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http://sistani.org/local.php?modules=nav&nid=5&cid=469 Question: Is it permissible for a boy of fifteen years to have a girl friend? Answer: Friendship with a non-mahram is not allowed. So, that should pretty much answer your question.

Thanks for the update - much appreciated.

(salam) I thought it might be an idea for people who know where there are polling booths in Australia for Iraqi's to vote this coming weekend to post them up! So.. anyone know???

(salam) I'm not quite sure where you're going with this topic, but I will try to answer your questions as best I can. Fear as in be afraid of this person? Or fear as in fear losing them? Generally, if a woman likes a man she will not be afraid of him - unless he's given her a reason to be, or she's incredibly shy. I don't think women "play hard to get". Some women simply are hard to get and some women just don't want to be got! Gosh, the possibilities are endless. It usually means she's just not that into you and wants to move on before too many emotions are tied up. I hope that helps in some way!

(salam) I have spent much time considering whether I should reply to this topic and decided that I have a few things that I want to say, even though they are extremely personal to me. Whether the OP is right or wrong to remove her children from their father is not for me to judge. There is only one judge and that is Allah. I am here to post, albeit very briefly, my experience. I was abused from the age of 6 to the age of 14 and there were three perpetrators, all living under my roof and one who was not. I showed no outward emotional signs and there was never a mark on my body to show what was happening. I spoke once to a friend about it when I was about 9 or 10, who then spoke to my school principle, who then spoke to me - and I denied anything was happening (as is the case for a lot of victims). And that's where any intervention stopped. My mother tells me she had absolutely no inkling of what was happening and, I like to think that if she did she would have taken all measures humanly possible to protect me. Proof or no proof.

Eyebrows, nail polish and makeup, among many other things, have been done to death on this forum. Sister Strawberry answered this question here (hope it's okay to cut and paste... thanks Strawberry!) Ayatollah Syed Sistani: Q: What is the ruling for plucking of the eyebrows in general, and what is the ruling if it is just to clean, and is it obligatory for a woman after plucking to cover her plucked eyebrows before non-mahram men? A: It is permissible and covering is not obligatory. Q: Is it permissible for a woman who does not cover her face, to remove hair from her face and style her eyebrows and apply makeup that isnt obvious, and is marriage makruh from a women who uses makeup on her face, even though she adheres to the proper Islamic dress code? A: It is not obligatory to cover the face merely for plucking and the decreasing of the brow hair, although it is for the use of makeup, and it is not makruh to marry a woman that uses makeup, although it is obligatory to do amr and nahi if there is a chance that it will have an effect, and as a precautionary measure, if it doesnt, the husband is obliged to prevent her from revealing her face. Q:Your emminence has answered my question which was - Is it obligatory to wear face veil when a woman plucks her eyebrows? - Your answer was "in itself it is not haram", What is the meaning of that and can you elaborate? A: The answer means that it is not obligatory, rather is it permissible for a woman after covering her body to uncover her face and hands if her intention is not to make others fall into forbidden glances. Q:What is the ruling for eyebrow plucking for women and what is the veracity of the hadeeth, "May Allah curse the 'mutanammisat' (women who pluck or remove hair from their face)? and what is the ruling for the visiting of graves for women, and what is the veracity of the hadith, "May Allah curse those women who visit graves?".A: There is no harm in both, and the two narrations have weak sanad. Q: What is the ruling for eyebrow plucking for both men and women? A: It is Permissible

(salam) In my humble opinion, people need to realise that social networking sites are just like walking outside. If you don't want people to see you without your hijab, don't walk out of the privacy of your own house without it. You have your "privacy settings" when you walk out of your house by covering to whatever extent you choose. Think about your own personal "privacy settings" when you post pictures on-line and you won't have to worry about networking sites and their own complex little rules.

Yes, there doesn't seem to be any reason why you cannot. But, again, I'd consult with a reproductive endocrinologist to get the best regime to suit your situation.

Potatoes are my weakness. I sympathise!

Salam Alaykum Pomegranate - hopefully my previous post answers your question about the adverse effects I had from Metformin. Yes, I have seen a few dieticians. All of them have told me my diet is perfect and they can't really help me. The only thing I have found to really benefit, not with weight loss but with how I feel, is cutting out starchy foods (crisps, potatoes, pastas etc) and eating lots of legumes. BUT, PCOSers tend to crave those starchy foods, so it's not an easy one to go with!

The test for insulin resistance takes an hour or so, and your general practitioner can order it for you. They do a glucose tolerance test (or GTT). They take a fasting glucose blood test, then give you a glucose drink (mine tasted like liquid jelly beans - way too sweet!) and then wait a period of time and retest your blood to see how your body processed the glucose. I had a few side effects from the Metformin - one major one that surprised my endocrinologist was that I put on 10kg in 2 months, with constant tummy upsets - so it didn't make sense! I had major headaches and lots of dizziness. Have a look here; http://www.drugs.com/cdi/rosiglitazone-metformin.html Side effects aside, I agree, it does make more sense to fix the problem than mask it. There is a risk with any surgery. I have had more than I can remember (I just did a quick scar count and got 12 - some of those have been re-used for additional surgery and some surgeries produced no scars!), so even though I still get nervous about it and all the things that could go wrong run through my head, well, I know that I have made a well informed decision, picked a surgeon who is comfortable doing the procedure and that is where my faith has to kick in and all I can do is leave it in Gods hands. Pray, help some poor people, and remember that you can't control everything! And please don't feel sad for me. God does not burden us with more than we can handle.

It sounds like you are fortunate enough to have a fairly mild case of PCOS, but I am sorry that this is something that you are dealing with, at whatever level. Metformin is the diabetes medication you are thinking about. Have you been tested for insulin resistance? This is a good indicator as to whether Metformin will be useful for you. I would highly recommend that you see a reproductive endocrinologist before you start this medication. They will assess your exact situation and make sure that you are closely monitored. Like all medications, it comes with side effects. I was on Metformin for a time, however I had some quite adverse side effects and had to stop taking it. But, at least I gave it a shot. Shay is right about ovarian drilling - they laser 10-20 holes into the ovaries. They are not sure why this works, but hey, if it does work who's to argue? I have had ovarian drilling. It is only a temporary measure and is generally used to assist in infertility. I can't say whether it worked for me because at the time of my drilling is when they discovered my pre-cancerous condition and I am on a whole lot more medication to counteract this, and am not allowed to get pregnant. Drilling worked for a friend of mine, who like you had very mild PCOS symptoms but had a very hard time conceiving. She had drilling, 2 months later was pregnant and her son has just turned 1. So, yes, it can work. They do drilling via laparascopic surgery, under a general anaesthetic or a spinal block. It is not something that should be taken lightly and also comes with it's risks. Thanks for the book link - I will definitely check it out. This is another great resource: http://www.soulcysters.com/

(salam) As a sufferer of PCOS for 20 years, I would like to express my gratitude to the OP for wanting to raise awareness of such an awful disease. I have experienced everything PCOS could possibly throw at me, and am currently dealing with being pre-cancerous, as a direct result of the PCOS. As for these ridiculous comments that should not come from a ShiaChat Admin... How insensitive! I lived a very healthy childhood, in a healthy environment, eating healthy food, exercised regularly, and was married young. So throw that theory out the window. Yes, PCOS is genetic. Perhaps this genetic "excuse" is because we have now got the technology to identify genes and the causes of peoples illnesses in life. Fate? Yes, to a point. Is it your fate that you end up with that bad gene, yet others in your family don't? Absolutely. It's in God's hands, and He knows best. Do a little research before you slam genetics. We have another disease in our gene pool (yep, I'm so lucky to be born from this blood line!) that is called Hereditary Spastic Paraplegia. It has rendered my grandfather a paraplegic, my uncle is on his way to becoming a paraplegic, and we are currently in the process of using genetic testing to see if any other members of our family will be destined for the same path. Genetics are an important part of health care - they help identify problems, allow early interventions and are not an excuse for feeling hopeless. I'd rather know what I've got, why I've got it and how I can treat it. Sorry to go on, but this has got me really mad. :mad: Anyway... There is another theory as to why PCOS is out there, and when you think about it, it is another one of those amazing things from God. This particular theory is that in times of famine, women with PCOS have enough fat stores to outlive the slim women - starvation makes the overweight women slim and reverses the problems of PCOS and allows these women to bear children to ensure the continuation of the population. It is prevalent in the Australian Aboriginal communities (which is where my blood lines originate, so thanks again for that Dad!), which supports that theory. Oh, and yes, that is how hard it is for a PCOS sufferer to lose weight - the only time I've lost more than a few kilos is when I went through a very stressful time in my life and didn't eat. I don't recommend it, but again, supports this theory. So, enough of my ramblings. One last thing - if anyone wants any information (I am a health professional, but not a doctor) from someone who has been there done that, or if you need a supportive ear, please don't hesitate to send me an IM. Hijabikel