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In the Name of God بسم الله


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  1. Good reminder. OP - I agree with the above underlined statement. It is important to find out who would be there for you if needed. Of people you know, find out who are trustworthy and who will actually be there for you. If you don't have anyone, look around in your work place or casual relationships to develop potential friendships. This is always a good idea, but if you do not have family nearby, this is a must.
  2. This is currently not a good marriage and it does not seem to be headed for a bright future. Focusing on whether he has other wives or is allowed to have wives, etc, is not addressing what is really going on here. It is just a distraction. You are not being treated as a wife. You are being disrespected and hurt and told that your unhappiness is not worthy of addressing (biggest red flag). You are emotionally and verbally abused, his parents don't like you and it seems your husband doesn't either. Your husband does not appear to be concerned about the deterioration of your marri
  3. Most of us. His fortitude and perseverance alone are beyond admiration. He found optimism and humour where others would have found hopelessness and despair. He told his kids to "remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet". There are more than a few feet gazers among us!
  4. I disagree. Aside from the obvious: Stephen Hawking developed a mathematical proof for black holes. He proved Einstein's theory of general relativity, redefined the Big Bang Theory, and he also proved the universe has no boundaries. He won many awards and honours such as Pius XI gold medal for science, the Albert Einstein medal, the Order of the British Empire, and the Presidential Medal of Freedom from then President Barack Obama. He also was a guest in four episodes of the Simpsons!
  5. No kidding. Lets just remember this guy for his contributions to science and humanity without condemnation or rush to judgement.
  6. Yep, looks like Bernie would have retreated and caved in office as he did when he embraced Clinton even after her undermining of him . I was, and am. disappointed.
  7. I agree with this. A woman with a scarf on her head can pretty much get away with a lot of questionable behaviour in the community, but a modestly dressed woman with no scarf is open for judgement and censure based on a mere suggestion of equal or lesser behaviour.
  8. Mutah means pleasure. Nikah mutah is temporary pleasure marriage.
  9. Looks like it already happened to some poor guy who was killed as a suspect in the killing of another child that is now thought to be linked to this case. http://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-42742980
  10. Kind of confused about your post. You are not sure if the man is guilty due to valid reasons to have doubt but still want to go ahead with extreme public punishment. There is no evidence over many studies (from the 1950's) that public executions (or any executions) reduce homicidal criminal behaviour in others. However, public executions encourage exactly what you stated in your first statement, to occur. The authorities, due to extreme public pressure, have to come up with a culprit. Because of this, there is appropriate hesitation as to whether the man arrested is actually guilty. T
  11. Issue 903: * For women, it is better to pray at such places where they are best protected from Na Mahram, regardless of whether that place is her home, a mosque or anywhere else. https://www.al-islam.org/islamic-laws-ayatullah-ali-al-husayni-al-sistani/rules-salat-part-ii-iii#mustahab-places-offering-prayers
  12. People with even a basic sense of humanity will have a problem understanding and easily accepting the extreme punishments for homosexuality, especially since we probably know functioning, contributing people in our lives somewhere, who are gay. It is something that is real to us, not an unrealizable story used to illustrate a moral or spiritual lesson. Punishment for Homosexuality: Since sodomy is a greater crime than adultery and its evils are worse, the punishment for sodomy is also more severe than that of adultery according to the Islamic law. Islam prescribes capital punishment
  13. I see what you mean in that having children is becoming more popular now and it is being led by those who are high profile. But I also see in the professional sphere that some women are choosing not to have any which may balance this out(?) Also, there is a developing trend for couples with a combined income to each work shorter hours per week so that family issues can be better addressed, and so that both men and women can have a better quality non-workaholic life.
  14. The end of the White race is a cultural and demographic inevitability probably within some of our lifetimes. I think at this point it is pretty much a non issue other than it will hopefully bring about a post-racial age.
  15. It is inevitable that any blending of cultures will bring change. People are social and will inter-relate and develop strong bonds due to learned respect and new understanding of each other. Children attend the same schools and develop friendships that will in some cases be life long. Intermarriage is becoming more and more common. This is not necessarily a bad thing as perhaps the good from both the West and the East may emerge. Tribalism is pretty much over.
  16. I agree. Also, sometimes people choose to "miss" the point for whatever reason and that is OK.
  17. @starlight You can hide behind all the lifestyle mumble jumble distractions about lifestyle all you want but it does not bury the fact that you and your cohort have told people on here with a life threatening illness to go off their medications. @Laayla in a recent post someone who has self identified with having a serious illness (bipolar), who courageously went out of their way to describe it amid the pressures against her choice of medically supervised treatment, said "Insh'Allah one day with strength, courage, and dedication you too will no longer need the drugs." This sums up the ju
  18. @starlight Regardless of people's choices over their own lives, it does not give anyone the right to evaluate and judge. There seems to be an unquenchable need of some people to tear apart those who are vulnerable and struggling to cope with basics in life (that most of us take for granted) with condemnation, rebukes and unending commentary on what they SHOULD be doing - because they are doing it WRONG. "Shoulding" on others is the hallmark of people with weak character and an avoidance or fear to address their own issues. They don't realize that they are the actually the ones with the c
  19. I meant to quote the post and didn't for some reason. I was referring to your judgement of your cousin with Rheumatoid Arthritis who only "popped pills" and is now in a wheel chair due to her decisions. Intimating that it is her fault that she is in a wheelchair.. I know that that disease is incredibly painful and debilitating. For myself, I am not in a position to judge someone trying to relieve excruciating 24/7 pain when I am relatively pain free. I don't walk in their shoes. We have no idea as to the degree of her pain, degree of fear to move certain ways that will cause even more pain
  20. @starlight This is victim blaming. The majority of psychiatric illnesses are genetically based. You are born with them. Medical genograms are one of the first assessment tools with a new patient. And these diseases are also somatic - a scan of a schizophrenic brain shows significant physical abnormalities that impact the surrounding structures (in addition to the chemical abnormalities of course). Psychotropics help people cope and to have a shot at a life that you take for granted. Have you ever seen a person with schizophrenia hallucinating? A bipolar individual in a
  21. Absolutely! Actually, there are many cases of athletes in prime condition suffering fatal heart attacks due to the fact that their congenital heart conditions were never diagnosed but became apparent due to the extra stress on the heart... so much judgement here to do with illness. I am really surprised!
  22. There is no cure at this time, and so, of course, there is no reduction in morbidity or mortality with those who use psychotropics. Medications for people with serious brain chemistry abnormalities (and there is a ton of literature on this), have significantly improved the ability of those afflicted to live a somewhat normal (and often safe) life - what we nonchalantly take for granted is a daily painful, struggle for others. To stigmatize (and yes, these judgemental and arrogant comments are stigmatizing) people who need these medications is exceptionally cruel. I am a mental health profess
  23. This is an excellent, resourced article. Abstract Mental illness stigma continues to be a major barrier for individuals with mental illness. In this paper, we 1. define constructs that comprise stigma (e.g., attitudes, stereotypes, prejudice, discrimination), 2. discuss the harmful effects (e.g., label avoidance, public stigma, self-stigma) and 3. present factors that may influence them (e.g., concealability). In order to better understand mental health stigma in Muslim community, we 4. focus on intersectional stigma and present literature on the complex relat
  24. It is all too apparent that stigma continues to be a huge problem for people living with mental illness - it is an unnecessary and cruel burden to add to someone who, as it is, lives life in a constant struggle. Ignorant attitudes undermine a person's sense of self, relationships, well-being and as well impacts prospects for achieving an acceptable quality of life. I can't emphasize enough the importance of education and awareness. All of us should take some time to educate ourselves about mental health diseases and their etiology... making sure to resource from an accredited source.
  25. I thought it was funny that those reportedly being detained were being held in 5 star hotels.. Wonder what Yemen can offer..
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