Ani

Have a look at this https://www.al-islam.org/torch-perpetual-guidance-exposé-ziyarat-ashura-al-imam-al-husayn-b-ali-ali-asghar-azizi-tehrani-0 There is this as well I hope you can see the text and file,... https://www.scribd.com/doc/63574116/Ziarat-e-Ashura-With-Urdu-Translation

Alsalam Alaikum It is already a good thing that you realize that you were living a sinful life; now you can repent and may Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) keep you on the straight path. Do not despair... Never despair and remember that in Quran Pak, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) says that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) forgives all sins. Try to do as many good deeds in a day as you can. Try to be kind to everyone. Good deeds eliminate bad ones. And read Ziyarah of Ashura for 40 days Inshallah it will help you alot. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and Ahle Bait AS help you

Backbiting is bad. Very bad. Its bad to backbite anyone... Any human being... Even non muslims. I think we should try to perfect ourselves and try to concentrate on ourselves rather than talk about people of other sects or religions...even though some people can be very disturbing and interfering... But Patience is the key i guess.

W. Salam Maybe try to talk to the father in a polite manner while he has calmed down. Of course he won't listen and be reasonable. Guidance comes only from Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). Remember to always be respectful to your father but thats it. Do not take any injustice from him. All you owe your father is respect. Even if you have to go against him or interviene in a critical situation just try to be as respectful as you can. Do not let anyone get abused by your father if you can protect them. Remember in Quran Pak, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) says "Stand firmly for justice, as witnesses to Allah, even if against yourselves, or your parents, or your relatives. Some men can be narcissistic and they simply won't listen to you or understand. They just don't have it in themselves so there is no need to argue. I wish you peace and happiness. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and Ahle Bait A. S. make things easier for you or anyone else who has to witness such a situation. Do not stop praying to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) to show the father straight path and become softer... Miracles do happen. It might take some time but never stop praying. W. Salam

W. Salam Give sadka. Read ziyarah of Ashura for 40 days with the intention of healing from whatever you are going through. Inshallah it will help. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and Ahle Bait AS make it easy for you to get through and keep you on the straight path. Dont think too much. Leave everything to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), just try to stay away from haram and keep doing good deeds.

You are absolutely correct about this one... What i have encountered is that people say one thing but do another... And most men these days want extra modern wives... and the ones that don't are religious extremists. Taqwa and good ikhlaq are even harder to find than chivalry.

I do not disagree with you...i know ladies around the World are trying to use "Feminism" to be extreme in certain things. Extremism is never good. I understand that in the bigger picture it goes goes against our culture, values and religion as well. Men all around the world are validated by their egos, arrogance, pride, and lowly desires. What's true is what satisfies the "I". It has dangerous consequences. Specificially in Muslim countries where you can find a narssistic man in almost every household. So it's same same... Men have been destroying our religion by corrupting cultures and taking whatever favours them from Islam to have it their own way since the beginning of times i can say. I can understand you guys anger and frustration towards "Feminism" and i can only hope that you are as vocal, loud and take a strong stand even when its about women suffering from sexual harassment, physical or emotional abuse. I don't go out there to protest for my rights... I try to stand with what is right... As Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) says in the Quran - Stand up firmly for justice, as a witness to God, even as against yourselves or your parents or your kin, and whether it be against rich or poor- And that's what one should aim for. If we stop looking at what other people are doing and concern only about ourselves and bettering our selves to please Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and do whatever we can to become true Momin Muslims.. I think the world would be a much better place. And that's the real struggle and that should be everyone's aim.... But do we care...??? NOPE...!!! Anyway Gender issues have nothing to do with feminism... Thats another agenda and i think that is more concerning than Feminism as is the normalisation of the same sex relationships. Thank you for your wishes.

I am kind of scared of what is happening in the west countries... The gender thing and the lgbt movement are really ruining generations. Not safe to grow children in the west. Anyway I hope your patriarchy helps you get into Jannah.. Thats the goal right?

I understand what you mean. If we all lived by the Quran i don't think there would have been any need for me to even make this thread. And you guys seem pretty triggered by it.

No, you did well. Sorry. Thanks for sharing the story

W. Salam I feel like you are describing a panic/anxiety attack. Do you get overwhelmed by a fear in your heart and are scared of destruction from Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى)? Dont over think.. Try to do as many good deeds in your life as you can and do dhikr. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and Ahle Bait AS give your heart and soul peace.

TYou have no idea what kind of man i want or will find...can you stop making assumptions about my future please, thank you

@Debate follower why do you guys take the feminism stand so personally? It was so not needed in the above story. It was clearly more about kindness than showing someone their place or teaching women a lesson. If a woman directly comes to a man and goes on about her rights and wants to be an equal.. Thats when one should talk about the argument. Dont just go around with hatred for women in your hearts. Now if it was an old man instead of the ladies and a girl refused to give up her seat... We would just call her not respectful... She surely won't go on about men being terrible to women all around the world as her answer to not give up her seat.

I am not going to justify myself.... But you got me so wrong. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) knows me and thats enough. Thank you for your kind words.

You lost me where you mentioned women offering their bodies... What kind of mentality is that. If men wouldn't degrade women and disrespect them whenever they get the chance... Feminism wouldn't be needed today... To not talk about the abuse women suffer all around the world from men. Whats wrong with a woman trying to lead a relationship... But i am not here to talk about all this. We clearly see marriage as 2 different things. I don’t even consider my looks or what i do in life when talking to someone with the purpose of getting married. Kindness.. Goodness, staying away from haram... respect.. And so on.. There are more important things in life...than good looks or one's financial status... And i am not going to talk about my qualities here.