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Zellali

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  1. I was wondering, if a previous rapist or murderer or zalim(abuser) (already Muslim, not revert/convert) dies in the forces fighting for Muslims, or dies and they knew they were going to die but did anyways for the sake of Allah or Islam (some people are ready to give up their lives for religion and Allah but don’t give up their very bias views and/or accept the wrong acts they committed in accordance to those views). What would happen to that person? According to normal views, all previous sins are forgiven, but isn’t that injustice with the abused? The same question for the non Muslims turned Muslims. Things that they did that harmed others severely during the time they were non Muslims, if God says that all previous sins are forgiven, how does he balance out the injustice being done to the victims?
  2. AOA, I was thinking of writing down places in the world i'd love to visit; it came to my mind that why not asking people of the certain areas! So, what's the most visited or most popular city in your country (open to suggestions of people living in the countries at the time, and of your own home countries). Can't wait to hear from you all! Jazakallah Khair
  3. ya i guessed that. but i mean as in genetically dark.
  4. I just finished highschool, and now im going to what you can call college. I'm going to persue engineering, though im still unsure which field im going to choose.
  5. Assalamo alaikum, I was wondering whether there were any Prophets that were black or of very dark colour? If there were, who they were, and how do we know for sure about the colours. Also, what about the prominent Prophets, such as Hazrat Isa (A.S.), Hazrat Ibrahim (A.S.), and others, what complexion where they of? It's just a general curiosity, and I'm not targeting any sensitive topics or such, just want to gain some knowledge because as i've grown being taught about such personalities, but for some odd reason i'd only think of them as white or fair prophets, i guess its just how we've been wired to think, even as children, even though i don't remember my parents or teachers ever specifying such a thing. Looking forward to all the feedback,
  6. Zellali

    How old are you?

    im 17 nearly 18 in a few months
  7. AOA @starlight i dont know about others but I've heard Ammar Nakhwani is not really someone who should be taken seriously on all the topics he covers. I do agree that some things he has explained and talked about are correct, however ive heard some things are not. Just like the tattoo topic, which i do think is a bit controversial since temporary tattoos are not allowed accordning to the sayings he takes support from and ive always thought, isnt henna just that? although i do agree , islam al-org is amazing!
  8. AOA, i just wanted to know if anyone could recommend any good shia scholars videos, or channels, in english. i'm trying to learn more about my religion, and hope that you'll all comment some good ways i can expand my knowledge. i will be learning through reading the Holy Quran, and Najul Balagha, but also wanted to listen to some good meaningful lectures, or short videos, you know how theres 'mercifulservant' and 'theprophetspath; on youtube. Are there any shia based channels like this? They make short videos and tell beautiful stories and very nicely relate things to tell about the topic they choose. Thank for the help in advance!! Jazakallah Khair <3
  9. i was wondering why The Ahlulbayt TV videos dont have as much recognition as it should, since it is very informative, gives opinions on almost most major and minor issues? i dont see as many views nor comments,you know? it even has life story videos, that can be motivating and helpful for different careers or things people would like to do in their life https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChPH7BL0XBUytQCq7KYaqlA
  10. I was in a really helpless place, and couldn’t stop crying after holding a very strong front for what seemed to feel like a very long time. I started asking Allah for mercy and help, and started repeating “Ya Rehman Ya Rahim” After a while I realised I’d suddenly calmed down, completely. But then everythint struck me again and I started crying again, and started repeating the words again. Once again suddenly, it felt as if suddenly I was completely okay. That there was nothing to worry about, and I dont even know how to explain it. It was like I couldn’t cry any more because as if there was nothing to cry about. It was so beautiful, and indescribable
  11. So sad to hear Inna lilahe wa inna elahai rajeoon. May Allah grant her one of the highest places in Jannah.
  12. @rkazmi33 sorry about the misunderstanding, I was just trying to highlight that even if my dad can and does financially support us, my mom helps a lot in making that support look bigger. Im Kazmi too haha that’s why I was wondering. Insh’Allah I will go out. My brothers don’t know what he accuses her of. She’s just been telling them it’s how he is because it’s how he was raised. Everytime her and I talk about it, she tells me to quiet down as if she’ll be embarrassed or his saying will degrade Her in front of my brothers. I dont know. He always compares me to other excellent students, and while I may not know what goes in their lives wholly, you know you can just tell by the certain freedom give to them or a certain carefreeness they have around themselves that they’re not in such an environment that their studies would be affected. Alhamdullilah things have gotten much better today. See, now I just feel bad that I posted this because he’s being so nice to everyone. It’s like we’re in a rollercoster ride, one moment we’re exhilarated and the next we want to puke. Anyways, thank you so so much for all your advice. InshAllah things will be better soon.
  13. I know my mother would be as well. But she can’t financially support use as much. Right now he may have financial issues but it’s not like he never brings anything. Sometimes he brings more than expected. It’s just that it’s not a stable thing, and he knows that but he doesn’t know how to overcome it (because jobs here can’t pay for the expenses our family has, even if we cut down on them, unless you’re in a very high level job or business).
  14. Thank you so much. I will surely try this. I’ve just felt so helpless and ive only turned to Allah always, whether it be to request help or mercy, or even complain (astaghfirullah) about this. If im honest, when I was younger and naive, the only reason I didn’t really commit suicide was because I didn’t want to disappoint Allah, after all the bounties He’d My parents are going for Hajj this year, and I hope Allah listens to moms pleas soon. InshAllah, I will go to ziarat with my mom and brothers, and I hope my dad as well. We’ve done umrah as a family too (3 years ago). But I can not go with her any time soon. This is a fact (unless Allah (azwj) decides otherwise).
  15. No it’s not about abandonment, I’m sure they would take her up no matter what. My youngest uncle had financial issues almost after he got married (which was nearly 20 years ago) and my eldest (Who is a doctor but didn’t start earning as well since the recent years) had been supporting him and hain family all these years. My youngest aunt (khala) has struggled Financially during her marriage, and my uncle helped. Now, he needs a job and is struggling. i agree with you, but my mother will never. She IS right that she couldn’t provide us with a shelter, and she can’t support us financially, let alone seperate my brothers from my father (she tells them it’s just the way he is, and it’s no big deal, she wants to keep them in the shadows about this unlike me Who was exposed from a really early age, and now I respond very aggressively towards my father in such situation, although most of the time I might not directly do it), whom my father does a good job of keeping well maintained with. I agree, but I really want to get a scholarship abroad since we all know the best is there, and I’ve been working so hard for the best, ps it’s my mothers (and father’s) dream for me to get a scholarship abroad My father has been very distant with his own family and straight forward with them about not believing in these fake pirs; the problem is, what if they come in the way of my higher education (all of my cousins are only village level high school education, and don’t be believe firmly in getting it further, girls And boys). My mom says she won’t let anything happen and that she’ll send me one or another, but what if it causes issues?? My father can’t even trust me going out with my friends, let alone to another country for four years! This is what my mom says, and I say that it’s been 18 years. If he had to realise something it woulda happened. She says she’s seen him change a lot , and I agree. But it doesn’t really matter when he goes right back to being his olderself, whenever he likes, however he desires.
  16. First of all, my dad is what in our society (im from islamabad, pakistan) we'd call "religious". He prays five times a day, fasts, gives zakat, knows widely about the religion, and makes sure we know all of that. The part where he strays is that he believes my mom likes to show herself off, and likes the attention of other men. She can't do something as simple as taking a shower and going to work (teaching grade 1 students) the next day, without my dad thinking she's trying impress someone My mom has sacrificed her life for us, compromised for us (im the eldest daughter (17) , and i have three younger brothers (12,9,8)), because four years after the marriage he started showing his true colours. Btw, this was an arranged marriage, so none of that "maybe he feels like she'll love someone else". He's just an insecure man, with anger issues, who has never blamed himself for anything or openly apologised for the big arguments HE causes (not in the time ive been alive and been able to understand), thinks he knows best and there is no one better than him, doesn't have ANY real friends, and the one he does have, he constantlysays [Edited Out] about him to my mom, and then goes and places his world to the feet of this friend (btw this friend isnt alll that amazing either, but least he isnt a [Edited Out] bag like my dad( believe me i know)). when i was younger he used to physically abuse and hurt my mom, and he used to hit me too. he even went to saying that I also have a boyfriend when all i did was go upstairs to get a book (apparently there was some guy at the balcony opposite to our house, and i was " trying to communicate with him". i didnt take this lightly and raised voice and finger and started hitting me and dragged me down the stairs, and just like my nine year old self, i wanted to die and just kept repeating ' should have jusy killed me you ass' (this was two years ago). we had video camerasn around the house so mom opened them up, and showed i had done no such thing. he didnt apologise, he didnt even do anything to show remorse, instead justified everything from thefact that a raised my voise and held my finger up. a year ago, i was upset with him for another reason, and i told my mom. i told her to leave it that it was whatever, ill get over it. but she bought it up, and we got into an argument, and i do admit i shouldnt have misbehaved again (only verbally like raising my voice or rolling my eyes) but he got so aggressive and tried to slap me so i stopped him and threw his hand away,,, he went to the kitchen and got a knife , and all i could think agout was my mom cause she was trying to stop him and he kept saying "THIS IS WHY YOU SEE FATHERS KILLING THEIR DAUGHTERs ON THE NEWS" and "YOUVE TAAUGHT THEM NOTNHING YOUNSELFISH, USELESS, (swear word, more swear words, swearing at her family)". a couple a days ago, hes started fighting with her again even though its my international exams that make up my grade for my university. in the morning i woke up to my mom begging him to just stop cause he kept saying "i know what you do, i know your actions, i know your disgusting behaviour" (btw we know that this craziness is over once he just starts getting , ok? like it just dies down). as a child, id always step in, even get a few slaps if i had to to get in between him hurting her, but ive grown now and know my duties given to me by Allah, about respecting my parents, and getting in between ( my mom also keeps saying its just two more years, you'll be off to uni then and everything will be fine, and ' pls dont waste my sacrifices' everytime i want to interfere (hes threatened stopping me from studying several times). ever since i was small my dad has told me to aim for a scholarship because he knew more abput this stuff, but now i think, would he even let me leave the city let alone country to continue studies? hes rejected going to a psychologist, talking to anybody (he doesnt believe he has a problem, he thinks my moms the problem) about this, he says we make him angry and that before marriage he was never like this ( he has changed a lot in the sense that my mom and i can wear clothes like jeans but only with long shirts (my moms always worn a duppatta over her head (covers her hair)). cant get my dads side involved firstly, theyd love this. secondly, theyre all like this themselves. his sisters do burka andd all but theyre always free to go wherever whenever, meet whoever. they sometimes go ariund with this 'pir' (guy who does black magic) but if we point that out, all hell would brreak loose on us. (his sisters got married to two brothers, so same household). theyre background is from a not even respectable village, so i cant count on them. cant tell my moms side, they already have their own financial and family issues (my mom doesnt want us four to become a drama in our family, whatever that means cause like our house isnt already a drama). sometimes my mom gets so fed up, she says "MAY Allah TAKE ME SO YOU (my dad) CAN HAPPY AND MARRY ANOTHER WIFE" and now hes started saying " may he, so you burn in hell". he says all these other wives are so obedient and nice, but shes not. he says the money my mom brings in holds no value to him, even though she doesnt get to use it, he uses it all, our groceries and school fees are payed with it (oh and he hasnt had a job in years, sells plots and gets profit, but now none of that is working either so the 'no valued' monry shes been bringijng in since 6 years, is all that is coming into our house. hes in the world where Allah has made him the ' man' of this household, however he doesnt fulfill the duties and says my mom is the reason why there are no blessings in her house. he tells her to leaveher job, and says Allah will provide us with the money, that we'll be fine without hers (our fees are cut 75% short because of her, and we get house groceries, petrol for the car, and whatnot from her salary and our rent (which again is none of his own hardwork, our grandfather gave us this house)). i know this is very long, but please help me. ive thought about killing myself from the age of 7 to 14, i even used to self harm thinking if he saw me in the state hes put my mind in the pressure and the mistreatement (moms mistreatement is what gets to me, he doesnt do much to my brothers except for the middle one whom he thought wasnt his and rejected him emotionally for four years and now hes become habitual on scolding him the most, and my brother knows my dad rejects him the most but all he does is get upst over it). ive been so patient these pasts months, but ive had enough. this morning i walked in on them , half sleep, holding everything i could grab (like spray bottles, perfumes, my bloody mascara botle) to throw it at him because it seemed llike he was gonna get physical again. please help me, please please pplease
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