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  1. ديوث is mentioned in aHadith yes. I do not have aHadith about it but I have come across some in past. Like how such a man cannot enter Jannah (Sunnis have this too) or others explaining what the "dayooth" is i.e. someone who has no ghayrah over his wife and family. You can search Alseraj.net for specific term to find out the exact aHadith.
  2. Do the above ^^^. Secondly, recite Surah al Qadr repeatedly during Ghusl and Wudhu.
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  4. I cannot explain the reason for it from the Fiqh. From my own understanding, grieving like that is disliked by Allah because the death of a son or a wife or another relative, no matter how close was from Allah. And verily we belong to Allah, and verily to Him do we return. So it is disliked to grieve in this matter. Another reason, from a human point of view, if a person grieves like this and does not show sabr at this time such as when his wife has died, then who will console his children. He lost his wife surely but the children have lost their mother. He will not be able to take care of and console his own children in a time like this. Same goes for a son's death, he will need to show Sabr for others who are left behind and may need him to get through a hard time like that. Apologies if you wanted an explanation from purely Fiqh point of view.
  5. 1. When something is Wajib or recommended, we don't look for science to validate it. There are enough aHadith about this present how it is an impurity. The hair growth under arms and below navel is from Allah too but we are again asked to trim it. There is evidence present about benefits of circumcision and the same holds true for removing the said hair. It is better for hygiene. 2. You should read the same line before they say it should be performed in each direction making it four times i.e. it is a recommended precaution if there is time. You are talking about a scenario which is very very rarely going to happen if ever. If I am lost, I have no certainty of Qibla and I have time, I would rather sit and perform prayers and be close to Allah and ask for support and guidance in a dark time like that instead of thinking about the Maraja who said if you are lost, you should pray 4 times, one each in every direction. Ruling 771. If someone does not have any means to find the direction of qibla, or despite his efforts he cannot arrive at a supposition as to its direction, it is sufficient for him to perform prayers facing one direction. Furthermore, the recommended precaution is that if there is enough time, he should perform prayers four times, each time facing one of the four compass directions [i.e. what he supposes to be north, east, south, and west]. Are there questions about a few things on my mind, yes, sure but the questions won't make me doubt the religion I follow or give me a reason not to observe it. If I am lucky enough to live in the time of Imam Mahdi (ajtf), I will surely ask him. I won't find some sticking point and keep poking it about religion because I follow the magnificent personalities that were the Prophet Muhammad (saww) and the Imams (عليه السلام) like Imam Ali (عليه السلام). Whichever God they followed, I follow. Whichever acts they did, I try to follow to the best of my abilities in hopes of becoming a better human and yes, for salvation, in this world and the hereafter. So I don't personally see the problem with following rules that are known in Islam esp. when there is enough evidence that almost everything that has been deemed Haram in Islam, were proven, are proven and will be proven to be bad and with adverse effects on the human body.
  6. Honestly, I don't understand any of what you wrote but thank you for your response.
  7. I think it is wrong terming bad women "Zulaykkhas" of this world because there are mentions of her repentance present. Yes, you cannot define anyone by their past. It was between them and Allah and if they repented sincerely and did not repeat the offense then it is their own matter. No one is suggesting going to strip clubs and coming out with a stripper to marry. This verse in particular is talking about habitual offenders and does not include those who have repented. This is why there are commentaries and aHadith present about ayahs. From a fiqhi point of view, the Maraja say it is not permission to marry as an obligatory precaution unless they have repented so it is not Haram. There are many ahadith mentioned in Major Sins for Zina and some of it mention how badly the person who committed Zina will smell in the hereafter but mention unless they repented before their death. Surah Nur, also says, "[Yusufali 24:26] Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honourable." If you just want to go by one Ayah's translation without context or understanding then what does it mean for the above Ayah when a woman or man may be pure when they marry but one of them becomes a fornicator after marriage. Does that mean it makes that one good person impure too because they are married to a person who becomes vile later. How many times have pure women or men been married to the opposite in this world? Because sins happen behind closed doors and no one knows of another's past sins. There are also numerous Ayahs present that indicate someone who has lost hope of repentance from Allah, lost hope of mercy from Allah, that act is called kufr too. This thinking of considering someone vile for the rest of their lives based on a past sin will make them lose hope in the mercy of Allah. These days there are also false accusations of zina on women, which may just very well be rumors and hearsay. Then there's this Hadith, the Prophet ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)) said, “Be careful of backbiting because backbiting is worse than adultery, in that a person who commits adultery can repent and ask forgiveness from God, and Allãh can forgive him whereas Allãh will not forgive the backbiter until the person who was at the receiving end forgives him.”
  8. Chores are necessary, teaches the children to care for themselves, their own families some day. Same goes for other household work. Reminds me of something. He actually stopped his grandson from picking up the dishes for its women's job. So it has been like opposite........ This is true for many countries. Where men would be from their childhood taught certain things like this i.e. that's not your job. Let the girls do it. I remember stories from people, happening until the late 90's, when commercial chicken farming was not introduced on large scale. If meat was cooked, the boys would get good pieces of meat, girls would end up with no meat or the pieces with almost no meat on them. This probably still happens.
  9. I don't know who the you is supposed to be in these sentences. Who is talking about revenge in this topic?
  10. I don't think anyone's past should be anyone else's business. It was between them and Allah and if Allah can forgive, who are we humans not to. With that said, as just_passing_by has said above, the reality is different in this world unfortunately. Allah hides our sins. Everyone of us can just think of our past and count all the sins we have committed, may not be as grave of a sin as zina but still sins. If any of it were to come out, no matter how small of a sin you think it is, I don't think any of us will be able to live in this judgemental society. If someone's sin did become public then they get MORE of a chance to repent. It perhaps is also a test for others in society to look at and they may very well be judged based on how they act with this person. A person like this may end up committing zina again because of the judgmental society and with no option of marriage left for her. For someone who has repented, this may be the thought process but they should also remember where they came from. I'd say usually it is because of their own trust issues. After all, it is the thief who will suspect everyone else of being a thief too and out of 10 people made to stand in line for theft, only the thief will be worried about getting caught. I've known of case where the guy dates a girl, the girl is made to believe they will be marrying when he is able to but he'd dump her before his marriage to another, "virgin" girl and says straight to her face, you committed zina with me, who's to say you won't do it with another man after we are married.
  11. Wa'Salam, - Option trading is extremely risky and I will call it straight out gambling because in other CFDs, you may look at bigger time frames and thus able to deduce it better, you cannot do that in short times which is what calls/puts usually are. In addition, its straight win or lose, betting the entire money. You will either gain 90% or lose it all. With other CFDs, you can get out anytime you want, you may end up with 30% profit or 100% profit, may end up with 0% profit or go in loss at any percentage. I don't think any Marja would allow it as Halal. - Short selling is again quite questionable and won't be allowed. - Day trading, I don't see a problem. These are my personal opinions and you need to refer to your Marja for opinions to be valid.
  12. Thank you. Any partner who would not care in such a time obviously needs to have a better understanding towards their partner i.e. being tired, not inspired etc.
  13. How should one go about dealing with a difference of libido in a couple? Where one partner has a normal or higher than normal libido and the other has lower than normal or almost no libido. I also want to know if the lack of sexual education or awareness in conservative Muslim societies where any discussion about this subject is a taboo can cause this problem where some people may end up having a very low libido. Even talking about Ghusl e Janabah from the pulpit is considered taboo and bad so you can imagine this not being discussed in private groups either.
  14. I have struggled with this all my life and I am at a point now where I can simply come out and say it. In our religion, your parents orders are an obligation on you (the mother's orders will supersede father's by the way). The parents know this too. Mothers are from another planet all together so most of what I say does not apply to mothers, except some unfortunate mothers out there. Do not bring your work home with you if you can help it. Do not vent out your work problems on your children. Do not verbally abuse your children. Under no circumstance, absolutely zilch, should you hit your children. Do not force your children or let anyone else in family force them to take up a career path that your child has no interest in. Ask your children how their day was and esp. make it a point, let them understand they can tell you if someone touches them inappropriately etc. given how full of pedos this world has become. Do not leave your children alone when they don't understand the right or wrong or don't know how to defend themselves. Everyone knows that, right? So here's something MOST important: Just because you want a good personal secretary who understands computers or is a "master at computers", do not ask your children to do the work that you get paid for, that should otherwise be done by either you yourself or someone you can hire to do for you. Since we are taught parents orders are an obligation, your children won't be able to say no to it and do it for you. The parents may think they can make their children do anything because of this obligation but please, please, do not apply this to everything in your children's life esp. when it involves your own Office work. Throughout the years, I was made to do this. I am saying made because I literally had no choice. How do you say no to your father when he asks you to do something, when you know the answer in no may end up being violent. I was his own personal secretary that he would proudly boast about to everyone and probably still does. What no one realized except my mother that it ended up effecting my studies. I was also forced to take a study path which I was never interested in. I was never interested in that subject and found it incomprehensible, to the point where I failed, not only in that subject but in others which I was acing otherwise. In end, I never really got out of it and it fell like dominoes after that. I was never able to go through a career path I wanted. Someone involved in the decision of my study path denies this was the reason I failed. In fact, they make it a point that I had the last decade to do anything I wanted. Some people end up going into career paths later in their life. They study, get a degree and end up with a job but I lost the will to do anything. So may be I am a failure myself and I am only coming up with excuses to put in on others but please don't do this to your children. They may not say anything about it but you will have to answer for the wrongs you did to them. P.S. This does not include just helping them with something work related that they might otherwise not be able to do i.e. some issue with their phone or computer. Just don't make them your full time secretaries or helpers.
  15. Bill Gates said it's hard to deny vaccine conspiracy theories involving him because they're 'so stupid' "I've never been involved any sort of microchip-type thing," he said, adding, "It's almost hard to deny this stuff because it's so stupid or strange." Source
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