts into Salafism. So we should try to guide these people who follow Yasir Habib to Haqq rather than calling them a 'cult'. I don't think that is productive or conducive to what we are trying to accomplish, i.e. leading to true path of Ahl Al Bayt(a.s).
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    shadow_of_light reacted to hussainmehdi in Life in Iran and Nuclear Deals   
    Iran is the eighteen largest country in the world in terms of area,
    Iran has eighty million population,
    Iran is among top ten countries today in the world in literature, philosophy, mathematics, medicines, agriculture, engineering and construction, space technology, experienced and skillful manpower, etc and in growth of science,
    Eighty million population inside Iran need oil,
    Eighty million population inside Iran need agricultural crops, fruits and food,
    Eighty million population inside Iran need transportation, healthcare and construction,
    Etc.
    So, Iran has eighty million businessmen, customers and business transactions and opportunities inside Iran,
    Iran can assign its provinces to do business independently with each other,
    Iran does not need outside business for the sake of survival,
    Iran has been producing wealth from inside Iran and of course will continue to do it,
    Iran is self sufficient in agriculture, healthcare, oil and gas, mines and minerals, etc.
    Iran has enough resources to continue to flourish and progress,
    Everybody knows that the opportunity of ‘wealth production’ from foreign countries is sometimes available and sometimes not,
    It’s usual,
    It’s not the question of survival for Iran,
    Iran is not a kind of country that’s survival totally depends on outside business,
    Iran is the land of consumers and businessmen at the same time,
    Iran is the land of investors and transactions at the same time,
    Iran is the land of opportunities and opportunists at the same time,
    Iran is a country where even dust is gold,
    Iran is a country where banks do not matter,
    Iran is a country where every single citizen can turn into a banker,
    What else does any country need for the progress???
    Boeings???
    Nations can survive without boeings,
    Nations, however, can never survive without patience and independence.
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    shadow_of_light reacted to 1472Maryam in Teach Me About Iran   
    (salam)
    Disclaimer: I do not claim to speak for the people of Iran, because: a) I am not Iranian, and B) I don't know them all. I am speaking from snippets of my own experience, much like the blind men and the elephant. So, here's one snippet.
    The Concept of Taarof - There is no word that corresponds to this in English, so a translation might be: the belief of a host that a guest is just being polite and really wants every piece of food in your house, and therefore one must browbeat him until he eats enough to make him sick, and the effort of the guest to avoid being trouble and eat as little as possible, whether or not he is hungry. Well, actually I think taarof means more of the latter - the guest's trying to avoid taking it, but the two play sort of a symbiotic ritual together. This can also apply to other situations where someone is trying to be helpful to another and the other person is trying to avoid being helped, but it reaches its apex in the realm of social eating.
    When you visit an Iranian family, they will immediately begin preparing tea and dessert plates of seasonal fruit to serve you, and may also serve regional sweets and nut/seed mixtures. You will politely accept the plates and then proceed to ignore them. They will urge you to eat, and you will take a few grapes to appease them, but it doesn't. They will pare a pear and offer it to you, and you can't really let it go to waste now once it's cut, can you? And then, you really must try these peaches....they are very good.....and then I made this special cake today just for you....
    There are certain people who are very good on the host end and others that are very good at avoiding the eating part. For example, there may be a khaleh-jan (means "dear maternal aunt") who makes sure that you have eaten at least one of each kind of fruit in the house and each pastry, and if you don't want tea, she will make sure that someone brings you a sharbat (an -ade, made with fruit syrup and water, or with pureed fruit such as melons), and even though you have something in your mouth every second you are in her house, she is sure you are far too thin, and must have more, and take some home in case you get hungry in the 15 minute car ride home. And then she has to give all the young people some money, and even if you're 55, you're still young in her eyes. :rolleyes:
    The ones on the guest side that are successful in avoiding eating just seem to have that force of will to politely take a bite and then offer things to others and strongly decline things for themselves. Or they are quick at filling their plate so no one can put something else in it. For example, if they are eating a meal at someone's house, then they eat all the yogurt in the small bowl by their plate, and as soon as they finish the plate with their main meal, they put the bowl on top of it, and make sure chicken bones fill any other available area of the plate and bowl. Otherwise the host will be sure to put another huge kafgir (large flat serving "spoon") full of rice on the plate, because the guest obviously is wasting away and needs more.
    An Iranian who arrives in the US and is not aware that Americans do not know how to taarof, may come away hungry the first few times they visit an American family, because the American will offer food, the Iranian will politely decline, the American will say, "Are you sure?", the Iranian will say they do not want any, and then that will be the end of it, to the great astonishment of the Iranian, who will not know what to do if they are not harrassed into eating.
    (wasalam)
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    shadow_of_light got a reaction from Sapphire in No Change, No Time   
    When "X" moves from place 1 to place 2 or changes from manner1 to manner2, we can define time for it. In other words, there must be a change (in place or manner) or there must be a movement (again in place or manner) in order to define "time".
    If humans and other live beings never grow and if every thing is fixed, then how can we define time?
    Therefore, time and change (or movement) are closely interconnected.
    It is why that time has no meaning for God, because God never changes and never moves.
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    shadow_of_light got a reaction from ילדת מלך in Why Do People Jump Over The Fire Before Nowruz?   
    I disagree. Aryanism was a product of Nazism. I dont think that in ancient, there was any tendency toward Aryanism. As to Ferdosi, regardless of distortion of his book (Shahnameh), his words aganist Arabs were not his own words. He was quoting from others (e.g, the kings).
    I dont deny that there are some racists in my country (there are racists in every country), but there are many anti-racists as well:
    Human beings are members of a whole,
    In creation of one essence and soul.
    If one member is afflicted with pain,
    Other members uneasy will remain.
    If you've no sympathy for human pain,
    The name of human you cannot retain! (poem by Sadi)
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    shadow_of_light got a reaction from fightingsoul001 in No Afghans Need Apply   
    Both parties are blameful. A wise person never takes such drugs and ruin his own life.
    I have heard that recently, some college students take glass because they think it is good for their memory!!!! Glass is a very dangerous substance (more dangerous than heroin) and its treatment is very difficult. They ruin themselves just because they want to take good marks in the exams!!!
    A person who takes glass is very dangerous. He may kill his family members unconsciously.
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    shadow_of_light got a reaction from fightingsoul001 in No Afghans Need Apply   
    Some Iranians have negative opinion about Afghans because they think one of the main reasons of (illegal) drug trafficking is Afghanistan and its people.
    I dont know how many of traffickers are Afghan, but every year, large amounts of illegal drugs are imported to Iran through Afghanistan's border.
    As the number of addicted people increases, the rate of other crimes also rises because most criminals are addicted or drunken people.
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    shadow_of_light got a reaction from fightingsoul001 in No Afghans Need Apply   
    You can not find any perfect country in the world. A country can be perfect ONLY when all of its people are perfect.
    As to schools, what you said depends on the schools themselves and those who manage them. Some schools accept Afghan students and some dont.
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    shadow_of_light got a reaction from fightingsoul001 in No Afghans Need Apply   
    I have never insulted Afghans in my whole life. When I read the stories of some Afghani women who were assaulted by Taliban/ American soldiers, I cried. It was very sad. They are like my sisters. How can I be happy in my life while others are suffering and experiencing sad moments. I pary for them and for Iraqi women and all the oppressed in the world.
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    shadow_of_light reacted to struggling_On in What Would U Have Done?   
    only punishment for such offense is stone to death, i wish islamic justice system was in place and Our imam (as) was in in charge...... if this was the case than father was not justified of killing ................... read the story of baby molesting by her family, I got infuriated........... punishment of such act is also stone to death or even harder may be peeling their skins of and feeding to dogs...........
    Make an example out of such offenses so no body dare to do that again............. and the present justice system i don't accept it bring one of our imam(a.s) let them run the affair of this world.... don't accept anyone except them(as) if dat's not the case then don't complain about it.......................
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    shadow_of_light reacted to LightWorker in What Would U Have Done?   
    I would have literally mangled him, not just knock the life out of him.
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    shadow_of_light got a reaction from Gepetto_Zapata in Why Do Animals Suffer?   
    Yes, I have heard all these stories but as far as I remember, in the first story, it was a woman who saved the dog.
    The verse I mentioned above is this:
    ‘There is not a moving (living) creature on earth, nor a bird that flies with its two wings, but are communities like you. We have neglected nothing in the Book, then unto their Lord they (all) shall be gathered’
    [al-An’aam 6:38]
    Ayatollah seyyed Muhammad Hossein Hosseini says in his book that Ajal Musamma (ajal means death) which is refered to in surah Ahghaf verse n.3, means eternal life in the next world. So according to the verse below, every creature has an eternal life:
    We did not create the heavens and earth and what is between them except in truth and [for] a specified term (Ajal Musamma). But those who disbelieve, from that of which they are warned, are turning away.
    Surah Al-Ahghaf, verse 3
    Surah 42/ verse 29:
    And of his signs is the creation of the heavens and earth and what He has dispersed throughout them of creatures. And He, for gathering them when He wills, is competent.
    surah 19/verses 93-95:
    There is no one in the heavens and earth but that he comes to the Most Merciful as a servant.
    He has enumerated them and counted them a [full] counting
    And all of them are coming to Him on the Day of Resurrection alone
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    shadow_of_light got a reaction from Gepetto_Zapata in Why Do Animals Suffer?   
    Salam sister muslimah and welcome!
    Yes animals will be risen from the dead on the Day of Judgement as mentioned in a verse of surah An'aam.
    God never forgets anything even the smallest beings in the world. This is the human who forgets and thinks that for example, because an insect is very small so its life is not important, but God never thinks so! His compassion and love is inclusive.
    This is God who gave animal mothers kindness and feeling of love towards their children. How can the creator of love and compassion be pittiless and unkind himself??!!
    Yes this is absurd that dogs have evil spirits!!! God created no evil being!! Even he didnt create Satan evil. He himself became Satan.
    They may think so because dogs and pigs in Islam are considered "najis". But najis doesnt mean evil. If they think that najis means evil then they must accept that humans are evil too, because thier bodies are full of blood and blood is najis too.
    So as muslims, we should not touch dogs with wet hands and if we do, we must wash our hands. That is all!
    And we must not keep them inside our homes, but we can keep them in our yards or gardens. I even didnt keep my kittens inside the home (because of cleanness issues) but I loved them and I kept them in the yards. They were litten kittens who had lost their mothers so we kept them, otherwise I think that it is not true to deprive animals form their natural life and separate them from their mothers.
    There are many narrations and fatwas about animals' rights which I will post them soon.
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