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  1. Super Mario 64. Watching a middle-aged fat guy running and jumping around will motivate you to get off your tail and move.
  2. Puberty can be accelerated/decelerated depending on environmental factors. I overexaggerated when I said 20, but they definitely would have looked 16. We've all seen someone like that who just developed faster.
  3. Do you believe in Allah's Forgiveness and Mercy? Or no? I could rob 10 banks and He would still forgive me. There's a story of a man who was forgiven even though he raped a dead body, there's a man who was forgiven even though he killed 100 men, Hurr was an enemy of the Imams and the Prophets s.a and he was still forgiven at the last hour of his life.
  4. If you saw an 11 year old girl from that period in time, you would think she was 20. And they didn't have school back then, so what was the difference between a 14 year old and a 22 year old? If an 11 year old marries now, she would be missing out on something great. Back then what was she missing out on, middle school? There was nothing to do except survive. Islam has been attacked from all angles from day one, but never was this a point that our enemies argued against until very recently. Because people back then had the sense to know that different times have different necessities. Not to mention, literally every county and society in the past was like this, they all married young. But humanity didn't collapse, they thrived and prospered and set the foundation for modern society to emerge. Let's see what we've set the foundation for to emerge. All that said though, she was not 9, she was 19.
  5. Salamu Alaikum. Anyone from the Ahlul-Bayt or a religious figure that you really admire. They would have a special connection with them.
  6. Salamu Alaikum. This is something that I'm passionate about. I am aware that for some people, the main barrier is money, they cannot afford to get married. Is there a charity we can donate to so we can help such people out? I'm sure in 3rd world countries there are people who can get married for only a couple hundred dollars. If you can, direct me to such cases.
  7. Salam, before the marriage both fiances are allowed to set the conditions of the marriage and make up their own terms as long as they're not haram or unreasonable. A lot of men ask their fiance to do housework, because interestingly enough, women are not Islamically obligated to do any cooking or cleaning. From this, the woman then has the right to set a condition that if he is to marry her, she is to be his only wife. If the man breaks this he would be committing a sin and Allah will punish him in this world and the next.
  8. There is a documentary just about this. Interestingly, one of them became a sheikh, and a good one at that!! He is Sheikh Mateen Charbonneau https://ahlulbayt.co.uk/ondemand/episode/j139f1pc/Faith_Behind_Bars_Shia_Islam_In_American_Prisons/
  9. I wish people understood that things in Islam are not like that for no reason, everything is there for a reason, and a good one at that. For the Hijab, you could have a 5 volume book explaining why it's a good idea. But the question in people's mind is "Why shouldn't I take it off?" Instead of "Why should I wear it?" Why and Why Not are two very different questions.
  10. That's true, we shouldn't turn down people who have made mistakes in the past and have honestly bettered themselves and put their sins behind them, but it's the lying part that's serious. In this case it's especially annoying, because that was something important to them and the spouse lied about it. Though I do feel for them, they overcame their past and now if they didn't lie they could have missed out on a spouse. Actually I take that back, Allah gives people their rights, and he wouldn't make them have to lie to get anything positive. They should have told the truth in a clever way that hides their sin and isn't a lie. Say someone wants to see my brother and asks me if he's home, and my brother doesn't want to see him. I would turn my head and face the wall, and say "I don't see him," to get the annoying person off their back. They would have to think carefully about how to answer such a heavy question, and then NEVER TALK ABOUT IT OR CONFESS IT UNTIL DEATH.
  11. I would strongly advice against getting a tattoo AT LEAST BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED. This would turn away a lot of pious women and if not them, their parents. Get married first, then once she knows you're a decent guy, discuss this with her. It's like the deal with my parents. My mom was rejecting offers for her hand because they were from abroad or planned on moving abroad. It was only after my dad married her that he suggested the idea and she agreed because she trusted him. If he came in guns blazing with "I'm gonna take you to America!" I would not be here today.
  12. Here's something I just realized: Psychologically, it feels better to count down than up. 4 left sounds better than 4 more. So if you have a big number, count down to 0 instead of up to 100.
  13. I think the only thing that would break your wudhu just from touch is if you touch a cold dead body. I hope someone corrects me if I'm wrong.
  14. Brother that is the Shaitain speaking. Does that make any sense? How can the doors of Allah close in your face like that? Wallah to think like this is the true shame.
  15. Salam Brother. It's good to see that you are sensitive to mistakes, but we should have a can-fix-it attitude, we shouldn't wallow in our misery for months. Removing a tattoo is difficult and expensive, it may be difficult to do soon. But, you could go and draw over it, I think they call this a "cover up." Brother the solutions to our problems are never far, go and fix this problem.
  16. Salamu 3alaykum, Let's say you have to travel 10 miles on foot, how would you approach this? Would you sprint as hard and as fast as you could to the finish line? Of course not, you would burn out and quit before you make it 100 yards. What is more logical? To walk. Slowly, steadily. We humans are not the fastest land-creature, but we are able to hunt down every animal because we were built for STEADY endurance. When I would do these prayers I used to blitz through them. I'd say recite as fast as I can, I'd get up and down at lightning speed, I'd complete an entire day's worth of salah in 10 minutes. But I could not maintain this, I would burn out and get tired. I'd do a day or two (max), then quit for a week. Now I do them steadily and calmly. I treat it like working out: I do something light, then rest between sets. If I get 2 prayers in 2 hours, I consider that a success. I now think of it as a marathon, not a race. You also have the option of doing your prayers separately. You could do all your fajirs in a row. However, you can only do asr AFTER dhuhr, and you must do isha AFTER maghreb. So you couldn't make up all your asrs and say "great I got those done!" I printed a calendar of the period I've missed and when I do the fajir I put a slash, when I do the dhuhr/asr set I put another slash giving me an "X", then when I do the maghreb/isha prayers I put a line through the "X." I hope some of this was useful, and I would appreciate advice you've found on making up missed prayers.
  17. There is an event that is relevant to this. Imam Ali s.a was once on the verge of becoming the 3rd Caliph. The rough idea of the story is that he was selected to be the next caliph, but he just had to do one thing: Say he will lead by the Quran, The Prophet s.a, and the first 2 caliphs. Imam Ali s.a said he will follow the Quran and the Prophet, but not the first 2 caliphs. And thus, he lost his opportunity to be the 3rd caliph and Uthman was chosen over him. From this we know that in Islam, the ends do not justify the means. And what end at that time was more important than Imam Ali s.a becoming the caliph? He could have easily told a little lie and then go back on his word, who was going to stop him? Be he refused to employ sin to achieve good. If this is an important issue for you and you wish to dedicate yourself to fighting this injustice, then there are other ways to fight drugs.
  18. Good for you, brother! When we're only enslaved by God, we feel free. His shackles are a mile wide and lighter than a feather, the range that we are free to roam is the entire universe, and when He wishes to provide for us, He will give us more than everything and anything we want. There is nothing we can do for Him, He doesn't want anything from us except to be successful. I know what you're talking about, when I make the deliberate decision to sin less and get closer to God, He provides me insights into that sin which make them repulsive to me. These aren't arbitrary rules that He made up to restrain us, they are wisdoms that are meant to free us from bad situations and encourage good ones. To realize how this works for each sin that you leave and each good that you take on is a GOOD SIGN. I hope you get closer and closer to God, thanks for sharing your encouraging experience!
  19. Salam, brother why not take this as an invitation from Allah to cut down on the consumption of these processed foods? Sometimes when He closes a door in front of you, it's to lead you to another better one.
  20. My thoughts are that you are correct. But I fear that people will now argue with you because of the aggressive and instigative tone used. It puts people on "defense mode." Nobody likes being told what to do/think, especially when they're being told to stop doing something wrong. A more effective way of persuading people is as a suggestion, or a kind share of an insight, or just putting your thoughts on the table. A present is a nice thing, but what if you gave it to them by beaming it at their face? Suddenly they won't be so pleased. You just put on us the sin of demonizing POC and glorifying white converts, now you've gotten all the people who don't do that (a lot) mad. They will either deny it, or say the issue is not as bad as you propose. I see that you have many ideas and insights to share, but you often find yourself in arguments. It is not because of what you say, but how you're saying it.
  21. That is true. If you seek knowledge, Allah will send it to you whether you ask it from Him or not. I don't think I've ever seen anyone consumed by a question that did not get their answer, though sometimes they won't accept the answer. You've already seen it many times, in Youtube comments where people say "I was just thinking I wanted to know about this and this randomly pops in my feed/was recommended to me."
  22. Of course, but if anyone was not on Shiachat when they were alive, they can't come.
  23. The real Shiachat reunion will be in Jannah. Be there or be square.
  24. You could be a tutor. You could learn algebra 1&2 at a deep level in not much time, then you could apply at a local institute or go to some online website that takes on tutors (there are many). You won't have to deal with pork and alcohol, you won't have to support a corrupt industry, and you will actually be benefitting and helping people. I would suggest this job for anyone looking for a part-time thing but can't figure out what to do. If you don't want to deal with adults then you could teach children, and if you are shy then some websites allow you to teach through text. I hope this was of some help. I also was beside myself thinking about what I could do when it seemed like every job was stupid, but alhamduliLah I realized that you can do this and it would be a job that is pleasing to Allah because you are helping and teaching people.
  25. Salamu 3alaykum. A big problem that I have is that I keep putting unnecessary burdens on myself. Sometimes I'll have a bad plan and commit to it, justifying it saying "I'm halfway up the mountain, I may as well finish it." But I was not going up a mountain, I was sinking deeper into an abyss. The next level is when I had a good plan, but I approached it in a foolish manner. How? I would do things that I did not have to. I wasted nearly 2 years developing a very difficult skill, to little success, when I could have simply hired someone to do it for my and focused on the more important things. It was like I wanted to open a restaurant, so instead of improving my cooking and restaurant management skills, I go and get a degree in law and accounting to deal with legal and tax matters, a degree in architecture to design the building, 5 years experience in construction to build the restaurant, etc. Please don't make the same mistake as me, when it comes to achieving your goals and plans, think deeply about if you are putting a burden on yourself that you don't have to. Think about all that you need to do in your plan, is there anything that you could get someone else to do so you can be freed to focus on the main things? Are there alternatives solutions you can consider? Take Khomeini (رضي الله عنه) for example. He accomplished, with the aid of Allah, something very great. But keep in mind that he didn't do everything himself, he very wisely got help from experts. He wasn't an architect, or a doctor, or a military man, or a scientist, or an engineer. He was a sheikh and a revolutionary. So he focused on what he can do, and when he needed skills that he didn't have, he got help from someone who did. Please make sure you are not placing unnecessary burdens on yourself. Take a kheera of if it's good to leave X. It's advice that's not relevant to a lot of you, but I sure wish I had this advice in the past so I'm sharing it with you.
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