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In the Name of God بسم الله


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  1. Accidental? Nothing I post is by accident. :Hijabi: Anyway, I think we've both made our points and Insha'Allah you feel better soon.
  2. The relevance of how a university professor would deliver information is beyond me. This is a open forum for chatting - not a university lecture theatre. If you care to debate how I lecture my students perhaps this is for another forum? Now, back to the original topic... Yes, the reason for her return to the news is the change in her role - not a promotion as such, just a change. I understand that you posted this information to promote the diverse roles hijabi's can play in our society. That in itself is fantastic. I chose not to take my issues with this constable to the media as it was better dealt with through the police force. Hijabi or not, I would not have accepted the way this officer dealt with my family. I want my child to grow up and go into whatever career she chooses, however, she needs to remember who she is along the way. Wearing a headscarf does not end our hijab. Having my daughter see a police woman wearing a scarf is wonderful, however if the officer then behaves in such a way that my then 6 year old refers to this officer as "the bad police woman, you know, the one wearing a scarf", then that is certainly not a hijabi I want to promote. And yes, I have a formal letter of apology to back up my story.
  3. I could say so much, but so that I don't personally attack someone, I will bite my tongue. Be cautious about the kind of person that you are promoting.
  4. Knowing my daughter, as only I can, she is ready for some basic information. I could wait till she is older, however I know that she would already have information from her peers by then and I'd rather that she learn it from me. She is the kind of child who makes friends with children older and younger than herself, is going to a mainstream school in a non-Islamic community, therefore she is bound to hear things. I don't intend to scare the living daylights out of her - I remember how devastated she was when she realised, at about age 5, that she was going to grow into a woman (there were big drippy tears and everything!). I will always teach what is appropriate for her age and her mentally and emotionally. I want to keep the lines of communication open with her, I don't want to be her best friend, however I want her to feel comfortable talking to me about whatever she needs to. If I make sex a "normal" topic that her and I can chat about, then hopefully when she is a confused hormonal teenager she will feel confident enough to come to me. And forewarned is forearmed.
  5. Thanks Shay, it's funny how the most obvious things don't always come to mind. I'll hit the bookstore after the school holidays. And thank you for your support :)
  6. 10 months is not too early, however some kids just don't like change! Have you tried the sippy cups with interchangable lids? There's sippy cups out there with a teet top, that can then be changed to a sippy cup top when your little one gets used to a cup rather than a bottle. And, don't stress out over this. Your daughter will eventually give up on her bottle and move on to a cup in some form or another. You're not going to have to pack her off to school with a bottle. :)
  7. I have an opinion on the health risks of a tanning bed though.. and here are some good reasons not to do it.... http://www.melanomapatients.org/index.php?...&Itemid=217 http://www.cancercouncil.com.au/html/about...olariumlaw.html http://www.clareolivermelanomafund.org/HTM...elanomafund.htm I cannot comment on whether tanning beds are halal or haram, but surely if there is a risk of getting skin cancer and dying just to change the colour of your skin, well, it's something you should avoid.
  8. Planting seeds, watching them grow... nice :lol:
  9. I cook every day - week days twice a day, weekends 3 times a day! No wonder I'm exhausted!
  10. This made me laugh. Situations always pop up that warrant an explanation and pull in pieces of the puzzle. I never suspected velociraptors would be one of those situations! I agree that raising my daughter Islamically will help her grow into a good Islamic adult. I disagree with not teaching her myself. The advice I was asking for was how to teach her, not whether I should or should not. And for the record, I plan to be age appropriate with what I teach. She's 7 - just starting to ask questions about how babies get into tummies. I am very sure she doesn't know yet, based on the questions she asks, and the answers she gives to my questions. Great response Smiley. I think you've nailed it. Thank you. Yes, children are taught reproduction at school. When I was growing up, by the time I was taught formally I had so much mis-information that I came out of sex ed class more confused than when I went in. 5,000 years ago, society was very different. Just this weekend, we saw a woman with a dress so short that my daughter was convinced (and horrified) that the woman had forgotten to put pants on. My daughter is being raised knowing her boundaries, knowing what is halal and haram, but that doesn't mean I can ignore teaching her about some basic facts of life, again, age appropriately.
  11. I want to teach my child about everything I possibly can. Finding out from others in a Western society will not help my child to learn Islamically.
  12. Thank you for the replies, however two answers that start with "I think..." don't give me an Islamic response. Let me ask this. Is it acceptable for an adult studying medicine to view pictures in a medical text book purely for educational purposes? In my humble opinion, I would assume that an adult is more likely to look at these pictures with lustful thoughts than a child. Therefore I would assume if in fact it is acceptable for an adult to view such images, then it would be acceptable for a child, if for educational purposes alone.
  13. Ali - thank you for such an indepth essay, it is an interesting read. I am really after some basics. Is it okay to show children pictures, say, out of a medical book? Or should I just try and explain everything in words? I don't want to show my daughter something that is forbidden for her to see, however I don't quite know how to explain things to her in words alone.
  14. (salam) I don't want my daughter to start hearing things from her friends at school and want to start some sex education at home. My problem is that, as an Aussie revert, I'm not sure how to go about this Islamically. Growing up, we had sex education at school, we were shown pictures and had books to read with our parents. I just remember it being all very embarrassing, but I learned what I needed to know. My daughter is an only child and is totally unaware of boys and girls having different anatomy. I'm really starting from scratch here and would appreciate any constructive advice that anyone can offer.
  15. (salam) I am not going to critically analyse this article at this point, however I will pass some comment. I think that Islam is very clear on its stance on violence. As Islam is spread throughout the world, I believe that many things occur in the name of Islam that are, infact, culturally based, which is where the lines get blurred and people see Islam for something that it is not. Patriarchal Power - Islam says the man is the captain of the ship. There needs to be a captain, but how he captains his ship does not need to be violent. Privilege- A man can gain respect as good leader without being violent. The remaining 5 fit more into cultural based issues than Islamic. I would be happy to discuss my opinions further if you would like.
  16. I am in Melbournes south eastern suburbs. We have almost non-stop news coverage here, with the most up to date information and links available via www.news.com.au. On the 29th of January there were fires just metres from my home, from a fire that was started as the result of a motor vehicle accident. Thanks to the police, fire brigade and local fire volunteers, it was under control and no lives or houses were lost. That in itself was scary. I can not begin to imagine the fear in those people who have lost their homes, their loved ones or their lives. This weekends fires began on a day like I have never felt before. It was almost 47 degrees celcius (117 farenheit), the winds were hot and strong. We have been experiencing droughts, water restrictions, and you barely see green grass. It was the perfect recipe for devestation. There were a number of houses burned down in Narre Warren North with the speculation being that it was started from a cigarette butt being discarded from a vehicle. There was also fires in Keysborough and Dandenong South that threatened factories and closed the East Link Toll Way. The fires in the remainder of Victoria that have killed so many, from all accounts, sounds like they were started by, what I loosely refer to as a person or people. Arsonists cannot be described as human. Our Prime Minister has referred to the loss of life as "mass murder". 750 homes lost, 300,000+ hectares of land burned, 131 lives confirmed lost with the toll expected to rise well over 200 (news reports are saying 240+). There are still fires out of control. Thousands homeless. People fighting for their lives in burns units. People losing that fight. The Red Cross is appealing for blood donations, as well as cash donations - www.redcross.org.au I watch the footage on the television, I listen to peoples stories of survival and loss and I can't help but feel helpless.
  17. I am also a plus sized Mulsimah and have found some really wonderful places to buy clothes on-line. Have a look at www.alhediya.com. I like this site because you can have the abayas cut to whatever length you want which can make full length abayas into some really pretty tops. I bought from this store about a month ago and was very pleased with what I ordered. The other site I like is www.islamicboutique.com and www.2hijab.com. I have bought from both of these in the last few months also. The three sites I have given you all take measurements. All you have to do is measure yourself, send in the measurements (if you have any "problem" areas send in those measurements too) and then they taylor make them exactly as you ask. Insha'Allah this helps you sister. Finding clothes is always a struggle and I'm not sure what I did before I found these sites. Kelly
  18. (salam) Some answers to your questions (better late than never). 1) On a day to day level, Australia is pretty tolerant. I have come across some instances of xenophobia (it's not racism.. I'm Aussie, it's about me being Muslim) but on a whole I've found most people really good. People are scared of what they don't understand. 2) I'm in Melbourne and it is a very multicultural city. Some areas are more heavily populated by Muslims, but that is usually where there are Islamic schools, mosques and halal restaurants, butchers etc so it's only natural that is where people will gather. I have never been asked to remove my headscarf and it is against the law if I am. Even with security checks I have gone through (you know, those electronic beepy things at airports, courts etc) where they need to wave that "wand" thing over you I have asked for a female security officer to do this and there is never a question and one has always been available. 3) Has already been answered a couple of times. 4) The cost of living is comparable to Canada. It is not a cheap place to live and in fact, immigration papers will tell you that. Taxes are based on the money you earn and vary depending on your income. Have a look at www.ato.gov.au (the Australian Tax Office) for some info on this. Also, have a look at http://www.aussiemove.com/aus/costlive.asp. Have a look at www.realestate.com.au for house prices, both purchasing and renting. 5) Programmers were in short supply some years back, and now we seem to have a lot of them. I am uncertain of job prospects, but I don't personally know anyone who is out of work that doesn't want to be. Have a look at careerone.com.au, seek.com.au and jobsearch.gov.au 6) There is good centres with good people. You just have to find one that suits you. There are plenty around. 7) Education is of a high standard in Australia. I am sending my daughter to a government school and could not be happier. There are other hijabis at her school so when she is old enough she doesn't feel like the odd one out and the school is more than happy to support her religious beliefs and are very understanding about her dietary requirements, dress code and religious holidays. 8) I love Australia and would never leave here on a permanent basis. I can see myself travelling overseas for 6 months at a time to help my little one learn Arabic and more about her blood lines, but can always see myself living here. Good luck in making your decision - I hope it is the right one for you and your family.
  19. Salam Alaykum I have also experienced this problem, and after much research, Alhamdulilah have not had this problem return in over 3 years. First step, and may God forgive me, but you need to throw out all things that are infested. Second step, clean, clean and clean. Just nice hot soapy water will do it. Thirdly, when you buy your new dry products, pop them in the freezer for 24 hours. This kills any eggs that may be present and stops the whole process from starting again. Unfortunately, you have to keep repeating the 3rd step, but like I said, I've had no problems in over 3 years. Now just habit to pop my dry products straight into the freezer after doing the grocery shopping. Good luck! Kelly
  20. Alhamdililah this school is opening. May it grow into a wonderful educational institute. Insha'Allah we see more schools opening.
  21. Thank you. Any others? Or is that it? And to expand on this, aside from having a relatively high Sunni population, why don't we have more???
  22. (salam) There are plenty of Islamic schools around, but does anyone know of a specific Shia one? All the schools I am aware of are Sunni run schools and I am really wanting to send my little one to a Shia school. I'm specifically after Melbourne, but I am interested to learn if there are any in Australia at all. Thanks Kelly
  23. I am not going to be quoting any rulings on this, so please take what I say with a grain of salt... Look once for myself, look twice for satan. If I am walking down the street and I glance at a person, I can't see any harm in this. I do not stare, I do not hold that persons eyes, I lower my gaze. Also, I don't lower my gaze only to look back up again. I'm only looking once to see the world around me, I'm looking twice if the first time did not fulfill my needs. I feel that would give the wrong impression also. I live in the west - and I feel that a certain amount of eye contact is expected. However, this can be done in a manner that does not attract any attention, or untoward feelings. There are a million ways every day life can distract from eye contact - in a meeting you can address multiple people without ever really looking at any of them; going through a checkout you can say hello to the person and then be distracted with unpacking, packing or scrounging around in your purse/wallet. I think that body language is just as important as eye contact in a legal setting. As for a psychiatrist, and as I work in a mental health setting, my advise it to pick a doctor of your own gender. This will stop adding to the stress you are already going through. I have travelled to Syria where lowering your gaze seems to be unheard of. Men break their necks looking at women - worse than you'll find in any Western country I've been to. Think about this - how would you like someone to look at you? Or your sister? Or your brother? Or your mother? Then that's what you should be doing... RESPECT - that is so much of what Islam teaches us.
  24. I can't think of much more to say than "phew!" and "Alhamdulillah". Thanks for the update Sis.
  25. (salam) I was disappointed to hear this news item on the Sunday program on Channel 9 this morning. As for the below news article, I am sickened to see hijabs described as " the most inoffensive", like they are offensive at all. It's getting harder and harder to be proud of being Australian when this is the way our country is heading. Bring on 24 November and election time. Bye Bye Mr Howard. http://www.news.com.au/story/0,23599,22582...5012863,00.html Islamic scarfs ban at airports By Chris Tinkler and Lincoln Wright THE Howard Government is considering banning Islamic scarfs at Australian airports, senior government sources have revealed. The security measure would see even the most inoffensive Muslim scarf, the hijab, which covers the hair and neck, banned, along with several other types. Security officials were especially concerned by two other types of scarf, the niqab and burka. The niqab covers the face, but leaves the eyes exposed, while the burka covers the entire face, with only a mesh screen for the eyes. The scarf policy is under active consideration in Immigration Minister Kevin Andrews' office, which is consulting airport security officials over the policy. The change would follow the Howard Government's moved to restrict immigration from Sudan.
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