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Everything posted by Carlzone

  1. How much selfrespect do you have if you see yourself as livestock and are willing to show everything to anyone?
  2. Thank you all for your replies. I'm worried about hasanhh because he's an older member. And I can't remember him being gone so long before. InshaAllah everything is allright with him. I'd beat you both Took me 49 hours 8 minutes and I was slowed down by relatives!
  3. Salam aleykom, I've noticed that @hasanhh is missing. Does anyone know if he is allright? I'm a bit worried that God forbid something has happened to him. Other members are also missing, like shiasoldier786, mahdavist, ron_burgundy. What's up with them? Come back and participate!
  4. Don't be. Last time I had it in Damascus was in 2006-2007. Haven't been there since. Also, I loved their strawberry juices/drinks there. They did get me food poisoned, but they were totally worth it! Where do you get your sugarcanes from?
  5. You didn't adress that men shouldn't treat other people's daughters or sisters in a way that they don't like their sisters or daughters to be treated. Hypocrisy is very common in the Islamic community. He can't know that she will be his future wife. It is a violation of her dignity, selfworth and selfrespect, especially when she wouldn't even consider him. Who is he to be assuming that he's so impressive that she would say yes to him without even talking to her? That's not even reasonable. First he needs to find out what her criteria is and then compare himself to it, before even thinkin
  6. It's also a matter of a female's sense of dignity and selfworth. You can be certain that you are very attractive and have loads of suitors desperate to marry you yet still feel very uneasy being treated like cattle. I think it's a matter of self respect. At the same time there are females who aren't particularly attractive at all yet they are willing to show everything to anyone.
  7. A question. Then why is it only halal for a female to marry a Sunni if she isn't led astray?
  8. Since the picture has been a deal breaker several times I think it's best to show it straight away so you only get to know girls who are attracted to you. Besides, that saves you time and heartache.
  9. You are right about it being wrong to judge before hearing both parties. Counsellors are taught to never make this mistake. However, sometimes, just by hearing certain parts of a story one can tell if it's wise to continue or not. In this case it's very clear, as her deen is weakening when she's with this guy. Our souls are the most valuable thing we have. No one on this planet is worth losing our soul for.
  10. Many women are not at all comfortable with showing themselves without hijab to nonmahrams. Let alone to creepy unknown men who feel that it's ok to violate his eventual future wife that way. I don't like the dishonest way of doing it behind a female's back. If you value a genuine, authentic and honest relationship, then a man who is ok with doing something like that is not an appealing man in terms of marriage. Also, if the female will say no to 99% of men, why should they see her without hijab? It's more reasonable to check if she's even interested before random dudes that sh
  11. I agree with most of what you're saying. I came to Europe as a small small child and I went to kindergarten and school and university here. All western ones. And I basically didn't have Muslim friends growing up. My parents didn't allow me to go swimming, dancing or travelling with the other kids. They didn't allow me to go to parties or anything like that. I didn't even know what alcohol smelled like until some years ago when I was on a boat travelling to another country and westerners were smelling weird. That is how I found out what alcohol smells like. And the country I live in
  12. Ok, so now we need to cover up from women too. Hijab 24/7 and wearing abayas at parties. Great.
  13. "But the worst enemy you can meet will always be yourself; you lie in wait for yourself in caverns and forests. Lonely one, you are going the way to yourself! And your way goes past yourself, and past your seven devils! You will be a heretic to yourself and witch and soothsayer and fool and doubter and unholy one and villain. You must be ready to burn yourself in your own flame: how could you become new, if you had not first become ashes?”

  14. @IbnSina It's not possible for everyone to move back home. I've been in Iraq quite a lot lately, each time getting deeper into the Iraqi society. Honestly, the fasad and filth I came across there (in our holy cities!) were much worse than what I have come across in Europe. Now I'm thinking that it's safer to have my future kids grow up in Europe rather than in Iraq. Very sad, but true.
  15. @Ralvi Protect your sisters and teach them about male psychology. Most females are naive and get taken advantage of because they don't know how the male psyche works.
  16. God bless you for being so clear sighted! Sometimes the weird (or quite frankly retarded) thought patterns that are pervasive within certain cultures in the shia community are themselves the root causes to people being destroyed in abusive marriages. Females are taught to accept abusive disrespectful males as husbands. To have "sabr". These men are not going to change. And those poor girls are expected to make up for the faults of these abusive males. Girls need to be taught to value themselves and to never ever accept an abusive or disrespectful husband. And when these abusiv
  17. After all this mistreatment and she wants to support him financially too? That will probably make things even worse. He will learn that he doesn't even have to provide for her. I have seen couples like this. Absolute disaster.
  18. It's Friday!!!! = Waffle day Yeeeaay! Plus pomegranate day. And perhaps some chocolates and tea
  19. Tell your friend to learn how to differentiate a good man from a bad one, so she doesn't end up in the same scenario again (which is pretty common amongst girls who choose bad men). Pick good men. There are plenty out there.
  20. If he weakens your religion, isn't the answer quite obvious? Leave him.
  21. I ate the quince yesterday. It was a bit strange. Tasted ok, not "wow". I wonder if all quince are like that or if there are different sorts with different qualities and tastes. I'm planning on eating grapes. Purple round grapes.
  22. Wearing a black abaya in the west does cause attention, especially if you only study or work with westerners. It's much easier if you're a stay at home mom or woman. Then you can wear whatever you want without worrying about colleagues etc. If you can make it work with a black abaya, then that's great, but for most sisters in the younger generations it doesn't work. And at some work places you're not even allowed to wear it, for instance at hospitals. There's nothing wrong with wearing loose "normal" clothes/dresses. But still that can be difficult for curvy sisters to pull off as ev
  23. Wa aleykom alsalam sister, Yes, all the way to hum feeha khaalidoon. If I would describe the severe case here and the miraculous change that happened after I did this people would not believe me. More than a decade of frustration was resolved just by doing this. SubhanAllah, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is Kareem. Alhamdulillah weshokorr.
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