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Carlzone

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  1. Partially Agree
    Carlzone got a reaction from Zulfiqar1472 in Showing body parts after proposal   
    How much selfrespect do you have if you see yourself as livestock and are willing to show everything to anyone?
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    Carlzone reacted to Marbles in The weight loss thread   
    Four months on, 33 lbs down. Thanks to ketogenic diet and will power.
    Most nuts are keto friendly especially almonds and pecans as they have very few carbs and lots of good fats. I keep my almond count to 10 at a time or I can eat a slice of almond bread, both of which give me 6 to 8 grams of fat each.
    Unsweetened peanut butter doesn't exist over here, so that's not an option but we do get avocados from time to time. Imported ones since we don't grow them locally.
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    Carlzone got a reaction from Murtaza1 in Showing body parts after proposal   
    How much selfrespect do you have if you see yourself as livestock and are willing to show everything to anyone?
  4. Disagree
    Carlzone reacted to laithAlIRAQI in Showing body parts after proposal   
    Apparently your opinions are more worthy than the maraj3, why don't you become a marja and give your own fatwas and opinions? 
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    Carlzone reacted to laithAlIRAQI in Missing members   
    Took us 5 days to travel over 160km
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    Carlzone reacted to Urwatul Wuthqa in Missing members   
    I will try to cover that distance in 49 minutes 8 seconds!!! 

    @Carlzone, you're way behind me. 
  7. Disagree
    Carlzone got a reaction from Urwatul Wuthqa in Missing members   
    Thank you all for your replies. I'm worried about hasanhh because he's an older member. And I can't remember him being gone so long before. InshaAllah everything is allright with him. 
    I'd beat you both  Took me 49 hours 8 minutes and I was slowed down by relatives! 
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    Carlzone reacted to Ralvi in What is something you do that you don’t tell most people   
    My mother has gone through the same thing...dear sister although I can never know the pain of a mother
    its a pain I can relate to nonetheless...Iam so sorry sister. It’s not easy...I’m sure they spoke to you in your dreams...inshallah may you reunite with them in jannat. 
    Inshallah 
    stay strong and continue to love Muhammed and ahl Muhammed(saaws)
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    Carlzone reacted to Nevsevug in What is something you do that you don’t tell most people   
    I fantasize about how my life will look in 5,10 years all the time. I want to show everyone that doubted me and put me down how great I can be. I also love thinking about detailed situations where I’m helping people with my own time and recourses. My life goal is helping better peoples’ lives (the less fortunate) everyday. 
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    Carlzone reacted to starlight in What is something you do that you don’t tell most people   
    But here is something I never talk about - my darling Fatima, who rests in a little grave somewhere far away. 
    [Edit] and then I thought Allah gave me another little Fatima to shower my love upon...but she too was taken away. 
    Don't ask me the details, please. I won't be able to tell.
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    Carlzone reacted to PureExistence1 in The weight loss thread   
    I like avocado...yum:) Plain old peanut butter (without any added sugar or hydrogenated oils) to dress up celery sticks, just not too much. Also, raw, unroasted almonds, but i always keep the count to 17 almonds which is half a serving because the calorie count in almonds as well as all nuts is pretty dense. Im not sure how permissable they are on keto, either. 
    W/s
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    Carlzone got a reaction from Haji 2003 in Missing members   
    Salam aleykom, 
    I've noticed that @hasanhh is missing. 
    Does anyone know if he is allright? I'm a bit worried that God forbid something has happened to him. 
    Other members are also missing, like shiasoldier786, mahdavist, ron_burgundy. What's up with them? Come back and participate! 
  13. Partially Agree
    Carlzone got a reaction from Zulfiqar1472 in Showing body parts after proposal   
    It's also a matter of a female's sense of dignity and selfworth. You can be certain that you are very attractive and have loads of suitors desperate to marry you yet still feel very uneasy being treated like cattle. I think it's a matter of self respect. 
    At the same time there are females who aren't particularly attractive at all yet they are willing to show everything to anyone. 
  14. My Prayers
    Carlzone got a reaction from Urwatul Wuthqa in Missing members   
    Salam aleykom, 
    I've noticed that @hasanhh is missing. 
    Does anyone know if he is allright? I'm a bit worried that God forbid something has happened to him. 
    Other members are also missing, like shiasoldier786, mahdavist, ron_burgundy. What's up with them? Come back and participate! 
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    Carlzone got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in Using Muslim (Shia) matrimonial website   
    Since the picture has been a deal breaker several times I think it's best to show it straight away so you only get to know girls who are attracted to you. Besides, that saves you time and heartache. 
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    Carlzone got a reaction from PureExistence1 in The weight loss thread   
    How's it going for everyone? 
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    Carlzone got a reaction from Abu Nur in Using Muslim (Shia) matrimonial website   
    Since the picture has been a deal breaker several times I think it's best to show it straight away so you only get to know girls who are attracted to you. Besides, that saves you time and heartache. 
  18. My Prayers
    Carlzone got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in Missing members   
    Salam aleykom, 
    I've noticed that @hasanhh is missing. 
    Does anyone know if he is allright? I'm a bit worried that God forbid something has happened to him. 
    Other members are also missing, like shiasoldier786, mahdavist, ron_burgundy. What's up with them? Come back and participate! 
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    Carlzone reacted to Ralvi in Apple juice vs orange juice   
    Ok now I’m jealous, I flipping love sugarcanes!!!
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    Carlzone got a reaction from Sirius_Bright in Using Muslim (Shia) matrimonial website   
    Since the picture has been a deal breaker several times I think it's best to show it straight away so you only get to know girls who are attracted to you. Besides, that saves you time and heartache. 
  21. Completely Agree
    Carlzone got a reaction from Murtaza1 in Showing body parts after proposal   
    You didn't adress that men shouldn't treat other people's daughters or sisters in a way that they don't like their sisters or daughters to be treated. Hypocrisy is very common in the Islamic community. 
    He can't know that she will be his future wife. It is a violation of her dignity, selfworth and selfrespect, especially when she wouldn't even consider him. Who is he to be assuming that he's so impressive that she would say yes to him without even talking to her? That's not even reasonable. First he needs to find out what her criteria is and then compare himself to it, before even thinking about looking at her. And if he has some dignity and selfrespect himself he would ask her first and not be hiding like a coward perv in the bushes. 
    And yes, there are enormous amounts of absolutely disgusting pervs that will abuse this in the name of islam. That is not something I'm assuming. That is something I'm confident of. 
    I'm saying random dudes, because they are random dudes, especially since they don't know if she'd even consider them, which she won't in the majority of cases. There is no way a man can know that she will say yes unless he finds out her criteria first, which makes looking at her completely unnecessary.  
    He can get a good idea of what she looks like just by seeing her IRL. If I can figure out how my female friends' bodies look like just by seeing them moving around in their regular clothes, I'm sure men with their creative and vivid imaginations can do it too. 
    Besides, if he's so superficial that he'd divorce his wife after marriage even though he's gotten a good idea of her looks before marriage, then good riddance. She should be happy. She can marry a more honourable man instead. We do have hadiths stating that a man who marries a woman for her looks will not find anything he likes in her. So it's better to marry someone who isn't marrying you solely for your looks and thus rid yourself of superficial guys. 
    By the way, women do dump men because of their looks too. And women can get disappointed with a man after marriage too. She might not be happy with what he has to offer. I've heard several females complain about not being satisfied with their men after marriage because of intimate details they could not have known before marriage and wanting to leave them because of that. 
    It's not wajib to tell people you're married, so no, he can't automatically assume she's not married and violate her and her husband. He needs to ask first. 
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    Carlzone got a reaction from Zulfiqar1472 in Showing body parts after proposal   
    Many women are not at all comfortable with showing themselves without hijab to nonmahrams. Let alone to creepy unknown men who feel that it's ok to violate his eventual future wife that way. 
    I don't like the dishonest way of doing it behind a female's back. If you value a genuine, authentic and honest relationship, then a man who is ok with doing something like that is not an appealing man in terms of marriage.
    Also, if the female will say no to 99% of men, why should they see her without hijab? 
    It's more reasonable to check if she's even interested before random dudes that she'd never consider are seeing all her beauty.
    When a man does get married to a female, will he be comfortable knowing that God knows how many men have seen her without hijab?
    Besides, a momin should want for others what he wants for himself. Is he ok with random dudes checking out his sisters or daughters? If not, then he shouldn't do it to other people's sisters or daughters either.
    Also, it could even be haram as some sisters are married without telling others. I know several such cases. So if a stranger woman takes a picture of them and shows it to men while the sister in fact is married  - then that is a violation of both that sister and her husband. 
    It's better to man up and talk to the sister and see her IRL in a normal environment without hiding in a bush. If they don't find eachother attractive, then that's that. No one dies. Life goes on without dishonest methods. 
  23. Haha
    Carlzone got a reaction from Zulfiqar1472 in Showing body parts after proposal   
    Ok, so now we need to cover up from women too. Hijab 24/7 and wearing abayas at parties. Great.
  24. Disagree
    Carlzone reacted to Ibn al-Hussain in Showing body parts after proposal   
    How is it a violation of a future wife for someone to know what she looks like before he sends a proposal to her? You are just presuming you have random creepy guys going around asking descriptions of every girl they know of - this is not what the law is legislating. It is permitting a serious candidate to do so. Would you rather the person ends up marrying you and then divorcing you because he didn't like what he saw? Also, you are not giving these guys the benefit of the doubt, but giving all the women in your women gathering the benefit of the doubt that no one in there takes pictures and shares them around with other men of their family. The latter seems more naive than letting a serious candidate look at some picture or be given a description.
    There is nothing dishonest about this. The same religion that has asked you to cover up has also given a serious candidate permission to look at you without hijab in such a scenario with the three, four conditions mentioned in the ruling.
    The ruling says he gives a reasonable probability she will say yes to the proposal. So that is already a condition mentioned in the ruling.
    How is this any different than things like if a divorced or widowed woman marries again while her next husband knows that a previous man had not only seen but has had sexual relationships with her? These laws aren't based on someone's personal comfort level.
    Why do you keep saying "random dudes"? We are talking about a marriage proposer here who is willing to spend the rest of his life with this woman. Not a "random dude".
    It isn't haram if they have hidden this information to such an extent that no one knows about it. We act based on apparent knowledge. Otherwise, it is for reasons like these and other reasons that it is mustahabb to announce one's marriage.
    Those who accept that a man can see beyond the face and hands do not debate this bolded part. We have a narration to back this up as well.
    Wasalam
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    Carlzone got a reaction from habib e najjaar in Women’s bodies and their choice of dress   
    I agree with most of what you're saying. 
    I came to Europe as a small small child and I went to kindergarten and school and university here. All western ones. And I basically didn't have Muslim friends growing up. 
    My parents didn't allow me to go swimming, dancing or travelling with the other kids. They didn't allow me to go to parties or anything like that. I didn't even know what alcohol smelled like until some years ago when I was on a boat travelling to another country and westerners were smelling weird. That is how I found out what alcohol smells like. And the country I live in has amongst the highest alcohol consumption levels in the world. 
    As for TV - it's very dangerous as it brainwashes us without us realizing it. I abandoned TV perhaps 9 years ago and I don't think i would allow my kids to watch TV freely. I'd check what they want to watch. I'd encourage them to watch religious channels. Or just spend quality time together instead of being glued in front of a TV.
    As for raising kids, personally, I would be a stay at home mom and not allow them to go to kindergarten, because I have worked there myself and seen what they brainwash kids with. For instance that girls and boys are the same (which I myself was taught and believed for a long time), homosexuality in books as something ok and natural etc.
    I would not want westerners to get to my kids minds and belief systems before me. 
    Anyway, my point is that you can stay away from all of those haram things if you want to, even in fasadspreading places. Yes, it's more difficult. And if you have the option of moving to an even better and less fadadspreading country then of course that is better. 
    In the end I believe that what is most important is to live by Islamic standards yourself and to have a good relationship with your kids. Coz then they'd want to be like you. 
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