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  1. Dear 'Void Vortex' & 'Haji 2003', Thanks a lot for your response. It really means a lot. I have already downloaded the said app and asked the question to a few Alims. But they have replied to me saying that Ayatullah Sistani's ruling regarding the matter is 'so and so'. The problem is that I have not received a solid verdict from them on my particular situation with regards to Ayatullah Sistani's ruling. But I completely understand that through this app, the Ulama receive hundreds of questions each day which makes it difficult for them to read long questions like mine thoroughly and hence, they reply with the ruling of the marja expecting us to decide for ourselves. The purpose of posting this query here is to get views on whether or not my conclusion regarding the matter is correct. Please help. JazakAllah!
  2. Brothers & Sisters, I truly need your help. This is a jurisprudential query and I had written to my Marja's (Ayatullah Sistani's) office about 6 months ago but have not received a response yet. I shall describe my situation and then attach the ruling from Ayatullah Sistani on the topic below. Please go through it thoroughly and suggest what you think about the outcome. From my understanding, I have come to a conclusion but I keep getting doubts which are endlessly bothering me and affecting my daily life. My situation is as follows: I did Mutah with a girl who had recently got her Khula done. At the time of the mutah, both of us had a lack of knowledge about general Iddah rulings and thought that the purpose of the Iddah period is just to ensure that the girl is not pregnant. Therefore, we thought that the Iddah might not be applicable to her as she had been physically away from her husband since 4 months before the Khula and was getting her periods within this duration ascertaining that she is not pregnant. We were unsure about the applicability of the Mutah and did some further research, but could not find a definite answer. Therefore, without being completely sure about the applicability of the Iddah, we went ahead and did the Mutah Islamically. However, a couple of months later, without having gone to bed with each other yet (having sexual relations), we found out that marrying a girl in her waiting period knowingly makes the couple haraam for each other forever and hence, did a deep research to ensure that the Iddah was not applicable to her. However, upon doing further research, we found out that the waiting period is applicable from the day of the Khula regardless of the girl being physically away from the husband or not. Based on the ruling of Ayatullah Sistani, we immediately separated as we thought we had done it out of ignorance and did the Mutah again after her waiting period. Moreover, we had not gone to bed within this period. The ruling from Ayatullah Sistani's official website is as follows: Ruling 2419. If a man marries a woman who is observing the ʿiddah of her marriage to another man, in the event that both or one of them knew that her ʿiddah was not yet over and they knew that marrying a woman who is observing ʿiddah is unlawful, the woman becomes unlawful for him forever even if they did not have sexual intercourse after getting married. And if they were ignorant about what ʿiddah is or about it being unlawful to marry a woman who is observing ʿiddah, then the marriage contract is invalid. Furthermore, if they have had sexual intercourse, it is forever unlawful [for them to get married to each other]; otherwise, it is not unlawful and they can get married again once the ʿiddah is over. Depending on the above description and ruling, I have come to the conclusion that since we did not know that the Iddah is applicable on the girl from the day of the Khula regardless of her being physically away from the husband or not, we did not know that she was actually in the waiting period and hence, did the mutah out of ignorance. Therefore, we can get married after the Iddah period ends. However, I keep getting doubts about this conclusion and am seeking some validation from you as I have not received any response from my marja's office yet. I really love this girl and want to do Nikah with her but am afraid that due to these doubts, my relationship will fall apart. Please help me clear these doubts. Jazakallah o Khair!
  3. Salaams, Please excuse me for my childish question but the doubts regarding this are becoming very difficult for me to deal with. I need help in clarifying them. I want to understand the meaning of 'knowing' in Islam. My situation is as follows: I did Mutah with a girl who had recently got her Khula done. At the time of the mutah, both of us mistakenly thought that the Iddah might not be applicable to her as she had been physically away from her husband since 4 months and was getting her periods within this duration ascertaining that she is not pregnant. We were unsure about the applicability of the Mutah and hence, we did some further research, but could not find a definite answer and thought the the point of the waiting period is just to ensure that the girl is not pregnant. Therefore, without being completely sure about the applicability, we went ahead and did the Mutah. However, we found out about a couple of months later that the waiting period is applicable from the day of the Khula regardless of the girl being physically away from the husband or not. We immediately separated and did the Mutah again after her waiting period. Moreover, we had not gone to bed within this period. Now, I am in love with this girl and want to do Nikah with her but I constantly keep getting doubts that I might be with a girl who is haraam for me forever. Please clear this doubt for me as I love her and want to do Nikah with her but am afraid that the relationship will fall apart because of my doubts. The doubt I have is whether I 'knew' that she was in the waiting period or not. Please help me clear this out... JazakAllah o Khair!
  4. Salaams, I did Mutah with a Shia girl when we both (girl and I) were under the impression that the Iddah period of her Khula was not applicable to her. The reason for thinking this was that she had been away from her husband for 4 months before the Khula happened, within which she was getting her periods regularly ascertaining that she was not pregnant. After reading a few rulings online, we mistakenly came to the conclusion that the iddah period is not applicable to her because she is sure that she is not pregnant and that she had been away from the husband for 4 months. We had not consummated the Mutah (not had sexual relations) yet but were intimate with each other through hugging/kissing/touching which once led to seminal discharge while we both were dressed. Therefore, there was no sexual intercourse and the semen did not reach the vagine since both were dressed. Thereafter, without having sexual relations yet, we found out that the iddah is applicable regardless of her being away from her husband or not. Thereafter, we immediately sepearated and are now waiting for the Iddah period to end so that we can do Mutah again. I intend to eventually do Nikah with this girl but I am worried that since we did Mutah without knowing the applicability of the Iddah, we may be haraam for each other. Since this is a complicated jurisprudential issue, requesting you to kindly advise with authentic proofs. JazakAllah!
  5. Salaam Un Alaikum!When a young man intends to marry for the pleasure of Allah and to safeguard his religion, he sets out searching for his potential spouse with RasulAllah (saws)'s following hadith in mind: "Marry a girl based on Religion & Akhlaq". Meanwhile, he finds a girl who fulfills all the criteria of a good Muslim woman but happens to be a few years elder to him and has been divorced before.The cultural mindset of the community is such that women who have filed for a divorce (Khula) are looked down upon even if their husband was unjust towards them. Moreover, accepting a couple wherein the girl is elder to the guy, for cultural Shias, is very diificult. Due to this reason, the parents of the man have forbade him to marry this girl. The reason for the same is evident because they have refused to even meet the girl once, to find out more about her. They have rejected her on the basis of her being divorced and being elder than the guy. Moreover, they are not willing to understand that such a judgemental decision is not Islamic.The guy is trying to be a good Muslim and does not want to disobey his parents. On the other hand, it is clear that the parent's mentality in this case is not Islamic. Moreover, Imam Jafar As Sadiq (عليه السلام) was asked 'I want to marry a girl, but my parents want me to marry someone else", to this, Imam ((عليه السلام).) replied, "Marry the one you want, and leave the one your parents want." [Reference: Al Kafi] Therefore, if the guy goes ahead and marries this girl against the will of his cultural parents, will he be committing a sin pertaining to disobedience to parents?Awaiting a quick response. JazakAllah!
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