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  1. 10 minutes ago, notme said:

    @Maryam.It I've asked twice before, but it seems that you're unwilling to answer your own question. 

    Is it only a person who disagrees with you who needs qualification to speak? This is why I assume you suffer from narcissism. 



    What are you talking about?A narcisistic person search for approvation not someone  who disapprove her,and do not mind of discussion or of the truth!Are you one of this instead?Cause people tend to use construct that fit with themself.

    And,are you sure to know what a narcisistic persone is?Someone who lack of hempathy and tend to think only about herself and judge people basing on degrees and job!

  2. 2 hours ago, Ruqaya101 said:

    Why are you making it such a big deal? 

    If a woman wants to work, then she can work.

    If a woman wants to be a housewife, she can be a housewife.

    Each to their own. Whatever is good for you, then do it. 

    Theres nothing harram or halal about it, neither is there anything makrooh about either situation. 

    Assalamu alaykum.To who are you referring?I only thinking to what is best,not basinf on my own thinking,but based to the fact that Allah mare things perfect and to work perfectly if done like works better.

    And when we say "Allah knows best", I want to say,Allah,who created us(and everything and every being) and know what we truly need,knows best!

    So,we have The Holy Qur'an and Ahkul Bayt,Alhamdulillah!

    Allah knows best,and yes,He truly knows best!Alhamdulillah Rabbi Alameen!

  3. 54 minutes ago, notme said:

    Wa alaikum salam! 

    First things first:

    Prayer, fasting, etiquettes. 

    I highly recommend these pamphlets:


    Start with the ones about prayer and wudu. That's most important to begin right away. You can even print the prayer pamphlet and hold it to read while you pray until you have the prayers internalized. 

    Congratulations and may you ever be rightly guided, insha'Allah. 

    Thank you so much sister(?)!

    May Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) bless you for this comment!

    What a muslima have to know?



  4. 19 minutes ago, notme said:

    What? No! I was adult and married with children as I already mentioned. I didn't live with my parents after I was 18 years old. I supported myself, then later I supported my husband and children, and then later just my children after my husband left. I worked 2 jobs while raising two toddlers alone and going to university full time. I don't recommend that for anyone, but I do recommend that women be competent human beings, in whatever way they are able, so that they can take care of their families if they must. 

    What do you mean with "I supported myself,then later I supported my husband and children"?

  5. 7 minutes ago, notme said:

    What? No! I was adult and married with children as I already mentioned. I didn't live with my parents after I was 18 years old. I supported myself, then later I supported my husband and children, and then later just my children after my husband left. I worked 2 jobs while raising two toddlers alone and going to university full time. I don't recommend that for anyone, but I do recommend that women be competent human beings, in whatever way they are able, so that they can take care of their families if they must. 


    2 minutes ago, notme said:

    Ah, I get your angle now @Maryam.It.

    You're either one of those narcissistic "it works for me so everyone should do it" women, or you're a man pretending to be a woman. 

    Question: how old are you and for how many years have you been married and raising children? And do your parents/family help you? 

    Someone that want her success out in the society at the expenses of her husband and children happyness and who think only about herself is a narcisistic!Do you know what this term means?

    Narcisistic:Someone who thinks to be more than anyone.To explain the first meaning.

  6. 22 minutes ago, Ashvazdanghe said:

    Salam 1 & 2 


    it has no problem.

    you can respond his Salam because responding Salam is obligatory but try to avoid more talk if you are alone . 

    Wa alaykum salam.

    Situation 4?

    Sorry I reverted not so much time ago,and Alhamdulillah that Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) allow me to be muslima!But I never gone to Masjid so,I have very basic questions(but important things to know I think)!

  7. 6 hours ago, Guest Pschological Warfare said:

    Being a Family Oriented Women is a full time job/career (with excess amount of overtime required). Its not a 9:00AM - 5:00 PM sting. Its 24/7/365 thing, If you want to do the job right and have a physically, mentally healthy and socially successful family. Women is the center piece in this equation. Husband and kids rely on this one person for ALL their natural needs. Having a physically and mentally healthy and happy husband is in a good women's family interest for her and her kids. So, its not a salve thing as marketed. 

    It's not a slave thing, or ownership things as marketed by the secular world. Its a deception slogan. They would rather have you a corporate slave and the when the corporate Owner/Master says jump you say who high. or you loose your privileges. We need to be not afraid and drill down the reality of corporate life so they are informed. I saw a thing, where this women had "You don' own me" apparently the reference is understood by all, no need to elaborate here. I said to myself, nice, but the world does own you. Since now you are its property and dance to its tune. These ideas are slogans to manipulate women for its social/corporate/tax benefit. We have role models and we need to be wiser than the rest who lack role models. 

    Family Oriented Women, does not mean and should not be implied that some one stuck in the house, its a deceptive tactic. Women in the West, can become reciters of the ladies Majlis, during Muharram and Ramadan - work with young girls and be counselors, assist the community women and young girls in whatever way possible. 

    Women were just taken out of their homes during World Wars, what did they do before that? wasted their time and life and were miserable. This is clever marketing and we should not fall for that. 

    You have lazy, lethargic and soft man, looking for working women at the expense for their family. Hey, they can find their type - more power to them. 

    If there is an absolute need,/or a necessity-  not a want its a different story. 

    Alhamdulillah!Someone said the truth.

  8. 10 hours ago, notme said:

    I'm a full time homemaker and former civil engineer with four children ranging in age from 19 to 4. I have had to be a single parent before, when my husband couldn't function due to severe mental illness. I consider it a privilege to be able to stay home and provide full time care for my children now, but not an obligation. I choose this, it wasn't forced on me. Does that answer your question? 

    Did you live with your parents during the years when you studied to keep the degree?

  9. 9 minutes ago, 2Timeless said:

    @Maryam.ItI think you're still young and when you're done with school and have nothing left to do, you'll realise how vital work/study is for your own mental health and productivity. The only thing you need to do is find something you're passionate about and you wont think of it as "mud and dirt". 

    Your sole purpose in life is not to find a husband. God created you for bigger things than just that.

    Than " just that"?Sorry...How old are you?And,do you live in the house with your parents?



  10. 26 minutes ago, notme said:

    Those people who make it their primary goal to get married end up marrying whoever comes along at the right time instead of waiting for a suitable compatible person to enter their life. 

    Also, a competent mother is best for raising competent children.

    No parent should have to function independently, but bad things happen and some parents are forced to raise children alone. Wouldn't the mother who has at least some work background be in a better position to care for her children if her husband leaves or dies? And wouldn't the father who has at least some idea of how to care for home and family be also in a better position if his wife leaves or dies?

    Housework and child caring are not women's work, they are people's work. Earning money is a married man's responsibility, but it is also a woman's right if she chooses. 

    Are you talking about something that you know or something that you just image?

  11. 1 hour ago, RUKS said:

    Because, why not?

    Marriage is not the only thing in life, its definitely a huge portion, but there is alot more to do. That's wat I think at least.

    Personally, I am not married yet, and have only recently seriously thought about marriage. So I know I can’t speak as if I am well versed on the concept of marriage. For all I know maybe I'll get married and wana be a house wife too. Join the club ygm. Allahu aalam. 

    You do you maryam. 

    You do you?What?

  12. 2 hours ago, 2Timeless said:

    Because working will help you become financially stable while you look for a suitable partner. Working gives you skills that are applicable to all situations in your life. Relying on a man solely for one's stability, and making that one's sole purpose in life deducts from a woman's self worth. You don’t need a man to be financially comfortable, and while you're single, you should enjoy those benefits, because when  you are married and a mother you might not have the luxury of earning your own money.

    Also, its incredibly lazy to just wait for a man to save us and pay for everything even when we're young and have nothing else to do. Later, when young women become mothers, it's understandable why they'd want to stay at home and care for their children, but opting out and waiting for a man to just pay for your whole life when you're a single young woman just makes no sense. 

    Do you know there is fitna right?Do you know there is dirt mud outside...but you,like a young woman,want to go out anyway?

  13. 6 hours ago, Lilly14 said:

    I think being a stay at home is great if that's what you chose for yourself! But I almost never hear people who support the stay at home woman lifestyle also advise to have contingency plans. For example, if your husband suddenly passes away has he willed the home to you, and/or does he have life insurance? I knew two sisters who had small kids who were spared from extreme financial hardship because their husbands had planned ahead before they suddenly passed away. Also, if your husband is abusive, and since you don't work and have no control over the finances, will you have the financial means to even be able to escape and pay for a place to stay until you can find a job so you don't have to rely on battered women shelters for a roof over your head? Or once you leave, will you have an education to help you find a decent paying job so you don't have to struggle to make ends meet on minimum wage? I know a pregnant sister who was a stay at home but had an abusive husband and is doing the exact thing she never wanted to do: working minimum wage in retail while her toddler is taken care of by non-family, and she is trying to quickly find someone to marry her and provide for her.

    May Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) help her and all the Muslim women who need help!

    But our risq is in Allah's hands right ?So,why thinking about work if we can think about marriage?

  14. 1 hour ago, Ashvazdanghe said:

    Salam moon doesn't represent Islam & it's a false conclusion because Sunni mosques use crescent as their symbol just because it comes from Arab peninsula as other aspect of Arabic symbols that they think that these symbols are representing Islam although these symbols are driven from pre Islamic culture of Arabian peninsula. 

    Wa alaykum salam.

    I did not base my enterpretation on this.


  15. On 8/1/2019 at 10:56 AM, crashproof said:

    So yesterday I was praying(not dream) and for my dua I said please God make me stop doing this one thing(one sin I do a lot) give me more chances but give me a warning to when I should stop.

    The following day I went to sleep and I had a dream that the moon started fading away while I was watching it and then it came back again and it had a ring around it like saturn and everyone was sure that the world was about to end in my dream. I woke up in the morning to go onto the news and I saw that an asteroid had just barely missed hitting the Earth and that scientists were shocked and that it was very close. What does this mean please?

    Assalamu alaykum.

    This means that your oppurtunity is going to be missed when you are waiting.

    The moon is Islaam,and the world that is going to finish is yours opportunities to quit your\yours sin\sins to be clean in front of Allah.

    Do not waste time.

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