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  1. Differs from individual to individual, couple to couple. 1. Many people say that they are in love, when in fact its just infatuation. 2. One of the roots of infatuation is the thrill of meeting someone by hiding from family and known people. But when you actually live with this person, he/she will seem to you as a completely different person. 3. You may think you know that person completely, when in reality, some of their habits, you may not be aware of. 4. Being in love and doing things for each other may seem lovely, but the couple is supposed to be "ready" for marriage. 5. Some love marriages fall out because the couple isn't ready to take up the responsibilities. 6. Love Marriages require a lot of patience to work things out slowly and properly. 5. Sometimes the excitement of starting a family can become a reason for marriage to fall apart. Though this is rare. 6. I read somewhere that Imam Ali said there's a difference between like and love, though the person may think they are in love. And one of the major signs of love is that, you never have to 'order' your wife for anything. She doesn't have to listen to you, because if you're really in love, whatever she does, should be enough for you. (I do not know the source for this, neither have I phrased this properly, but this is basically a part of what the narration tried to explain. The narration could be false, I'm not sure.) 7. Family acceptance. Etc.
  2. Yes. Possible. Maybe he didn't pass his test. Maybe that's why God put another test/hardship to help him grow. But again, it wouldn't be anything he can't bear. And that's God's promise isn't it?
  3. We also say that Allah is All-knowing. And taking your own example, Allah wouldn't have taken the kid's parents away from him/her, if He didn't know that the relatives would steal the inheritance from the kid. Basically what I'm trying to say is, Allah knew that in the near future the kid's relatives will steal the inheritance and hence Allah placed a divine testing system to, maybe test the kid with poverty and orphanage. We may not know the real reason, because us as humans, have a limited mental capacity right? So it's safe to say that this kid, had to be tested, or had to go through these hardships so that it would give him an opportunity to reach his real potential or to do what Allah expected from the kid. Whether the kid succeeds or not, is a different topic.
  4. I do think intention matters. Intentions are solely the base of our words and actions. We most of the time may not even realize that we had certain intention to do or say something, but everything till the end result of our actions and words depends on our intention in the beginning, right?
  5. Assalamualaikum, I went through the EXACT SAME phase. It went up to a point where I started questioning God's existence itself. But, alhumdulillah, I overcame it. To answer this, common sense helped me. When I did some research into our Shia Islam, you'll see HUMANITY in it. Basically, everything whatever Islam asks us or recommends us to do, is for our own benefit. It is for us to grow. It is for us to become the perfect human. The morals and traits that the Ahlulbayt have displayed, and the morals that they ask us to follow are the best ones that one can find. It's really amazing and you'll know about it when you actually look into the religion itself. We have a hadith in our books (I do not remember the source, and if anyone knows, please do mention it) that says, "If at any point in time, the world is without a proof of Allah, the earth will collapse." It cannot be without the proof of Allah. And these proof's, inherit the knowledge of the prophets and the Quran and preserves the message and guides mankind. And these proof's are the Imam's from the Ahlulbayt. For this one, I'll recommend this video - As for this one, I'll recommend this video - . The video's above, I hope have beautifully explained it. And I really hope it answers your questions. Wassalamualaikum Wa Rahmatullah
  6. Assalamualaikum, There's a hadith from Imam Al-Kadhim (عليه السلام) from Tuhaf Al Uqool, pg 409 : "Strive to divide your day into 4. For God, For Livelihood, For your loved ones, For You." According to this, try to make a schedule that you are comfortable with and can easily stick to. This way you'll have enough time allotted to each activity/goal that you want to achieve on a daily basis. Also, Allamah Tabatabai in the book "Light Within Me" says to be moderate in your spirituality/performance in your early stages of faith. This is because consistency is more important. If you force yourself and be too too hard on yourself, you may lose or may diviate from the right path. So it's completely OK to take things in a calm manner. Not to rush. Take enough rest and meditate too. Meditation helps you be more calm and mindful and will help you be able to do dhikr most of the time.
  7. Assalamualaikum, I have dealt with this issue earlier too and alhumdulillah I overcame it. To me personally, it was the intention and perspective that mattered. I realised that I had no schedule or routine to follow everyday and hence was constantly worried about a lot of things. Ended up dreaming about some of them as well. I came across a few videos of Ali Reza Panahian where he says how religion is a program for a better life. It made a lot of sense to me. His videos changed my perspective and outlook on life. There's also a hadith from Imam Al-Kadhim (عليه السلام) from Tuhaf Al Uqool, pg 409 : "Strive to divide your day into 4. For God, For Livelihood, For your loved ones, For You." And so I made a schedule for myself, and I try my best to stick to it. Though I mess up a little sometimes due to my laziness, but it worked for me. I'd recommend trying something like this.
  8. Assalamualaikum, I've felt this way too. But again, as far as I'm aware (please do correct me if I'm wrong) the tragedies did not take place on the same year. Yes, the eids are close to the tragedies, but I always take up those days 'individually'. For example, on Eid-e-Ghadeer, I'm solely focused on the wilayah of Imam Ali. And that is enough to bring me joy and happiness. Mainly because I'm celebrating the "wilayah of Imam Ali" and not the day itself. Once the day comes close to its end, I divert my focus back to the tragedy of Karbala.
  9. Waalaikumasslam, It's a really good thing that you want to cling to the hijab, regardless of what your mother says. When does she ask you to remove it? If you're at home, around family members, then it is not necessary to wear the hijab all the time, though it is recommended. Don't judge her. Leave that to Allah. I have read somewhere that it is right to disobey someone who takes you away from Allah.
  10. Waalaikumassalam, For a beginner, I'd highly recommend "Light Within Me" (by Ayatullah Murtadha Mutahhari, Allamah Hussain Tabatabai, Ayatullah Khomeini) I have linked the book down below - https://www.al-islam.org/https%3A//www.al-islam.org/light-within-me-mutahhari-tabatabai-khomeini This will not only show you how to perfect your character, but it will also help you get a better understanding of divinity and will help you get closer to Allah.
  11. Assalamualaikum, Timeless replies from the ahlalbayt (عليه السلام): Somebody requested Imam Ali to advise him how to lead a useful and sober life. Imam Ali thereupon advised him this: "Do not be among those people who want to gain good returns without working hard for them, who have long hopes and keep on postponing repentance and penance, who talk like pious persons but run after vicious pleasures. Do not be among those who are not satisfied if they get more in life and are not content if their lot in life's pleasures is less (they are never satisfied), who never thank Allah for what they get and keep on constantly demanding increase in what is left with them; who advise others to such good deeds that they themselves refrain from; who appreciate good people but do not follow their ways of life; who hate bad and vicious people but follow their ways of life; who, on account of their excessive sins hate death but do not give up the sinful ways of life; who, if fallen ill, repent their ways of life and on regaining their health fearlessly readopt the same frivolous ways; who get despondent and lose all hopes, but on gaining health, become arrogant and careless; who, if faced with misfortunes, dangers or afflictions, turn to Allah and keep on beseeching Him for relief and when relieved or favored with comfort and ease they are deceived by the comfortable conditions they found themselves in and forget Allah and forsake prayers; whose minds are allured by day dreams and forlorn hopes and who abhor to face realities of life; who fear for others the enormous repercussions of vices and sins but for their own deeds expect very high rewards or very light disciplinary actions. Riches make such people arrogant, rebellious and wicked, and poverty makes them despondent and lethargic. If they have to work, they work lazily and if they put up a demand they do it stubbornly. Under the influence of inordinate cravings, they commit sins in quick succession and keep on postponing repentance. Calamities and adversities make them give up the distinguished characteristics of Muslims (patience, hope in future and work for improvement of circumstances). They advise people with narration's of events and facts but do not take any lesson from them. They are good at preaching but bad at practice, therefore they always talk of lofty deeds but their actions belie their words. They are keen to acquire temporal pleasures but are careless and slow to achieve permanent (Divine) benefits. They think good for themselves the things which are actually injurious to them and regard harmful the things which really benefit them. They are afraid of death but waste their time and do not resort to good deeds before death overtakes them. The vices which they regard as enormous sins for others, they consider as minor shortcomings for themselves. Similarly, they attach great importance to their obedience to the orders of Allah and belittle similar actions in others. Therefore, they often criticize others and speak very highly of their own deeds. They are happy to spend their time in society of rich persons, wasting it in luxuries and vices but are averse to employing for useful purposes in company of the poor and pious people: They are quick and free to pass verdicts against others but they never pass a verdict against their own vicious deeds. They force others to obey them but they never obey Allah. They collect their dues carefully but never pay the dues they owe. They are not afraid of Allah but fear powerful men".
  12. Assalamualaikum, I do believe its because of moving "backwards" in religion, misunderstanding the status of women, men/fathers/brothers letting jealousy and possessiveness get in the way, lust etc. Men ourselves indulge in such activities. Some do it with the right intention, others do it for time-pass or just to play around. Some men play around with the woman's feelings while she stays hopeful of having a life with them, in such cases, the man takes advantage and proceeds with playing with her until she is completely exhausted of her feelings resulting her being completely unsatisfied emotionally. Sarcasm also plays a minor role here. Sometimes when the woman opens up and talks to a person, they end up making "fun" of the woman's feeling "sarcastically" , resulting with her never opening up with anyone again, which concludes to her being unsatisfied emotionally yet again and felling heavy and empty inside, constantly looking for attention and someone to love them for who they are. Even little things, such as looking at woman with a grim face (unintentionally) can result in them feeling insecure and judged. True. It also ends up with them judging and categorizing each and everyone coming to their life. They get insecure easily because of their past and mostly end up pushing away even the good ones. TRUUEEEEE!!! PEOPLE NEED TO REALIZE THIS. I don't really believe in "love at first sight". How can you love someone without even knowing them? It feels like the person only falls for their looks and NOT their character (which is of utmost importance)
  13. Assalamualaikum, This is very true. I have noticed such behavior in myself. I think suppressing emotions doesn't just end up with men lashing out, but it also results in constant irritated moods, confusion when it comes to certain decisions because the person is unaware of how they feel (because they start to get mixed feelings about due to the bottling up of their emotions), inability to express love and care, unintentionally hurting others (because you fail to acknowledge your own feelings so how can you acknowledge others?) and so on. I feel like there are so many barriers that will prevent men from living a stress-free and a happy life if they stop expressing how they feel. This is again very true. The more you talk about it, The better perspectives you get. But i think most people do not do it because, again, they are scared that someone might misuse the "personal" things one might have told them. Which is also fair since this happens too often (gossip).
  14. Salam All Shia Marjas accepted them as Shias like as Alawis & their Namaz is near to 12er Shias but their wudu is like as Sunnis also they visit holy sites of Imam Ali (عليه السلام) & Imam Hussain (عليه السلام) in Iraq that grand ayatollah Sistani accepted them as other Shias that can visit & do pilgrimage also they attend in Arbaeen walking & pilgrimage also they celebrate Eid of Ghadir & repair or install Darih over graves of Shia Imams also 12er can have marriage with them but we can't have marriage with Aghakhani Ismailis that call themselves as Shias but don't follow any Shia rules & believe to reincarnation of ismael (رضي الله عنه) as seventh Imam in form of their current Imam Aga khan IV but still we count them as Muslims. http://fa.wikishia.net/view/بهره http://en.wikishia.net/view/Darih https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aga_Khan_IV https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nizari The Most Important Beliefs of Bohras 5-Current generation of Shiites has descended from Imam Ali ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)) who is of highest sanctity and respect second only to Prophet ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)).6-After Imam Ali ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)) who is of higher status than Imams and is called "Asas" [foundation], other Imams of Bohra are as follow: Imam Hassan ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)), Imam Hussein ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)), Imam Zayn al-Abedin ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)), Imam Muhammad Baqer ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)), Imam Ja”far Sadiq ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)), Ismail, Muhammad bin Ismail, Abdullah, Ahmad, Hussein (Mastoor), Mahdi Obaydollah, al-Qaem bi Amrillah, al-Mansoor Billah, al-Mo’ezz le Dinellah, al-Aziz Billah, al-Hakim bi Amrillah, al-Zaher le E’zaz Dinellah, al-Mostansar Billah, al-Mosta’la Billah, al-Amer bi Ahkamillah and Abol Qasem at-Tayyib.Bohras accept Fatemi caliphs up to al-Amer bi Ahkamillah as Imam. However, they do not accept four succeeding caliphs namely al-Hafez le Dinellah, az-Zafer bi Amrellah, al-Fa’ez Billah and al-‘Azed le Dinellah as Imams. According to Bohras, their 21st Imam, Tayyib, has disappeared. 13-From 21st Imam on, Imams” representatives, who are called absolute da”ee [caller], have been appointed by Imams as leaders and guides for Islamic ummah.
  15. Assalamualaikum, Here's the link for the full movie. The full movie is dubbed in Arabic. I couldn't find English subtitles, but if anyone has them or knows where to download it, kindly share the link below. http://www.mediafire.com/file/m1ai4ygff181id3/Hussein_Who_Said_No.mp4/file Wa-assalamualaikum Wa Rahmatullah
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