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  1. in my opinion everyone should balance marriage and career, but keep in mind deciding to have a family is a responsibility.
  2. you can’t, whatever you post will forever be on the record! No seriously, I don't actually know
  3. Hiiii! Oh I was jokin about the burka, so ur an aussie! cool! hijab is about us women, we don't want to be objectified, its degrading, so if your current hijab is dignifying enough for you, than that's it, don't think too much over it. You're good girl How some men act is between them and God.
  4. @Ruqaya101 I remember I used to get cat calls and hit on when I used to wear hoodies and trackies (honestly, just couldn't be bothered), but after that, once I improved my hijab I stopped getting cat calls. So I know you don’t like to hear it, and I am sure you wear amazing hijab, but maybe ur so pretty that even with your current hijab guys are still attracted to you. So how about wearing a burka?
  5. Makeup from my understanding is haram. So I don’t put makeup on alhamdullilah. I also don’t see a point to it, like when I go outside, no one actually cares about how I look . And I am not trying to impress anyone. It also feels so good to be confident enough to not care, so I totally recommend it to all the ladies.
  6. Brah! how weak do you think us girls are? My parents are not the reason I choose not to disobey Allah. I want to obey, so I will. Simple. And fyi I don’t live with parents, living in London as well. Girl power. Screw dem boys, worthless rats. Just kidding, I mean how can we ever live in this world without our percious men, I personally would be so lost.l without them You know wat maryam your right, find me a sexy men. I'll marry him tomorrow. He better work his butt off as well, I like to live an expensive life style. I don’t even wana see his face at home, just his wallet is fine.
  7. The oxford handbook of clinical specialties #nerdalert
  8. Braaaaah! And Oh my days! Got 3 brothers so kinda influenced by their roadman slang a little.
  9. Had chicken tortillas for dinner! Yummy! Right now: green tea and camomile tea For breakfast: I am planning to cook eggs and potato waffles, Oh and some green tea. can’t wait
  10. Because, why not? Marriage is not the only thing in life, its definitely a huge portion, but there is alot more to do. That's wat I think at least. Personally, I am not married yet, and have only recently seriously thought about marriage. So I know I can’t speak as if I am well versed on the concept of marriage. For all I know maybe I'll get married and wana be a house wife too. Join the club ygm. Allahu aalam. You do you maryam.
  11. Totally agree, in today's world, women are shamed if they choose to stay at home and decide to put all their energy in creating a loving home, there is no shame ladies, if that is what you want to do, than by all means you should, but in my opinion (and this is only my opinion), that decision can only come after you are married and only after discussing things with your hubby, cause every family is different. Prior to that, don’t think about marriage too much, maybe think about how you can improve things for your community, maybe get a job or education, so as to prepare yourself to be able to stand on your own 2 feet if anything happens in the future. Ultimately, its your life, don’t let anyone tell you how to live it or make you feel any shame for the decisions you decide make.
  12. I was searching something related to Shia Islam, and came across this website, so I found it interesting plus I loved some of the discussions going on here, so I thought to myself maybe this will strenghen my faith if I join , and besides, its defo better than instagram and snapchat. I have always tried my best to be religious (I wouldnt call it philosophy maybe curiosity) since maybe 13yrs old alhamdullilah. I do come from a religious family, so maybe that was a trigger, I guess.
  13. Feminist definition: advocacy for equal rights for both sexes. Shouldn't we all be feminists?
  14. Salam, It must be so hard, I am so sorry you have to go through that. You love someone so dearly, and want to make them proud, searching for some sort of acknowledgement but rather you receive hurtful words. I can tell you love your dad dearly and have been living your life to make him proud. I also know you know that your dad loves you, because you can see all the good he does for you, and how much he thinks about you. It must be really hard, I want you to know your not the only one going through this. But, sweetheart, you need to know he is your dad, try your best not to disrespect him. If he tells you harsh words, try to listen, acknowledge, thank and forget. I know you are sick of hearing this, but it's important to know that. Please don’t argue with your dad, I know you might be desperate to get your dad to understand you, and give you the emotional support you need, but the majority of times parents don’t listen to their kids. Lol. You will only hurt your relationship with him. You are an amazing person already, I know you want your dad to tell you this, but it's hard for him, he doesnt know how. You have to accept that. I know it sucks, cause your so young and it's so much to handle, but as off now you need to accept that you will not be getting the emotional support you need from your dad. So you need to get it from another place, maybe try your mum? Siblings? therapy? If you do choose friends please be wise when you make your friends, because they will influence you in the long run. Try to start making decisions for yourself, what you want to be when ur older, how you want to live. And remember don’t ever give up, Allah is always there. And he loves you 70 times more than your mum does. Maybe try to advance your skills of tawakil ;p If it makes you feel any better, alot of us had to go through it. I call it Iraqi dad syndrome ;p But while there are drawbacks to having a dad like that, there are benefits too, you will be one hella big achiever in the future. Successful InshAllah. Maybe driving a Ferrari or Lamborghini :p Lastly, while your dad might be hurting you, please know that everything you love about yourself comes from him, and everything you will have in the future is from him. Respect him for all he has done for you, love and respect him, for the roof he provides you and the food he puts on the table. Remember failure is okay fail as many times as you want, just don’t give up. If you need more help, you can always message me stay strong, I know you will be okay.
  15. That's true, akhlaq and deen. Simple. I feel like we complicate life too much nowadays.
  16. Aww, I am so sorry you had to do that, my mums going, but shes Iraqi and has family there (a little safer maybe), I also know a few friends who are still going. Personally if you ask me, it might appear that Iraq is dangerous and unsafe, but it really isnt, especially if you go to Najaf and Karbala. But then again, I am not living there. InshAllah next year! Ya rab!
  17. How would that help anyone?? That will merely create more disunity. Islam is love, learning to accept each others differences and living peacefully with each other.
  18. Yhyh (facepalm) - ya rab please help Darth vader navigate the horrible injustice he faces on a daily basis dealing with women's power of speech. I am so sorry you have to deal with that, I will pray everyday God will keep you strong. So sad. Guys please remember Darth vader in your prayers.
  19. Braaaah chilllll!!!! I'll tell you one quality that will make every man the dream man! Being a billionaire.
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