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  1. W. Salam Read Ziyarah of Ashura for 40 days it brings miracles. Inshallah And don't you have any common friend? Try to talk to your husband through his social media accounts... Or create a fake account, try calling him from a different number. You seem so hopeful to mend your relationship. Inshallah he will come around as well. It is very sad what his family is doing. Now a days people are very religious but yet not afraid of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى)... Lack of fear of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) makes people do horrible things... And they don't even realize they are wrong. I hope and pray you are successful in reconciling with your husband. Ameen sum ameen. May Ahlul Bait (عليه السلام) help you. Ameen.
  2. @rkazmi33 i understand what you mean. I don't have friends. I've got my family though. . Alhamdullillah and thats all. I've got no social life... And its awkward. Who doesn't have friends, right?? Anyway i've suffered alot about wanting to know more people,making good friends, having good relationships, being normal...mending broken relationships.. Connecting with extended family members.. Cousins.. A whole lot of relations are missing from my life. Someone told me that the more you grow up the harder it is to connect and trust people. And that is so true. And Imam Ali (عليه السلام) said if you want to live in peace... Leave far away from people... I'm coming to terms with it because i think it's okay. It's okay to not have best of friends... Good company.. Or not having a social life. It's totally normal. I just think that there won't be many people who will cry for me when i die.. Or come to my janaza... So these are few of my thoughts but if Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) wants it like this... Its okay. There must be a reason why we are lonely and left out... But find what makes you happy. That is important. Always be nice and kind... That helps a lot... So you know that it's other peoples loss if they are not part of your life anymore. I have experienced that only if you can love someone unconditionally only then you will do whatever it takes to save that relationship. Every relationship.. Be it parents or anyone else require sacrifices. And its sad.
  3. Alsalam Alaikum, You can not pray for someone who is alive. And if you are feeling guilty than don't worry Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will forgive you Inshallah. No soul can take the burden of another. You just try and convince your friend to do his Qadaa.... But thats all you can do. You said you didn't know whatever it was. So you didn't do it on purpose. Or donate some money if you have any. Giving charity always helps with everything.
  4. I need a civil and an islamic divorce. My marriage is registered and to get divorce i need both divorces. My family is Sunni and i could get a shiaria law divorce but will still need to get civil one. It was an arrange marriage, my husband has mental health issues. I only got to know him after we started talking after our nikah... So it can not work. Even now its been so many years we haven't talked but he doesn't care... His parents are doing everything.. Or rather nothing. They have made it an ego issue. It's all messed up. And i have read some articles on pk websites that if i have right to divorce i don't need to file for khula or go to court to get divorce.
  5. Alsalam alaikum I need to know if a woman who has right to divorce her husband on Nikah Nama, can get divorce without going to court? I am despairing... I have no one who can help me.. Patience has become very very hard.. Being patient since 3 years. But keep doing so to not make my father mad/angry at me. I have separated from my husband from 3 years but they refuse to divorce. My father doesn't want to go to court because i was married to my cousin and its family so... And plus he thinks it takes years and years to get divorce in Pakistan and my husbands father is a lawyer himself so... My father is too scared to do anything and keeps hoping for a miracle that they will change their mind and give me divorce on their own....which seems impossible, its already been 3 years and nothing changes... My dad arranged this marriage and was so mad and still has a grudge against me in his heart for getting out of this marriage that i sometimes think he wants to punish me by keeping me in this marriage... I am getting insane.. And its just nikah. Rukhsati never happened. Both sides know perfectly that this marriage is over. I am turning 30 this year so i am panicking. Just want to be over with it. I have no friends or family who can help me and give me sincere advice. So if any one of you or anyone you know, knows about these things can you please ask them and let me know. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and Ahlul Bait (عليه السلام) bless you W. Salam
  6. Alsalam alaikum I really wish well and health to everyone who claims to have the coronavirus... Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) knows if they are lying or telling the truth. I am just using common sense, not blaming anyone but I find it really really weird that all the famous people who claim to have tested positive get well eventually. Like all of them. It's not like I want them to die but this is a killer virus... And healthy young people have died of it. But from Canadian prime minister's wife to Tom Hanks and his wife... They are fine now...so..uk health minister Nadine Dorris tested positive and she is back to work now. Prince Charles, Boris... Greta Thunberg... Idris Alba.. Other uk ministers and secretaries...I think they are all lying but Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) knows best... I am just assuming.. They are lying so common people like us know that they are not immune....that they are with us in this... So many Iranian officials have died... But these elites keep recovering mashallah... I find all this very odd.
  7. Pirs and people who have analysed our situation say that its jinn possession... Bandish and black magic. But I refuse to go that far. From what I have experienced and are still going through its a very strong and bad evil eye... I think. Because I haven't yet encountered a very reliable sheikh or Pir. It could be that some relatives did black magic which turned into jinn possession if it makes sense. Anyway this evil eye takes good things away.. But things are going a bit better since I became Shia. But still for the long run there isn't much difference. So if you know any sheikh or you yourself have some knowledge please let me know. Also my brother has an auto immune disease and some said its because of evil eye, one pir said he is possessed. My dad is sure its jinn possession but my brother doesn't believe that or accepts it so there are many fights and arguments because of that... because dad forced him to isit some pir and follow some things for months... Also some relatives are trying to ruin my parents relationship.... and there are a lot of fights and stuff... To not talk about mine and my sisters issues. Anyway thanks a lot May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and Ahlul Bait (عليه السلام) reward you for helping us. W. SALAM
  8. Just tell him that Imam Hassan A. S. and Imam Hussain A. S. are the leader of paradise so he should think better before talking. Even Umar and Abu Bakr can not enter paradise without their permission. Also arguing with some people is like banging your head against the wall....because they are blindfolded by what they believe in. Also everyone eventually is going to die... Just tell him to wait and watch... Once he dies he will get to know the truth about everything and everyone 's value and status. Its not your fault if he' s got a hate page insulting Shia faith. Don't feel guilty about it...just accept that he has different beliefs. What ever he says or writes its upto him. Arguments are not about winning. If he understood you it would be better for him, you definitely wouldn't get anything out from it but if he is ignorant its his loss. A man came to Imam Hussain A. S. and said lets sit down and debate about the religion. Imam Hussain A. S. replied "I am aware of my religion and my path is clear for me. So if you are ignorant about your religion go and seek it. What do I have to do with disputation? Indeed the devil tempts a person and calls him saying 'debate with people regarding their religion so that they do not think of you as incapable and ignorant'
  9. I pray that your friends gets free fromall these evil things Inshallah. My family is going through same issues. Is there a way to break away from evil eye? Do we need Sheikhs or Peers to do that as well or are there any kind of prayers or duas to do that. People who put evil eye probably want us to die and are sworn enemies so can't reach them to take back the evil eye.
  10. Inna lilla he wa inna alehi rajeoon Can't even tell you to be strong, because you will have to keep this pain inside of you as long as you live. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) give you sabr. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) give her a high rank in Jannat. Ameen sum Ameen
  11. Alsalam Alaikum So my brother has a Syrian friend who is happy for Soleimani 's death. Astaghfirullah. He believes him to be a terrorist. So this Syrian told my brother that Soleimani killed a lot of innocent people in Syria thats why he is a terrorist and that Syrian president is friendly with Ayatollah Khomeini and thats how Iran is involved in the killings of Syria's innocent people. I know this is all a propoganda against Iran... But can someone give me facts and help me get to the truth so I can explain it to my brother that Iran is not guilty. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and Ahlul Bait (عليه السلام) help Iran and Iraq. Ameen
  12. W. Salam Do you have anxiety? What you feel and what you are going through is normal. Have you talked to your parents about your OCD? If it's been quite a long time for you having these thoughts maybe you should talk to your parents about it. You are so young, its very important that you get proper help for this condition. Wanting to ask for forgiveness after having bad thoughts or after having done something wrong is a very good thing. Whenever you get these thoughts it is very important that you think that its okay... Its not the end of the world and these thoughts do not make you kafir. You don't control it. Which is fine. It is going to take you sometime to stop over thinking. Try reading Ziyarat Of Ashura every day, it will help you Inshallah. Whenever you get bad thoughts put your hand on your heart and read first Kalimah. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) forgives all sins. Its in Qur'an Pak. Whatever you think or do Never stop believing that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is the most merciful and is always with you. He loves you 70 times more than your mother. Try and read Qur'an translation it will help you. Try and keep a good company. You have a good heart. Straight path is always the hardest one. Whenever someone chooses to walk the right path, they will face many hardships but it will get easier Inshallah. Just be strong and stay firm. Things are going to get better. May Ahlul Bait A. S. help you. Ameen sum ameen
  13. Asalam Alaikum I've always been envious of how much my mum loves my elder sister. Everyone in our family knows that mum loves her dearly. Recently I was fine with it but from a couple of days im feeling really jealous and I am noticing every little thing my mum does for my sister. If we give money to our mum she spends them on her and she mentioned that we should give her more money for her use... And I know she's going to spend them all on my sister. It's foolish and stupid... I work and earn, I don't need my parents money or attention, I have been through so much but I just can not overcome this. It makes me feel awful. I love my mum and my sister.if I try to talk to mum about this she just argues with me and gets angry. Its just stupid. I need some strong advice to overcome this. This is not right. Some people are just more lucky I guess. My sister deserves the love she gets. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) decided so... Why do I feel like this. I am fine even if mum doesn't care about me like she does for my sister. And I'm not that young as well. I am in my late 20s. This is so sad. I'm ridiculous.
  14. Alsalam Alaikum Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) in Qur'an says that he gives gives a long time to sinners to do what they want and can just to see how far they are willing to go.... But everyone will be held accountable of what they did. I believe that people who get punished in this world are lucky because it might release them from the distress of Akhirat... But if one doesn't get time to repent or they don't get punishment for the injustice done in this world then they will get their own justice on the day of judgment. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) forgive us all. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) wanted everything to go the way it has... Be it Karbala or anything else. And its an act of worship to submit to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and accept and be happy on whatever happens for the reza of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). An act of injustice or evil is not recognised from what happens to the evil doer or who does the injustice. Or by their ends... What is right is right and what is wrong is wrong and it will stay so till the day of judgment.
  15. Alsalam alaikum Qur'an is the only authentic book to exist on this planet. Anyone saying anything otherwise can not be sure about what they say. Sunni people have their Bukhari book which they call Sahi... Which means right but we know its not. Imam Ali (عليه السلام). did not compile Nahjul Balagha... I believe Nahjul Balagha to be a sacred text and among the highest books we have... But still...Common sense is something we have that other school of religion don't in Islam. My heart doesn't accept that Imam Ali A. S. said that or wrote that about woman when his wife is Nisa al alameen... The sermon says women... Not excluding anyone. But if I am wrong... May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and Ahlul Bait (عليه السلام) forgive me... When I first read that sermon I started to think low of myself because Imam Ali A. S. said women are deficient... But my heart doesn't accept that. Not all women are alike... This cannot be said about women in general. And whoever believes Nahjul Balagha to be 100 percent authentic... Its upto them... As its a known fact that Qur'an is the only book anyone can ever claim it to be 100 percent right and true... With 0 arguments.
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