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Rayhana80

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  1. Disagree
    Rayhana80 reacted to forte in Is it Haram to do Mut'a with westerners?   
    There is no time limit to mut'a.  Mut'a literally means pleasure. One night stands are mut'a-able!
     
    (1)  You can advise and highly recommend, but you cannot control what another person does whether Muslim or non Muslim. It is ultimately up to her.
    (2)  Nowadays, it is easy to determine paternity of a child.  
  2. My Prayers
    Rayhana80 got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in Is it Haram to do Mut'a with westerners?   
    Are you serious? I know someone who is engaged in mutaa very often with non Muslims. When I told him that it’s haram to use it as one night stand, he got furious lol. Just imagine the Christian girl he is using for one night stand, do you honestly think she is going to wait for 4 months idddah? As soon as the man would leave her, she will go sleep with another man. Men believe and hear what they want to hear, if you talk against mutaa, they will make thousand excuses and bring zillion references to prove how it is legal and permissible. May Allah guide us all. 
  3. Like
    Rayhana80 reacted to ali_fatheroforphans in Is it Haram to do Mut'a with westerners?   
    I'm not really sure about these rulings. What if someone is a "Christian", but he or she parties, drinks, has sex with multiple people. I personally think it is unwise to do mutah with such individuals.
  4. Completely Agree
    Rayhana80 reacted to aleena1904 in Is it Haram to do Mut'a with westerners?   
    Just because someone is ‘western’ doesn’t mean they are bad people. A lot of Asians have moved to the western world to better their lives. So discriminating a whole side of the world is ridiculous. 
    So my answer is no it’s not a bad thing to do mutah with western people. You should only really use it if you are serious with the person and want to get to know them and visa Versa. It gives Muslims a chance to explain in detail what Islam is about and how we live our lives. It’s an opportunity to bring more people to Islam or at least spread the word. This is what we are ment to be doing. We should want more people to accept Islam either socially/ society or personally. 
    However if someone wants to use it as a one night stand technique then they do not understand the religion in its entirety. You shouldn’t do mutah or even consider doing it with someone who doesn’t take it seriously. It’s to see if you are compatible for marriage not just for sex. 
  5. Sad
    Rayhana80 got a reaction from Hameedeh in Can we break fast at Sunni maghrib time?   
    It is highly recommended to pray maghrib asap and then break your fast right away. I go to this imambargah where they pray maghrib first then have half an hour lecture then do Isha then after 45 minutes they break their fast. Where on earth does it say that you have to wait that long?? 
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    Rayhana80 got a reaction from notme in Difference between backbiting and venting?   
    Exactly! We seriously need to brush up on that.. if a woman is not allowed to talk to a non-Mehram then she won’t be able go out and work at all. If she wastes her energy on thinking what the opposite gender is thinking, how can she be functional and productive? If men have such problems they should limit their interaction with women. 
     
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    Rayhana80 reacted to rkazmi33 in Difference between backbiting and venting?   
    Thank you! It is good that you think that way. Sorry for misunderstanding and I am sorry for going off-topic. 
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    Rayhana80 got a reaction from rkazmi33 in Difference between backbiting and venting?   
    Now here we go again.. who says I am causing problem in someone’s happily married life? You didn’t get my point .. what I am trying to say is why do women have to make an effort to make it easier for men? If their mind is full of filth, what can we do? Look, let me put it this way, even if a man has a perfect wife and a beautiful complete family, if he wants to go astray he would, nobody can stop him. It’s all in his mind and unfortunately there are handful of people who are loyal to their wives. If a man can get a chance he would flirt with any woman possible regardless of age. Sometimes it amazes me how men think. I try my best not to joke around or talk freely with opposite gender but if I ever have a gut feeling about the other persons intentions I keep my distance. 
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    Rayhana80 reacted to notme in Difference between backbiting and venting?   
    As a compassionate friend of the person who is venting/backbiting, you are in an awkward position and there might be no correct answer. Point out to the complainer that they need to take steps to correct the problem or stop talking about it, because you are concerned that backbiting may happen and you don't want them to suffer from that. 
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    Rayhana80 got a reaction from notme in Difference between backbiting and venting?   
    Well.. I can’t speak for other women but I know my limits. Why is it always a woman who is making an effort to make society a better place? Why can’t a man do it for a change? Men have this disorder or you can say they live in this assumption that other women are better than their wives anyway, they are so ungrateful. So if they are thinking that way, it’s their problem not ours. I don’t think there is anything wrong talking to a na-mahram as long as you r not alone with him and you know your limits. Rest is on Allah to judge. 
  11. Confused
    Rayhana80 reacted to rkazmi33 in Difference between backbiting and venting?   
    If your brother-in-law thinks that he can have more intelligent conversation with you compared to his wife or you are better at cooking and organizing than his wife, then it will cause problems in his marriage. It happens more than we like to admit. Men always compare their wives to all other women and other women usually win in this competition, so yes you are making the problems worse. Social hijab rules say you have to keep the interaction minimum, I find it hard to believe that a woman can have hours long conversation with a serious and expression less face and voice. Every smile on your face looks like a signal to a man. 
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    Rayhana80 reacted to notme in Difference between backbiting and venting?   
    Venting where other people might see or hear you is very likely to be backbiting. Best to keep a private journal if you feel that you must complain. Better still, don't complain about things outside your control - complaining only increases negativity. 
    If you are complaining to seek advice and want to avoid backbiting, it gets complicated. Only seek advice from a trustworthy and discreet person, and avoid mentioning specifics if possible.
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    Rayhana80 reacted to rkazmi33 in Difference between backbiting and venting?   
    Every time backbiting is mentioned, this is also mentioned that if that person is oppressor and the oppressed complains about his Zulm, then that's not backbiting. I have also heard from people that if the person you are talking about is not Shia, then it's not backbiting. So you can talk about non-Muslims and Sunnis. I remember I was hearing a lecture in which scholar said, I am going to talk about one of my relatives, I will change the relation so it doesn't count as back biting. I feel like people find loop holes for laws all the time. We have started treating islamic laws in the same way. I don't think Allah will decide on the basis if such minor technicalities. It depends upon your intention and in most cases, people know who you are talking about, even if you don't mention their name. 
    Another example is hijab. Women follow all the rules of physical hijab and they even try to enforce the rules on other women. Same women are breaking all rules of social hijab, and you cannot say anything to them because you have no proof. If a woman is talking about her work day with her brother in law for hours, you cannot say that she is doing anything unislamic. Similarly, if she is cooking her brother-in-law's favorite dishes everyday, again you cannot stop her because she is not doing anything unislamic. 
    In my family, dinner conversations usually include making fun of women who are black, who are fat, who look like men and women who look like black people. They don't mention my name or my sister's name, but I know they are talking about us. 
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    Rayhana80 reacted to ali_fatheroforphans in Difference between backbiting and venting?   
    I don't like when people are venting to let our everything bad they wanna say. Allah still knows what is in our hearts. 
    I guess it depends, but I wouldn't let it become my habit. 
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    Rayhana80 reacted to ShiaMan14 in Difference between backbiting and venting?   
    Vent = don't mention names.
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    Rayhana80 got a reaction from Haji 2003 in Eid Mubarak (1439 / 2018)   
    Eid Mubarak everyone. Wishing you all a very happy and blessed Eid!!! 
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    Rayhana80 got a reaction from wolverine in Eid Mubarak (1439 / 2018)   
    Eid Mubarak everyone. Wishing you all a very happy and blessed Eid!!! 
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    Rayhana80 got a reaction from ShiaChat Mod in Eid Mubarak (1439 / 2018)   
    Eid Mubarak everyone. Wishing you all a very happy and blessed Eid!!! 
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    Rayhana80 got a reaction from hasanhh in Eid Mubarak (1439 / 2018)   
    Eid Mubarak everyone. Wishing you all a very happy and blessed Eid!!! 
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    Rayhana80 got a reaction from Hameedeh in Eid Mubarak (1439 / 2018)   
    Eid Mubarak everyone. Wishing you all a very happy and blessed Eid!!! 
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    Rayhana80 got a reaction from zodac in Can we break fast at Sunni maghrib time?   
    Omg! Sarcasm at its peak.. brother I only asked a simple question.. didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feeling. i posted this question only because I got confused by rulings of different Marjas where one say u can and another one says you can’t. I wanted to be sure what exactly I was supposed to do.
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    Rayhana80 got a reaction from Ali_Hussain in Can we break fast at Sunni maghrib time?   
    Hiding??? What?? why would I? How did you come to that conclusion? Stop being too presumptuous. Now here u are slandering me of being ashamed of my faith and belief. What is there to hide in Shiasm? I am a proud Shia. Go get a life and don’t respond to my thread please. 
  23. Like
    Rayhana80 reacted to Ron_Burgundy in Can we break fast at Sunni maghrib time?   
    Lol hahaha I can feel your pain. My brother always complains about it that why do we have to break a fast after Maghrib, and I was same because when I was in school I used to do hard labor and by end of maghrib you are about to die :D. 
  24. Angry
    Rayhana80 got a reaction from Ibn al-Hussain in Can we break fast at Sunni maghrib time?   
    16 and 1/2 hours .. 
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    Rayhana80 got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in Can we break fast at Sunni maghrib time?   
    Omg! Sarcasm at its peak.. brother I only asked a simple question.. didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feeling. i posted this question only because I got confused by rulings of different Marjas where one say u can and another one says you can’t. I wanted to be sure what exactly I was supposed to do.
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