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I gave him many chances and thats why he could run all over me. If I would have been firm with him the 1st time he did it, he wouldnt have repeated it again.

The thing that hurts the most is that even after doing everything for this man, he still couldnt appreciate me. I changed my whole life to accommodate him and his likings but he never did anything for me and instead he goes out with another woman.

I had been understanding, supporting, angry and now I am downright hurt with everything that has happened. Since he already has someone else in his life, he wont mind the divorce. Instead, he'll be looking forward to it so he can be with his'one true love'. If he didnt want to get divorced then he wouldnt have taken this marriage as a joke and used me as his punching bag.

Will I be sinning if I leave him due to his mistreatment?

Yes I do have a group of very close friends who are more family to me than he has ever been!

Will I be sinning if I leave him because of his mistreatment?

If only he realized that. But a person who doesnt want to admit that there is a problem wont look for a solution. And since he has a maid at home and a mistress outside, his life is set.

THANK YOU!! You nailed my situation to the T. I never thought that because his needs are met outside of this marriage, I am just a housemaid for him who cooks, cleans and does everything for him and he can treat me whichever way he pleases. Truthfully speaking, there is no positives in my marriage. Its just constant blames and arguments and in the end its all my fault for thinking about them and voicing them.

Thank you for your kind words. That is exactly what he feels that he can get away with mistreating me. Since I have no family here to support me, he is more powerful.

My family knows and they have tried talking to him politely but he just doesnt bother unfortunately

Thank you so very much for your insight in this matter especially coming from a non Muslim. What you said about interacting with females and having a group lunch - I totally agree with that. I too work with male colleagues and we joke and talk at the office. In my office, I have never seen anyone go out with a smoker on their break just so they can be together and that is why I have an issue. Emailing someone with a "How are you' - I totally agree! But emailing someone that you do not work with anymore for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week - I have a major problem. You are right whe

I didnt ask or expect him to disrespect his parents in any way but when his parents encourage him to go on the wrong path and abuse me then I do have a problem.

Thank you for your kind words. I know divorce is the last option and that is why I am so torn. I dont want to sin by doing it but then I dont think I will be able to accept it if he really has done that. His verbal abuse, I used to take it as I know no human is perfect and thats the hand I was dealt with. But everything is starting to drain me now. His constant negativity of me and the tortures. He looks at other women right infront of me and when I call him out on it, he gets angry on me.

Unfortunately that's the society we live in

We've been married for almost 5 years now. No kids. Yes I work full time. I used to believe him 100% because he always used to say he will never do zulm on me by going out with another woman. But if thats the case then where did he get the lovebite from?