So I've met someone who is practically a convert (began practicing and believing as a young adult), and I myself am a convert. I was a sunni for well over a decade but became shi'a a couple years ago, but i still lack the level of knowledge I had as a sunni. We're strongly considering getting married (tbh im sold, she seems to want to see if I reveal bad character traits) and are both working professionals, living in two different cities. We're taking time to decide for sure and are getting our affairs in order, but in the meantime I have visited her; the first of at least a few visits before relocating. We have a Mutah currently, to end in a few days.
While we are apart we have used facetime to interact, but her discomfort in coming home from work just to throw hijab back on to talk to me hasn't escaped my notice, and I want to accomodate that.
My hope is that as I've seen her without hijab that it wouldn't be required anymore, even after the mutah ends, but with my understanding of Islam I'm not holding my breath that this is the case. Has anyone seen an elaboration on this or know more?
If that isn't possible then my hope is she will be interested in a longer mutah afterwards, to cover the future trips as well as the time we are distant. At the mention of this before this mutah she didn't want to do that, but perhaps it will be worth mentioning. It might be a selling point if there is a way for the woman to guarantee a return of her time and an end to the mutah as I believe her hesitation came from the fear that if it didn't work out she would have the full length of the mutah, plus the iddah, preventing her from looking at other options if I decided to not return her time. Any suggestions on that?