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Marzii

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  1. Salam alaikum.. I have known him since childhood...he is a distant cousin...I know him in and out... although he is not perfect...I know in my heart that he is a good human being... practicing the pillars of faith like prayers,fasting,khums,etc...and trying to avoid evils as much as possible... We have literally grown up together
  2. Salam....I am trying to follow his advice and that was why I continued my relationship and it has come to the point of marriage in a few months....but now my OCD is telling me I was in the right frame of mind when I did the istikhara so it was correct and I am doing something wrong
  3. Salam brother... I know in my heart that I did that istikhara because of OCD but my mind keeps telling me that no, it is right...just because at the time of doing the istikhara I said to myself that I am not doing it because of any compulsion....but I know that it was because of my overriding intrusive thoughts...I was seeking reassurance...the istikhara was a reassurance seeking behaviour on my part...but just because I said to myself at the time of doing that istikhara that I am not doing it because of my OCD....now my OCD is telling me that the istikhara was correct and I have to leave my fiancee....it is the relationship OCD that I am facing...it's really heartbreaking for me ..cause I am about to be in a few months time.... please pray for me
  4. I live in india... kolkata...if you can guide please do as to what doctors or treatment centres can be the best to manage my symptoms
  5. Salam brother... unfortunately...I am not under any treatment per se...but my parents do know about my condition and they have been fully supportive...yet it is me who has always lacked in taking my condition seriously... although I have been through hell with religious OCD, harm OCD, relationship OCD....it's really an incompetent description if I tell you that I've been through hell... please do pray for me....I am at a major turning point in my life... please pray to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) for my health and my marriage
  6. Salam alaikum... brother... I have been on medications for my OCD...but for a fairly short while...and have been recommended therapy but have never been to CBT...my OCD had been quiet for a while now for about a few months...but it has come back again...I really am struggling to handle these thoughts...I just am completely struggling...my OCD is telling me that I did the istikhara in my right mind and that I'll have to follow it....but my rational mind thinks that i may have been under the spell of my OCD while seeking the istikhara...just to get an answer...just to get reassurance....which is a common trait in OCD patients...to seek reassurance...I just don't know how to quiet my thoughts
  7. Thank you for replying brother....I am really very scared as to what to do...I feel really doomed
  8. Salam sister....thank you so much for replying and you have helped me a lot previously also ...my mind is telling me that the istikhara which I did previously was correct....and is telling me that my marriage will not be blessed as I am going against it...
  9. Thank you so much for replying....I am very very doubtful about the istikhara that I did a year and a half ago..I did it a state of trance...it was not what I had decided to do...but maybe it was my OCD telling me to seek reassurance...I don't know what to do
  10. Anyone please give some insight
  11. Salam alaikum, I have been diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder when I was 15-16 years old. I have always doubted and had intrusive thoughts about everything and everyone including my religion, my purity, my beliefs,my love for my parents , siblings, fiance... everyone. About 1.5 years ago...I was having extreme intrusive thoughts about my fiance that he was a bad person and about his character....this is a part of my OCD. In my desperation I did an istikhara as to whether I should marry my fiance or not with the intention that if it comes out bad I will follow it for now but redo it later because deep down I knew that I did want to marry him and I was sure.... I think it was just that I was having very bad intrusive thoughts at that time that made me do the istikhara I wanted to get an answer to my intrusive thoughts...this is the compulsion part of my diease..but at the time of doing istikhara I said to myself that it was not a compulsion of my disease and I am doing it just to check as to what answer comes...I was also under the impression that I will not have to follow it and can get away with it.....in short I was not in my right mind....I did the istikhara ,it came out negative,and I was thrown into another realm of intrusive thoughts and doubts that now God also does not want you to be with your fiance....I love him very much and we have been together since childhood...but I asked the istifta of ayatullah sistani about my situation and he answered that the istikhara does not apply to me because I am a patient of OCD and I should consult others in these matters and not rely on istikhara. For a year and a half I accepted his answer and forwarded my relationship with my fiance and now we are getting married in 6 months of time Insha Allah.... Now again these intrusive thoughts have come in and they are telling me that I did that istikhara in my right mind and that God does not want me to be with my fiance and that I should breakup with him....I don't know what to do after so much time has passed and I am on the verge of getting married...I completely trust my fiance and find him to be the best for me....my mind is forcing me to do another istikhara....but I have not done it this time...I did this mistake in the past..... please help me...what should I do? I really want to marry him and I cannot back off now...will Allah not bless my marriage? Please help and guide me.
  12. Salam alaikum all... I suffer from ocd and doubts about everything..related to wudhu ghusl fasting praying... I did my ghusl on 3rd April and before doing ghusl I had blood stains on my body which I removed and performed my ghusl with complete satisfaction.... Now today it's 15th of April and I saw the clothes which got blood stains that day and I am doubting whether other parts of my body also had got blood by seeing the blood stains on the clothes which are still there even after washing... Now I a doubting whether my ghusl was valid that day and whether I had blood stains on other parts of my body that day... I know all this sounds ridiculous but I need help with this... I am fasting and I don't know what to do :(
  13. Thank you... For answering.. I always try to practice the advises.. Please pray for me:(
  14. Salam, thank you so much for your support... Please pray to Allah for me... I'm getting really bad intrusive thoughts.. I don't know if I'll ever be happy with him after marriage also..
  15. Salam brother, I'm having intrusive thoughts again... Are you really sure that this istikhara was not valid? I'm getting thoughts like "so what if your intention was to not follow it if it came bad, you have done it now you will have to follow it otherwise bad things will happen in your marriage" I'm really sorry for troubling you with my thoughts... Please help me... Can you ask any scholar or someone like that if this istekhara is valid or not?
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