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In the Name of God بسم الله


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  1. I want/feel to swear a lot. In short words, The hyenas/wild dogs also known as Taliban are basically not only oppressing people but also committing genocide. <<Despite Muslim population being 1 Billion, don't be surprised if some or few millions of these Muslims will not hesitate to kill the Prophet Mohammad ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)). Its even people (number of Muslims) more when its comes to Killing Prophet Mohammad Family and the Imams ((عليه السلام)) Because Prophet and Imams will not approve of many things are Muslims are doing, sadly the list is too much to name these things>>.This is how I feel.
  2. I saw that thread which was longer than I expected so I thought I may get short responses.
  3. Salam. I am sorry that you haven't received any replies I think its the effect of depression, loneliness, overthinking etc and moreover you wanting to get closer to God. Shaytan focuses on those wanting to get closer to God and having issues in life and struggling, makes it easier for his whispers to be effective. His whispers is will sound like our voice which makes it easier to get sinful thoughts. I think our struggle will continue but we remember to get up whenever we fall. ----------------------------- Solutions are easier said then done. Anyways you have to do your best, you gotta keep fighting. Do not give on God Mercy. Pray to God to protect you from whispers of Shaytan. Try and find solutions to some of your difficulties.
  4. What were the goals? Did they or are they going to achieve it? Was it worth it? I think it was a dumb a move Did it make world more dangerous place than its already is? The middle eastern refugees will now suffer more because Ukrainian will become main preferences for country that hold refugees?
  5. MashAllah and God Bless you for the great effort you're doing to become a muslim, a better human being and most importantly you're doing it to get Closer to Allah. Just Curious, is your husband also doing his best to convince his family to stop with their judgments and to start welcoming you to be part of the family
  6. If supporting Taliban was not enough, now they're going for straight/direct attacks, Shame on the government of Pakistan
  7. I come across some ayats where Sujood are required. I try to memorise those ayats in my head without reading them so I recite them when I am in sujood. What person must do if they're struggling to do memorise in short time, can they skip it? or what is the law regarding this. Thank you
  8. I hope she is safe and well. I hope they found her safe and well. I pray to God to look after her and her family, also I pray for those that have gone or going through this experiences
  9. I apologise, I should've said - treatment by some Iranian citizens - Instead of the whole country. Anyways I didn't mean to offend anyone and I did not expect this to turn out this way. Again I apologise. Everybody lets move on from this topic, we have important nights coming so yeah.
  10. I've heard about not allowing Muslims girls with hijab to attend schools. It's disturbing that leaders of many Muslims countries are silent when oppression takes against Muslims. :'(
  11. If any moderators is here, please closed this topic. Let's focus on Ramadan, we're going close to Qadr Nights and Martyrdom of Imam Ali ((عليه السلام)). Cheers, we should remain united despite our different views.
  12. Another question you need an answer is When it comes to raising kids, is she ok for the kids to be raised or follow the Shia path? Talk to your parents about and see what they think. Where did you both meet each other? at work or uni etc. So then she talk to her parents about where you met e.g. uni, work. is interested in coming for proposal for with his family, what do you say. God willing everything goes well and you two find happiness.
  13. Before you take any steps, ask her to get her family views of Shia and if they would allow person from shia to marry a sunni. Perhaps ask her to bring it as a general conversations with her parents. See what their views then consider the next step, carefully.
  14. I do agree with you, men these days can't maintain two happy families without any injustice being done. I think the cost of living has gone up so it would be very hard to maintain to two families happy. Some men, get the wrong the idea about having multiple wives, they think it's cool or put wrong ideas in their heads. Why do some men, like to have to another wife? if the intent to help a woman he knows, he can asks her wife to do the provide the help rather then him getting involved directly. Having a second wife without the approval or permission of the first wife, its injustice because you won't able to keep the first wife happy. This results in secret marriages, which may be legally allowed in Islam - I don' think secrets marriages is allowed but someone correct me if I am wrong I believe the purpose of multiple wives is during wars, poverty, women with no one to look after her or as you said those women that can't find spouse. Or Perhaps I am wrong in the everything I said.
  15. I don't know whether any of yous seen the videos or heard stories of how some Afghani are treated in Iran. Is there a justifications for these treatments? I understand there is too many refugees going to Iran and Iran might be struggling and the sanctions don't help but surely they can treat them more humanly. Perhaps giving them a longer short term temporary visa. Look I understand, Iranian have their struggles and the economical struggles e.g. fear of afghan taking jobs from them, or money being spent on the refugees instead of their own. If Anyone Iranian offended by my view, I apologises but It hurts seeing they way some of them are being treated and at the same I understand Iran has its own issues too as I mentioned above.
  16. The areas of concerns are: What are her parents thoughts/views of Shia? Will your children grow up following Shia or Sunni path? are both of you agreed on the path or will you leave it for later? What are your parents thoughts on this, proposal? Do the families get a long well?
  17. I am sorry to hear that you had to go through such difficulties. I just found this part to be a bit confusing for me. Have you broken up with him? You're not pregnant are you?
  18. I don't mean to be disrespectful to any judges or those working on the shows. The idea of copying a music tv show into Islamic/religious show, doesn't look good (well to me, it doesn't look good). I think some "muslims" may mock us for this. Perhaps if they named it something else and had a different appearance, then that's something different but still . I haven't and will not watch it because It will remind me of the Voice the music tv shows which I already dislike. I can give you a thousands reasons why I hate shows like that.
  19. I agree with everything you said. I wish if parents/adults would consult with us before going in and making the decision. I decided to end it, I explained to cousin, that my father went to quick in this matter, she agreed, she said he is the one who went to fast and he is the one must fix it. Long story short, I told my father about it. I had to end it because I was not interested and one sided relationship does not work (one sided I mean, one has feeling and another does not have the same feelings). You're right, I do feel guilty and will always do
  20. Unfortunately and with no disrespect whatsoever, I did not find her attractive to me, perhaps being in situation that I did not expect, made it more difficult to accept. After days of confusions and discussion with my family. I decided not to pursue this potential engagement. My father spoke with her father. This situation was avoidable, had my father did not continuing and insisting. I will always feel guilty about it, however i think its the wise decision for both us. May God Forgive my dad for putting me in such situation, His intention was well but its mistake he made.
  21. I agree and one more thing, Even if they agree on everything, there has to be genuine feelings for each other. It cannot be one sided. I agree. Its a blessing in disguise, saved your from troubles that would've likely to occur in your life. Getting your heart broken, it hurts. Chin up brother. Turn to God, it takes time for you and the heart to heal. Be patient. Have faith in God.
  22. I think clear you head of other things that are bothering. Trying to read a lot and to understand in one go, will make it difficult and make you frustrated So choose a time and day. It depends on the size of the Surahs, if long surah, choose 30 - 50 verses, read them and read their translation and meaning. Have a break. It is Shaytan whispers is attacking you and other frustrations in your head that causing you to think like this. Clear You heard, don't over stress, have a break after 30 mins or whatever you prefer.
  23. Thanks for all your replies, advices and well wishes. My father choose this family and continued with it. He did not ask me if I want to get married now or what kind of girl do I want?. So whenever I think or talk to this girl, I end up thinking about why my father did not consult. There is no guarantee that someone may eventually develop feelings for the other because what if that does not happen. If I said no to my father, he would've blamed my mom, if my brothers said we don't think its right, my dad would've said they are jealous. Now that he sees that I don't talk to her that much or msg her that often, he start to thinking that he a made a mistake because he doesn't see the happiness or excitement in me. Now my family are saying don't do it if you don't feel comfortable /don't have any desire to be with her. Its hard for me because my father went too quick without consulting with me and now her and her family may get hurt if I break it off because it was us (my father) that insisted on this arrangement. Plus they are a close relative to my dad so its make it even harder. If we were not connected by anything, it would've been may be a bit easier I have nothing against the family and I have no issue with her but the feelings is not there. I just don't feel anything, nothing is there. I will keep you guys updated to see where this goes. I hope no body ends up in this situations, dear brothers, sisters and parents consult with your sons and daughters before going to quick.
  24. Arrrghh I feel confused and not sure what to do. My family telling me if not sure or don't have feeling for her, its ok to say to no. Its a life time decision Ladies, how do you feel, if your potential spouse, decide to break it off because he does not feel attracted or does not have feelings for you. I ended up in this situation because my father was persistent with going to this family which I have no issue with but don't have feelings for her. My father went quick, did not ask me what kind of girl do I want or whether I am ready for marriage.
  25. Hi The family girl are good and she is good girl that fulfil her religious obligation. But when we talk, its like she doesn't have much to say, I have to make up topics to talk. She is the one who has to come to Australia to live. or perhaps she is waiting for us to get Mohram Yeah BUT. the purpose of talk now is to determine whether we are suited or not, so it doesn't get to the stage of getting engaged and finding out our differences. We chat once a week or talk once a week, as she wants it that way until we get mohram. Right ok no problem but she should try messaging first for once, she should have some topics to talk about so the talk/chat last longer. I just don't feel attracted, I don't think I have feelings for her. I don't feel right to break it off because it will make her feel bad and that would make me feel bad. We'll be going to Iran for 5 weeks in May so time is an issue need to find if she is not the one, we can look for some one else.
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