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  1. I didn't watch the whole thing, no time right now, but just want to make 2 quick points. First, if there is no Divine appointment then name me one time in the Quran where Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) left the decision of leadership up to the people and didn't directly appoint someone as the leader. All Prophets were Divine Appointment, there was no election, lol. All leaders who were not Prophets (such as Talut (Saul) , who was a leader and not a prophet) and the Wasi (Successors of Prophets) were also appointed by Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). Also, when Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) says about Ibrahim((عليه السلام)) 'I am going to make you an Imam', that means that the Imam (Caliph) is appointed by Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). There is so much evidence, just in the Quran that goes against what they say , i.e. that there is no divine appointment. This is only a very, very brief summary of it and there is a lot more I don't have time to cover, at this point. The leader of the Ummah is chosen by Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) only and not by people. Full Stop. This is what Holy Quran says. Ironically, we Shia are asked over and over again to prove this even though the Quran is clear about it. Do you want us to also prove that we have to make Salat ? that the months are twelve ? that we will be resurrected ? All this is clear in Holy Quran Again ironically their 'Caliphs' were not chosen by election even though they like to talk about elections. Shura (mutual consultation) is part of Islam and does have it's place but it is not used to choose the Leader of the Ummah. To recap, Abu Bakr and Umar launched a coup de etat from Saqifah and the outcome of this coup was that he took power, by force. Umar was appointed by Abu Bakr. Uthman was appointed by Umar via a sham committee which consisted of only a few people which Umar hand picked. The rest of the 'Caliphs' used a combination of threats, bribes, and misinterpretation of the verse in Holy Quran that talks about 'Wali Al Amr'. They said that anyone who takes power ' by hook or by crook' is now the leader and must be obeyed. I guess if a two headed giraffe somehow managed to seize power we would have to obey him too. Lol Second, I started watching the video hoping there would be something new in their arguments. Unfortunately there wasn't. They took a khutba from Imam Ali((عليه السلام)) from Nahjul Balagha and mistranslated it and took it out of context. The context of that Khutba was the time after the events of Saqifa when Umar and Abu Bakr did their coup de etat in secret to exclude Imam Ali((عليه السلام)) from the position of Leadership of the Ummah. Imam Ali((عليه السلام)) was obeying the orders of Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h) who told him to be patient during this time when they would take your rights and oppress you. It was this order of Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h) that kept him from fighting those two. So when he said those words that they quoted, the Leadership had already been usurped from him. So he had two choices, either fight or not, and if not, he still wanted to make a positive contribution and help the Ummah even if he was not in the Leadership position. This is why he said those words. That is the proper context, not what they imply, i.e. that he was trying to say that he wasn't appointed by Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) as Imam. I stopped watching at that point. If others want to watch all 1 hour 30 minutes of it and tell me if there is something new and interesting ? Another last point is that they are making polemic, ad hominem arguments. They are not responding to the content of what Sayyid Nakshawani says. They are taking little clips out of context and then giving a 'weak' response to those. THey throw in 'everything and the kitchen sink' knowing that almost noone will be able to respond to it all, and then they think they win by default. A classic misinformation / propaganda technique. If they are so certain they could defeat Sayyid Nakshawani in a debate, why don't they debate him ? They never will because they know they would lose and it would be over in a few minutes. In an actual debate, not a propaganda piece, there are rules and guidelines. A topic is chose, one topic, that is agreed by both sides in advance as to the wording of the question being debated. Then each time is given equal time and an equal chance to refute what the other is saying. They could never win this type of real debate. I wish I had time to watch the whole video. I probably could have refuted every point, but alas. If others can help with this. Salam.
  2. Bismillah Ta'la If you feel unsafe or you fear for the safety of your children based on actual, real things he has done (not things you imagine he could do) then you need to leave. Full Stop. You can worry about the Islamic divorce at a later point. The religion of Islam strongly encourages marriage and family, but does not ask you to put your life or your safety at risk in order to do that. Once you and your children are physically out of that situation, then you can talk to him by phone and tell him that you want to meet him and a sheik (Islamic scholar) to discuss the issues you are having. If you want to share the general area you are in I, or someone else here who is trusted on the site, can put you in touch with a skilled credible scholar who you can talk to as a couple. Even if you want a divorce, at this point, you can't proceed without getting a scholar or someone knowledgeable in the community involved. Divorce, unlike marriage, requires witnesses and a process, unlike marriage does. This is in Jafari fiqh (Shia). The main thing right now is that you need to examine the situation and use your good judgement to determine if there is a safety issue here for you and your children. This is priority one and there is no priority two until this is done. If you decide that there is no safety issue, and he is basically just talking and venting, then you need to let him know how you are feeling about what he is saying and how it affects you and the kids. He needs to hear this from you, you can't assume he understands this, again if there is no safety issue and you don't think that by telling him this he could become violent. Some men do when you bring this up. You know him well enough by now to know how he will reacts, generally. If after you tell him how you feel, you should suggest getting a sheik, scholar, or someone knowledgeable about Islam that you both trust involved. If he is willing to do that, then this is the best outcome and you should proceed with this. About the custody issue if you get divorced. In Islam (both Shia and Sunni), the mother has custody of the children until they are two years old. After two and until they are baligh(around 10 for girls and 13-14 for boys) then father has the right to primary custody unless he voluntarily gives up that right.After they are baligh (mature according to the religion of Islam) they can decide on their own who they want to live with. Even if he gives up the right of primary custody he is entitled to see his children anytime he wants to and the mother cannot stop him from doing that. If you have any further questions, please feel free to post. InShahAllah, the issues will be resolved and you can get on the path to a happy marriage and family. Salam. About paying the bills, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is kheiril Razikheen. The Best Provider. It is Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) who gives you the sustenance, not your husband. Your husband might be the channel that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is using at the moment, but this could change at any point. You need to have faith that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is the one giving you the Rizk and put your trust in Him. Every couple I know of (including me and my wife) have gone thru financial hardships and trials in our marriage. This is part of living in this dunya. Don't give up hope. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will provide for you and your children, either thru your husband or thru another channel. BTW, here is powerful Dua for Rizq (sustenance) from Imam Jaafar Sadiq((عليه السلام)). It is a short dua. I suggest you recite it, at least a few times and may Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) grant you generously thru His Mercy.
  3. While Thaqalayn is a very strong proof, it is not interpreted the same way by all Muslims, unfortunately. If it was, there would be no such thing as 'Shia - Sunni'. If brothers and sisters, from any mathahib want to know the truth, I think they should study certain books that have been written by our scholars such as 'Then I was guided' by Sheik Tijani https://www.al-islam.org/then-i-was-guided-muhammad-al-tijani-al-samawi Peshawar Nights https://www.al-islam.org/peshawar-nights-sayyid-muhammad-al-musawi-al-shirazi and other books which build a case based on a collection of hadith on the subject that are accepted by both Shia and Sunni ulema
  4. There are still brave people in the US... This reminds me of the hadith 'The best form of Jihad is speaking truth to the oppressor' This is on reddit. If this were posted on X or Insta, they probably would have taken it down already. See it while you're still able to, at least for those in the West. BTW, the Senator (the 'man' on the right in the blue jacket) , 1 of 100 people on the planet who actually are capable of stopping the genocide, completely ignored what this man said and walked away without responding. What a coward !
  5. What people should understand from this poll is the context of it. The Jews who volunteer to go and live in Israel are the Zionists, almost exclusively. The philosophy of Zionism is based on racism and arrogance. They view Palestinians as non human, as their defense minister said. So it makes sense that they wouldn't care if all of them were killed. They think of it like an exterminator when he kills insects. That is what they believe. Almost all are like this, but of course there are some exceptions as there always is Brothers and sisters also need to understand that the Jews who live in Israel do not represent the Jewish people in general, because only a small minority of Jews actually live in Israel.
  6. Salam. I don't have enough information about your situation to say this for sure, but my guess is that he is 'one of those guys' who are addicted to relationship drama. He can't feel comfortable with you unless you are insulting him back, throwing accusations at him, etc. It doesn't sound like you are that type of person and I wouldn't suggest you become that way to satisfy him. Those types of guys, at least the ones I knew, lived miserable lives and were not practicing their religion the way they should be. It is a symptom of a larger problem. What I think you should do is stand up for yourself fully and completely. You can tell him (in your own words) that I am not that type of person who is comfortable in a situation where insults and accusations are always going back and forth. I can play that game too, but that's not who I am and not who I want to be. If you are not comfortable in a calm, peaceful household then this marriage is probably not going to work and maybe we should talk to the sheik about starting the divorce process. See how he responds. He might change he might not. The big thing I want to tell you is that if you do this, i.e. threaten divorce, be prepared to actually go thru with it. Don't just say it then he goes back to the way he was then you back down from that position. If you do that he will lose all respect for you and if you are not willing to go thru with it it's better not to bring it up in the first place. At the same time, if he doesn't change his behaviour will affect you and your children in a very bad way and like I said before, this is a symptom of a bigger problem. Dua helps, but Dua should be done along with constructive actions you take to actually solve your problem. Dua without action has no value, because Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) gave you strength and power in certain areas. If you don't exercise this power in the way that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) gave it to you, you are showing Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) that you are not grateful for the gift he gave you, i.e the tools necessary to take positive action. As it says in the Quran, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) does not help the ungrateful people. You were not created as a tree or a rock. You were created as a human being with the ability to speak, to act, to plan, to reason, etc. You need to use those along with knowing that the ultimate outcome is in the hands of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and He(s.w.a) has power over all things. This is the purpose of Dua. Not as an excuse for not taking action.
  7. I wish I was the one who got to kick him into the bottomless pit of Jehenam.
  8. Bismillah, The thing that gives me hope in all of this is that many non muslims are just now waking up and realizing that the current political state of Israel which is based on the Zionist doctrine is a threat to the US and the world and is not an 'ally' or 'friend'. Some of us who have been around a while have been saying this since the 90s. No One except a few people listened to us and the demonstrations against Zionism and the Zionist agenda were very small, maybe less than 100 people. Now, in the US, you see thousands of people at demonstrations all over the country every week. These demonstrations are not being covered by the main stream media but are covered on social media platforms. So this is a huge change and not good for the Zionists since the US in the center of their support network. Large Platforms like 'YouTube' are blocking the videos, most of them, of the demonstrations. If you do a search on google or youtube (both owned by google, aka Alphabet) you won't see the video. You have to go to other places like reddit, specifically the r/palestine group and you will see them. It is very sad that thousands of children had to die in order to wake people up but hopefully they are waking up. Insha'Allah.
  9. Can you post some more sources for this. I've never heard of the Hindustan times before a few days ago. Like I said, this might be true. I am willing to accept that possibility I just need more evidence. Wagner Group are mercenaries with a horrible record of human rights abuses. I am not saying they are unusual as far as mercenary groups go. All mercenary groups have horrible human rights records because, well, they kill people as a business. That is why Iran is probably trying to keep it low key if they are dealing with them on any level. They might be using them as an intermediary to acquire certain weapons and technology because they don't want to deal with Russian Govt directly. That is the most plausible scenario IMHO
  10. While this might be true, I don't think we should be celebrating this. The wagner group are paid mercenaries. They have no loyalty, no religion, and no morals. Actually they have a religion, their religion in the worship of money. I'm not even sure this is true. What you posted in the only source I have seen for this so not enough info yet. That the sole source is the Hindustan Times doesn't give me much confidence that it's true at this point. They are not a credible source, IMHO. Iran does have a political relationship with Russia, as it has with most countries in the world. At the same time, I wouldn't describe this as an 'alliance'. There is a historical mistrust between Iran and Russia, given that Iran was invaded by Russia less than 100 years ago. The people of Iran don't forget things like that very quickly. Iran also had a good relationship with Ukraine before Zelinsky and his clown car of neo liberal fascists took over the country and put Ukraine in the bad situation it's in now.
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    Salam. I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Being a revert myself, I know it's difficult to make a clean break from your former life and you always feel like you are 'out of sorts' because you remember yourself the way you were before vs what you are doing now. This is not being a fake, it's called 'cognitive dissonance'. Its a psychological state that happens when people make significant changes in their life. Don't worry, it's not just you, it happens to most reverts at some point. It's your mind trying to adjust to your present reality by consolidating new with old memories and sometimes mixing them together or getting confused. It's a temporary state and it goes away. When this happened to me, I would do some mental exercises in the form of steps Step 1. Do I believe that there is nothing worthy of worship except Allah, The God, the only One God of the Universe and all that exists ? If I don't believe that, then maybe review the original proofs I had for this to be true and see if they are still valid. I have many proofs for this that I can share with you if you like. I wrote a short book on these proofs which I have posted before. I can repost. Step 2. Do I believe that Prophet Muhammad(p.b.u.h) is the Messenger of God, sent by God to mankind to guide them to the strait path, the path that God intended for us to follow. If I don't believe this, then maybe review the original proofs I had for this to be true and see if they are still valid. I have proofs for this also, it is part of the same book If you believe those things, YOU ARE A MUSLIM. You are not a fraud. This is the criteria for you to be considered a Muslim. Not where you were born, who your parents were, etc. Once you realize you are a Muslim, then you have to decide what type of Muslim you want to be. There are Muslims who drink, do drugs, watch porn, gamble, do fraud, commit adultery, etc. If you want to become a better Muslim, i.e. closer to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), then you shouldn't do those things. Even if you slip up and fail, one time or a million times, ask Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) sincerely to forgive you and resolve never to repeat the action again. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is all merciful and His mercy has no limits or boundaries. It is not similar to the mercy of human beings who have limits and are selfish, greedy, etc. The only thing necessary for you to receive the forgiveness of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is that you NEVER, EVER give up hope in the forgiveness of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). That is the only thing necessary. Becoming a Muslim, in the real sense of the word and in the true sense, is a lifelong process. It begins with the Shahada (beliefs above), but this is only the beginning.
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  13. This depends on where you live. Almost totally. If you are in a job market where there are more jobs in IT than there are qualified candidates, then you would have a good chance. At the same time, most places with high paying IT jobs like the US, Europe, Australia, Canada have many qualified candidates with degrees and also experience and additional credentials. At the same time, within those markets there are some lower paying 'entry level' IT jobs that you could probably get and if they pay more than what you are making now, this would be a step up for you. At the same time, if you decide to change jobs then your new employers will look at your lack of degree as a minus point when comparing you to other candidates. I think you should try to get an entry level job and then work on getting a degree from a physical campus that is known in the industry, even if this is a two year, (they call it associate in the US) and even if the college is not one of the 'top' ones. This will still help you out tremendously. You should think of this like a game of chess, where you have to think two or three moves ahead. Your experience plus the bootcamps will always help you and it will be points you can add to your resume, but you need the 'foundational skills' to really get ahead. These skills you can only get thru the traditional route, IMHO. There is also fraud going on, to an extent, within the IT job market. To avoid this, don't take any job that you have to do 'training' beforehand that you have to pay for out of pocket with the promise of a job at the end. These are probably scams. Also, don't take a job that is paying you less than what you are making now while they are promising you that after the first few months you will get a raise. Whatever you are making on day 1, expect that this is what you will be making on that job.
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