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Marbles

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    Marbles got a reaction from Nevsevug in W.I.M. wimmin   
    That is a good analogy. However, I'd say that external sources of disharmony succeed in large measure due to the preexisting discord from within. In the society where I live, I notice that there is very little criticism, if at all, of the prevailing attitudes that provide the grounds for the misuse of some Islamic and even cultural practices. What happens is that the blame is shifted to the individual whilst social patterns are conveniently ignored. Putin did not sow seeds of discord in the US overnight. He merely used the internal conflict and the rise of neo-Confederate nationalism in the US to Russia's advantage.
    There's another thing that might explain what you describe in the opening post. There are a lot of people from within the Muslim community who have doubts about the truth and suitability of certain Islamic laws and practices. This comes up so often that it's hard to miss and always causes a big bun fight. I think Muslim communities have still not figured out a way to deal with sceptics and agnostics from within because there hasn't really been a need for that up until now.
    That being said, is there a larger Western neo-imperial narrative and its agents pressing on the so-called traditionalist and/or religious societies to come up to speed? Absolutely. There is no doubt about that. Cultural imperialism has never stopped. That's why the whole of the Western world celebrated when the Indian supreme court decriminalised homosexual activity. India is now officially Gay Hind. 
     
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    Marbles reacted to Maryaam in W.I.M. wimmin   
    It is best to take posters at their word - because we do not know the reality/unreality or whether their post is exaggeration or underreporting.  Judging someone’s integrity, honesty and level of religiosity based on a few words online is beyond bizarre.  Sure there are trolls, but the post might be genuine and you need to take Muslims at their word unless you have valid reason to believe they are being dishonest.  Online you never know what you dealing with.  The person might be a jaded troll but they also could be someone who is very much on the edge and is posting in desperation.  How would you like to be wrong?
      People are often in difficulty based on bad choices, or sadly, based on the choices of others.  I think that once someone can actually write out what kind of a mess they are in and post it online, they are fully aware of what those bad choices were.  I am sure they do not need to have a member point out what an evil schmuck they are.  It is not helpful.  The pointer-outer comes across as someone who has self-imposed faux moral and religious superiority getting a quick esteem fix by pointing out the faults of others whom they see as inferior to themselves.  Not helpful to anyone - ironically, including themselves.   People disappear after posting because they were either trolls, are wishing they did not post in the first place (and ask for their post to be removed) are embarrassed or humiliated by one or more responses, or feel they have received validation enough to tackle their issue in suggested ways.   If one post can cause extreme turmoil, the problem is not with the poster but with the lack of cohesion within the community members.  If something like a post pushes us off the rails into mayhem, then we have some serious work to do in terms of addressing ongoing misunderstandings that create battlefields when there is even the slightest opportunity.  
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    Marbles reacted to eloquence in Why it seems like the "bad" Girl gets the Guy   
    You'd make the perfect manipulative desi mother!
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    Marbles reacted to Miss Wonderful in Why it seems like the "bad" Girl gets the Guy   
    @Marbles, i know appoint you as Royal paraphraser and Royal adviser 
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    Marbles got a reaction from Miss Wonderful in Why it seems like the "bad" Girl gets the Guy   
    Moral of the story:
    Women, spice up your manners and appearance and learn the art of carrying yourself; be crafty and cunning when dealing with your men because being nice and honest does not pay off; the way to manage your man is by giving him the illusion of power while retaining all power in your hands; be strong and independent without making it too obvious; don't just accept gifts but DEMAND them; be selfish to guard your own interests and that of your family, because men are ultimately quite dumb when it comes to domestic and familial matters; stand your ground and don't let your man or inlaws or anyone else walk over you.
    More power to womankind! <3
     
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    Marbles got a reaction from starlight in Why it seems like the "bad" Girl gets the Guy   
    Moral of the story:
    Women, spice up your manners and appearance and learn the art of carrying yourself; be crafty and cunning when dealing with your men because being nice and honest does not pay off; the way to manage your man is by giving him the illusion of power while retaining all power in your hands; be strong and independent without making it too obvious; don't just accept gifts but DEMAND them; be selfish to guard your own interests and that of your family, because men are ultimately quite dumb when it comes to domestic and familial matters; stand your ground and don't let your man or inlaws or anyone else walk over you.
    More power to womankind! <3
     
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    Marbles reacted to Qa'im in Churches and synagogues in the middle east   
    Wonderful work, thank you for these excerpts.
    One point that I like to make is that there are plenty of ancient Christian communities across the Middle East, such as the Copts, Assyrians, Chaldeans, and other Arab Christian communities. However, there are no ancient Muslim communities in Christendom. The Muslims of Spain and Portugal were forced out, and even their converted descendants were kicked out. The Sicilian Muslims were also removed. The Muslim civilization has a far better track record with minorities than Christendom, even in spite of modern secular acceptance of multiculturalism, which is now becoming increasingly less tolerant.
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    Marbles reacted to Qa'im in Hoor al-`Ayn are not White Chicks   
    As I have noted earlier, abyad according to the dictionary definitions I have provided is not the same as the 20th century understanding of "white" (i.e. Caucasian people). The reference above does indeed say that their skin would be abyad, but that is probably a reference to the clarity of her skin, purity in youth, and lack of blemishes, discolouration, bumps, wrinkles, and burns. Al-Dhahabi's reference even says "white" means "tawny" (bronze), which is a more Mediterranean complexion. A "hooriya" literally means "a contrasting one", and an abyad person in classical Arabic is someone with fair skin and dark hair. White faces in the Hereafter refers to noor. Pale skin in Arabic is actually musfar and not mubyad.
    Either way, the Hereafter is not something you can imagine. You should probably ask yourself what makes you hung up on the colour of the hooriya. I don't see anyone arguing over what kind of wine Paradise would have, but I have angered multiple people over this blog (usually young South Asian and Arab men/boys), which just exposes our community's undue obsession with whiteness. I have seen Muslim girls rejected by their inlaws because of their dark colour, called the N-word, and light-skinned Muslims treated like royalty. I've seen western women treated like war booty. I am very light skinned myself, and I'm given a pedestal in some communities. A very famous speaker whom I will not name brags about his temporary marriages with European women, saying that it was "the Sunna of Imam al-`Askari" (even though Narjis was probably not European). It's really hard to deny that this is a big problem.
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    Marbles reacted to starlight in A ShiaChat Reunion?   
    That's exactly what I was thinking. 
    Another entertaining turn would have been:
    Ali_Hussain(after reading Haji2003's post):  :mad: why are even you bringing up Digital Ummah and Tatbir in this? AND DO I APPEAR TO YOU LIKE SOMEONE WHO HAS SPENT FOUR YEARS IN HAWZA??????  :mad: :mad: 
    Haji2003 : WUTT , LOOOLZ 
    Digital ummah(stepping in): Did I hear someone say Tatbir? 
    But alas.........
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    Marbles reacted to DigitalUmmah in A ShiaChat Reunion?   
    @Ibn al-Hussain the mallangy brothers that I am in constant contact with, who are also former SCers, well. lets just say they probably wont be able to come back. mallang-ban-genocide and all that lol
     
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    Marbles reacted to notme in A ShiaChat Reunion?   
    @magma alright Donald, whatever you say.
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    Marbles reacted to Ali_Hussain in A ShiaChat Reunion?   
    That is part of the reason, however I believe that the forum died due to moderation issues, there were many, many occasion in which new members would come and ask a question only to have the thread locked and them to be told to just use the search engine. What did the mods think was going to happen? That kind of behaviour, first of all comes across as rude, and secondly doesn't allow the user to develop a taste for what this forum is supposed to be about.
    There are of course other issues, such as facebook being such a popular platform.
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