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Maryaam

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  1. It is not interesting; it is pathetic. It is also blatantly racist. Creating apologetics for the negative stereotyping of a particular ethnic group does not make it any less racist. By permitting racism towards one ethnic group - it makes it easier to be racist towards yet another group - it does not end with the particular target group; it can be easily expanded to include another. There is just needed a slight change in political direction - if the slippery slope of permitted racism is firmly in place, it does not take much effort. And using softer words to describe racist behaviour by non Whites, such as “ ethnocentric", "culturally biased”, or ... <insert your favourite euphemism>… does not make the behaviour any less racist. It is the acceptance of that harmful process (racist behaviour) that becomes embedded in society. The process is politically correct, reinforced with censure if needed, and therefore condoned (1984?). This process can then be adapted to vilify any group. This kind of pseudo-intellectual trash only furthers the process of normalizing racism.
  2. He is not an expert in anything related to autism and so it is not helpful. The author seems to be a financial manager with a side hobby of some kind. There are many many research articles that debunk the vaccine autism connection that were written by proven experts that work full time in the field and do not have an agenda - they genuinely care about their work. These articles aren't hard to find. Some have been listed on this site. The reason there was so much attention to vaccine-autism connection research is not due to any indications that there was a connection, but because of celebrities, who garner lots of media attention, convinced many parents not to vaccinate their kids. These kids went on to either get measles (for one example) and/or act as carriers to unvaccinated infants who were not yet old enough to be vaccinated and became infected. Many died when they would not have, when all parents vaccinated their children. I know of a two month old that died of pertussis - she should not have even been exposed to pertussis. Also, measles was thought to have been eradicated in many countries, through vaccine, and now it is back - due to ignorance. So hence the funding for the research. To save lives. Non vaxxers do not care how much research debunks their theories - they dont respect it and will not examine it. They will not be discouraged as their opposition to vaccination is emotional; it is not logical. If you do any research at all you will see this. What I was saying is that there is, currently, a lot of time and effort put into determining if a child has autism very early in their life so treatment can be started. Most children are not formally diagnosed till late preschool age. However, a positive bi-product of this is that if infants can be diagnosed before they are vaccinated - that would be clear proof that there is no connection and maybe non vaxxers would accept this. Most individuals with autism are genetically loaded for autism - it is in their family history.
  3. This was authored by a manager of a private financial investment firm who blogs on autism and lockdown conspiracy theories...(?)….. A lot of research has been completed and replicated to pretty much debunk the autism by vaccine theory. Several publications focused on this, were listed by posters already. What is being done, currently, is trying to identify autism at an early age so that interventions and therapies can be started earlier for children who are considered prodromal (whose symptoms have not yet fully evolved).. Early therapeutic intervention in autism makes a huge difference. The research is focused on siblings of young children who have been diagnosed with autism. The idea is to try and find indicators - however subtle, so that in the future, a child will be diagnosed when an infant. Here is a recent study for an example: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32061926/ with children identified as young as 6 months old, who were later determined to have autism. If it can be determined that children, who have a specific set of behavioural markers in infancy, later meet criteria to be diagnosed with autism, that would be proof that vaccines do not cause autism as the autism would be identified before any vaccines were given.
  4. I recognized the name Geier (name of two of the authors) as I had a job when I was at university where I had to search for bogus authors of journal articles writers and determine how many times their fraudulent work had been citied. The name Geier came up a lot… This one authored by the Geiers (first one on your list): https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24354891/was cited by 15 articles. This one authored by the Geiers (third one on your list): https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12773696/ was cited by 13 articles. This one authored by the Geiers (fourth one on your list): https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15795695/. Was cited by 17 articles. Please read a brief background of the two major authors of these papers - Mark Geier and David Geier: Mark R. Geier is an American former physician and controversial sometime "professional witness” who testified in more than 90 cases regarding allegations of injury or illness caused by vaccines. Since 2011, Geier's medical license has been suspended or revoked in every state in which he was licensed over concerns about his autism treatments and his misrepresentation of his credentials to the Maryland Board of Health, where he falsely claimed to be a board-certified geneticist and epidemiologist. Mark and his son, David Geier, are frequently cited by proponents of the now-discredited claim that vaccines cause autism. In 2011, his son David Geier was charged by the Maryland State Board of Physicians with practicing as a licensed physician when he only has a B.A. degree in biology. Mark Geier's credibility as an expert witness has been questioned in 10 court cases. In 2003, a judge ruled that Geier presented himself as an expert witness in "areas for which he has no training, expertise and experience." In other cases in which Geier has testified, judges have labeled his testimony "intellectually dishonest," "not reliable" and "wholly unqualified. For more background and details and links go to: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/MMR_vaccine_and_autism The publishers of journals state very clearly that they are not supporting the work they have published - they are just publishing it. Just because someone writes a paper does not mean that it is accurate, honest or credible. That is why work needs to be replicated to be viewed as sound. There are many scientists (or in the cases above, bogus scientists) who make up the results of their research for a variety of reasons - perhaps… they want fame, or they need to produce papers to retain their position, or they have gone a little loopy and really believe the results they are posting are (or would be) valid - even though they made them up… You need to be very cautious and make sure you are familiar with the background of the people you cite. Also look for who is funding the research and what possible stake they may have in the results and conclusions.
  5. There were a lot more infant disabilities and mortalities before preventative medicine. You need to research the prevalence of these diseases and the impact on society before vaccines were available and widely used, before dismissing this. My grandmother told me that it was not unusual to hear about deaths of school mates from disease or to have children crippled from polio in your neighbourhood when she was young. Living till the age of five was cause for a celebration - many from those days have siblings they never met or can remember their painful deaths. Also, adult lifespans in were shorter. It is easy to dismiss the impact of something that you have not experienced nor probably ever will - due to preventative health measures - especially vaccines.
  6. I always work as a member of an allied health team, so I am responsible for just one aspect of a child’s needs. The boy I described had a team of about 30 people - I was just one! However, our work overlaps each other and often I work in smaller groupings with one or more members of the team. I have done a lot of work with children with autism. Your child is normal. Kids are kids first and any impediments are very much second. Everyone has support needs of some kind or another. And, what is normal? It depends on the context. Apparently, we all could be placed on the autism spectrum somewhere. Kids with no obvious social communication deficits are called “typical”. But then, again, what is typical? Societally, we seem to be big on differential groupings… but we are working to become more and more inclusive. Adults are sometimes uncomfortable with unfamiliar differences, but kids in school take these differences as part of the accepted milieu. Inclusion of children with support needs in school classrooms makes it the new norm for their generation and, hopefully, will continue into adulthood.
  7. This little guy was a fighter. He was originally a child with a moderate cognitive delay with no other impairments, but became ill from eating raw or undercooked hamburger and developed a type of meningitis which caused a lot more damage. He was on a respirator in ICU for a long time and then in an extended care unit. In the hospital, they tried to remove his breathing tube three times but each time failed and they had to reattach. He was becoming weaker and interventions were becoming more invasive and frequent so the medical team recommended placement in a paediatric palliative care facility so his family could gather in comfort and support as his equipment was removed. At the palliative care facility, his tube was removed and the anticipation was that he would slowly stop breathing but he kept breathing. He remained in palliative care for about 3 weeks and his breathing and responses became stronger so he was transferred to a paediatric rehab hospital (which is where I met him). He was significantly impaired (spastic, visually impaired, totally physically dependent - needed significant support with dressing, feeding, hygiene, mobility, communication). I worked with him (play based communication assessment and remediation) one on one for about an hour, or so, each day, so he loved me lol. As soon as I came to the door frame he would appear to look up, somewhat unfocused - did not make eye contact - and start slapping his table in delight. Always made my day! Not sure how he knew it was me unless he had super hearing, or had more vision than was thought or maybe I had a specific odour… or should I say… fragrance :P I supported his communication plan and school staff training, and he eventually went home and was enrolled in his local school. His vision and physical support needs remained constant and the last I saw him, he was an integrated member of a grade two classroom in a specialized wheel chair with intensive medical support. He had a lot of damage to his organs so his prognosis is poor and his family understands this but is grateful for whatever time they will have with him. He appears to be happy and pain free. He is a joyful little guy to be around. If you are feeling down, you definitely won’t be after spending 10 minutes with him! Everyone loves him. His classmates are his biggest champions.
  8. The prevalence is over estimated - at least it is in Canada. I worked at a provincial facility as a developmental psychologist as part of an allied health team where the diagnoses are determined after multiple assessments. Often, children with multiple disabilities had autism added to their list of disabilities because they " meet the criteria” for autism (esp in the social communication domain), but not necessarily because the criteria are due to autism. In fact, almost every non verbal child with significant cognitive impairment that I worked with had autism as one of their diagnoses. One extreme case was where a child was blind, non verbal, totally physically dependent and profoundly cognitively disabled and yet had autism as another diagnosis. Also, children with simple social cognitive delay (for a multitude of reasons) are sometimes diagnosed with autism and later, as the child develops, this diagnosis is recognized as a misdiagnosis and the autism team wants to remove it, but the parents balk at reassessment as they will lose their funding and so this child goes through the system as having autism. I have even seen children with selective mutism diagnosed with autism. As mentioned, the reason autism was diagnosed as an over reach, was because there is substantial funding and supports available to children with an autism diagnosis that are not available to those with other significant needs that do not have an autism diagnosis. The DSM 5 has tightened this up quite a bit to delineate between a child with a significant disability whose autistic type symptoms are due to their disability (usually a cognitive disability) from children whose symptoms are actually due to autism. But the diagnosis is still being done if they can possibly do it with fancy wording, under pressure from the parents usually.
  9. The reasoning behind acceptance of cancel culture (either by words of why your are ok with it or by your silence) appears to be “It doesn’t matter because…… past injustice has harmed many, and so the injustice of innocents is justified”. Even though we may feel uncomfortable about this, we see others are accepting and so we cease to think for ourselves and uphold standards we have been taught - but not taught well enough it seems. We can be swayed by MSM, celebrities and the cognitively impaired we elect into office. So weak we are. Those of us who want to build a better society should always, without exception, defend the innocent, because Aside from the obvious: - "these incidents damage the lives of innocent people without achieving any noble purpose.” Every action promotes a reaction: - These "injustices are liable to provoke a political backlash. If a lot of Americans come to feel that those who supposedly oppose racism are willing to punish the innocent to look good in the public’s eyes, they could well grow cynical about the enterprise as a whole.” Logical fallout: - "movements willing to sacrifice justice in the pursuit of noble goals” will create societies of pervasive injustice. If we are willing (openly or silently) to accept blatant injustice to another with some tangential form of "the ends justifies the means", we are only justifying our acceptance of being a fool. Injustice is pervasive and knows no boundaries. Acceptance of injustice is beyond foolish; it is a ultimately a form of community self harm. Linked is a relatively quick read of three stories of very different innocent victims of Cancel Culture: 1. Emmanuel Cafferty - a working class man with no political affiliation - mother is Latina and father Irish and Mexican; 2. David Shor - data analyst whose work was to determine how Democrats could win elections - fired for tweeting academic findings from, ironically, a Black researcher; 3. Maji Wadi - Palestinian immigrant, small business owner. However, the societal acceptance of these injustices is even worse than the injustice itself. https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2020/06/stop-firing-innocent/613615/
  10. The Black Lives Matter movement is problematic for many reasons but the biggest one for me is the hypocrisy of opposition to racism and supremacy by imposing nauseating apologetics for what is also clearly racism and supremacy. But I like the dissenting views and passion in a thread on SC - reminds of the old days However, for some - there is some serious misunderstanding about the position of Jews in Europe. Many were successful - but that was because they had to do some fancy dodging of barbaric racism and truly systemic (as it was enshrined in the laws) barriers imposed by Christians and Muslims. To parody Ilhan Omar's style: "some people need some reading". The persecution of Jews in Europe went on for nearly 2 millennia. The Holocaust was just the icing on the cake. Here is a good start to find links: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persecution_of_Jews
  11. The British government has been trying to get rid of all the most extreme terrorists by unloading them on other countries - and haven't done too badly. It is illegal to make a person stateless, but if they qualify to obtain citizenship in another country, they can be stripped of their UK citizenship. Jack Letts' father was Canadian, so he technically qualifies for Canadian citizenship, even though his mother is British. Jack Letts has never been in Canada. But... guess where he is going? And I would classify him as potentially far less dangerous than Shamima Begum. His parents, as well as he, himself, come across as extremely vacant. However, when he was interviewed, he said he understood why he was being denied his citizenship. Shamima's parents are from Bangladesh so she would qualify for citizenship in Bangladesh even though they don't want her. Shamima Begum has shown no remorse for joining, supporting and cooperating with IS. She has said on video, that she went to Syria as she was attracted to the beheading videos and violence and war atmosphere [huge red flag for a female kid of only 15 at the time], said she saw heads in a bin and it didn't bother her. In fact, none of the violence she saw seemed to bother her. And she was very much in the middle of it. She was seen with a Kalashnikov and was in the morality police and apparently was quite harsh. She sewed people into suicide vests. According to BBC Middle East correspondent Quentin Sommerville, when she was asked about the enslavement, murder and rape of Yazidi women and female children by IS, she shrugged and said "Shia do the same in Iraq". And this woman saw their treatment first hand. She was given several interviews in which she was very concerned about herself but had zero regret for the horror she supported, and offered no apology to the Iraqis and Syrians whose lives were completely destroyed by the IS. She also recruited impressionable, young girls from all over the world via the internet (and hence, she became well known - her downfall). I wonder how these recruited girls fared? Pretty sure she is not wondering, though. Shamima Begum would still be doing what she did there if the tide had not turned and life had become miserable - miserable for her I mean - no concern for anyone else. Others have been stripped of their citizenship as well - again, legally, as their family origin is from outside the UK. Probably the most vicious, are a gang of 4 who were dubbed "The Beatles" because of their British accent. They are responsible for the jailing, torturing and beheading of just under 30 (that they know of) foreign aid workers, journalists, etc. One of them is the one who beheaded them on video and used it as propaganda - their videos are famous.. he was targeted by the US and killed. The remaining 3 are now in custody. Two of them were interviewed a few times and went from extremely arrogant and callous (zero remorse - in fact, just the opposite) to a little more reserved when they realized they no longer controlled the situation - but no apologies or remorse for those they tortured and killed. The Americans took them to the US, as Britain would not take them and there was fear they would escape from the Syrian compound where they were being held and restart their activities. Now Britain is refusing to supply any evidence they have to the US to have them convicted. Their reasoning is that they do not believe in the death penalty and will not support prosecution of these men, if the death penalty is on the table. Nice. As for being White - most of these terrorists are not White - however, the one who has lost citizenship, is ironically the only one who has no direct connection to violence. And for being Muslim - the incredible brutality exercised by the others far exceeds any connection to a Muslim upbringing. They are just sociopaths who found a place where they could freely express their violence - most of these people had little to do with practising Islam before they went there other than a cultural, family connection. Hundreds more have returned to the UK though. They weren't as famous for their actions and so returned with no problem. Getting into the UK is famously very easy. Hopefully these people will have grown up and have seen enough violence and will move in a healthier direction.
  12. This is scary: Pregnant women infected with the new coronavirus may be able to pass it to their unborn children, doctors at the Wuhan Children Hospital said on Wednesday, according to Chinese state broadcaster CCTV. The doctors said it was possible after an infected coronavirus patient gave birth to a baby on Feb. 2. The newborn was given a test 30 hours later and confirmed to have the virus, the doctors said. https://globalnews.ca/news/6509924/coronavirus-baby-wuhan-unborn/
  13. LOL. ITA. ....A condo in Trudeau land, an indexed pension plan, life long diplomatic immunity... etc. Something is going on.. wonder if we will ever know. I was with people last night who knew victims of this disaster. Their friends and families will not accept this media snow job. Shooting down a plane minutes after leaving your own airport, directed by your own air traffic control, executed by your own military, is not an accident. Something smells very bad here. The almost manic news releases of the US, Canada and the UK to all but proclaim this an accident (before any meaningful internal investigation) also smells.
  14. Mainstream Iranian media ignoring her death and the circumstances around it, did not make public knowledge of it disappear. It only made it worse. This left the door open for anti-Iranian publications to have a field day as to the direction and content of the released news items. From what I read, the woman, who was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, was held in jail for several days. Who knows whether she received her medication or any mental health support. Prisons are definitely not known as bastions of humanitarian response nor are they staffed by the the most enlightened individuals. I don’t believe the her suicide can be a sin, as it was known that she was mentally unwell and, therefore, she cannot be held accountable. Many people do not understand (nor accept without prejudice) mental illnesses and the fragilities of those afflicted. Mental illness is still, too often, backwardly seen as a character weakness (or even worse) - rather than a biological neurological dysfunction. Those who suffer from bipolar disorder have a 25 - 30% suicidal ideation rate and, of those with suicidal ideation, approximately 15% complete their suicide. That rate is 20 times higher than that of the general population. Her death should be followed up by an examination of how she was cared for while in custody, with the focus on how to make improvements in the system. Also, due to the, now, high profile status of her death, it could be beneficial opportunity for the media to create an educational piece for the general public - highlighting the serious nature, and the very real possible lethal outcome, of bipolar disorder. That would be the rational response.
  15. Maybe read a little more carefully… just some of the comments: She was “Wrong example.. for honour killings”. She would “Taint the perception... of honour killings” We "should talk about innocent women” - not her…. because she is guilty? She would (and did) ……. Get in trouble as an object of seduction…. "Her killing was wrong, BUT…. […..followed by lengthy ongoing repeat of former condemnations of her…..] Claiming she is not worthy of victim status due to her indecent behaviour. I agree with what was stated by a poster above: "I don't think it is relevant whether the victim was in any way "guilty" or not.” The issue is much much greater than one specific dead person who is very easy (so easy it is almost a cop out) to condemn as her actions were very in your face blatant. But - my main point is that condemnation of the victims is commonplace (and for some you would have to dig very deep to find something wrong with them on any level) within their community and is accepted with very little meaningful censure from the outside community. Seems that it is absolutely mentally and emotionally necessary to justify their murder, at least on some level, so people can feel comfortable about going about their day.
  16. I have not read one statement on here condoning her actions. 90% of the thread is doing just the opposite so I don't know how much more it needs to be clarified. However, there is a definite tacitly accepted link between her actions and her subsequent murder which very much serves to deflect from the seriousness of her being murdered by a family member. This is similar to the murders of other girls, in that they are shamed and vilified pre and post murder, to justify the actions taken against them. The point I was addressing is that these women are not responsible for their murders, their murderers are. Baloch can be criticized for a lot - and so can those who cavorted with her - but because of her high profile status, her murder was caught on international media. So instead of addressing the internationally raised issue of in-house murders of sisters and daughters, it is much much easier to condemn her actions rather than focus on her murder. It is much more comfortable than addressing the elephant in the room. The only reason there was talk of changing the law was because of the international media coverage of an "honour killing". I don't really care what this particular victim did or with whom, if coverage of her murder prevents even one young girl from being shunned, stalked, terrorized, possibly tortured and murdered and with the added insult of her murderer being hailed a hero.
  17. I find it interesting that this woman's life choices Trump her murder. Whatever this woman did or didn't do, the much bigger sin is her murder and the fact that it was considered a slam-dunk-freebie sin, if carried out by a family member. When her murder is acknowledged and then quickly followed by a big "BUT", it negates your previous statement. There is a much longer diatribe focused primarily on this woman's behaviour and how it is much more important to address and it as a lesson to other girls to not follow her ways ... or guess what could happen.... so, "honour killings" could be avoided if girls follow the community rules.... hmm... Don't think so. Some young girls have been murdered because they were victims of rape. The reason for that could be followed by a "but" as well. We could easily form another diatribe around how they were also responsible for their rape... and hence they could bear responsibility for their own murder. The murder of these young girls is a huge problem that appears to be, culturally, very uncomfortable to address. So much so that this cultural practice now (and has for some time but has been kept quiet) also occurs in the same cultural communities, but outside of Eastern countries - for example it is occurring both in the Muslim communities of the United Kingdom and in the Turkish communities in Germany. There are also numerous example in the US and Canada. Many women/girls live in terror that they will be caught and turned in by the community for transgressions such as leaving their assigned husband or even talking to boys at school. The consequence of defying the family leads to their all consuming terror while being monitored and stalked and then murdered. And the community participates with their silence and their excuses and covers it up for a variety of reasons.. Deflecting like this does not address the issue of outright murder of women. This is a big reason as to why it continues.
  18. We have to acknowledge, that although occurring in other cultural communities (such as the internationally famous murder of Du’a Khalil Aswad of the Yazidi community), these too-often—community-sanctioned murders, sanitized with the term "honour killings”, are most prevalent in the Muslim community. This could be because in Islam you can forgive the murderer of your family member. This has been used de facto to exonerate male member(s) of the family of the murdered girl. They murder, are arrested, then “forgiven” (as planned) and then released and completely free. In some areas, these men are often lauded and garner more of a star status reputation within their community. The entire institution of “honour killing” is sick one from beginning to end. I don’t think there can be a “wrong” example of these murders. A human is a human and a murder is a murder. Qandeel Baloch was over the top provocative and so was very high profile. An Islamic role model, she wasn’t, but in spite of whatever sins she committed, she did expose hypocrisy. Also, because she was high profile, her murder was high profile. I doubt very much that her brother thought he was going to get any prison time; her brother's proud, almost chest beating, interview after he had killed her gave the impression that he thought he was free and clear with the addition of a few brownie points. If she had not been high profile, there would have been no investigation and no follow up - the parents would forgive his killing of his sister and life would go on in the community…. Till the next killing. One thing that does separate her from the other killings of girls who are murdered for no other reason except to fluff someone’s twisted ego, is that it forced the justice system (because of the international light on this) to acknowledge that a murder is a murder and the killer needs to be held accountable. A draft law was recommended, that gave the justice system the right to prosecute and sentence the killer even if the family forgives their actions. I don’t know if that law has been put into place, but the accountability for “honour killings" would not have pursued if the case did not get international attention. Hopefully it was not just for show till the hype died down.
  19. I had home schooling for my grade 8 year and loved it. By necessity, I learned responsibility and goal setting and self motivation and self study techniques that I used throughout the rest of my schooling and university and that I still use today. My family moved around a bit and my father worked from home, so home schooling (they called it "distance education" though) was ideal. The next year we moved to Qatar and no one worked at home during the day so I went to an international (British curriculum) school there. Loved that too. Met many different people and was exposed to ideas and ways of life that I never would have known enough about to explore or to appreciate because of being at home limited to my parents ideas of the world. So…down side of home schooling is the limited pool of thoughts and ideas and minimal socialization with peers; the upside is enhanced self awareness with greatly increased metacognition and higher order thinking skills. When you are home schooled you need to organize and carry out your study yourself; in school you can choose to live in Lala land and someone else thinks for you. I remember when I first went back to school, the teacher told the kids to open their books to a certain page and then told them to pick up their pens and get out paper to be ready to take notes that the teacher had made on the section we were studying. I thought she was trying to be funny but looks like I was the only one laughing. Felt like I was in training to be a robot. BUT… they had great field trips, and sports programs and fun lunch times. Don't know about Islamic schools but am hesitant as I have heard some horror stories. Think I will send my children to public school as it is more carefully regulated and much more open to scrutiny. Anyway, kids are only in school 6 hours a day and my husband and I will have them for the other 18… think we can make our imprint and introduce all the good things of which they need to be exposed. Both can be good though. The one common denominator of the two is that the best chances for success depend on parent awareness and involvement.
  20. I read that the Amazon rain forest produces 20% of the worlds oxygen. That seems a little high if it is accepted that ocean phytoplankton are responsible for producing 70% of the Earth's oxygen. Not that specific numbers matter, just that both are important and both need protection.
  21. Just re-read this thread. In spite of the many authors of posts on this thread trying to protect this guy and make hm out to be Mr.. Halal-Pious-Plus by both male and, sadly, some female posters, he, as I said months earlier, has a very poor character/ethics/morals. He still has very poor character/ethics/morals. Character is bone deep and unless you have some means of renovating his skeletal structure, he will remain a malice-oriented, nothing burger. His family accepts him treating you badly and wants you to accept mistreatment too - which is probably why he is a nothing burger.. He will continue to mistreat you if you permit him to do it so the ball is in your court. I would let him keep the money and all things that are so important to him. He is swallowing up way too many years of your life. Move on. Money is replaceable - years of your life are not. The very most I would do is hire a lawyer on a recovery contingency basis to attempt to retrieve your portion of the downpayment. Tell the lawyer that you don't want to hear about it until it is resolved. And actively strive to never think about your former spouse, or his cruel actions, again. I have known people who allow ex-spouses to drain them to the brink of ill health and can’t seem to re-emerge into the light of day - it affects mental attitude towards themselves and others and can impact physical health. Best thing is to... Just... Move... On... with positive thoughts and goals. "Today is the first day of the rest of your life." Make it a defined moment. Embrace it.
  22. I remember agreeing with you on many things in the past. Especially posts from years ago.
  23. Really? What would the other things be?
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