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Would you say it was destined for someone to get married to a certain person because a child was needed to be born? Sometimes I believe that a person comes into your life that wasn't in our hands to stop it because that child had a purpose? Not all marriages were destined but some?

It is a difficult question, it always keeps me wondering. Thank you for answering

For years I stopped believing in destiny in Islam. The biggest reasons that stopped me from believing in destiny was because of my confusion about the whole concept of it. I was always confused of situations where murder was involved like when someone was brutally murdered and why they were destined to that path. Or also why sometimes good people go through the worst in life and question why their life was written that way. I only started to believe in destiny when I went through my own hardship in life. I was hoping that anyone can explain to me how destiny is real in Islam and if you can back it up with any proof. How is our life already predestined and written for us before it happening? How is the person already chosen for us for marriage? But does that also mean we can just sir around and expect things to come to us because it's already chosen to happen before even trying?

I 100 percent agree with you. You know a lot and I appreciate your answers. It honestly helped me

Thank you so much for your detailed answer. I actually enjoyed reading it all. I think he was the first type of guy, the guy who likes it when a girl turns him down or insults him. I searched really into him such as his family and background and I found out he's actually scary and not the person I thought he was. He drank occasionally, was not practicing at all and even was put into jail for drug dealing. He desperately wanted to get to know me and wanted me to be his wife, which he made it really obvious because he knew my nature and he thought I was beautiful which means nothing to me. That's all infatuation and I'm pretty sure this type of person would get bored of someone really easily and cheat based on the type of person he was. Alhamdulilah that I asked around because I would still be waiting for a response from a player like him and get tricked by his personality. My gut knew something was wrong with him which is why I felt the need to end it from the start.

That's true, but for me when I ended it I actually meant it. I didn't want him to chase me or try to play mind games. In my heart I felt it was right, but then when I went to sleep, I started to regret my decision and knew I had rushed it.

Thank you for your answer, it was very helpful

I really appreciate your detailed answer. Thank you!

I was getting to know a guy for 2 weeks. He was great to me, he always responded fast to my texts, always was the one asking to call me. He was respectful and kind to me so honestly I don't know why I ended it. I ended it for something so small and I regretted it. When we met in person, he really liked me and kept complimenting. He was smiling the whole time we were together and kept complimenting. After we left he texted me right away about how happy he met me. But yesterday I told him I wanted to end our conversations and i can tell he got really upset because of his 3 word reply. I really regretted it so the next day I apologized by sending only 2 texts telling him that I still want to continue getting to know him, but he's only read them but ignored the texts I sent. It's almost been a day now. What should I do? Should I text him again and ask him if he still want us to conintue? Honestly I'd just want him to give me answer whether it's a yes or no then i'll be completely fine with that and move on with my mistake. I just need to know instead of being ignored and just left hanging. What are your opinions on what I should do? Is he just upset and will respond back? I mean wouldn't he just block me on whatsapp if he wanted me gone?

Salam alaikum, I read and searched about iddah, but there is a couple of questions that I am still confused about. One of them is that what if the sunni husband repeatedly said divorce 3 times out of anger and didn't mean it, would you count the divorce from that time? What if the wife kept insisting for a divorce and he said it again out of anger. She had counted it as a divorce from that time, but the official divorce came a month after. So say the divorce was announced through voice message and was shown to 3 witnesses. That was in the middle of August. But she still was communicating with him because he regretted saying it at that time and was reaching out to her through text. She had to let him know that it was over and to never communicate with each other again. The official divorce came a month later though where no communication happened after that. My question is, was she already divorced in August and can she accept proposals during iddah but not yet marry?

Thank you for letting me know

I really appreciate the time you gave for your answer. He was a very toxic person. He was smoking marijuana every day, never prays, never fasts, occassionaly does drugs, and was abusive. I just pray that every good person out there doesn't go through that inshallah and marry an amazing God fearing person. But Alhamdulilah I was able to divorce him.

I was hoping someone can answer 2 questions for me. If my father is a sheikh, can he do the divorce for me? My father doesn't live with me so I would rather ask first before confronting him about it. My second question is if my husband is a sunni, can I contact a sunni masjid to do the divorce? Would it be a valid divorce?

I really appreciate it thank you.

You are 100 percent right, I was in a very toxic marriage and had to get out.