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Fizz786

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  • Birthday 12/19/1989

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  1. salam alaikum, inshaAllah you are all well. How many posts do I need to use the messaging system? Also im still waiting for two posts to be moderated. Its been some time now. Please can they be checked and sent if they are deemed appropriate? They are in the atheism forum. JazakAllah
  2. salam alaikum Khudi, inshaAllah you are well. just to let you know, I found a great website called bipolaruk. They have an ecommunity forum for anyone with bipolar or their carers. Its really good. Everyone knows what everyone is going through and support one another. If you ever want to join, my name is fizzypop on there. I think you will find it really useful. I know I have. It also gives me something to do and not feel so alone. Maybe check it out if you feel its for you inshaAllah. Kind regards, Fizz786
  3. salam alaikum Khudi, InshaAllah you are well. No worries about late response. Please take your time. alhumdulillah yes, the support does make alot of difference in that they understand me and know if there are any signs of relapse. yes we do become completely different people. I understand. Having a routine can be difficult as you have to maintain it. As long as you keep trying, thats what matters. Ah wow I see, may I ask how come? usually they send you to hospital in the same town where you are living? wait, are you still in hospital? ahh great mashaAllah! a life companion is the best thing in our situations. I’m glad your family are supportive and even video calls are a great thing to have. Thank God for technology eh? yes alhumdulillah, I am quite normal if I say so myself. My husband isnt that concerned anymore but makes sure I take my meds regularly. trust me, there is hope. You can go back to being completely normal once your treatment is done and you live with your wife and family inshaAllah. Don’t worry. if it can happen to me, it can happen to anyone inshaAllah. I am a complete monster when I am unwell. I think the change in meds helped aswell, I am now on Lithium amongst 3 other meds which help me to maintain stability. and of course, help from Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). yes, I think helping each other would be good. How are you feeling at the moment? do you feel more emotional or less? I will pray for you too inshaAllah. yes it is harder then before my diagnosis. Like self confidence in cooking, generally how I present myself. I am less confident in how I do things. I worry I will get them wrong. lost alot of confidence in myself. do you feel that with yourself too? are you fearful of how you will manage once you live with family? inshaAllah you have the right support so they will help you. Please dont worry about that aspect of things. From what I hear, Im sure your wife will help you with your responsibilities inshaAllah. keep strong, inshaAllah you can het through this. kind regards, Fizz786
  4. JazakAllah everyone for your input.
  5. salam InshaAllah everyone is well. I wanted to ask about an important topic. Does anyone know ways in which a person can die in the way of Allah or considered as a shaheed. I know dying in islamic battle is one. But are there not many other ways a person can be considered a shaheed? Does anyone know any hadith/narrations on this matter? Can a woman trying to please her husband, working in herself and with Allah’s mercy dying in wudhu be considered a shaheed? jazakAllah Fizz786
  6. Salam alaikum Khudi, jazakAllah and thank you so much for your reply. I also think you are brave and its also commendable that you are discussing your mental health too. I’m sorry to hear about your struggles in your daily life. Yes I am also type 1 bipolar. Stress is a huge factor that contributes to bipolar greatly. I was also under a tremendous amount of stress regarding my previous unwanted marriage. I also also doing a masters and working. There was too much pressure on me and I just popped with a manic-psychotic episode too. I’m sorry to hear. It is so hard isnt it? my manic episode also settled with medication then I went into a depressive episode. I made the wrong decisions through it too which I regret till this day. I too could not accept that I had this condition. I turned against my family for a few months until friends took me to Iran to try and heal and make a better decision about my life. Yes I also have religion and spirituality in my life but sometimes I agree, prayers and duas are not always helpful. Although I havent used them much to help me because I tend to forget that I could pray for myself especially during my episodes. Although I pray, I think everything that in doing or thinking is right. and everyone else is wrong. which leads to causing grief to my loved ones. (Though I normally wouldnt do those things) such as smoking alot, being verbally abusive etc. Thats not me at all. But I become a completely different person. Its very strange. I think your coping mechanisms are fantastic. Really useful. I had therapy too, I cant remember the name but I had it for a few weeks. It helped me to think more positively. I dont have a good routine like yourself, Im just at home with my two year old son who keeps me going. I do during this stable time do different things such as watching islamic movies, spending time with son, reading holy Quran and usual wifely duties. It must be hard to have mood fluctuations throughout your day. Do you live with family? do you have supportive friends? I tend not to have mood fluctuations at all since 2018. But ill have a day where im feeling a little down. sometimes I find a calm situation with someone who is dear to you can really help us cope. My husband is very supportive and helps to keep me well. If there is a small glitch, straight away he tells me, to lets go out somewhere, do something you enjoy etc. He doesn’t put any kind of pressure on me with housework etc. So Im in a relaxed environment. The last thing we need is unnecessary pressure and life without support. As above, the environment has helped me stay stable. Another thing which has is being positive and having people treat me well. When I had my son, I had a very bad experience from the hospital during his birth. The staffs disgusting behaviour and cause of stress made me pop. Not only that I kept having physical illnesses one after the other until the stress of everything just mixed up and made me very ill. I was very angry and scared everyone around me. Everytime I get ill, my mind tells me that imam atf is coming soon and we need to prepare. If im honest, time isnt on our side. As an episode can occur suddenly. there is no telling when. Unless we go into remission one day which would be the best thing ever. Thank you so much, may Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) bless you for sharing a very personal part of your life with me. I will keep you in my duas inshaAllah. I don’t feel alone now. But im so surprised how similar our experiences are. Its very interesting. But at the same time, I feel for you as I know what you are going through. I would highly suggest, you have good company, a close family member who understands you? ah, I forgot to ask, how are your close ones reacting to this? do you have any support? Maybe we can continue this thread with discussing how you or I am feeling daily or weekly and maybe we can support each other through this vein too inshaAllah? what do you think? Ps sorry for the super late reply, I only saw this two days after you posted and I cannot come online everyday. So I will try to reply as soon as I can inshaAllah with duas, Fizz786
  7. salam alaikum, GloryOfReligion, inshaAllah you are well. Bless you for your concern. I think one way is to challenge all his misinterpretations first. Then go onto any other things that have put him off religion and explain it in a kind way. As this is online it may be other factors such as ill friends, bad family experiences and misunderstanding religion. It could be that he has stumbled across other ex muslims and been influenced. Even if you try to revert him back, you may not be aware of or be able to challenge any external factors. Unless he is willing to open up to you about those too. Please do keep us updated, (including your and his answers to the challenges inshaAllah) I would like to help you further should my advice work. Good luck With duas, Fizz786.
  8. salam alaikum, When we come on this website, a little popup comes up saying “mobile chat”. When I click it, it says I have to sign in or register. When I sign in, it disappears. I have looked for it everywhere lol. Do I have to have a certain number of posts to access it? JazakAllah Fizz786
  9. salam alaikum, I am a Shia muslimah born and raised. I was diagnosed with bipolar in 2015. I had many pressures in my life all at once which led to a massive manic episode. I felt like I had a spiritual experience linked to the 12 Imam atf. There is too much detail to go into but around that time I was told that it wasn’t true but it felt true to me. Anyhow, Im on many medications due to this and would like to reach out to any fellow shia muslims who are also battling this. I suffered a few episodes since then and alhumdulillah I havent suffered for a year and 5 months alhumdulillah. I have a beautiful son now alhumdulillah too which keeps me going. Does anyone on here have this too? if so, do you feel that your religion helps you to cope? and in general have you had any episodes of highs and lows? Do you also have any general coping mechanisms that help you personally? sorry for all the questions. I feel a little alone in this regard. I do have a friend whose husband has bipolar but It would be a little strange to strike up a conversation with him on this topic, I also do not know him on a personal level. I feel he may not find it appropriate due to our islamic boundaries. JazakAllah, many thanks for reading. Fizz786
  10. Dear guest, Aslamualaykum wa rahmatullah, inshaAllah you are well. I followed your post some time back and wrote a whole long post but it wasnt sent when I tried. sorry you are feel that you are being pulled towards agnoticism. Many of what you have written above is out of context. Also misunderstood teachings. 1.) That apostates shall be killed. First of all the context, it has to be proven true from the people themselves. Secondly, apostacy is very dangerous. I knew some apostates. They left islam and started worshipping Imam Ali as instead. The worst thing was, they were trying to misguide muslims into believing their “faith”. I was one of them. I didnt believe their lies and prayed for Allah to find me another place to stay which he did. If they leave islam they leave right? wrong they become like a disease spreading their hatred and try to ruin other people’s faith. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) would order such disease to be cut off. 2. As for slaves, buying, selling etc of course isnt naturally right. But this was pre islamic era where slaves were bought and sold. I would like you to show me where it says you can have sex with slaves without marriage? and gift them to others etc? even in the Quran bibi Sarah gave her maid servant to wed hazrat Abraham. If this was correct then surely he would not have married her? 3. Open punishments like stoning for adultery. With regards to witnesses. The fact that it requires four witnesses. How many people in their right mind would commit adultery in front of four different people? Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is so merciful that even if you commit the crime he makes it impossible for you to get caught and defamed amongst the people. We tend to forget his merciful aspect and just look at his wrath. If for arguments sake, someone did commit adultery. They got caught etc and they got stoned. Their sin is so grave and it also is a warning for other people not to commit the same crime. We also forget that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) has wisdom behind his orders. 4. Brother or sister, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) doesn’t MAKE homosexuals. He doesnt create sin. Then tells you to abstain from having a same sex partner. There are various ways a person becomes a homosexuals such as their lusts. Homosexuals with regards to the same ruling as above with the four witnesses issue. Four witnesses are required before you are guilty of the sin. Secondly, we cant go around killing homosexuals left right and centre. I know people who claim to be a homosexual. Again, homosexuality is like a disease which by allowing it to be prevalent spreads it to more people causing it to become a huge mess. At the time of prophet Lot, he did not go around killing homosexuals. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) punished them himself. The rule for killing homosexuals, adulterers etc needs thorough examining and a order from a God given authority. It cannot be done just like this. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) doesn't want these diseases to be spread into innocent people. 5.) Death penalty for blasphemy. I feel you are talking about Salman Rushdi here. Salman Rushdi insulted the holy Prophet saww. No punishment except hell can ever clear his wretched soul for his disgusting words. In this life, people fear death the most. He is still on the run unfortunately but no one insults the prophet of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and gets away with it. If we have an ounce of faith and love for the prophet saww then we must love what Allah loves and hate what Allah hates. 6.) no you are mistaken. spreading Islam by the sword is not true. Thats not a part of islam. If this was the case when prophet Muhammed saww went to Medina, there were jews and christians living there too. They make dhimmis (a disbeliever in a muslim state and paid tax) They were allowed to pray and worship as they wished. Prophet saww never forced them. Even Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) says in the holy Qur’an “there is no compulsion in religion”. surah 2:256. 7.) you are right, there seems to be so many opinions etc but there is one truth. If you follow the Holy Quran and ahlulbayt as you cant go astray. Even the scholars you go to should give you a reference to the above two sources. You cant go wrong there buddy. 8.) The holy Quran has two types of verses. Zaahir and baatin. manifest and hidden. It isnt meant to be understood on its own. That why we have the prophets and the alhulbayt as to help understand it. Secondly, it doesnt allow domestic violence. The verse refers to using a branch lighly as to give a warning that the matter is serious. it isnt a order to beat her! Islam doesnt allow any form of wife or child beating. 9.) Woman and man’s genetic make up is different. Every aspect if different so their whole being is an opposite of each other. Woman has half the testimony of a man is in case she forgets. And the other woman can remind her. it doesnt make her less. woman have a whole set of various responsibilities that men do not. hence Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) knows his creation more than we do. Men can marry four times because there were many widows, divorcees etc. But people forget the verse “and if you cannot do justice then marry only one” ? that pretty much sums up and Allah is saying if you cant do justice marry one. how many men can do justice between two wives let alone four? I as woman myself do not in the least feel that islam is doing injustice to me. I feel it gives me utmost respect and love. As for woman marrying more than one is out of the question. How would she know whose child it is? surely the child has the right to know its father? there is a whole chapter dedicated to women in the Quran, many Woman are mentioned in it too. Just because Allah has made certain rulings is for a wise reason dear. he knows what rule applies where, who is capable of what and rights of all the relations in human existence. Look, please feel free to share what else bothers you. We are not here to judge you. I know these things seem cruel. But Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is not a cruel God. He only orders punishment etc he deems fit to the sin and the effect it has on society. Sometimes things happen in life which can shake our faith. But we have to try to get closer to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and its ok to ask for understanding. I hope you see this post and I am praying the best for you. Iltemase duas, Fizz786
  11. I didnt save it unfortunately. I came back after many years.
  12. thank you for your answer. You don’t have to be sorry. I think I spent too long on it and it logged me out. It was on my phone. I am sad that it wasnt sent because I spent alot of time and effort on it.
  13. As the religion comes from the father, a woman cannot marry a non muslim.
  14. Salams I posted a very very long post and took a lot of time in it in the Atheism section. There was no insulting/vulgar language etc. I have been waiting for it to be moderated but it’s been a while and my post was never published. May I know why it wasn’t published and please can it be done when possible? jazakAllah
  15. Salam, Sister Hameedeh is absolutely correct mashaAllah. First 7 days Haidh. Second/third time Istihadha. Yes, you would have to read Kazaa for the missed prayers for the second/third time. And would highly recommend you see a doctor inshaAllah. I had a similar situation but had a gap of ten days. If it is that early especially, my Dr. said to see her again if it happens. InshaAllah your problem be resolved. Masalam, Fizz786.
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