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Would you mind going to a Shia mosque...? Try to go there and try having food with Shia brothers... in an imam bargah... It might connect some dots.

Alsalam alaikum, We all think we have the worst parents but someone out there has it even harder than us. I can not even imagine how you feel or what you go though. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and Ahlul Bait AS protect you and your siblings and keep you on the straight path. You don't realise how Lucky You are. To be able to understand good from bad...growing up around that kind of things and still being able to differ halal from haraam...you are very special and lucky. Do not think too much on what your parents do... concentrate on your study and improve your imaan. Once you are old enough and independent you can get a place and do all the right things. Guidance only comes from Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) so i can not suggest anything for your parents. But be thankful to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) as much as you can...inshallah things will get better for you. Try to join the imam bargah in your city...try to talk to someone there...and make friends into the shia community. Once someone on this forum told me the only thing we should care about is what Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) think of us...nothing else matters. Just remember that... doesn't matter what your parents say or do... you try and have a good connection with Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). The only things you owe your parents is respect. Thats it.

Alsalam alaikum I just need to know how bad can it be. I am from a Sunni family but Alhamdullillah i am shia. My mum is looking for proposals for me...and because they don't know anyone in Shia community they keep getting Sunni proposals. I am firm on wanting to get married into a Shia family... but ... is it alright to never get married rather than getting married into a Sunni family to a Sunni man? Or marriage is that important that we should just get married to a good human being or whoever is available??... Because thats how things are for now... my parents get really frustrated and mad by this demand sometimes.

May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and Ahle Bait AS make it easier for you inshallah Ameen sum ameen Read ziyarah of Ashura everyday for 40 days..it works like miracles.

Alsalam alaikum So a family member who is not very religiuos, is very young, very kind and good human being, is not into a sinning lifestyle but he is kind of touching Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى)'s set boundries that can lead to sin. How are we supposed to deal with such a situation. We live in a western country and he has a western mindset but i am really scared because sins always come back to bite you or your family. Tried talking to him but the classic response is don't tell me what to do. I know guidance comes from Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) only but still ... i can not let a family member go astray like this. Any advice...

Have a look at this https://www.al-islam.org/torch-perpetual-guidance-exposé-ziyarat-ashura-al-imam-al-husayn-b-ali-ali-asghar-azizi-tehrani-0 There is this as well I hope you can see the text and file,... https://www.scribd.com/doc/63574116/Ziarat-e-Ashura-With-Urdu-Translation

Alsalam Alaikum It is already a good thing that you realize that you were living a sinful life; now you can repent and may Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) keep you on the straight path. Do not despair... Never despair and remember that in Quran Pak, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) says that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) forgives all sins. Try to do as many good deeds in a day as you can. Try to be kind to everyone. Good deeds eliminate bad ones. And read Ziyarah of Ashura for 40 days Inshallah it will help you alot. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and Ahle Bait AS help you

Backbiting is bad. Very bad. Its bad to backbite anyone... Any human being... Even non muslims. I think we should try to perfect ourselves and try to concentrate on ourselves rather than talk about people of other sects or religions...even though some people can be very disturbing and interfering... But Patience is the key i guess.

W. Salam Maybe try to talk to the father in a polite manner while he has calmed down. Of course he won't listen and be reasonable. Guidance comes only from Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). Remember to always be respectful to your father but thats it. Do not take any injustice from him. All you owe your father is respect. Even if you have to go against him or interviene in a critical situation just try to be as respectful as you can. Do not let anyone get abused by your father if you can protect them. Remember in Quran Pak, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) says "Stand firmly for justice, as witnesses to Allah, even if against yourselves, or your parents, or your relatives. Some men can be narcissistic and they simply won't listen to you or understand. They just don't have it in themselves so there is no need to argue. I wish you peace and happiness. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and Ahle Bait A. S. make things easier for you or anyone else who has to witness such a situation. Do not stop praying to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) to show the father straight path and become softer... Miracles do happen. It might take some time but never stop praying. W. Salam

W. Salam Give sadka. Read ziyarah of Ashura for 40 days with the intention of healing from whatever you are going through. Inshallah it will help. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and Ahle Bait AS make it easy for you to get through and keep you on the straight path. Dont think too much. Leave everything to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), just try to stay away from haram and keep doing good deeds.

You are absolutely correct about this one... What i have encountered is that people say one thing but do another... And most men these days want extra modern wives... and the ones that don't are religious extremists. Taqwa and good ikhlaq are even harder to find than chivalry.

I do not disagree with you...i know ladies around the World are trying to use "Feminism" to be extreme in certain things. Extremism is never good. I understand that in the bigger picture it goes goes against our culture, values and religion as well. Men all around the world are validated by their egos, arrogance, pride, and lowly desires. What's true is what satisfies the "I". It has dangerous consequences. Specificially in Muslim countries where you can find a narssistic man in almost every household. So it's same same... Men have been destroying our religion by corrupting cultures and taking whatever favours them from Islam to have it their own way since the beginning of times i can say. I can understand you guys anger and frustration towards "Feminism" and i can only hope that you are as vocal, loud and take a strong stand even when its about women suffering from sexual harassment, physical or emotional abuse. I don't go out there to protest for my rights... I try to stand with what is right... As Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) says in the Quran - Stand up firmly for justice, as a witness to God, even as against yourselves or your parents or your kin, and whether it be against rich or poor- And that's what one should aim for. If we stop looking at what other people are doing and concern only about ourselves and bettering our selves to please Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and do whatever we can to become true Momin Muslims.. I think the world would be a much better place. And that's the real struggle and that should be everyone's aim.... But do we care...??? NOPE...!!! Anyway Gender issues have nothing to do with feminism... Thats another agenda and i think that is more concerning than Feminism as is the normalisation of the same sex relationships. Thank you for your wishes.

I am kind of scared of what is happening in the west countries... The gender thing and the lgbt movement are really ruining generations. Not safe to grow children in the west. Anyway I hope your patriarchy helps you get into Jannah.. Thats the goal right?

I understand what you mean. If we all lived by the Quran i don't think there would have been any need for me to even make this thread. And you guys seem pretty triggered by it.

No, you did well. Sorry. Thanks for sharing the story