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mh7493

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    mh7493 got a reaction from 2Timeless in Female staying single?   
    I am also a single woman and I would say that it is a very big, life-changing step to get married. If you are worried about loneliness as a single person, I have heard married people say that marriage is a lonely place as well. You will have hopes that your husband will love and understand and care for you in certain ways and sometimes he will fail. This can be just as painful or more so than being alone. Also, if you have children with him, these problems might get bigger. Marriage is such a wonderful thing, but it is also hard. A lot of people who might be encouraging you to get married have not lived as single adults, so they really don't know what it feels like for you to be single. If you think marriage is the right decision for you, you need to be very, very careful to pick the husband who will understand when you tell him your fears and things that you are not comfortable with. If you can find that, it could be a beautiful experience!! However, it is also a beautiful thing to remain single and help your family and use your energy to do other good useful things. Don't rush this decision. 
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    mh7493 got a reaction from Be Human First in Female staying single?   
    I am also a single woman and I would say that it is a very big, life-changing step to get married. If you are worried about loneliness as a single person, I have heard married people say that marriage is a lonely place as well. You will have hopes that your husband will love and understand and care for you in certain ways and sometimes he will fail. This can be just as painful or more so than being alone. Also, if you have children with him, these problems might get bigger. Marriage is such a wonderful thing, but it is also hard. A lot of people who might be encouraging you to get married have not lived as single adults, so they really don't know what it feels like for you to be single. If you think marriage is the right decision for you, you need to be very, very careful to pick the husband who will understand when you tell him your fears and things that you are not comfortable with. If you can find that, it could be a beautiful experience!! However, it is also a beautiful thing to remain single and help your family and use your energy to do other good useful things. Don't rush this decision. 
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    mh7493 got a reaction from ShiaChat Mod in What is your goal today?   
    That's great! I wish I lived in a place where I could walk around. Everything in the US is spread out so we need to drive. What do you like to do at the gym? I like doing yoga a lot. 
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    mh7493 got a reaction from ShiaChat Mod in What is your goal today?   
    I have the next few days off of work, so my goal is to SLEEP a lot, try some new recipes, learn something new, and read a good book. Any suggestions??
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    mh7493 got a reaction from ShiaChat Mod in What is your goal today?   
    That's my goal too! I hope you were able to do this!!
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    mh7493 got a reaction from sarah khadem in What is your goal today?   
    That's great! I wish I lived in a place where I could walk around. Everything in the US is spread out so we need to drive. What do you like to do at the gym? I like doing yoga a lot. 
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    mh7493 got a reaction from PureExistence1 in [MATURE] Husband Issues   
    I am so sorry that you are going through this! I don't know if you would like my opinion, but I am a non-Muslim from the western world and what you have described is not acceptable in my eyes. The argument that you have to be a certain way (less religious) because you live in Western country is opposite of why these countries have certain freedoms. You should be free to express your religion, not conforming to the way people around you are acting. Yes, if he works with women, he will have to talk with women and be polite and professional with them. He might even eat lunch with his co-workers as a group. However, depending on his job, he does not need to be alone with them to take extra breaks to be with them to be accepted in western culture. Emailing someone more than just a simple "How are you?" after you move is not normal. This does not sound professional. 
    From what you are describing, it sounds like you don't feel like he is caring for you. I don't know how you want to handle this, but I would suggest finding a trusted person who can come and talk to you both- counselor, religious leader, trusted friend. If he tells you to see a counselor for you "craziness" maybe you can try to go together. 
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    mh7493 got a reaction from Hameedeh in What is your goal today?   
    That's great! I wish I lived in a place where I could walk around. Everything in the US is spread out so we need to drive. What do you like to do at the gym? I like doing yoga a lot. 
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    mh7493 got a reaction from Hameedeh in What is your goal today?   
    Staying healthy is so much work! What kinds of things to you like to do to stay healthy?
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    mh7493 reacted to 2Timeless in Feminism & Shia muslims   
    Hi,
    There's a lot of opinions out there from all sorts of sects and people on feminism. I was wandering what shia muslims think of femism. And before anyone starts talking about modern day feminism and how it's going for the extension of men, I mean real femisim. Feminism is defined as equality of the two sexes. In light of this definition, what are your opinions of feminism? 
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    mh7493 reacted to 2Timeless in [MATURE] Husband Issues   
    Do you have any trustworthy friends around you?Even though your family live away you still can get their support, maybe invite your mother over, see what she thinks before you get your entire families involved? 
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    mh7493 got a reaction from Heavenly_Silk in What is your goal today?   
    I have the next few days off of work, so my goal is to SLEEP a lot, try some new recipes, learn something new, and read a good book. Any suggestions??
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    mh7493 got a reaction from Hameedeh in What is your goal today?   
    I have the next few days off of work, so my goal is to SLEEP a lot, try some new recipes, learn something new, and read a good book. Any suggestions??
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    mh7493 got a reaction from Hameedeh in What is your goal today?   
    That's my goal too! I hope you were able to do this!!
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    mh7493 got a reaction from mz*questions in [MATURE] Husband Issues   
    I am so sorry that you are going through this! I don't know if you would like my opinion, but I am a non-Muslim from the western world and what you have described is not acceptable in my eyes. The argument that you have to be a certain way (less religious) because you live in Western country is opposite of why these countries have certain freedoms. You should be free to express your religion, not conforming to the way people around you are acting. Yes, if he works with women, he will have to talk with women and be polite and professional with them. He might even eat lunch with his co-workers as a group. However, depending on his job, he does not need to be alone with them to take extra breaks to be with them to be accepted in western culture. Emailing someone more than just a simple "How are you?" after you move is not normal. This does not sound professional. 
    From what you are describing, it sounds like you don't feel like he is caring for you. I don't know how you want to handle this, but I would suggest finding a trusted person who can come and talk to you both- counselor, religious leader, trusted friend. If he tells you to see a counselor for you "craziness" maybe you can try to go together. 
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    mh7493 got a reaction from ss99 in [MATURE] Husband Issues   
    I am so sorry that you are going through this! I don't know if you would like my opinion, but I am a non-Muslim from the western world and what you have described is not acceptable in my eyes. The argument that you have to be a certain way (less religious) because you live in Western country is opposite of why these countries have certain freedoms. You should be free to express your religion, not conforming to the way people around you are acting. Yes, if he works with women, he will have to talk with women and be polite and professional with them. He might even eat lunch with his co-workers as a group. However, depending on his job, he does not need to be alone with them to take extra breaks to be with them to be accepted in western culture. Emailing someone more than just a simple "How are you?" after you move is not normal. This does not sound professional. 
    From what you are describing, it sounds like you don't feel like he is caring for you. I don't know how you want to handle this, but I would suggest finding a trusted person who can come and talk to you both- counselor, religious leader, trusted friend. If he tells you to see a counselor for you "craziness" maybe you can try to go together. 
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    mh7493 got a reaction from Islandsandmirrors in At Loss   
    I'm glad to hear your midterm was ok. I hope you get the grade you wanted. I see the quote you have as your signature. I was wondering what it means to you. Is there a way you hope to live ecstatically?? I've never heard this quote before and the words are beautiful. 
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    mh7493 got a reaction from Heavenly_Silk in What is your goal today?   
    That's my goal too! I hope you were able to do this!!
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    mh7493 reacted to Islandsandmirrors in At Loss   
    Just took my midterm. I think I did okay. Hoping to get a good grade. 
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    mh7493 reacted to sarah khadem in What is your goal today?   
    InshaAllah to get my life back on track and to avoid everything that has led to me changing and becoming a negative person. 
    I hope to fix up:
    uni studies religion wise health wise (physically and mentally)
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    mh7493 reacted to Hameedeh in What is your goal today?   
    I slept 7 hours and 30 minutes last night. This is unprecedented! I have not had that much sleep since 2005.  
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