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  1. I agree with @notme, it sounds like she had doubts for a very long time but maybe ignored them. She also clearly let you know why she didn't want to continue: You're in the grieving process but you will get over this inshAllah. Just know that if she was the right one for you then she would have fought for your relationship. Some people just aren't meant to be in our lives for the long-term. Take this as a learning experience and try your best to forget about her. Usually once women leave, they don't come back.
  2. I really want to go on ziyara this year to Iraq, haven't been in 3 years now and my soul desperately needs to visit Aba Abdillah's shrine . Other than that, I just want to return back to in-person classes again in September. Online Uni has drained my soul lol
  3. Wsalam. Not sure if your question is directly solely towards men, this is from a sister's perspective: No person wants to feel like they're being bound in a relationship. I think this is fair to say for men and women both. People desire relationships because they want to experience companionship and love, and the last thing anyone would want is to end up feeling like they aren't able to be themselves because of their partner. Sure, a husband can be protective when it comes to the wife's interactions with non-mahrams. You can make it clear to her that you aren't okay with her being overly talkative with her male cousins, for example. But it's definitely important that you choose somebody who has similar views and beliefs as you. You can't force another person to do what you want them to do. The most you could do is advise them and ultimately they are the ones who'll choose to take your advice or not. The husband could try his best to explain to his wife why he thinks it'll be better for her to listen to him regarding an issue.
  4. Just a brief moment of reflection I had: This time last year, life was so different. All of us had our resolutions and plans for the new year, but then March hit and so did Covid, and the world has changed so much within the span of a year. SubhanAllah. Really makes you realize how this life is so temporary and unstable. At the end of the day, the only thing that does matter in this world is our relationship with Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى).
  5. I'm not sure what the Islamic view is here.. however, I don't think our fitra intuitively knows what to do in every situation. You find Shia teenagers who are still dealing with the harms of being neglected and abused in their childhoods, and our childhood does shape how we behave in our adult years.
  6. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) bless her soul and grant you patience. I'm so sorry for your loss.. if you need anything, we're here.
  7. Lol I agree. To the OP, I'm not sure if you are talking about yourself, if you are though.. please save yourself from heartbreak and if you cannot get married now, you should cut off all contact with the man. Haram is inevitable if the two continue to talk even though it might only be through text messages.
  8. A very close friend's cousin passed away a few days ago due to an illness, he was only 10 years old. She invited me to his burial and although I usually do not have the heart to attend such events, I went for her. It was the most devastating thing ever to witness a mother watch her 10 year old child get buried. And what makes it worse is that this was her second child that died due to the same illness. Please keep my friend's family in your duas.. they aren't in a good condition at all.
  9. This is very true. I remember in the beginning of my toxic relationship, my ex would do some things I would find very odd. My gut feeling would be very strong.. but as always I would ignore it, and make excuses for him. However, I would always question if the relationship was healthy. Honestly sister, if you are questioning whether your relationship is toxic, it most likely is. Please be careful about falling into the act of binge-reading articles upon articles about toxic relationships in attempting to understand your significant other. If something doesn't feel right, it most likely isn't.
  10. Oh this brings back so many memories! I used to watch this show with my brother 6-7 years ago and we'd laugh so much. Sometimes I wish I was younger and stress-free again.
  11. ❤ اللهم صلى على محمد وال محمد
  12. Salam. So recently I was speaking to a brother who brought up the topic of forgiveness in Islam. He said that if we commit a sin unintentionally, and then repent.. Allah will forgive us for that sin. But if we commit a sin knowing that it was a sin.. and then repent, it is up to Allah to decide whether He will forgive us or not. But chances are, that because we listened to the call of Shaytan.. we committed shirk. Because in that moment we are worshipping Shaytan and not Allah. And the only sin that Allah wont forgive us for on the day of Judgement is shirk. This leaves me confused. We commit sins on a daily basis. Sometimes we know that gossiping, being rude to someone, hurting someone's feelings.. are all sins. But we do them anyway. What about the Muslims that commit zina? They surely know that committing zina is a sin. But if they are deceived by Shaytan in the heat of that moment and they end up committing that major sin, is there a chance that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) wont forgive them for that?
  13. I remember when I first joined.. it was Muharrum. And all the threads were about tatbir and Sunnis asking us why we hit ourselves in Muharrum. So yeah I was just very annoyed and left the site for a while because I can’t stand people talking bad about the way we mourn for Imam Hussain.
  14. Salam. I was doing a search online to find the amaal for the day of Arbaeen but all the websites mention ziyarat of Imam Hussain(عليه السلام) on the day of Arbaeen, but what about those who aren't able to be there? Is there any amaal we can do from our homes?
  15. I've always wondered about this. Do we have to forgive someone who severely wronged us? What if you just can’t let go of how much they hurt you? Also Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) in the Qur'an says that He forgives the ones who repent. So what if someone doesn't even feel remorse for what they did to you?
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