Jump to content
Guests can now reply in ALL forum topics (No registration required!) ×
Guests can now reply in ALL forum topics (No registration required!)
In the Name of God بسم الله


Basic Members
  • Content Count

  • Joined

  • Last visited

Profile Information

  • Religion

Previous Fields

  • Gender

Recent Profile Visitors

39 profile views
  1. and we need to show them that Shia Islam is radically different from the Wahhabi Islam they point to. They will reply back with "well don't you still believe in the same Qur'an that says kill the infidels, etc?" We have to show them what we really believe, backed with strong evidence and support.
  2. It’s on us Muslims to show the west the true nature of Islam. Because it’s not that people are scared of true Islam, they’re scared of different misconceptions they have about Islam. If we work to clear those up, islamophobia will surely decrease. But we must be educated, as the anti-Islamic people know verses of the Qur'an that they will point to, and we will need to counter. The general “Islam is a religion of peace” argument won’t work here, we’re dealing with some advanced opposition.
  3. Sometimes we take things as burdens that are not meant to be. Sometimes we create our own artificial burdens. We need to reflect and see which burdens we have created for ourselves and which burdens have truly come from Allah.
  4. Tell your friend to simply start talking to Him. Just have a conversation with Allah, maybe before he goes to bed. Maybe just talk about superficial things at first like how his day went. Don’t worry about sujood or reciting things a hundred times. Just open up the dialogue with Allah. Soon, he’ll start to reconnect.
  5. Goodness = the sake of Allah. Think about it. What is goodness? Can you define it? At the end, the conclusion you come up with is that doing something for “goodness” is actually another (lesser) way of saying you’re doing it for the sake of Allah. It’s not like Allah NEEDS you to do it? Why does he want you to do it then? Because of goodness. Allah is goodness, and all goodness comes from Allah.
  6. Syed weddings are purely cultural and have nothing to do with Islam. Islamically Syed marrying a non-syed vs syed does not matter at all. Race is not a factor either that Islam looks at, it doesn’t matter what country this man is from. What matters most is his faith/how good of a person he is. You don’t need to constrict yourself to only one race. Remember, at the end of the day, the final decision of marrying someone is yours, and if you object, then the marriage is NOT valid.
  7. Some protection is good, but parents overprotecting their children is NOT a good thing, for the parents and the child. It will bring up fear, resentment, inability to act competently in the outside world, etc.
  8. Well that’s a hell of a thing to say in a debate. Outright rejecting the intellectual validity (or at least willingness to listen and try to understand) of the other side, and putting them down in a statement like that. Well done. At least I’m willing to say that I agree to disagree, not put you down by questioning your intellectual capacity and calling your entire argument ridiculous.
  9. I guess we all just have different opinions of him. The best we can do is listen to him and his talks, as well as listen to his critics, and come to our own judgement of him.
  10. My main point is: treat it like you would a mental illness, because it is some sort of disorder & not natural. Not exactly sure what causes it, as the science isn’t clear on that, but there can be events from childhood that triggered this newfound attraction. That’s off topic however. The first step is to recognize the issue. You have done that. Now you need to get some real help. Talk to an open minded Islamic scholar or therapist, and I’m sure they’ll guide you. Just know that this feeling and attraction isn’t actually naturally a part of you, and it’s not who you are. It doesn’t define you. Worrying about if you’re a sinner or not is of no use right now. I’m sure you’ll get better, best of luck.
  11. Parents, especially Muslim immigrant parents, can be very authoritarian, due to fear and their impulse to always protect their child. Trust me, I’ve been through a good amount of it too. I’m sure you know they have good intentions, but you also just because they have good intentions doesn’t make everything all fine and dandy. You need to push, but not push too hard, because they may retaliate. If you don’t push at all, then they’ll continue to do what they’re doing and you’ll stay suffering. Staying patient doesn’t mean don’t do anything, because you’re being affected and you are important too. If it’s having a negative effect, then you need to let them know. And if they don’t listen to you/make it about themselves then we might be talking narcissism here. But I’m sure if you push hard enough and get them to listen, then they’ll understand. There needs to be a balance between your needs and your parents feelings, and true negotiation is the best way to do it. it’s the parents’ job to take care of their children. If you get them to realize how negative they’re being, they’ll understand. Sometimes protecting your child is exactly the WRONG thing to do. They need to understand that. I’m sure you’ll be successful.
  12. I read the essays and there is much too much responsibility placed on Dr.. Peterson. He's just going off information of Islam that he's heard, and I would think the same thing. Problem is with the Muslims, where most of us believe and spew ridiculous things that aren't even true in Islam. Dr.. Peterson listens to those things he says and he formulates his thoughts based on those. If most Muslims themselves don't know true Islam, I think placing the burden on Dr.. Peterson to fully know it is disingenuous.
  13. Would you also not say that Ayatollah Khomeini made some decisions that were maybe not on the moral high ground? If so, then you admit that he wasn't always 100% right. But you say there's "nothing in between" so then where would you place him? If he's not 100% right then you'd say he's 100% wrong? I don't think so. There is an absolute right and wrong, but there is a massive gray area in between. And this notion of an Islamic government as brought forth by Khomeini resides in that gray area, hence all the disagreements. And if you do believe that all of Khomeini's decisions were 100% right, then me and you have a much different definition of "right"
  14. Situations like these are very rarely dichotomized to the degree of simplicity as you mention. You make many assumptions: "Fighting" for the rights of the Muslims can only be done in the "revolutionary" way. "Resistance" is only your interpretation/understanding of it, AKA the "Inqilabi" way This resistance requires a singular strong leader Strong means authoritarian Blood and sacrifice is the only way to attain victory in this resistance Anyone that disagrees is either lazy, or a traitor (another dichotomy) Your dichotomy is a very common one, almost archetypal: your side is the underdog, the resistance, the fighters ("you will have to give blood, and sacrifice, and you will meet with hardships..."), while the other side are the lazy bystanders that would be willing to go along with evil rulers as long as it meant safety ("not even Muawiyah had a problem with this type of Islam"). You see this dichotomy in stories all the time and human beings have a natural tendency to project it to their own situations, and I feel the government of Iran is feeding on that mentality to further radicalize and tribalize people.
  15. Eventually you’ll have to sit down with them and tell them what’s on your mind and how you feel about it
  • Create New...