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  1. You can ask her to wear it, but if she doesn’t wear it before marriage, I’d strongly suggest you bring up your preference BEFORE marriage that you’d like her to wear one. This way, if she doesn’t want to, then you two can decide to go your separate ways. Don’t stay mum on the topic before marriage and then impose it after. I’ve seen this happen in my family where the woman was asked after marriage to wear a hijab and though she wears a hijab now, it is simply out of an obligation without actually following Islamic principles, so just be mindful of that. You can’t make force someone to be
  2. I think we, as an ummah, need to dispense with the idea that skincare and hairstyling are only for women and/or are “feminine.” I assume if our Prophets didn’t use ittar/fragrance, you’d also consider that to be feminine. Wonder how you feel about using deodorant. But in your defense, I will assume you are either living in the Middle East or South Asia, where such things as putting wax in your hair might be seen as “feminine.”
  3. Thanks a lot for responding and for the recommendation. I’ve also heard good reviews about that particular product so I might just try it out.
  4. I have asked my hairdresser and he did recommend some products, but the issue is always the water-barrier thing. That's why I wanted to ask my fellow Muslims who probably use products that don't interfere with their wudu. And wow, you must be such a manly man to not even be using shaving cream. Epitome of masculinity! MashAllah! Takes a real man to be disgusted by men's skincare products
  5. Salam! I am looking for a hair styling product (wax, pomade, anything pretty much except hair gel or hairspray please) that I'd be able to have on my hair but that would still allow me to do wudu on my head. I've used products such as hair gels where I have to take off the gel and dry the front of my hair before doing wudu, which was quite cumbersome. That's why I'm looking for hair products that I won't have to remove to do masah, meaning they won't create a barrier for water to get through to my hair. Please make your recommendations. Ideally, I'd like to be able to order it off A
  6. Absolutely they should. Mental health is similar to physical health, where the symptoms of mental illnesses can cause great difficulty in everyday life, and can lead to worsening of symptoms if left untreated. As a Muslim, I am very comfortable in talking about my mental health needs with a professional, although just as with doctors, there are certain counsellors that might not be a good fit for you depending on what your issue stems from. For example, stress/depression caused by exams, abuse or fertility issues can be appropriately discussed with mental health professionals who aren't M
  7. I did not say nor imply that the West has no such problematic culturally-imposed limitations on expressing emotions. The West is just as bad when it comes to suppressing emotional responses, especially for men.
  8. Just wanted to add, conversations with others help you gain benefits, such as a unique perspective on your emotions, that writing in a diary might not.
  9. I definitely agree with you. Society tells men that they must hide their emotions, and culture tells us that it is too feminine for a man to sob, except on certain occasions (like during a Majlis). I would reckon that because of this cultural restraint on showing emotions, men grow up to have poor emotion regulation and end up “lashing out.” This is obviously just my own perspective. Though there are some studies that show that those who bottle up their emotions tend have poor emotional regulation. However, I think there is a great amount of utility in having friends you can share
  10. Seems like you’re fine to walk while doing wudu. Not sure exactly how many steps is considered “a few steps.”
  11. Thank you for your response, and for the wealth of information about the divorce process in Shia Islam (and its Sunni counterparts). However, my question still remains regarding the rule I quoted in my original post, that is, about the woman having to marry someone else and consummate the marriage before the first husband is able to take her back following three divorces. Can you please explain that within the context of nikah halala in Sunni Islam. Thanks in advance.
  12. Salam all, Watched the documentary "Three Seconds Divorce" last night, which focused on Indian-Muslim women's plight when it comes triple talaq, and the concept of Halala. I searched on ShiaChat, and it sounds like Halala is not condoned by members here (based on their responses to such topics). I understand Shia Islam doesn't have the concept of a triple talaq. However, there are rules of returning back to your wife after a third divorce. However, this is what Sistani (my marja) has to say on the issue of a third divorce: Can someone explain to me how this is different from
  13. I wholeheartedly agree with GD41586's post above. The term ALM is NOT equivalent to Islamophobia. Although they are both all-encompassing slogans used to advocate against hatred/discrimination, ALM has been used to disempower and undermine the BLM movement. Instead of understanding that black people in Western countries, especially America, have been targets of racism throughout history, ALM is used to cover up the issues faced by Black communities by saying "yes, I know Black people get murdered by cops, BUT WHAT ABOUT PEOPLE FROM OTHER RACES WHO ALSO DIE?" Although it is very important
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