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Ain-Al Hayat

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  1. Sahifa Sajjadia Dua 40 when-death-remembered دُعَاؤُهُ إذا ذَكَرَ الْمَوْتِ Next Question: Which book are you reading?
  2. I've been through one so I'm aware how it goes My opinion is that Rape and sexual assault can occur at any time, in many places, to anyone. Staying silent is not going to help and saying it to every single person is going to make a joke out of you .... I choose the way in between... I broke the silence but only when it was necessary, and I don't regret God knows my intention, I believe in him, he won't let me suffer more...and I have nothing to fear or to hide or to justify myself to anyone, accept to my Allah Not every evil act is a plotting of Satan/ Dajjal ...you are provided by Aqal and you should have control on your nafs...you should be strong enough to not fall in satanic waswasa ... otherwise your Imaan is to weak...and that was the case of that "guy" She will be in my prayers, may Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) give her the strength to overcome these difficulties. Ameen Jazak'allah Khair for your positive response... I have recovered a lot but sometimes I get scared when I'm alone and sometimes I just eat without knowing that I have already had a lot which is quite depressing and because of the medication I just feel sleepy and tired. If I don't take medication for a while, I become nervous and mostly I'll end up trembling but with support of my family I'm recovering but I know it will take time maybe a lot of time. Wasalam
  3. إِنَّا لِلَّٰهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ May the Almighty Allah expand her grave and give her eternal peace. Allah is always merciful towards people who believe in him.‎ I am extremely sorry for your loss brother. May Allah reduce and forgive all her sins. May Allah grant her Jannat-ul-Firdaus, Ameen. Pray to Allah for her betterment.
  4. Wa alykum salam sister Actually to be honest I thought that by staying silent, my wounds will be healed. If I will say something my reputation will be demaged and what will people think. But why should I give people more importance then my own wellbeing. They don't care about if I live or die...so I don't have to hide the fact that I'm a victim. Even if I would have stayed silent ... the truth would have been revealed one day so people will talk so and so...now or then ...it doesn't matter for them they just need Gossip...if they don't have one they will make it by themselves What actually matter is my mental health and safety and the trust I've lost and to regain my self-esteem. According to Islam we should rais our voice against evil...and I tried my best...and now it's up to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) Now I can say I tried...that later I don't regret why I stayed silent No, your opinion doesn't hurt me anymore because you are not the only one with that opinion. Many people around me like my own Mother and Nani said me to stay silent... because of their mentality they were brought up And whatever you are raised with, that becomes your truth So I don't take these opinions offensive nor I can say you to change your perspective...all I want to say is that my heart is now at peace and I don't regret for taking any stand for myself:) Salam
  5. As salam alykum everyone Hope you guys spent RAMADAN Kareem in peace and happiness around your loved ones in these tough times. Jazak'allah Khair:) You are in my prayers too Some updates: I followed your advice and I wrote an email to my uni professor...he replied me back after a week and he was quite shocked, he insisted me to come meet him for a talk. And I said yes because by that I was mentally stronger and I had no hesitation or any shame to tell him what exactly happened. He arranged a meeting with the uni director and the "guy". The guy didn't know that it was a meeting about the incident, the professor told him that he wants to discuss some assignments with him. So the meeting was very embarrassing because as expected he denied the allegations, according to him it was a "misunderstanding". I gave them the proof of my post trauma treatment and the medications I have been taking to overcome all of this nonsense. The Uni- director actually wanted to believe me but he said the only thing he can do is to expel him from the uni (like he is doing me a favour) but then he added "but this won't change your situation, this will only demage our university's reputation" Seriously I remained speechless... I knew it that I'm wasting my time, so I left the meeting with no response.... I can't waist my precious time with ingnorants...in my heart I prayed to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى)...that you will do justice one day But when I arrived at home and I closed myself in my room... I couldn't hold my tears back...it was just like the tears won't stop...and why should they stop?... I'm not the first one who was ignored and silenced... I'm just another victim But the next week I received a message from the guy's sister and she wanted to meet me. I have nothing against her because she is quite decent and religious, I thought she just wants to have a random normal talk. So after lockdown we met and then she started to talk about the incident and I was confused... like how does she knows that...so basically the "guy" told her everything and he sent her sister for apologize to me on behalf of him...and I should let this in the past...and he won't do it "again" not to me and not to anyone else. I didn't say much because I have left this matter on Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) But I'm happy that I left that Uni ... because it doesn't deserve students like me Thank God my bestie came back my backbone ... I told her everything she encouraged me to talk to my parents... after some time I got the confidence to face my parents ...it was so emotional ...but I was quite surprised that they didn't overreact ...my dad was angry at the beginning...he was like forget studies and screamed at my mum get her married as soon as possible loool... typical paki mentality But with the time he understood and for the first time he showed affection towards me...he hugged me ... kissed my forehead...guys I don't know how to explain that because its beyond words First time I felt that he cares for me...for the first time I saw that there is always hope and indeed everything happens for a reason... Btw the "guy's family" is going through some financial crisis... I have heard they didn't cleared taxes so their shop is now closed for some time until they don't provide evidence...Please pray for them, may Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) show them the right way... ameen
  6. Lol actually when I opened my account and I noticed that there is no notifications of you since last month... I got worried But then I saw this post of yours Thanks for letting us know Hopefully you will be back soon Stay safe and happy:)
  7. (إنا لله وإنا إليه راجعون ) Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un "Surely we belong to Allah and to Him we shall return" May Allah Grant him the best place in Jannah and forgive his sins, May Allah give your family the patience during these difficult times.
  8. (daroon)درون means "inside(of)" inside of life = daroon e zindagi or "dar daakhl e zindagi" Life inside of= zindagi dar daakhl (زندگی در داخل) or " zindagi e daroon" So it depends on the sentences structure "outside of" = (beeroon az) بیرون از / (kharj az) خارج از Beeroon/kharj az zindagi = out/ outside of Life Or you can simply say "beeroon e zindagi"... I think without using prepositions (az, dar) I'm beginner so I don't know if that's 100% correct, that's only according to my knowledge
  9. Yes Of course... language is really important and the guy knows other languages as well so there is no problems for us to communicate... the main concern is his family back home...and it is difficult for me to understand them and I feel sometimes really bad...now that she has my number ( future mother in-law) she calls me and and keeps talking about something which I don't understand and when I don't say anything her tone becomes a bit louder slightly rude lol... I don't want to talk about her badly but that's the reality ... I don't know what to do:( And my mum is quite worried...it was already really hard for my parents to accept that proposal...and now they have to go through this as well... I feel really lost and don't know how to build a nice relationship with my in-laws
  10. Is that allowed because I wasn't aware of it...or according to any Ullamah/ Marja? That's my main concern... because I don't know their language that well and they don't know any other languages So would be great if I start learning their language...is this a good idea? I'm more worried about my future in-laws... because my future mother in-law seems pretty strict I hope what you say, turns to be true insha'Allah I'll be praying for your cousin's marriage Mashallah your parents must be really cooperative:)
  11. Salam un alykum everyone Hope you all are doing well. I have some questions regarding intercultural marriage and how can you interact during engagement period in an appropriate way, where are the limits regarding Islamic laws? What are some important things you should consider before marrying someone from different culture background? How do you overcome cultural differences/ language issues in marriage? Lately I'm hearing a lot of negative comments about intercultural marriage... like "it won't last long, because of some of some differences"..."you don't speak same language"...."you won't be accepted by the in-laws"..."you will be the outsider..." I'm quite worried so if someone can give me any helpful advice...or if someone has experience with intercultural marriage...that would be great Waslam
  12. Wish you have a blissful Ramadan. May the Rahmat of Almighty Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) shine upon you and your family always
  13. True And when they leave they take a part of your heart with them...and you have to learn to live uncompleted for your rest of life Just learn to live with that and let it go there is no point to hold on to past...it will just increase your suffering This pain will make you a stronger person indeed No you are not the only one...who is going through that feeling...but that happens to lot of people To love someone is not a sin...but on wrong time, wrong place yes that's a Problem...is this in our control? Honestly no and yes But I have learned to suffer in silence now, and I won't complain about it because it is useless to beg for someone's love when it's not meant to be and he is not written in your destiny So instead just pray to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) to ease your pain and believe me this will help ...he knows what's best for us and he is the one who will give you Sabr:)
  14. Salam Brother @Ehsan I really enjoyed listening to your first Episode...it made me think really deep thoughts...and now about to listen to the second and third episodes as well
  15. I fasted yesterday and today as well and insha'Allah tomorrow I'll be fasting too:) For Sahri I had Avocado Toast and Egg and chai and for Iftar I'll be making Lentil Dal with Hearty Greens.
  16. Children of Heaven (بچه‌های آسمان‎, Bačče-hâ-ye âsemân) ...I have watched this film countless times last week I watched this film but this time in Farsi and I cried a lot ...it just made me remember some good old childhood days and how happy I used to be What is your favourite childhood memory?
  17. That's the Problem with people like you you guys just want to spread negativity and nothing else... when the writer is clearly saying that she is not an expert in Islam and that's only her perspective about Hazrat Zainab SA then we shouldn't exaggerate the whole thing. Instead appreciating the organisation's good works and you are picking only one thing that doesn't matches your mentality. How do you expect from everyone to have the same respect for Syeda Zainab SA as you. Sorry ... I wish we could pay more respect to her... because after all what she did we couldn't even pay back 1% of her sacrifices... but everyone has their own opinions about that and we can't stop people from doing that okay not everyone has the marifa to understand Lady Zainab's status...and I totally agree with brother Abu Hadi We should encourage more non Muslims and I think the organisation did actually good by posting this article... because this is a great message to all people who think that Islam oppresses women...we should see this as a positive message and not as an insult We should encourage more people who are attracted and interested in Islam and not make them feel unwanted by making these type of statements like you are doing right now @Mohammad313Ali ....which is ridiculous
  18. So my username mean "Essence of Life" Last year I started to read this amazing book written by Mohammad-Baqer Majlesi which I'm still reading and it has really positive effect on my life that's why I dedicate my username to the book's title.
  19. Lol there would be so much too change but this is what you call history... that you can never change and you shouldn't repeat just learn from it. But of course there are some moments that I wish didn't take place in my life and I had the option to delete them.
  20. Salam Brother I'm not married but here is my opinion. People can have positive or negative changes in them. No one can be changed overnight...it takes time. So basically if you are noticing a change in your partner maybe you should figure out where He/she is spending their most time with... what's their activities nowadays...are you giving them enough attention... maybe a talk wouldn't be that bad but if you stay humble and deal this matter with a lot of patience. I personally think your opinions are always in change...my opinion about Islam has changed with time... I used to be bold but after I learned more about Islam I started to apply those rules on my life... that's an example...but not everyone's brain works the same way. Many people around me felt that change in me but they were quite tolerating and supportive. Now it depends how you see that, a positive change can be negative for you and vise versa. My definition...as long as the change is in the boundaries of Islam it's fine and if you are not okay with it...then the Problem is in you. Reading these kinds of threads scares me to never get married lol
  21. At the moment Iran is not accepting any hawzah applications because of the pandemic about Iraq I don't know...use this time for online pre-hawzah studies or any Farsi or Arabic language courses. The application process to any hawzah can take up to 4-6 months until you get a Visa and the paperwork is done. So it depends where you are standing in your life at this point and are you 100% sure about it...is this what you really want, because it's not an easy way. https://youtu.be/Pev-7Nj31pE
  22. I love eating alone too, not because I have any kind of mental disorder ... it's just that I don't want people to look at me while I'm eating so I avoid eating with everyone unless it's an important family get-together...now on special occasions I have to compromise otherwise I usually eat alone. I don't think that I'll be cursed for doing that because I'm not hurting anyone's feelings or I'm being rude... staying in your comfort zone isn't a sin. I have never heard of that hadis but I'm glad to know now in which sense it was said.
  23. No... homemade PAKIstani food
  24. Well today I had my favourite "chapli kebab" with naan and "Alu channa chaat" I know a lot of calories... since I'm back home, I'm only having paki food but now I'm about to do some to get rid of my guilty feelings
  25. Congratulations to Imam-e-Zamana (ajf) and to the Shi'an-e-Haidar-e-Karrar and to everyone that has the love of Maula Ali AS within their hearts, May Allah grant us his ziyarah in this life and his shifa in the next, Ameen.

    :NH:Ya Ali!

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