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Abu Hadi

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  1. As muslims, this is mostly a non issue for us. Abortion outside of the allowed window, (see Abortion topics here for more info) has always been haram and will always be haram, no matter what the Supreme Court says or doesn't say. So the fact that it is now illegal in more cases than it was before, is not that relevant for us. It will be interesting to see how this 'shakes out' in the country, as to many this is a very big deal, just not to me. Get out the popcorn and get ready for a good show. There will be massive protests coming in certain states and cities, I can pretty much guarantee that. Hopefully no violence. I am hoping that, but I expect some violence at least, hopefully minimal.
  2. It's not about specific question, but generally you should try to find out three things. These three things will tell you everything you need to know (to decide to marry or not) 1. How do they treat the close people in their life. Specifically mother and father but also siblings, grandparents, etc. This is a preview of how they will treat you (their spouse). Most people can put on a show for a few days or weeks (i.e. have good aklaq) but you will only know if they actually have good aklaq based on these relationships. There is an * to this. In some cases, if they were oppressed in an extreme way by their parents or family (like they were sexually abused over a long period of time, etc), they you can disregard the relationship with the oppressor, whether that is their mother, father, sibling, etc. Those relationships don't count toward good aklaq, because if you were oppressed in an extreme way by anyone, even if that was your mother or father, there is no expectation of having a good relationship with them. 2. What is important to them and not important. If deen and following the wajibat and avoiding haram are important to them, then they have the 'deen' component necessary for marriage. You can tell more about this from their actions than them words. Also, they should be willing to stay on a program of increasing their Iman and getting closer to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) thru good deeds. 3. What are their plans for the future. They should have some goals and plans. For example, does he / she want children, how many. What are the career plans, or if it is a lady is she satisfied with working in the home and taking care of the children .Some ladies would be perfectly content with that, other's wouldn't. What country / city / state are they planning on calling home ? Etc. There is no right or wrong answers for this but these plans need to align, at least somewhat, in order to have a happy marriage.
  3. You would have to consult your marjaa on this one. From what I know the rule about them being najis applies only if you know for sure they are Mushrik. If you don't know for sure, then they are tahir under the known presumption that everything and everyone is tahir unless you know for sure otherwise. Just because someone is LGBTQ doesn't mean you can automatically assume they are Mushrik/a. That would be a wrong presumption, in many cases. So based on what I know they are tahir unless you know for sure they are also Mushrik/a in addition to being LGBTQ whatever. BTW, if you don't feel comfortable eating with someone or from someone's hand, then don't do it. You have that freedom, regardless of whether they are najis or not. But to say specifically they are najis requires more information, in most cases.
  4. I think you are misunderstanding our concept of Hujjat. I will rewrite your first premise so that it is correct It is incumbent upon him to guide everyone according to the command of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), show them the right way according to the command of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), cause them to perceive and inform them regarding himself according to the command of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). What he (The Imam, Al Hujjat(a.f.s) does or does not do is completely incumbent and dependant on the command of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) that is communicated to him thru various means. He doesn't act according to his own will, and his own desires in matters of guiding the people, and this is the main qualification for being an Imam and a Hujjat. The reasons for the ghaibat have already been given, so I won't repeat those. The concept of Ghaibat is well established in Holy Quran (see verses on Prophet Musa when he went to mount Sinai and the ghaiba of Ahl Al Kaaf (people of the cave)). There are also many, many authentic hadith from Imam of Ahl Al Bayt((عليه السلام)) that discuss Al Mahdi and the concept of Ghaibat.
  5. You shouldn't think of sins as major or minor. Like Imam Ali((عليه السلام)) said 'Don't think of the weight of the sin (i.e. major or minor), think about who you are sinning against'. All sin, whether major or minor puts you at risk of the anger of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). It doesn't mean that will happen, but it's a risk. The major sins obviously have a greater risk of that happening. At the same time, a minor sin, done repeatedly, has the same weight as a major sin. At the same time, we realize that we live in a society that is surrounded by sexual stimulation, in most places. It is difficult to avoid it completely. Especially living in the West, and now that it's summertime, you see young girls , non muslim and unfortunately muslima also, parading down the street in very few clothes. You turn on any media including t.v., movies, etc, and you also see this. It is a difficult situation when you are living in a morally bankrupt society and culture where their is no thought or consideration to how the actions taken by one person affect others when it comes to this issue. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) knows the circumstances of each person, so His(s.w.a) mercy precedes his wrath by a long stretch, especially when it comes to this issue, given the circumstances most of us are living in.
  6. I don't think that's the process exactly, but there is some truth to that. Some guys don't know how to handle rejection well. They take it personally and they dwell on it. They assume that because a guy maybe better looking than them, have more money than them, or come from a 'better' family than them, that this guy has never been rejected before and the only ones who get rejected are the guys who are poor and / or not very good looking and / or don't have a distinguished lineage. Guys who have these things also get rejected. They might get rejected by women higher up in the 'pecking order' but they still get rejected. The secret to finding a wife is not having lots of money, being tall, handsome, or being a Sayyid. The main thing that women look for is confidence in a man. Secondarily, they also look at those other things, but if a guy is confident in himself and knows his own worth and isn't afraid of rejection, those are the guys who get married the fastest. If they have money, are good looking, etc, it will happen even faster, but even if they don't it will still happen. You see guys who do this, because they know the secret. Any girl who they 'fancy' who they know is single they will pursue it. They will ask around about her, if they can they will try to get the message out that 'I am interested in marrying you'. They will not 'beat around the bush', and they will get strait to the point and won't hesitate when asked if they are interested. In the muslim community this is done a little differently than the non muslim community (where they will go strait up the girl herself. I don't recommend that, btw, as a first step). When they meet the father, they will project the idea that 'I have dignity, I have worth, I am worthy to marry your daughter. If she is not interested, she is the one losing out, not me'. Some people might think 'Well thinking like this is arrogance (kbr)'. In fact it is not kibr. Arrogance (kibr) is the belief that you are greater or higher than someone else or all people. Confidence is believing that you are a desirable, valuable person without comparing your worth to someone else. There is a big difference. Arrogance (kibr) is one of the greater sins, Confidence is one of the greatest of the good qualities to have. A common quality of successful people is that they all have confidence. Some also have arrogance, but not all do. A guy might not have great wealth or stunning good looks, but confidence can make up for a large part of that. Now, even with all of that confidence, they will probably get rejected once or multiple times. This is the second part of the test. To not take those rejections personally and keep going. A man who has confidence and keeps pursuing despite getting rejected will find a wife that he is satisfied with. Full Stop. As Brother Khalil Jaafer said in many of his speeches, 'You can either pay now or pay later'. You can pay now by doing the painful process of developing self confidence (there are many ways to do this but that is probably another thread), then go thru the pain of rejection or you can skip all that and possibly let your soul become corrupted and 'pay later' possibly in the hellfire or via a via tragedies that happen in this life. Either way, you will have to pay. I would rather pay up front. Salam.
  7. The rule she must be muslima or Ahl Al Kitab (Christian, Jew, or Sabean(which there aren't that many anymore)). At the same time, they don't need to be 'practicing', i.e. go to Church / Synagogue, etc. If you ask her 'What religion are you?' and she says 'I'm a Christan, Jew, etc' then you can marry her for temporary marriage (provided the other condition are fulfilled for marriage). The asking and response from her that she is, that's the only requirement. Of course, you need to look at her general character also. For example, if she is known for committing zina (adultry), then it is either haram or highly discouraged (depending on your marjaa) to marry her. 'Known for adultery' means she is a prostitute or she is known in the community to be very permiscous. Also, it is highly discouraged to marry a women of low character, i.e. she is known to be a liar, theif, etc.
  8. Alekum Salam was RahmantuLah, I try not to guess what is in someone's mind because there is no way to know that. We can only look at actions and results of those actions. The action of Abu Bakr and Umar may have lessened confusion around the issue of hadith, but we know for sure that it stopped many authentic hadith from being written down at an early period, when these hadith were still fresh in the mind of many of the Sahaba, and there was agreement as to what these hadith were, as Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h) was alive just a few years before. If hadith were written down during this period, they would have served as an agreed upon basis for studying hadith and I think there would be much more agreement amoung Muslims about what Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h) actually said and did. The fact that there is so much fitna and disagreement today is a direct result of hadith not being written down early, immediately following the passing of Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h), Al Mustafa, the Pinnacle of Allah(s.w.a)'s creation. So whatever their motivation was, this was the result. A simple proof of that is that there is no disagreement amoung Muslims about the text of the Holy Quran. As our Imams((عليه السلام)) have taught over and over, the Quran is the one 'between the covers' in other words the Quran that is in every masjid from Qum to Halab, from Mecca to Sana', from Quetta to Paris. Noone disagrees about that. If we had the same agreement, or at least a portion of that agreement about what hadith are authentic and which are not, most of the fitna we have today wouldn't exist. As for where I get this from, it is from the lecture series I posted as well as others which have been mentioned here, and some which haven't been mentioned. Also, there are many books on the subject written by Ulema, which are the primary sources used in the lectures and lecture series.
  9. 1. The Quran was written down completely during the lifetime of the Prophet(p.b.u.h). All these writings were compiled into a single book, the Quran we have today, immediately following the death of the Holy Prophet by Imam Ali((عليه السلام)) himself. The Quran was a written book which was known by everyone from the beginning, not generations afterward. Yes, you are wrong on that point. There are written ayats from Quran that exist today that were dated (by Carbon 14 dating, which is extremely accurate) to the lifetime of the Holy Prophet and none of these texts contradict the text of the Quran we have today. That in itself is a miracle which people should ponder on. During the time of Uthman, the accent marks on the tops of the letters (the spoken vowels) were standardized so that when the Quran was recited, it was recited in the same way. That is because different parts of the Arabic world had slightly different ways of pronouncing words. If you look at the earliest written texts of the Quran, they didn't contain the accent marks because the Arabs of Mecca, Medina and surrounding areas pronounced in the same way, so they didn't need the accent marks to tell them how to pronounce words. It was only when the Quran began to spread outside this area to places like the Khalij, Egypt, Iraq, etc, where they pronounced the words differently that it needed to be standardized. That is the only thing that happened during the time of Uthman. In addition, there were more written Qurans that were published during that time because Uthman employed more scribes to copy the text because the wealth of the muslims was increasing during that time, but the text of the Quran existed from the beginning. The statement that Uthman was the first to write down the Quran and publish it is wrong. 2. Abu Bakr forbid hadiths to be written down, and Umar followed the same policy, so there are very few hadith texts that actually date from that time. They also destroyed many hadith that were written down that were in favor of Imam Ali((عليه السلام)) and Ahl Al Bayt((عليه السلام)). It was during the time of Muawiya that hadiths started to be forged on a large scale and he (Muawiya(la)) attributed the transmission of these hadith posthumously to various sahaba and wives of the prophet. We get our hadith from Ahl Al Bayt((عليه السلام)), and most from Imam Jaafar Sadiq((عليه السلام)). That is why we are called Jaafari, because it was during his time (when the power of the Ummayads was on the decline and eventually collapsed and the Abbasids did not yet have a firm grip on power) that the Imam((عليه السلام)) had some amount of freedom to confirm the truth of certain hadith, announce others as forged, and for books of authentic hadith to be written down and disseminated.
  10. He gives the reason why oral traditions are untrustworthy. It is because human memory is not 100% accurate when it comes to language. So if you heard something from someone else, this person you heard it from might not have heard it 100% accurately and then you heard it, then you told someone else this inaccurate quote, etc. Oral traditions are fine when it comes to transmitting cultural things like stories, etc, but when it comes to religion, there are very specific points that if they are told inaccurately might destroy someone's life or their faith if they act on them or use them as a basis of their beliefs. That is why Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) in the Quran always talks about kitab, book, in terms of religion. Because a book that is written down and which everyone can refer to is the only proper way to transmit religious knowledge and teachings. The Umayyeds and the Abbasids did fabricate thousands of hadith. This is a fact. They wanted to make the Prophet seem inferior in order to justify their own actions. They wanted to bring the Prophet Muhammad(p.b.u.h) down to their level of sometimes acting based on conjecture and making mistakes because they had big egos and didn't believe there were any human beings in the past or the present who were superior to them. Both Shia and Sunni say this. The only difference is that Sunnis believe that these fabricated traditions didn't make it into their Sahih books. We disagree with them on that and we have evidence that is indisputable for that. This is what the Sheik is saying.
  11. There are many, but I like this one for four reasons. 1) It is very detailed and organized. Each individual topic is it's own video. So if you are only interested in one aspect, and you already know about another one, it's easy to skip ones and focus more on others 2) He uses original sources (such as Al Kafi, Serat of Ibn Hisham, etc) which are in the original language (mostly Arabic) and translates into English from those sources. I know enough Arabic to know that he is doing very accurate translations, as accurate as possible when going from one language to another. 3) His style of speaking is very casual and very relatable, especially for the younger people. Since he grew up in the US, he is speaking without an accent. Personally, accents don't bother me, as long as I can understand what is being said but for most people they would rather hear these lectures in their own accent (if they are American of course). 4) He gives the viewpoint of Jaafari School (Shia) but he is also very familiar with the Sunni viewpoints on these topics. There are very few detailed biographies of Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h) given from the Jaafari view, in English. Almost all of them that are out there in English are from the Sunni perspective, so they take ridiculous hadith like those from Abu Huraira and leave the listener confused. This one doesn't do that.
  12. He is drawing from these sources, but he is good at translating, so it it very understandable.
  13. I learned so much from this series. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) continue to bless Sayyid Muhammad Baqir Qazwini for doing this series. Im sure it required many months or maybe even years of research and preparation.
  14. Very Good and very detailed series of lectures on this topic by Sayyid Baqir Al Qazwini. I am currently watching it lecture by lecture. If anyone would like to discuss an episode, we can discuss here. I think this should be required listening for all brothers and sisters.
  15. I think you did the right thing. You let them know very clearly that what they are doing is not right. There are many young people who were raised in environments where they were given no 'feedback', or no constructive feedback when they do these kinds of things. So doing this is helpful for them, so long as you don't cross the line and become and aggressor yourself, which you didn't do in this case. Also, many children who were raised in extreme poverty or in environments where there is no or little parental supervision act like this. The kids who were raised in poverty think that they will never get anything in life except by taking it by force (i.e. stealing it). It is not their fault until they become mature and realize (thru social feedback such as yours) that their behavior is not something society will accept from them. Then they usually change, but it takes a few years or maybe a decade for them to fully realize how to act in society and adjust.
  16. Just because you didn't get what you asked for, or didn't get it yet, doesn't mean it didn't work. Many times, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) doesn't give us something because it either wouldn't be good for us in this dunya or wouldn't be good for us at this particular time. What we get in recompense (for not getting that thing or for it being delayed) is better than what we missed, ultimately and truely. When I say 'ultimately and truly' it means that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) gives us what is best for us in reality, because only Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) knows us fully and knows the full reality of our lives, without missing any details, both the hidden and manifest aspects (the batin and the dhahir). There are many ayat in Quran as well as many hadith regarding this. If you would like, I can post some, but you are probably already familiar with some of them so I don't want to be repetitive. Salam and I wish better things for you in the future.
  17. This statement just seems strange coming from you. It doesn't fit with your other posts. Maybe there is something you have been asking for, for a long time and haven't received ? IT doesn't mean that dua' didn't work though.
  18. Bismillah Ta'la. What they can do for themselves ? The best thing they can do for themselves is have taqwa. By taqwa, I don't only mean making sure they pray on time, fasting, etc, this is part of it, but there is another part to it. When they are walking on the street, in class, at work, chatting online, watching a movie, looking at something online, they should realize that in all those situations Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is watching them and doesn't miss anything they do. There is an angel on the left recording their bad deeds, and an angel on the right recording their good deeds. If they constantly think about this and ponder over it, eventually they will get to the point where it becomes a reality to them. When it becomes a reality to them, rather than an abstract thing, their behaviour will start to change. They will start to avoid sin, even if it is easy for them to do and presented in a pleasing way. Their motivations will change. They will be motivated by an opportunity to get hasanat (good deeds) and will avoid bad deeds. They will think first 'What does Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) want me to do in this situation' before thinking about what they want to do. This process, of gaining taqwa, is literally fighting a war against the Shaitan and the Satanic forces in society, such as the ones you mentioned above. The Shaitan will try every trick in the book to deceive someone so they avoid doing the necessary things to gain taqwa. He has spents many millennium observing human beings and coming up with new and more effective tricks. It is a war with many battles. Some battles are lost, some are won. This is an internal war that noone else can see. The battlefield is the nafs. The only thing necessary to winning the war is to not give up fighting. That is all. As long as someone keeps fighting there is still a chance of winning. The war is lost only when someone gives up fighting. They give in to their nafs constantly without even putting up a fight. The battle is never won in this world. At the same time, gaining taqwa means reaching a point where victory comes most of the time, and losses are infrequent or very infrequent. At the same time, taqwa also means that the battle continues till the moment of death. Becoming mutaqi or having taqwa means realizing two things at the same time. First, that your enemy Shaitain is very cleaver. He is very knowledgeable and knows you inside and out. Don't underestimate him. He has managed to deceive the vast majority of humanity, and every baby is born with a 'clean slate' i.e. not sinful so he has managed to push all of them in this direction. He sees you and you don't see him. As it says in many dua, 'He flows with your blood'. So you should realize this and not underestimate the enemy. At the same time, you have two big advantages which he doesn't have. First, you control your own behavior and he doesn't. If you watch something haram online or on t.v., it is your who decides to move your hand to click the link or turn the channel. He has no power to do this. If you lie or backbite, it is you who decide to move your lips to form the words of the lie and broadcast it. If you steal, it is you who decide to move your hand toward that money or that property that belongs to someone else and take it. If you drink alcohol, it is you who pick up the glass and put it to your lips and swallow. The Shaitan cannot do that, only you can. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) has not given him the ability to have any control over you. So whatever action you take is something you decided to do, and then moved your hands or your feet or your lips to do the sin. Second, the door of forgiveness is always open. No matter what you did, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) has said in the Holy Quran that he will forgive you so long as you go thru the process of tauba (explain in other posts and many hadith). So never imagine that you are 'beyond forgiveness' and that you have done too many sins and there is no way you will be forgiven. The door is always open. If you think it isn't open, it is because you are listening to Shaitain and not to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) because Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) never closes this door as long as you are above ground and breathing. What can the parents do ? They can't fight this battle for their children, but they can support them in the battle by creating an enviornment in the household that is filled with the remembrance of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h), and Ahl Al Bayt((عليه السلام)). Teaching the children about religion, reminding them to do things like prayers, pointing out to them the mistakes that they might make and the mistakes others make in following other than Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), but not in a mean or judgemental way but with love and kindness and keeping in mind that the children are also human beings, dignified by Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and should be treated with respect, even when they make mistakes. The parents should not 'give up' on their children and teaching them religion even if the children express anti Islamic view or act in a way that is in opposition to Islam. They should continue reminding them in a kind way and showing them that they love and respect them. This has a great effect on the child, even though it might not be immediately apparent. Also, they can facilitate early marriage for their children and not be opposed to it. I think alot of parents do the above, but alot of parent fail when it comes to this. They take it as a badge of 'honor' that their children, and especially their daughters are in their mid to late 20's still not married, and pursuing a MD or a Phd. There is nothing wrong with pursuing an MD or PhD as long as their children don't lose their faith in the process, and unfortunately many do. Because the message being sent by parents (not thru words but thru actions, which is the more influential of the two) is that 'Your career, degree, title, etc, is more important than your religion, so if you have to choose between the two, choose the degree, the position, the title over Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). This is the message being sent, and the children understand this message from their parents, even if the parents don't explicitly say it. Their faith and their religion are more important than the degree. Parents often think they 'know better', but that is not always the case. If your child (son or daughter) is having issues regarding sinning as as a result of not being married , it is WAJIB for them to get married (check the fatwa of your marjaa, they all have the same fatwa). That means there is punishment for them if they don't do it, just like there is punishment if they don't pray, fast, etc. Neglicting the wajibat means risking Allah(s.w.a)'s wrath, and the wrath of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) cannot be withstood by the heavens or the earth, as it says in the Quran. So if you as a parent stand in the way of them doing their wajibat, you will also be subject to this wrath and you will be a partner with them in the sin. The MD or PhD won't help you and it wont help them withstand this wrath. So they parents should have an open communication with their children regarding these issues. Once they realize they are falling into haram because of not being married, then it is wajib for them to help their children get married. You can be married and finish a college degree, and especially if you have help. Many people, like myself, did it without help from parents. So if the parents help, it would make it even easier and more possible. That is the best thing they can do for their children. I think there is also a huge role to be played by community and society. People are ultimately responsible for their own actions and will be held accountable for them by Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). At the same time, most people actions are heavily influenced by their parents (if their parents played a significant role in their lives), their community, and society in general. Each has a part to play in this. In the West, the general society, which is majority non muslim, is of course not playing a positive role in helping the youth, as was pointed out by the OP, but the local Muslim communities can step in and play this role for the society. The responsibility falls on the community to help the youth (and everyone else, but especially the youth) stay firm in their religion by helping them with their practical day to day needs. Marriage is one of those practical day to day needs that they can help them with. Some communities do this, but unfortunately most neglect this duty, which is why we see the problem we are seeing currently. It isn't the only reason, but it is a large part of the reason. If the society neglects their duty, and the community also neglects their duty, then the entire burden of helping the youth falls on the parents and youth themselves. If the parents also neglect their duty, then the entire burden falls on the youth themselves, which is a very difficult burden to bear. So each group must do their part to help as much as they have the ability.
  19. Salam Brother, thank you for your post. Let me address a few points. 1. Considering yourself 'only a muslim' is problematic. That is a nice 'slogan' to have but it doesn't work in the real world. For example, how do you make wudu ? Do you 'wipe' your feet as it says in the Quran or do you 'wash' them ? Do you consider 'washing' them wajib ? How do you say the athan ? Do you pray with your hands folded or to the side ? You already said you prayed with your hands to the side but what is your niyyat (intention ) in doing that ? Obviously, all muslims say that they are trying to pray the way Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h) prayed, but you do emulation of a scholar or mathahib by taking their 'word' that this is the way Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h) prayed. because we don't have direct access to Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h) to ask him, so we must take the word of a scholar. They say different things about this. So you need to take the word of one of them over the other. Which is what you are doing, but you are not calling it that. If we all agreed 100% on 'being a muslim' the way Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h) was, then there would be no mathahib, or you could say there would only be one. The problem is that there is no agreement (100%) on this, so you need to follow a mathab / scholar or be able to do ijtihad independently. Those are your choices. You need to choose the one you think most closely and truly represents the teachings of Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h). We, as Shia, believe that the 'one' is Imam Ali((عليه السلام)), whom Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h) explicitly designated as his successor at Ghadir Khum immediately after the Hajj al WIdah. Then it was passed down to his son Imam Hassan((عليه السلام)), then Imam Hussein((عليه السلام)), till the current Imam, who is Al Mahdi(a.f.s) the son of Imam Hassan Al Askari((عليه السلام)). Our scholars (marjaa) take what they believe to be 'Islam' from them because they believe it to be the true and accurate representation of the Islam of Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h), and we follow them (the marjaa') because we don't have direct access to our Imam(a.f.s) at this point in time. 2. The Shia are not the ones that 'seperated' from the Ummah. The seperation was caused by the political coup that was carried out by Abu Bakr and Umar at the Saqifa of Banu Saida immediately after the death of Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h), and against the instructions and clear order of Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h). The Ummah was one Ummah before that point. The Shia are the ones who kept true to the order of Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h) who said 'Of whosoever I am his Leader, this Ali is his Leader....'. So we took Imam Ali((عليه السلام)) as our Leader after Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h) because of this instruction (and this instruction was repeated in varioius ways at many other times during the lifetime of Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h). There was no doubt this was the correct course. Because some Muslims chose to disregard this clear order and follow a different course and accept a different leader(s) who had no 'Hujjat' is not our fault. It is the fault of those Muslims. This is what caused the seperation.
  20. June is also National Give a Bunch of Balloons Month National Zoo and Aquarium Month Men’s Health Month National Accordion Awareness Month National Adopt a Cat Month National Fresh Fruit and Vegetables Month National Great Outdoors Month National Iced Tea Month National Papaya Month etc https://nationaldaycalendar.com/june-monthly-observations/ So we can pick any one of those. I think these 'month' things are silly anyway, but if you want to celebrate something, you have alot of choices what to celebrate.
  21. When you say 'He's not looking for a second wife' here is the problem with that. You said he doesn't mention you or that fact that he is married. Why do you think he is doing this ? If he just wants to have more women 'friends', then what motivation would he have to not mention you ? Most men have women in their life other than their wife and relatives. Women they work with, mostly in the West it is this one. They see these women on a daily, sometimes hourly basis. I don't know any man who hides that fact that he is married from his collegues who are women, muslim or non muslim. This is very unusual. The only reason I can think of is that he is looking for a relationship with these women, not a friendship. Most women, muslima or non muslim, if they know a man is married, will not consent to having a relationship with him, either for religious / ethical reasons or for practical reasons (i.e. they don't want to 'share' him with another women). So when you say 'he is not looking for a second wife', ok maybe, but he is looking for something other than a friendship. For that vast majority of people social media is a means, not an end. It is used as a means to accomplish some other goal they have in their mind. So he is not being honest with you. So at least you should know that and not be dishonest with yourself about what his intentions are.
  22. I agree. I am locking this thread. The OP has not presented one shred of evidence for a hoax. In addition, like you said, the premise of the OP is highly offensive to the parents who lost children in this incident and others like it.
  23. This guy didn't actually shoot anyone but he was Arab (Lebanese). No surprise because this suburb has a large Arabic population. I guess that's considered 'white' for census purposes. I don't know what his background was, as far as religion or socio economic class.
  24. Security varies widely from school to school. Their excuse for the lack of security was that this school was in a suburb which generally had a low crime rate, so they didn't feel the need to do this. So I thought Wth, after Sandy Hook, Columbine, etc, they should have thought that something like this might happen. All those areas around those schools also had low crime rates. That's why I pulled my kids out of there. I think the bottom line was they didn't want to spend the extra money for the staff, equipment, etc.
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