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  1. @Reza I’m not the most engaging person either. I’m actually quite introverted but I put in the effort to break the ice and make the other person as comfortable as possible by making light conversation and throwing in a funny remark here and there. I just don’t feel the same energy from him. I try to make light hearted conversations and he ignores it and goes back to asking the next serious question or he’ll say lol and move on. I give him chances to make a joke or say something funny but he completely ignores that as well. If he’s interested in me he doesn’t show it at all. He’ll barely talk to me unless someone in his family tells him to. I’ve even made it clear (since men can’t take hints apparently) that I like to joke around and add humour into everything and that I cannot open up to people that I can’t laugh with so that he doesn’t hold back from lightening up but it’s all in vain. I feel like I’m being interrogated all the time. Our conversations feel forced. I get that a person is supposed to be religious but this guy will only talk about religion and the news. I just think our personalities are very different. Everyone’s telling me to give him more time but the lack of interest and effort on his part puts me off.
  2. @ali_fatheroforphans I really don’t find that I click with him. Our conversations feel more like interrogations. Once we run out of basic questions to ask we just don’t have anything to talk about. I don’t even look forward to talking to him or getting to know him. It’s been a couple of weeks now and all we’re doing is beating around the bush and asking the same questions like “oh so what do you study” in different ways. I’m only hesitating to reject him because he seems like a religious and nice person. Every Islamic lecture I watch only stresses on religiousness and morals but I just need some assurance that clicking with someone is just as important. I tried many times to make room for light conversation and to give him chances to make jokes or say something light hearted but he just ignores that and says something serious or religious in return. I don’t know if I can live my whole life with someone who can’t lighten up sometimes or is always so serious. I’ve never been this confused
  3. Assalamalykum, I hope you’re all okay. So my parents recently set me up with this guy and while he’s a nice guy who’s religious and comes from a decent family I just find it very hard to make conversations with him. We can barely keep a conversation going and we have very different personalities and sense of humours. Personally, I rank sense of humour quite high because I’d want to be able to laugh and joke around with the man I’m going to spend the rest of my life with and I think it also puts me off that he can’t speak Urdu. However, people keep telling me that these are silly reasons to say reject someone and that piousness is all that matters and now I’m so confused as to what to do. The guy sends me a message once in a day even though he comes online all the time and has seen my message but won’t bother replying which makes me feel like he’s not that interested in me either. I’m getting a lot of mixed signals from him which is making me get even more confused. I’m sorry for such a long message but I’d appreciate any sort of advice and suggestions. Thank you!
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