You definitely struck all the nerves here. I reverted to Islam 9 months ago, and it was all online. I was (and am) in a situation where I cannot go to a mosque, or meet other Muslims for guidance. I have mass media, and .pdfs for training, and sometimes I don't know what way is even up to PUT that roof down first.
My initial introduction to Islam was on the other end of the spectrum than Shi'ism, and only recently have I admitted to myself that I have honest questions. There was no real blueprint for that line of thinking, and I've also not found one for this. I take a topic I wonder about, and read until I feel satisfied...nothing so complete or comprehensive.
Some have told me that 'X' book is good for this topic, while another of the same sect/school, disagrees entirely. Being in one sect is painful enough to get true info about, but when you're attempting to study and find the path that is right, sometimes it feels like you've already moved in the furniture before laying the floor.
When even the most fundamental of our faith is differed upon (aqeedah) from sect to sect, how can anyone not in a school for this, or having the blessings of great parents, even begin to know where to begin on the right path. So to even have a list of stepping stones for that path would have meant such a difference.