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  1. AssalamAlaykum My dear brothers and sisters. This is my absolute first time posting on this website.. and that is because I require some assistance from whoever has a few minutes to help this broken servant of Allah. Any advice from anyone would be greatly appreciated. I do dua for all us to be able to overcome any hardship that tries and divert us from the beautiful path of the Ahlul Bayt. Elahee Ameen Now to my story. I am a male in my late teens, once a Sunni but now a Shia Alhamdulilah. Just like any Shia, the oppression one faces in this day and age really has an effect on the mentality and maturity of a person.. and I believe alhamdulilah all thanks to the grace of God I would say I am quite mature for my age because of also who I grew up with (i.e my dear dear family who are always very supportive). I have had a very dark period in my life, which I am forever regretful for. However, this Muharam has flipped me in terms of belief and character almost 180 degrees. I feel energetic, blessed and helped by Allah, and honestly I would never imagine to leave this feeling. This has all happened because I finally made the intention to change as a person, and Alhamdulilah I feel so much closer to my Lord during this most blessed month. Now to the main part. Spiritually and mentally I believe it is getting closer for me to get to know someone for marriage inshaAllah. I recently joined education again and I have met this sister who honestly blew my mind with her character. We talked for hours about all sorts of topics, to the challenges of life to Marriage to Islam etc. After this conversation I feared her opinion would change of me since I am a Shia, but Alhamdulilah she was very very understanding. I got to talk about the oppression Shias face on a day to day basis and she repeatedly apologised for their actions. She is a Sunni so obviously there would be a few differences to belief but I told her to never ever blind follow her faith and sit down and ponder over what she has been taught. We really dove deep in the topic of marriage, like for example how important it is to talk about the deeper topics when people are getting to know each other, i.e children, who the breadwinnner is etc. Straight away from that conversation I knew that she was different compared to a lot of the sisters out there who in my opinion are still immature for marriage regardless of the age. She doesnt have social media, like me, which again shocked me. She is however a few years older than me, but after our conversation she openly said how much mature I was for my age and how she felt that I sound like her dad in terms of advice given on life. I asked if that was a good thing and she said of course .. (made me chuckle inside then). Now to a few very very interesting points. On the same day I talk to this girl about marriage, the Sheikh giving the lecture at mosque does a WHOLE lecture on early marriage and its beneifts. I was truly amazed to the power of God and how easy it was to plan something so complex like this. This made me think. But it gets better. So fast forward a day later, I listen to a lecture online (since I had to babysit my younger brother since the whole family went mosque) about Hazrat Ali Akbar and this one put me in tears. I was alone at home so I was able to really cry my eyes out. After the lecture I faced the Qiblah and cried my eyes and reflected on my bad deeds and how much it meant to me that Gods' communication with me was so crucial. I talked to God for a long time and honestly I have not feel so blessed in such a long time. Now then brothers and sisters is where it takes another level. A thought comes into mind, and I suddenly think of doing istikhara on this whole matter! Whether it would be wise to go ahead with all this or not. So I read a method on how to do Quranic Istikhara and my heart suddenly starts beating faster since I have never ever performed such a thing, so it was entering a new territory. I open the Quran SUBHANALLAH the first verse I see is Surah Maryam Verse 58. It goes and continues to something like this ".....and of those whom We guided and chose; when the communications of the Beneficent Allah were recited to them, they fell down making obeisance and weeping." And honestly, at that point it just got me even more. Tears uncontrollably rolling down and I just do Shukr that I feel so close to God after such a bad period of my life. Now brothers and sisters. Of course your advice would be soo appreciated on this matter. Please be as open as you want to me since I would like realistic advice. I know that love can be blinding, but I dont want it to go that far, especially in Muharam. JazakAllah Khair
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