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  1. Another point worth noting here is that the Islamic law states that if someone has fear of falling into sin, then it becomes obligatory to get married. But it is almost a practical impossibility to get married at age of 14. So if someone knows that it is not possible for him to get married, then he should make sure that he doesn't put himself in a situation where marriage would become wajib on him while he is not be able to perform this wajib action. When a person knows that marriage is beyond his reach, he should make sure that not only he doesn't commit any sin, he also should not develop any fear of sinning because this fear would make it wajib on him to get married, which he then would not be able to do - complicating things even further. Ofcourse, it is very difficult to reach a level where an unmarried person neither commits a sin nor has even the fear of sinning because the man's nafs commands him to evil, but if Allah helps, chastity can be possible even without marriage, even for very extended periods, or for decades, like Hazrat Yousaf(عليه السلام).
  2. Yes. Sura 55 - Ayat 56 فِيهِنَّ قَـٰصِرَٲتُ ٱلطَّرْفِ لَمْ يَطْمِثْهُنَّ إِنسٌ قَبْلَهُمْ وَلَا جَآنٌّ "Wherein both will be those (maidens) restraining their glances upon their husbands, whom no man or jinn yatmithhunna (has opened their hymens with sexual intercourse) before them."
  3. Ws. Perhaps just like adultery of eyes is lustful gaze, adultery of hand is touching a non-mehrum woman with lust.
  4. Ofcourse that is never an excuse - even when second marriage or mutah is not possible, it is still not an excuse. There are halal options but not within easy reach of everyone. A person may wish to do second marriage or mutah but may not find a spouse despite trying. In that case, they have to remain patient and not indulge in sins. Our imams as. were married but were forced to spend years/decades in dungeons. For example, Imam Musa Kazim as. spent years in prison away from his wives. A prostitute was then sent in to try to seduce him. She completely failed to do so and when she came out, she said that he did not lift his head up from sajdah even once to even look at her. Such is the greatness of sexual patience the imam showed. People who are married but face similar situations where for some reason or another, they cannot have halal sex despite being married, should follow the example of imams. and show patience. They cannot justify sexual sins by saying sexual desire is something which cannot be suppressed. In fact, one can say that because it is possible to suppress sexual desire, that's why it is haram to masturbate even if one cannot have halal sex even after getting married. Allah does not test anyone with a burden greater than he can carry - so if someone is required to avoid masturbation even when he is married but still can't have halal sex, it means it is very much possible to do so. The nafs commands to sin, but the sin does not become justified. So whether someone can get married or not, can do mutah or not, can do second marriage or not, can have any halal sex or not - masturbation will never become permissible. Allah may forgive whosoever He wishes, but the sin will not become justified.
  5. Yes, but sometimes the serious issue is that the couple is not physically living together. They live in different cities or different countries. Sometimes, one partner may have a disease because of which they cannot have sex, so the other partner indulges in sin. Sometimes, couples live together but still can't have sex because they share their room with their children etc and have no privacy. These are genuine issues ... but still they will not justify masturbation. It will still not become allowed to masturbate even if the husband is unable to live with his wife. Such people may find it harder to control their sexual desires after getting married than before the marriage.
  6. We know the hadith that whosoever gets married, saves half his religion, so he should worry about the other half. Ofcourse this hadith has great wisdom. However at the same time, one has to be aware of the rules of Islamic law which state that when a married person commits a sexual crime, his punishment / gravity of sin is double that of the unmarried. If an unmarried person watches pornography, but he realises it is a great sin, and understands it is wajib for him to get married...so he quickly gets married but then is unable to stop watching porn, his punishment could be double after marriage than it would have been before marriage. This doesn't imply that he shouldn't have gotten married - but it does indicate that marriage is not a licence of post-marital chastity, rather marriage can double the intensity of one's sexual sins. So all of us who are married need to be even more careful, should have even more self control and even more sexual patience than unmarried people. People get married with the assumption that after marriage, they will be able to have sex whenever they wish, whenever they desire with no restrictions. True in many cases, but not always. Many couples are in long distance relationships and find it even harder than unmarried persons to suppress their sexual desire. Many times either the wife or husband has exceptionally low libido and does not respond to other spouses's needs. This can be extremely frustrating when you have a halal option available but you still cannot fulfill your desires. Avoiding sinning in these conditions is a great test of sexual patience even after getting married.
  7. If we pray to Allah and still think that He will not change our lives, this is lack of hope in Allah. Having hope in Allah is not a small thing - it is a great sign of belief in Allah. In reality, we humans have nothing to present to Allah other than having hope in him because our actions in their own right are completely worthless. Imam Ali as's. level of hope in Allah is so great that he said even if Allah threw him in hell, he would still continue to pray to him to take him out of hell. Quran: 12:87 يَـٰبَنِىَّ ٱذْهَبُواْ فَتَحَسَّسُواْ مِن يُوسُفَ وَأَخِيهِ وَلَا تَاْيْــَٔسُواْ مِن رَّوْحِ ٱللَّهِ‌ۖ إِنَّهُۥ لَا يَاْيْــَٔسُ مِن رَّوْحِ ٱللَّهِ إِلَّا ٱلْقَوْمُ ٱلْكَـٰفِرُونَ "O my sons! Go you and enquire about Yusuf (Joseph) and his brother, and never give up hope of Allah's Mercy. Certainly no one despairs of Allah's Mercy, except the people who disbelieve." Praying to Allah and then thinking He will not accept the dua is being suspicious of Allah. This is something which Allah dislikes tremendously:
  8. No. It is the opposite. Bismillah is read aloud but the rest of the surah quietly.
  9. If the husband or the wife have mental health issues, and the other spouse was not aware of this before, then in certain cases, the nikah itself can be considered void and there is this no need for divorce.
  10. Many. Just to name a few: Salman Al Farsi Abu dhar ghaffari Abu ayub Ansari Miqdad Bilal Ammar Yasir Awais Al Qurni Kumail bin ziyad Uthman ibne Hunaif Sahl ibne Hunaif Maalik e ashtar Jundab e azdi Hudayifah Yamani Khalid ibne Saeed Qais ibne Saad Maalik bin Nuwairah
  11. W'salam. 1. You may recite nafila aloud 2. You should be able to hear yourself whispering when quiet. For loud, another person in the room should be able to hear you. 3. The surahs of the first two rakaats are compulsory to be read aloud for fajar, maghrib, Isha. The rest of the prayer can be quiet but it is still recommended to be read aloud (except what you read in qiyam in 3rd and 4th rakaats, this must be quiet).
  12. Agree. They should atleast make an intention, but at the same time, they should hope that Allah will keep them protected from sins even if they are forced to remain unmarried for years or decades. They should not think that marriage is the only solution - because if they think that but then are unable to get married, they might feel they are justified to sin. They might feel they have an b excuse to sin if Allah delays they're marriage. A prisoner might feel he has an excuse to masturbate if he can't get married for a long time, but according to Islamic law he would have no excuse even if he remains unmarried for ever.
  13. You did not answer my question. If money is no criteria, do you suggest that a man should get married and then being his wife into the same room which he shares with other men, and sleep with his wife in the same room? I'm not a prisoner. But this is an example.... If a prisoner is serving a life sentence, he is expected by Islamic rule to control his sexual urge on long term basis. He will not have any justification to commit any sexual sin. For example it will not become permissible for him to masturbate at any point in his life. Practically, this would be extremely difficult but it is still the law. If Allah does not allow even a prisoner to commit even a single sexual sin, then it means sexual desire can be suppressed for very long periods with Allah's help. I'm not suggesting any holier than thou feeling. Even Prophet Yousaf as. claimed his nafs commanded him to evil and Allah said Yousaf would have sinned unless He protected him. So we are all very, very prone to sin and not immune from sexual desire - yet, If Allah helps, people can stay chaste for years or decades when marriage is not immediately possible. This thought can give hope to unmarried people who are in extreme situations that Allah can save them from sins for as long as their marriage doesn't become possible.
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