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  1. I understand why they feel furious, because they see this as part of a 'class system' where some have privileges that others don't have. If that is truly the case, i.e. that they are 'trading in influence' in order to give their children an unfair advantage over other Iranians, I would agree that is wrong, and if they are doing this they should be punished in some way. At the same time, this isn't always the case. In every country on earth, you have a group of wealthy people. Some gained their weath in legitimate ways, some in illegitimate ways. The U.S. government will give almost anyone (so long as they don't have ties to organizations that they deem 'terrorist') if they can show that they have 1 million dollars in cash in a US or European bank. That amount might be slightly higher now (I haven't checked in a few years), but basically that is the only requirement. So if they don't have that, they have to meet other requirements (like relationship with a US Citizen, etc). That is how the system works. It's an unjust system, but that's how it works So it is the wealthy Iranians who come to the US. Yes, some also increase their wealth once they are here, but they had this wealth to begin with. I would say 80% of the Iranians who came here (1st generation immigrants) came here in the late 70s, early 80s and used the wealth they stole from the people of Iran via their connections with the previous govt in order to secure a visa. Most of them live in Los Angeles (the Shahs of Sunset, et. al). The ones who live in Michigan are not from that group (at least I haven't met any of them here). They earned their money in other ways. Many bought real estate in Tehran after the revolution (in the early 80s) and sold it so they made money that way. That is what I know, and there is alot I don't know about this subject. I have not met anyone yet (here in Michigan) who is actually connected to the Iranian govt. As you know and have mentioned, the Iranian govt is under very severe sanctions by the US govt and I doubt that they would give a visa to any Iranian govt official or someone who has an official connection, or any of their children, if they knew that they were their children. The only place where their are govt officials from Iran is in New York, at the UN. Even there, the only ones they give visas to are the ones they are required legally to let in, so that they can participate in meetings at U.N. Headquarters. Most of the children of govt. officials go to Canada or Europe, where the sanctions are not as severe. The Iranians here in the US, and their children, are private business people, not govt officials, from what I know.
  2. This is an invalid criticism and I'll tell you why. As a father, I can't force my child to live next to me or even in the same country as I live. Islam (and common sense also) gives children a choice, once they become old enough to support themselves, as to where they want to live, what kind of job they want to have, etc. The authorities and governors in Iran don't have the 'special right' to force their children to stay in Iran. Most of the Iranians that I know (and there are alot that live in the area of SE Michigan compared to other parts of the US) came to the US to study and then ended up liking it and staying here. Most of them also go back to Iran at least every few years to visit. We also have alot of students from the Hawza in Qum who study there for part of the year and their families are in this area (Iraqis, Pakistanis, Iranians, etc) So this community has alot of good, solid, first hand accounts of what is actually going on in Iran, apart from what the Western Media talks about, which is mostly made up fiction. That is the difference between here and other places in the US. Most of the American people have probably never met an Iranian person who is fluent in both English and Farsi and lives here and regularly goes back to Iran. So all they have to go by is what the Western Media says, which is ideologically and politically driven, and not facts driven, as they claim. BTW, the media here should be 'falling all over themselves' to interview these brothers and sisters as they are fluent in Farsi and Iranian culture and also fluent in English and know this country and community well. But alas, the media here would rather interview Kurds or Iranians who barely know English whose 'comments' fit with the political and ideological narrative they are trying to push onto the American people. It's unfortunate. I have said this before, there are alot of things the Iranian government could do better, i.e. there is alot of room for improvement as far as making Iran a more viable and stable country, economically. I have some ideas about this, which I would love to present to the Iranian government, if I ever have the chance to meet any of them. So we could say some things about that, but as far as giving the governors and authorities 'special rights' to force their children to stay in Iran, I don't think that's one of the ideas that would actually turn out well.
  3. This video really gets to the heart of the issue. These things do not happen in a vacumn. There is a history and a context to everything.
  4. If I was in charge in Iran I would tell them to go up to women without hijab and have a selection of designer hijab from Dior and Channel and other famous designers. I would say 'Do u like this one or this one till I found one they liked and give it to them'. I think that would work better but not in charge so oh well. Maybe someone who is will get that idea
  5. I totally agree with u that it's much better if someone has good aklaq and does it. But even if they do it without good aklaq it's still valuable but less likely to be heeded. Oh good. We agree on something
  6. That's fine but you have to understand that this opinion of yours 'Sometimes I'm feeling it, Sometimes I'm not' and saying you would treat someone with contempt for reminding you about those things, comes from arrogance, not from the other part you mentioned. Doing the 'wajibat' when you're not 'feeling it' is the test of whether your Islam is solid or not. If you do it, despite not 'feeling it', that is Islam. If you don't do it, then there is something missing in your Islam. A person whose Islam is solid would not be bothered when a brother or sister reminded them. They would say 'Alhamduillah, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) has sent someone to help my by reminding me so that I don't forget'. The word 'nas' is used in the Quran for human beings and the root of this word is insah, which means 'to forget'. Man has a forgetful nature (men and women), that is why reminders are necessary, at least for the important things. Salat, fasting, Hijab, all those things are important, because they are wajibat. Just because you're an adults, with children, maybe a good job, degrees from University, etc, doesn't mean you have managed to change your (all of our) basic nature, which is rooted in forgetfulness. Everyone has a part of them that is arrogant, and everyone acts on it from time to time. I am not immune from this myself, and I have done it in the past, and hope not to do it in the future, InShahAllah. The only difference between me and you is that I recognize this in myself, recognize it as arrogance, and I am actively trying to get rid of it whereas according to your above statement, you think of this as some sort of a virtue ? Not sure if you think of it as a virtue but this is what it sounds like based on what you wrote. That's how I interpret it. I might be wrong (I hope I'm wrong). As a brother, and as a revert also, I have a duty to tell you that, not because I like to and not because I like 'calling people out' (I actually really don't like doing this) but because it is our wajib kafiyyat on our brothers and sisters to do this. As for the last part, I am a proud American. I wouldn't live anywhere else. I wasn't raised in Dearborn, or in Michigan, and I have lived in other states. My family has been in this country (both sides) for at least 6 generations. I could live other places, and I have been offered jobs, well paying jobs in other countries like Canada, Dubai, etc (because I have a post graduate education and skills and experience in my field). I love living in America, and there are many good things about living here, I don't deny that, and maybe you missed my other posts about it. I don't think it's relevant to this topic, which is why I didn't post about it here. As an American, I feel that it is my civic and ethical responsibility to point out where the U.S. Government has gone wrong and made mistakes and also when it does something good. This is called 'Free Expression' it has a basis in the US Constitution. So I'll keep doing it. Thanks for that observation though.
  7. The basis of the religion is submission to the will of God, when there is a conflict between your will and God's will. That is the what Islam means, and that is why the religion is named 'Islam' and not some other name like 'Muhammadism', which was what it used to be called in the US in the old days when most people here were illiterate. If someone is a muslim (a follower of Islam), they would not 'get mad' or 'hate the cleric' or 'hate the government' because the government told them to do something which is part of Islam, i.e. wearing the hijab. Iran did not invent the hijab, nor did the IRI make it 'wajib', required. If someone is a Muslim, and they understand at least the basics of the religion, they know that God invented the hijab (in the form that it takes in Islam) and also God made it wajib, required. So if they hate that, then they resent God, not the IRI as this took place long before the IRI existed. The only people who would 'get mad' and 'hate the clerics' and 'hate the government' because of the hijab rule are those who either A) are non muslims (this is the tricky part, I admit), B) don't even know the very basics of the religion, or C) Those who are 'Muslim' only by name and culture and don't actually believe in Islam and only practice it when they are forced to. Now in Iran, there are some who fall into the A category, and many who fall into the B and C category. This is why some kind of rules must be enforced around hijab so that we don't get corruption in society. How that actually works on the ground is up to the Iranian people to decide.
  8. I agree with the above except for one part. You do have an earthly body, it is just 'earthly body 2.0' meaning you don't age, don't get sick, don't need to use the bathroom, don't get tired, depressed, stressed out, etc. Also if you have disability or defect in your earthly body that will be removed and you will have that body, but without the defects or disability. Those who wear glasses now won't need glasses to see clearly, those who are hard of hearing will be able to hear crystal clear without a hearing aid, etc. It will be an earthly body though, made out of flesh, bones, blood, hair, teeth, etc. You won't have a non material or 'spiritualized' body. You will have that, but in the barzakh (intermediate world). On the day of Resurrection, your physical body will be 'put back together' atom by atom and molecule by molecule, but in the 2.0 form (if you are bound for paradise). The authentic hadith are very clear about these points. The hadith are also clear about the fact that there will be hour al ain in paradise(and this is in the Quran also, many times) , but are not as clear about the exact details. Those people who say 'You guys believe that you will be able to 'have' 72 virgins all at once, or as my British friends say 'all in one go' are probably not familiar with our hadith. I am not saying that this is not a possibility, but it is not alluded to in that much detail as to be able to know one way or the other. What we know is that the mumineen (and also the muminaat) will have many servants or companions that are beautiful, virgins, in the sense that they have been created specifically for the pleasure of this mumin or mumina and they have no exposure to any other human beings. The mumin / a will get intense pleasure from this companionship which will be mutual and they will have more than one of these relationships. That part we know. Now some extrapolate that into 'sexual intercourse with multiple partners' but that is not what the hadiths say exactly. This is their interpretation of the hadith based on their own thinking about what gives them pleasure or 'intense pleasure' here on earth. Paradise is not like earth in many ways, so this intense pleasure may be something else, or it might not be, we don't know, well we know generally, but not the specific details. From what I have read, and what I have been told, just looking at one of these hour al ayn from a distance without physically touching them or hearing them will be many orders of magnitude better and more pleasurable than any type of pleasure anyone has experienced on earth. They have been created from out deepest most intimate thoughts, emotions, and desires, and not for anyone else. Basically, there is nothing that any of us have experienced yet in our existence to compare that to. So now imagine more intimate interactions with this being, whether than involves what it involves here on earth or not. It doesn't really matter, we cannot imagine it, given our current knowledge and experience. It's like an ant trying to talk about the height of Mt. Everest when the tallest thing they've ever seen is a tree or a shrub. It is useful to talk about, if it motivates some people to be better muslims and more faithful, but beyond that it's not very productive to talk about, since we have not way to really conceive exactly what it is. The other aspect is that all these negative emotions we experience on earth like jealousy, suspicion, fear of abandonment, etc, don't exist in Paradise. All these emotions are 'cleaned' from the soul before one enters Paradise. So even if two people are husband and wife, mumin and muminat, and they see each other in Paradise being served by different individuals, those things that go thru their mind on earth (as a result of their human nature here on earth as well as various negative experiences that happened to them) won't go thru their mind there, after their heart is purified.
  9. Marrying him is definitely halal, and marriage is encouraged in general. The syed / non syed thing is cultural and actually doesn't matter that much. But you need to ask yourself two questions. 1) How much trouble can you handle from your parents. This is a question about you, not your parents. You know yourself, and you know your parents. Will you be able to handle to family repercussions of this decision. If you're a strong person, in general (not physically strong, I mean mentally tough) you should be able to handle it. 2) Do you think they will eventually accept your marriage ? This is a guess, but you could probably make a better guess than anyone, since you know them well. Also, you have observed their past behaviour with similar issues when someone in their family did something they did not agree with, but was not a bad thing, but just that they did not like it. This will give you an idea. I would say if you can handle the trouble, maintain good aklaq with them, and you think they will eventually come around and accept your marriage, then you should get married to this guy. Finding a guy who follows the religion, is Shia, and is someone you get along with and want to marry is not something you will come across every day. Maybe not for years, maybe not ever again. So if you have this opportunity, you should try your best to make it happen. If you know you are not strong enough to handle the trouble and you may do something hasty and wrong, like do some abusive behaviour toward your parents or cut of the relationship with them, due to your anger, then I would say don't do it, as this may put your akhira in danger, and there is nothing in this world that is worth giving up your akhira for or putting it in danger for. The reason the syed / non syed thing is not a big deal is for the following reason. The fact that someone is a descendant of one of the Imams((عليه السلام)) is not in itself a guarantee of anything. It is not a guarantee they are a good person, not a guarantee they will make a good husband, etc. Who their great, great, great, great.... grandfather was doesn't tell you anything about a person. What tells you is their own actions, and to a certain extent who their immediate family is (mother, father, brothers, sisters). If their immediate family are good people and they have good aklaq and deen, then you will probably have a good marriage, whether or not they are syed. If their immediate family are not good people and / or they do not have good aklaq and their deen is not good, you will probably have a bad marriage and end up divorced in a few years, or end up suffering a life of misery and abuse, regardless of who their ancestors (many generations ago) were. It is possible for a man who comes from a family with bad deen and aklaq to be good, but it is rare, so if this is the case, you should make sure before you get married that this is the case, as much as you can.
  10. Salam Alekum, brothers and sisters As some of you know, I am involved with a local charity in Michigan, Share International https://sharefunds.org/ We will be having a fund raising dinner to help those affected by the recent floods in Pakistan. Here is the info. Tickets are $40. I hope those who live in the area can attend. I will be there with my wife, InShahAllah
  11. Quick Response of comments on previous pages. 1) Hijab is wajib. All marjaa' who have been generally recognized as such agree on this point. 2) Women must cover their hair and their body, not just their private parts, in public and around men who are not their close relatives. This is the meaning of hijab as it applies to women. Here is a conclusive proof of this in a short video. Sorry brothers and sisters who have seen this before, I have reposted it more than 20 times now. It's less than 5 minutes in length. https://www.al-islam.org/media/does-quran-command-us-wear-hijab BTW, this video used to be on youtube. Now apparently it is banned from youtube (in the US at least) and you cannot find it using google. Only found it through a link from al-islam.org. Hmmm. interesting. 3) The question is not whether hijab is wajib (it is), the question is how should it be enforced in society. There are several perspectives on this, some of which have been presented in this thread. Reasonable people can have opinions abou this, and there is not just one answer, HOWEVER, If you live in Iran, you are required to follow the laws of Iran, even if you don't agree with their way of enforcing hijab. This should be obvious to most people. If you live in the US, you must pay taxes, even if you disagree with how the money is used, etc. You must follow the laws of the country where you live, so long as those laws don't directly contradict the Sharia. You can petition the government to change those laws, and you can protest, peacefully without destroying or damaging the lives and property of others. You can also vote for political candidates who share your opinions on this. You cannot go outside the law by attacking police officers, attacking medical personnel, destroying property, looting shops, etc. This is called living in a civil society. I thought this was well understood at this point in human history. 4) There has been no real, concrete evidence presented so far that this lady was actually beaten by the police and this lead to her death. I am still waiting for it, and I am willing to look at it if someone happens to post something.
  12. Sayyid Hassan Qazwini gave a good khutba for Juma regarding this subject. I will summarize it here This lady (1 lady) died under mysterious circumstances, which have not been proven to be an actual human rights violation. In fact (and this is my own interjection here), there have been several pieces of evidence here that have been posted showing that, in fact, she was not beaten before her death. Meanwhile... Thousands of children in Yemen are starving to death because of daily Saudi Imposed war and bombardment. This is well documented, there is no doubt about it. It is happening every day. Gaza has been under siege and blockage by the Israeli government for more than 8 years now, resulting in thousands of real, documents civilian deaths. This is real, well documented and happening every day. Palestine is under occupation by Israel, as is the West Bank. The third Holiest site in Islam is occupied by kuffar and they are expanding their occupation into Muslim lands on a daily basis, expelling Muslims from their homes, and murdering others in cold blood. Again, this is documents, thoroughly, and happening on a daily basis. Shia Masjids are being blown up (with people inside of them) in Afghanistan and Pakistan on an almost weekly basis. This is well document, and most of the time filmed by the takfiri terrorist groups So instead of thinking about those real, well documented, and daily occurrences where Muslim are being starved to death, expelled from their homes, blown to pieces, murdered, raped, and having their lands and property taken away from them by the kuffar or munafikeen, and seeing if we can help in any way.... Oh. Let's just focus all our time and attention on this thing that might have happened to this one lady. Yeah...that sounds like a good plan. It makes me think. Are most Muslims even concerned about the affairs of their fellow Muslims, or are they just more interested in following the latest social media trend ? ?? If we are this foolish, I guess we deserve what we get.
  13. I'll just say you have quite an imagination. Your claims go beyond even what the Mossad / CIA / Neocons say. Good luck with all that. Toodles.
  14. Let's imaging for a second that all the evidence shown so far is fake and made up by the 'regime' and that she really was beaten to death by a policeman. If you look at, at least my posts, I say that this is a possibility and that it could happen, although there is no evidence that it 'DID' happen (two totally different things). So what is the solution then ? Start rioting and looting and killing police officers ? Would that bring justice for this lady or would that bring her (theoretical) killer to justice ? Also, another problem is that most of these young people who are doing the rioting have no memory of living under the neo colonialist puppet regime of the Shah. I guarantee you that if the riots are successful and the IRI falls, who will take over will be another neo colonialist puppet regime who will be worse than the Shah. If betting wasn't haram, I would bet all my wealth that this would be the result. If they think the IRI 'regime' is brutal because (possibly) one lady was beaten, would they like to replace it with a regime (the Shah) who mowed down thousands of unarmed people in the street with machine guns, under the orders of their puppet masters in Washington in 1977 and 1978? Is that what the people of Iran really want ? I think the people who are rioting need to ask themselves this question.
  15. You mean like a kaffan ? Isn't that how Muslims are usually buried ?
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