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Aflower

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    Aflower got a reaction from aaaz1618 in Assalam alaikum!   
    @aaaz1618 I asked the question because I have many Shia friends throughout the United Kingdom and I hoped that I may have been able to provide you with some helpful local information. Unfortunately, I don't know anyone who lives in/close to Preston. Perhaps someone else on ShiaChat who lives in/knows/is familiar with the local Shia community in Preston could be of more help to you. Best wishes. 
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    Aflower got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in Assalam alaikum!   
    @aaaz1618 I asked the question because I have many Shia friends throughout the United Kingdom and I hoped that I may have been able to provide you with some helpful local information. Unfortunately, I don't know anyone who lives in/close to Preston. Perhaps someone else on ShiaChat who lives in/knows/is familiar with the local Shia community in Preston could be of more help to you. Best wishes. 
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    Aflower got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in Assalam alaikum!   
    Walaikum Salam and Welcome! I apologise @aaaz1618, but I must confess that I've only skim read through your post. Which city in England do you reside in? 
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    Aflower reacted to aaaz1618 in Assalam alaikum!   
    Assalam alaikum dear brothers and sisters and may the blessings and mercy of Allah be upon you all.
    I saw another user make an introduction, so I thought I would too. 
    I came to Islam as the light at the end of the tunnel and attended the only mosque in my Welsh county, slotting by default into hanafi ideology. 
    I moved to a England and to larger Muslim and mostly Indian/Pakistani community after marriage. Despite members of the Welsh community telling me that the community in this English city was better, it became quite clear, quite quickly that they weren't right.
    Increasingly isolated by both the community and the hanafi school, particularly hadiths, increasingly ashamed by terrorist attacks and sectarianism, after three years as a Muslim I felt at conflict with myself. I really struggled as I felt between two cultures, the culture of Islam and the culture as a British white man, and I didn't slot into either. I came to this religion because I saw inclusion of the Abrahamic narrative, inclusion of white people, people from Asia, Africa and elsewhere, I saw Islam as the final message of God, one of salvation, hope and solace. I did not see these things being practiced.
    I grew up respecting people of all faiths and views, and I hold that stance to this day. Muslims are Muslims, I see beyond the sects, if you love Allah and His messenger and you uphold the principal of peace, charity, kindness and so on, then who am I to hate you or be a takfiri on you!?
    I attended a salafi mosque on Ashura, because it was the only one that did English sermons, I saw a congregation humiliate a student (who I assume was Iranian by his accent) for asking why nobody mentions Hussain on such a day. I also saw brothers stand up and defend a man who had been arrested and later charged for trying to buy firearms for terrorism in a sting operation on a separate day. I myself had been targeted for not doing footsy during prayer with the person next to me. I continued to see this idiotic approach to people who follow the Ahlul Bayt, it trickles down from adults to kids, my nephew said that Shi'ites worship Ali, astaghfirullah. He said his friend at school told him. I corrected him.
    I used to have an Instagram account where I posted lessons and tidbits that might inspire people to be peaceful and good, I had even aspired to train to become an Imam and open a mosque, it would have been, to my knowledge, the first to feature a prayer room where women prayed behind men and not closed off in a tiny 2nd class room upstairs. It would be one of only a few where management would have not been of one school of thought, but many, where women would play an important role and where counselling services would take place for domestic violence and mental health... All sounds great, but because of my own mental health, I did not feel I could take on such a task. What did come out of Instagram was that I was responsible for reporting somewhere between 30-50 Daesh inspired or far right inspired profiles which as a result were removed, alhamdulillah.
    Anyway, for a long time I felt unhappy, with people, with the thought that people churn out such nonsense, whether it is about people or even things like hadiths. Andwe are expected to just take it all as gospel because an Imam said it, a sheikh said it, a pillar of the community said it. I started following the maliki maddhab, but now I don't adhere to any ideology as such. People might erroneously say I cherry pick, but picking the truth isn't always the easy option, so I hardly call that cherry picking. I seek truth and logic according the the Qur'an and if that comes from Ammar Nakshawani, so be it, if it comes from Abdal Hakim Murad, so be it.
    So why am I on Shiachat? Because first of all I want to meet like minded people in my area, and second of all, because I respect you and care for you as fellow Muslims.
    I just can't live a life spewing hate, teaching my children to hate and expect the world to be a better place for it. It does nothing here on Earth and it does nothing up there in Jannah either.
    Apologies for the novel, but at least I used paragraphs hey!
     
    Oh Lord send Your peace and blessings upon Muhammad and his family.
    May You always be pleased with us, keep us firm upon your truth and your religion. May we be standing together and may you always allow the light, wisdom and intellect to exist in this world so that we learn to love and put down our hatred, as although we are different people with different opinions and of differing backgrounds, we are all in need of Your light, all in need of Your mercy and all in need of Your pleasure with us.
    Forgive us all for what we say and do, what You know but we don't of the things we do to displease You. 
    Oh Lord, send Your peace and blessings upon Muhammad and His family.
     
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    Aflower reacted to AmirioTheMuzzy in Imam Mahdi (A)   
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    Aflower reacted to baradar_jackson in Mutah Experiences   
    My "mutah experiences" involve arguing about mutah on Shiachat.
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    Aflower reacted to kadhim in Mutah Experiences   
    People being able to have meaningful human companionship that makes them happy and fulfills their emotional needs rather than being sad and alone should make everyone's heart feel warm.
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    Aflower got a reaction from Hameedeh in #60 My Birthdays Are...   
    Every year since my ninth birthday onwards my mother gifted me gold jewellery for my birthday. This was actually a gift for herself as she wore all this jewellery until I got married. No joke! My fathers presents were always more thoughtful. 
    I honestly have no desire for presents anymore as by the grace of Allah I have everything I need. I appreciate and value the hand written cards and messages that I receive. A pleasant day out with the family and a good hearty meal together is all my heart desires. 
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    Aflower reacted to Ruq in Going Back To School At 37, Any Tips?   
    Thats awsome! good on you. I was thinking about going back to school also, probably doing an Open University course, but undecided on what to go for.
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    Aflower reacted to Propaganda_of_the_Deed in Male modeling   
    I read the title of the thread and thought maybe you got offered a modelling contract and was in a dilemma as to whether or not to accept it.
     
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    Aflower reacted to notme in Should I marry a nice guy that I don’t get along with?   
    No.
    Piousness should match your own, but general compatibility is very important too.  Ideally, your spouse will be your best friend and companion for life.  
    If there is a chance that you and he might just take some time to get used to each other, take your time.  But if you absolutely don't see yourself spending your life with this person, cut things off immediately to reduce heartbreak.
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    Aflower got a reaction from TheSeeker_95 in Jinn, Witches, Female demon and Fairy   
    Walaikum Salam,
    When I was about seven years old I distinctively recall seeing a white and radiant woman standing next to my bed in the middle of the night. I didn’t feel scared at all, but to the contrary I found her presence to be extremely calming and reassuring. I closed my eyes and went to sleep. When I relayed this event to my mother the next day she said it was a dream. I remember that image so vividly even today and I refuse to believe that it was dream.
    Even now when I close my eyes I sometimes sense that someone is standing next to me. It can be very unnerving at times. When I am half asleep or about to drift off I can hear the floor boards creaking, muffled sounds of conversation and once not so long ago, I very clearly heard the sound of bells jingling. From the corner of my eye I sometimes feel that I have seen someone but when I glance over no one is there. 
    My parents know about all this and they now believe me. They just think that I can see/sense things that others can not. 
    I have no way of explaining this to others, but all I know is that it is not ‘all in my head,’ as a lot of people will probably think. To be honest with you, I’ve never even mentioned it to my husband because I know he’d just laugh it off.
    I haven’t read any special prayers for this or done anything about it. I’ve just accepted it as a part and parcel of my life.
    If anyone could shed some light on this phenomenon from an Islamic perspective I would really appreciate it. 
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    Aflower reacted to Sisters In Islam in Fatigue all day everyday   
    Salam sister
    First have a check up with a good doctor. To find out the real cause. They may ask you to undergo multiple of tests and it can be very challenging especially in your weak state. Seek help from relatives or friends to accompany you throughout the procedures. Just to let you know there is an invisible illness called Chronic Fatigue Syndrome which may contribute to this type of weakness. If you experience prolong weakness more than 6 months which does not go away with resting or sleeping or with healthy habits, and it get worse whenever you push yourself or when you face emotional, physical mental stress, then there might be a possibility of having Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Lets spread awareness on Invisible Illness. They are rare but they do exist.
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    Aflower reacted to Abu Hadi in Marriage: to stay or leave   
    I need to also apologize, I think I was a little too harsh with that previous statement. I have hidden it. Mods make mistakes too.
    These types of subjects tend to fire people up ....
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    Aflower reacted to Ashvazdanghe in forgive me for Ziarat   
    Salam I will go to Ziarat of Karbala & other holy site about a week from this Thursday please forgive me
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    Aflower reacted to Hadi5 in Scholar giving secrets of Wudhu and understanding Tawheed   
    @Ralvi @ShiaMan14 @Anonymous2144 @layman @eThErEaL @islam25@Abu Nur @Ashvazdanghe
    How do you see his lecture?
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    Aflower reacted to eThErEaL in Going Umrah this week Insha'Allah, please forgive me   
    Salam,
    I hope everyone here is doing well inshallah.  I am going for Umrah in the next couple of days (flying to Medinah first inshallah).
    The article that has been recommended says that there are about 25 things which are made haram while wearing Ihram.  What are these 25 things?
    Secondly, as a traveler is it recommended to pray full prayers (not Qasr-the shortened form) even for one doing Umrah and not Hajj?  
    A prompt response to these questions would be highly appreciated.
    thanks
    ethereal
     
     
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    Aflower reacted to abdulhamid in Going Umrah this week Insha'Allah, please forgive me   
    Salaam everyone,
    Insha'Allah, I am going to Umrah this weekend, I write to ask you to please forgive me if I have ever been rude or upset you in this chat. I will make dua for all of you, Insha'Allah.
    Wasalaam...
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    Aflower reacted to Ralvi in #60 My Birthdays Are...   
    Despite me not celebrating and not thinking too much of it if nobody wishes me 
    in truth it does leave me with a slight bitter feeling or maybe it’s a bittersweet feeling? In any case I want to forget but it still remains and I don’t forget.
    I really wish I wouldn’t do that. Huh just means I have room for more maturity and submission
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    Aflower reacted to SirajDin in Which One Do You Love More: God or...?   
    Which one do you love more? The sun itself; or the rays of sunlight?
    You love the sun more: for all rays issue from the sun.
    It is impossible to love the sun and yet despise its rays. It is also impossible to love the rays of sunlight and yet despise the sun from which they come.
    One cannot love God without loving His Messengers. Likewise one cannot God's Messengers, without loving their Message: which was essentially God and godliness. 
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    Aflower reacted to Ibn Al-Shahid in Which One Do You Love More: God or...?   
    if you read this you have to send it to 5 people or you will lose 3 fingers and a liver
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    Aflower reacted to power in Which One Do You Love More: God or...?   
    Misguided.
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    Aflower got a reaction from notme in #60 My Birthdays Are...   
    Every year since my ninth birthday onwards my mother gifted me gold jewellery for my birthday. This was actually a gift for herself as she wore all this jewellery until I got married. No joke! My fathers presents were always more thoughtful. 
    I honestly have no desire for presents anymore as by the grace of Allah I have everything I need. I appreciate and value the hand written cards and messages that I receive. A pleasant day out with the family and a good hearty meal together is all my heart desires. 
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    Aflower reacted to Reza in #60 My Birthdays Are...   
    Based on previous polls, I highly doubt that. 
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    Aflower reacted to Reza in #60 My Birthdays Are...   
    Wow, this is pretty depressing...what's up with everyone?
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