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  1. InshAllah that’s what I’ll focus more on. I’m trying to find positive things to talk to them about but then they kind of put me off with such behavior so much so that I try to avoid them because I know they always steer any conversation into gossip.
  2. I do speak to them about other things that don’t involve gossip but when they speak about such things (which is pretty much all they talk about) I just pretend like I’m busy on my phone that’s when my mom gets annoyed that I come off as rude. I’ve explained to my mom as well that I don’t want to backbite but she’s like you know that’s how they are so that doesn’t mean you don’t respond or talk to them.
  3. So I’m generally a quiet person and I’m usually shy around people. Recently my extended family has come down and so when we meet up I don’t talk much and some people in my family only gossip or backbite and judge others in the family. I don’t like participating in such talks and so when my aunts or cousins try to talk to me about these things I just say hmmm or don’t respond much. Now my mom is getting angry at me because I seem rude and I’m not responding to them properly. What do I do? I don’t want to come off as rude or full of myself by not talking to anyone but if I do talk to them they’ll only gossip which I’m trying to avoid.
  4. Assalamalykum, With Ramadan right around the corner I thought it’d be a good idea if we could make a resolution this Ramadan to improve ourselves spiritually. Every Ramadan I try to either take up a good habit or drop a bad habit I have, not just for the 30 days but I make a promise to make that change permanent as a gift to my own soul. It could be anything, you could make a resolution to read one page of Quran per day everyday or you could stop listening to music or you could even make a resolution to tweak your mentality a bit and for example not think negatively about others or to place more trust in Allah in order to reduce stress. Begin with something small and manageable that you really believe you can accomplish and InshAllah with the proper intention Allah will help you make that change and some. So comment on what you’d like to change and InshAllah it’ll inspire others and give them ideas as well. All the best and may you all have a blessed Ramadan :)
  5. اِنْ يَّنْصُرْكُمُ اللّٰهُ فَلَا غَالِبَ لَكُمْ‌ۚ وَاِنْ يَّخْذُلْكُمْ فَمَنْ ذَا الَّذِىْ يَنْصُرُكُمْ مِّنْۢ بَعْدِهٖ ‌ؕ وَعَلَى اللّٰهِ فَلْيَتَوَكَّلِ الْمُؤْمِنُوْنَ‏ If Allah assists you, then there is none that can overcome you, and if He forsakes you, who is there then that can assist you after Him? And on Allah should the believers rely. Surah Aal-i-Imran [3:160]
  6. There’s this app called “Ask Those Who Know” ATWK, you can get the app and it’ll connect you with many scholars. You can select any scholar and send them a message and they usually respond within a couple of days.
  7. I’ve used that app a couple of times and I’ve got a response within a week and quite detailed responses. You can select which scholar you want to send your question to and if they feel like your question can be answered by another scholar with better expertise then they’ll redirect your question to another scholar. You can give it a go, I’ve had good experience with it.
  8. Surah Al-A'la (The Highest) : (87:16) بَلْ تُؤْثِرُونَ ٱلْحَيَوٰةَ ٱلدُّنْيَا But you prefer the life of this world, وَٱلْءَاخِرَةُ خَيْرٌ وَأَبْقَىٰٓ while the Hereafter is better and more lasting.’
  9. I’m going through the same thing right now. The best thing you can do is take baby steps. If you try to immediately get back to how you were before you’ll get really disappointed and depressed. Try doing one small thing a day, just for 5 mins listen to some Qur'an or watch an Islamic video on YouTube or even listen to a nasheed. Just know that the fact that you’re feeling upset about being away from God and that you want to get close to Him and the religion is in itself a sign that God wants you to come back and that you’re close enough to God to miss worshipping Him. Know that Allah loves you and even if you take one small step towards Allah He will take 10 steps towards you. Take it easy and take those baby steps and don’t beat yourself up if you’re not doing as much as you were before. We all have ups and downs. Allah loves you and won’t let your efforts go to waste no matter how small they may be. Surah Ad-Dhuha (The Morning Brightness) : (93:3) مَا وَدَّعَكَ رَبُّكَ وَمَا قَلَىٰ Your Lord has neither forsaken you, nor is He displeased with you,
  10. That’s what I have been thinking this entire time that I’m being protected from something harmful and that maybe I’m asking for something that’s not good for me but it’s got to the point where I feel like just nothing is answered and I no longer feel optimistic. I’ve been optimistic and patient for so long but now I’m so tired I just don’t have it in me anymore. Surely all the optimism and patience should amount to something? I mean some things I ask for are not even related to the dunya, sometimes I ask for more strength to pray and to be able to wake up early so I can pray tahajjud regularly or sometimes I ask that I can create and maintain a connection with the Imam of our time. I know we have to struggle and work hard for these things and I do struggle and work hard, I make time and do everything possible to win the pleasure of Allah to get closer to Him and the Imam but I feel like I’m pushed away instead.
  11. Assalamalykum, I don’t know if it’s possible that Allah can dislike a person since we’ve been told that Allah loves us even more than our mothers but recently I read somewhere that: Hazrat Ibrahīm ((عليه السلام).) said, “O worshipper! when Allah holds a creature dear He delays the acceptance of his prayers so that he may continue to plead and supplicate Him. On the other hand when He dislikes a person He answers his prayers immediately or creates hopelessness in his heart so that he would stop praying.” And I feel like the latter is happening with me. I’ve become so hopeless that I start wondering what’s the point of praying when my prayers are never answered. I hate feeling this way because I feel like Allah dislikes me that’s why I have this feeling in my heart and I’d honestly rather have none of my prayers answered but I can’t bear the thought of Allah disliking me. Yet it’s a vicious cycle, I pray, none of my prayers get accepted and I feel like He’s not even listening. For the past 2-3 years my life has been going downhill and I’ve taken everything positively up till now, I’ve said Alhamdulillah every time something bad happened or a prayer went unanswered just telling myself that Allah knows best and maybe this is better for me but I’m so so tired now. I can’t keep up anymore and I’ve run out of positivity and patience. I used to pray Namaz e Shab almost every day and nowadays I can’t even find the will to wake up for Fajr. I know that at the end of your patience Allah brings relief and I’m really burnt out now but there’s no end in sight. I’ve tried every amaal, namaaz, dua, you name it. I’ve cried and cried and asked for forgiveness for years now yet I feel helpless. I was clinging on to the fact that I was patient and was able to see the silver lining in everything but even that’s gone now and I just pray nowadays that Allah forgives all my sins and takes my life because I really can’t take this constant helplessness and worsening of my life. If any of this suggests that Allah is angry with me or dislikes me then please please help me and tell me how I can change that, I just don’t want to lose patience and hope.
  12. Surah Ad-Dhuha (The Morning Brightness) : (93:3) مَا وَدَّعَكَ رَبُّكَ وَمَا قَلَىٰ Your Lord has neither forsaken you, nor is He displeased with you,
  13. Surah Al-Najm (The Star) : (53:32) ٱلَّذِينَ يَجْتَنِبُونَ كَبَٰٓئِرَ ٱلْإِثْمِ وَٱلْفَوَٰحِشَ إِلَّا ٱللَّمَمَ إِنَّ رَبَّكَ وَٰسِعُ ٱلْمَغْفِرَةِ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِكُمْ إِذْ أَنشَأَكُم مِّنَ ٱلْأَرْضِ وَإِذْ أَنتُمْ أَجِنَّةٌ فِى بُطُونِ أُمَّهَٰتِكُمْ فَلَا تُزَكُّوٓا۟ أَنفُسَكُمْ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِمَنِ ٱتَّقَىٰٓ Those who avoid major sins and indecencies, apart from [minor and occasional] lapses. Indeed your Lord is expansive in [His] forgiveness. He knows you best since [the time] He produced you from the Earth and since you were foetuses in the bellies of your mothers. So do not flaunt your piety: He knows best those who are Godwary.
  14. Surah Ar-Raʼad (The Thunder) : (13:24) سَلَٰمٌ عَلَيْكُم بِمَا صَبَرْتُمْ فَنِعْمَ عُقْبَى ٱلدَّارِ ‘Peace be to you, for your patience.’ How excellent is the reward of the [ultimate] abode!
  15. Surah Al Anʼam (The Cattle) : (6:32) وَمَا ٱلْحَيَوٰةُ ٱلدُّنْيَآ إِلَّا لَعِبٌ وَلَهْوٌ وَلَلدَّارُ ٱلْءَاخِرَةُ خَيْرٌ لِّلَّذِينَ يَتَّقُونَ أَفَلَا تَعْقِلُونَ The life of the world is nothing but play and diversion, and the abode of the Hereafter is surely better for those who are Godwary. Do you not exercise your reason?
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