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Vindemiatrix last won the day on October 12 2019

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  1. Well I would say that largely depends on a different side of the mindset of a person, some people like to have everything set in place and in a routine and that works for them, others prefer to take each day as it comes, without so much so as a plan but just getting it done. Furthermore, neither mindset can really be said to be advantageous or "better" as everyone is simply different, the routine will work for some people quite well, for their entire lives even, however other people don't function like this and prefer to be more flexible. Overall I guess what you've mentioned is another topic altogether, whether a couple is set in stone and has a routine or whether there's a freestyle approach, however it does link in with the original point and it could definitely be put down as a 4 option.
  2. Some notes: THIS IS NOT A REAL-LIFE SCENARIO; I JUST WANT TO KNOW THE GENERAL PREFERNCES FOR THIS This poll is anonymous Scenario: -In this scenario, working means a standard 9-5 job for 7 days a week which earns sufficient money for the whole household and covers expenses such as insurance, rent/mortgage, clothes, food, water, gas, electricity, petrol, household items, Wi-Fi, phone bills, school items etc… -Cooking and cleaning also involves jobs such as laundry, ironing, vacuuming, dropping off and picking up the children at school, taking care of the children after school while the working spouse is at work etc… -Also, on the weekend and after work, the working spouse contributes towards looking after the children I had the idea to make this poll as recently I have been a lot of discussion online between young men and women. The women tend to say: "Cooking and cleaning are basic life skills, everyone should do them" "A man should help a woman with cooking and cleaning as this is the equal way" "Cooking and cleaning are the responsibilities of both people in a marriage" The men tend to say: "One person working and the other cooking and cleaning is the most logical and practical way" "Islam states it is an obligation for a man to provide financially, this should be his main priority" "Men already fulfil their half by default as Islam requires them to work"
  3. This is creepy because I literally just signed in like 20 minutes ago after several months too!
  4. Salamun `alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu, In my opinion your decision on whether to study at home or not depends on your parents. In this post, I'll explain why. First we should consider what is the purpose of going to university and the answer is simply to study of course, however what is the right environment for you? Are your parents good, is your situation at home good, was there no studying during the A levels in your home if the answer is yes then definitely study from home. I know some people where unfortunately they wait their entire lives to move out to University when the time comes because their home situation is so bad and their parents basically kick them out. I also know people with kind and nice parents who support them and provide a comfortable studying environment at home, they do not charge rent and provide food etc. Next you mention the value of experience which can be gained at University such as managing daily life, cooking etc. Now in short, the purpose of University is to learn be it for progressing onto a post graduate course, further study or a career, the sole purpose is to study. You might be surprised to know that this factor also depends on the parents you have, some parents will simply make the lives of their children so hard that they will go to University anyway as I have aforementioned but on top of that their parents will not allow them back afterwards, they will kick them out or ask for rent. However other parents will allow their children to focus on their education for the 4 or 3 years and then gradually ease them into the reality of life, such parents may have already taught them useful life skills already since they love their children so much. The summer after graduation or in between each year at University is the perfect time for parents to teach their children every possible life skill they'll need from finances, mortgage, loan, to choosing a car, cooking and so on. Overall: Good Parents: -Provide a stress free and stable environment for studying -Provide food and other expenses, don't charge rent -Will ease their children into the real by teaching them about life in between term time or after graduation -Will always be there after graduation for help and advice once in the real world for as long as they live (May your parents live a long life Insha'Allah) Bad Parents: -Will either kick a person out or make a person leave and live at University due to poor conditions -Will not allow person to live in the house after without rent -Will not provide their children with any education on the real life -Will not be there for them in life In the case of bad parents moving is the logical choice as it will provide a much better learning environment while providing a relatively safe environment to gain life experience. In the case of good parents, the answer is clear, stay at home. I would strongly recommend anyone with good parents to give thanks every single day at night for them, it is a much bigger blessing than you may realise, there are few things better than two good parents raising you up from a baby to adulthood. And to those with bad parents may Allah make your life easier and may He reward you for your patience, surely Allah is the most just. With prayers for your success.
  5. “The inhabitants of heaven hear nothing from the inhabitants of the earth except for the call to prayer.” ~The Holy Prophet (S) [Kanz al-'Ummal, 20934]
  6. Well I don't have anything at current which reminds me strongly of the past or which gives me the sense of nostalgia, I am still very young after all. But there is one thing that I think will become nostalgic for me. I am currently attending my 8th and final year at my secondary school/college. When I joined, I remember how big everything seemed and how tiny I was. I was quite scared of everything there and how intimidating the older year groups looked. There will be 8 years of memories to take away from this place once I leave. An amazing thing is that the grounds are literally connected to my old primary school just separated by some walls and gates, I spent my first 8 years of education there. So once I leave next July, I will essentially be leaving 16 years of my life behind in this one place. I'm sure that in 10, 15 years time that if I re visited the grounds I would truly be overcome with the feeling of nostalgia. Or perhaps the sight of my uniform, old books, and notes will remind me of the good old times. Honestly, so much of my life till now has been here, 16 years, I don't know how I will I cope leaving all the memories behind. I don't like change because routine gives me comfort and security, it relaxes me and allows me to know everything is okay and normal. I have been settled here for so long but next year everything will change, it's scary, I will really miss my good times here.
  7. Smart brother @ali_fatheroforphans be scoring like 25 reputation from this single topic alone.
  8. https://newseu.cgtn.com/news/2020-11-15/Baby-of-critically-endangered-rhino-born-at-UK-zoo-Vqhz56jNNS/index.htm
  9. There will be loads my friend, SC has 200k+ total topics remember? However, I have no problem with this one that you have created of course, I think it's a really good idea to have a few regular members posting here. Amongst all the low quality topics created these days which I have no interest in, it's topics like these which will reignite the spark in my heart for Islam. I too haven't seen a post like this in a while. Imo there's nothing better than reading a Quranic verse or hadith which sends shivers down my spine and gives me goosebumps just by reading it and appreciating the power of and the message behind the words of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), the Holy Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) and the Imams (عليه السلام).
  10. Don't need any rulings other than this hadith as a reason to avoid chess completely. I remember reading this online in Muharram. 1) Yazid put the head of Imam (عليه السلام) in a basin on the floor 2) Yazid then put a dining table on top and began eating and drinking beer 3) Then Yazid replaced the dining table with a chess table 4) When Yazid made a "good" move he drank beer and poured the remaining beer next to the basin where the Imam's (عليه السلام) head was Chess should be avoided in any form, there's no question about it. There's also a similar version here:
  11. خوفِ طوفان ہے بجلیوں کا ہے ڈر

    سخت مشکل ہے آقا کدھر جائیں ہم

    آپ ہی گر نہ لیں گے ہماری خبر

    ہم مصیبت کے مارے کدھر جائیں گے 


    آپ کے در سے کوئی نہ خالی گیا

    اپنے دامن کو بھر کے سوالی گیا

    ہو حبیبِ حزین پر بھی آقا نظر

    ورنہ اوراقِ ہستی بکھر جائیں گے


    تاجدارِ حرم

  12. No I'm not confused. Just disgusted kinda... It took me a while to understand but basically... This person "Sasha Jones" had a man's body since they were born. Then they transitioned into a woman's body, so their face and body shape changed etc etc from a man's body *Except for the "...."* Then they met a woman who they started a relationship with. "Sasha" said: 'To conceive I had to stop taking hormones....' They had to stop taking hormones to continue "....." production so they can get their female partner pregnant blah blah blah... Says on the article "They are also preparing for the birth of their second naturally-conceived child" blah blah blah all that usual nonsense... I feel like I'm gonna be sick... So overall there's a person who had a man's body but then transitioned to a woman's body keeping the "....." from the man's body. Then they got a female pregnant. Amazing world we live in(!)
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