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  1. @aaaz1618 I asked the question because I have many Shia friends throughout the United Kingdom and I hoped that I may have been able to provide you with some helpful local information. Unfortunately, I don't know anyone who lives in/close to Preston. Perhaps someone else on ShiaChat who lives in/knows/is familiar with the local Shia community in Preston could be of more help to you. Best wishes.
  2. Walaikum Salam and Welcome! I apologise @aaaz1618, but I must confess that I've only skim read through your post. Which city in England do you reside in?
  3. Every year since my ninth birthday onwards my mother gifted me gold jewellery for my birthday. This was actually a gift for herself as she wore all this jewellery until I got married. No joke! My fathers presents were always more thoughtful. I honestly have no desire for presents anymore as by the grace of Allah I have everything I need. I appreciate and value the hand written cards and messages that I receive. A pleasant day out with the family and a good hearty meal together is all my heart desires.
  4. I would strongly suggest that you google images of Buddha ornaments. The one that I've been gifted is covered in mirrored mosaics and embellished with crystals so it definitely catches the eye. In any case, beauty lies in the eye of the beholder.
  5. This was honestly my gut reaction and thought process too - hence I chose to place it in my cloakroom. However, both my husband and son felt uncomfortable with it being placed anywhere in the house. It's such a pretty ornament that I didn't want to part with it but if it makes others in the family unhappy then it's not worth keeping it. Oh the sacrifices I make for my family - (that's a joke BTW).
  6. Thank you all for taking the time to respond. As suggested by @Hameedeh and @Anonymous2144, I shall donate it to a charity shop.
  7. Salam, I have been gifted a beautiful Buddha statue that is approximately 30 cm tall in height. Would it be permissible for me to place this in my cloakroom for purely decorative purposes? Thanks.
  8. @Hameedeh @Murtaza1 Excellent read. This quote from the book defines it perfectly: "When we hygger, we frame the moment, give it our full attention, savour and hold it, in an awareness that the moment will pass. We feel how one moment will become layered onto the next, past and present mingled together - everything falling into place, into one accord". There is so much to takeaway from this book and the concept of hygge. It truly changes one's perspective of the the world and it teaches one to value each and every moment in your life. Basically, it endorses the age-old concepts of 'less is more' and 'live in the moment'. Do let us know what you think after you've read it.
  9. Woooooow!!!! That's taking hair care to another level! Very cool.
  10. I put a small amount of Moroccan oil onto my son's damp hair and massage it onto his scalp too after he's had a shower. It is packed with antioxidants; it conditions the hair, controls flyaways, gives his hair a healthy sheen and makes his hair smell absolutely gorgeous too. Sorry to gatecrash your party lads.
  11. I used to watch The Batchelor years ago when I was a student... the United Kingdom version of the show. I used to binge watch it during the holidays with my sisters, cousins, and believe it or not my aunts and mum too. Haha! We all used to guess which girl would get the guy in the end from the first episode and whoever was right would get treated to a meal by everyone else. Gosh, sounds so crazy when I think about it now. Lol. It was OK as 'timepass' as they say in Pakistan. I wouldn't go out of my way to watch it now. I have no idea what the Magnificent Century is. The only TV serials I'm currently watching are 'Silent Witness' on the BBC and an Indian chat show called Koffee with Karan.
  12. Strawberries and cream in Pakistan? Wow! They never seem to taste sweet to me anymore. Plus, unless you eat them on the day they are purchased, they go off very quickly. I stick to blueberries instead as they tend to have a slightly longer shelf life. Though blueberries do stain teeth. I've paid a fortune over the years to get my teeth whitened owing to black coffee and blueberries.
  13. Thanks for sharing. I will be staying at my parents for a couple of days. I'll ask my mother to regale me about all the seasonal vegetables that she used to consume in Pakistan. How much I miss eating out in Pakistan. My cousins used to secretly take me to eat the street food when we were kids... and my dada would get furious with them because he worried that I'd get sick because he believed that I had a sensitive 'angrezo wala' stomach.
  14. I've never seen a white Aubergine either.
  15. I was a self-help book junkie as a student. Funnily, we now have two copies of many self-help books - one that I'd bought and one that my husband had acquired before we got married to each other. I used to write notes in mine and highlight important points with a highlighter so I'm keen to keep my copies till my kids have fully utilised them. My husband won't part with his copies because they've been gifted to him by his parents and signed by them (with a personalised message). So, they have sentimental value for him. I'm trying to convince him to take a photo of the page with the personalised messages but to no avail. I've then suggested we go 50/50 - half of his go and half of mine go - but the bargaining continues. At some point, they must all go to charity. The book you've referenced is indeed a very good read. I have the same book - but with a yellow cover - mine is probably an earlier addition. A very good beginners self-help book is one called 'Eat that Frog' by Brian Tracy. It can be read within a few hours and has many takeaways that can easily and practically be applied to everyday life. He does really state the obvious in some cases - but reinforces and drives home what we so often 'choose' to forget.
  16. We are originally Iranian. Ten generations ago everyone in our family spoke Farsi and Arabic fluently.
  17. @AStruggler The second part was intended to be a joke BTW. Please excuse my dry (or some may say bad) sense of humour. Lol. 17:23 Shakir: And your Lord has commanded that you shall not serve (any) but Him, and goodness to your parents. If either or both of them reach old age with you, say not to them (so much as) "Ugh" nor chide them, and speak to them a generous word. ^^^ MashAllah. I appreciate the quote. I will surely make sure that my children learn it rote style. The circle of life.
  18. Some people do actually eat the stems, but mostly they are for aesthetic purposes only.
  19. I believe it's called 'bengan' but I will get this confirmed by my mother when I speak to her next. Regarding the name, apparently back in the 1700s, the early European versions of eggplant were smaller in size, and yellow or white in colour. Hence, they resembled a goose or hen's egg, which led to it being named "eggplant".
  20. Many Pakistani parents tell their kids from the moment that they can comprehend anything: "maa baap se uff bhi karna haram hai." In other words, even uttering a sound in retaliation or disagreement with your parents is forbidden in Islam. Man, how I've been duped!
  21. IMHO the issue partly relates to the fact that 'some' women/young ladies feel a lot of pressure (either self inflicted or by other members of the family) to look the best that they possibly can, and to maintain themselves to the highest degree possible whilst they are single, in order to attract a marriage proposal. Once they have reached their 'goal' of getting married, in some instances they no longer feel the need to maintain the same levels of self discipline anymore as there is no longer a 'motivational factor' driving them to do so. I have seen so many women who lose weight specifically to find a suitor, but as soon as they get married, they pile it all back on again. However, the above is not always the only/sole factor for weight gain in married women. Please remember that a woman's entire life is turned upside down when she gets married and she is going through a huge period of change. She often needs to move to a different town and house; live with people that she doesn't know very well, adjust to a new way of life etc. etc. It is normally expected that a woman must make all the adjustments and changes to her life post marriage, and to 'adapt' to the lifestyle/customs/traditions/way of life etc. of her husband and in-laws. This can take a toll on one's emotional and mental well-being. Also, in some cases, the husband and/or in-laws never seem to approve of anything that the new bride does; there may be a power struggle within the women of the family etc. etc. All this can actually lower one's self esteem which can lead to comfort eating and hence weight gain. Often newly married couples are invited to 'dawats' (dinner invites) for literally months after their marriage. In these dawats one is served with very rich food, and the host insists that you must "keep eating" or else you run the risk of offending them. This will obviously cause weight gain. Many married couples (especially newly married couples) engage in date nights where they eat out at fancy restaurants, dessert shops etc. etc. Pregnancy can take a toll on a woman's body and it can take even the fittest and most dedicated of women months of hard work before their body bounces back in shape, if at all. I've observed that some women eat their children's left over food as they don't believe in food wastage. This will naturally cause weight gain too. But, the most likely reason is that many women are juggling so many tasks at the same time, and wearing so many hats, that they quite simply can't make the time to exercise or to make sensible eating choices. So, as explained above, there can be whole host of reasons why women put weight on post marriage. There is no simplistic or generic answer.
  22. BTW I'm not insinuating that the 'science behind the selection' that you are referring to doesn't work. One must adhere to a number of requisites to the 'T' to achieve the desired gender outcome, which not everyone is realistically capable of owing to a myriad of reasons.
  23. There are numerous books written on this topic. I know someone who tried these 'techniques' during three pregnancies (hoping to have a boy), but every time she delivered a girl. She had lost all confidence in these techniques during her fourth pregnancy, and instead, resorted to praying a lot. In any case, she had found so much happiness and joy in her three daughters that she said that she'd be happy to have a girl again. So, during her fourth pregnancy she only hoped and prayed for a healthy child. This time she had a boy. Generally speaking, I do hold the belief that Allah helps those who help themselves, but as @Reza has already stated, ultimately it comes down to the will of Allah.
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