3wliya_maryam

Yes, they're pressured or forced. Such mentality will only make them feel older and not their age. And this isn't just about clothes, in general parents expect their children to do everything they're told like some machine. In the comfort of their own home i personally don't see a problem why girls can't wear shorts that reach the knees whereas boys can. If they decide to not study, we can't force them. They've got their own ambitions and passions, we shouldn't limit their abilities or skills. First of all my post was about siblings, not unrelated males and females. If siblings are attracted to each other that's just disgusting and they're mentally sick. Correct, but its not our fault that our society makes it that way.

Salam, Someone correct me if im wrong, but I heard somewhere that cheating on subjects other than islamic related ones is not haram. Even if this is incorrect, most online courses tend to be open book.

Just stop.

No, its cultural. Also keep in mind that every generation is different, and since there is no ruling on a woman dressing modestly around the house just like she does outdoors then, its cultural. partially covering hair, oh my god

Then search on google what it means. So teaching a 5 year old little girl to only wear dresses, to not wear t-shirts and wear modest loose clothing is not sexualisation to you?

I disagree. As I mentioned before, she will be able to differentiate between modest clothing outdoors vs indoors. I know girls who wear pants and a shirt that doesn't go past the waist and still observe hijab and practice modesty outdoors. As always, our demoralizing community will shift the blame onto the women for not dressing up properly and that its a sole reason why they get harassed. Men who have no sharaf or gheera will sexually harass women even if they wear hijab.

Salam alaikum, I don't know the authenticity of the hadiths you've mentioned, but what I'm referring to is wearing normal clothes such as t-shirts and pants. Most girls in strict cultural households are only told to wear dresses from a young age, and I believe its unnecessary and just sexualisation. No one's saying go and wear a bikini and walk around the house in front of your father and brothers. Even short dresses or short pants and t shirts should be permissible. Why is it that only boys can go shirtless around the house and wear short shorts above the knees?

Salam alaikum, I thought I'd discuss this topic as I am searching for any Islamic evidence as to whether or not young girls should be wearing modestly in front of their own fathers and brothers, because never have I heard that this is obligatory. I have always thought that this was a cultural thing instead. The topic itself just irks me. My personal take on this is that its nothing but sexualisation, and I do not care who comes here and tells me that its not. I have seen girls as young as 5 or 6 literally being forced to wear long dresses that must go past the knees in front of their male family members, out of "respect". Seriously? Respect what? They are literally young girls. It makes absolutely no sense and it even gives off such a weird vibe that their fathers and brothers are perverted. The parents go mad if the daughter wants to wear pants or show a bit of skin, and coerce her to only wear long clothes. She's literally a child. Then the parents make the excuse that if the child doesn't learn to wear long at a young age, then it will be hard to convince her to dress modestly and practice hijab at a later age. That's not true. If a daughter from a young age watches her own mother wear tighter or shorter clothes at home and dresses modestly when leaving the house, she will understand the difference between the two. Its not difficult for a child to understand, its all about how the mother teaches the child about modesty and how it should be practiced. Our fathers and brothers are not strangers. This is the kind of mentality that affects our relationship with them. And if they're the type to check out their daughters/sisters and are attracted to them, then...yikes. Is there seriously a sharia on this, by Sayyid sistani for instance, that talks about this?

Well then explain to me why most men in the Arab Islamic world will still stare at women no matter what she’s wearing. Explain to me why men will still sexually abuse women and rape them even as hijabis. Even if hypothetically those guidelines were adhered that’s not gonna fix our society nor keep it in a healthy condition because our society is filled with fasaad. Men have a tendency to stare either way. Now, I’m not using this as an excuse for non hijabis, I’m being realistic here. Um what? “Managed and policed?” What are we, machines?

Living in a society that I choose not to be apart of.

Your point here is 100% correct. Sadly. Unfortunately, our Islamic communities and even families fail to teach the real purpose of the hijab and why both women and men should practice hijab, because the hijab is more than just a headscarf and modest clothing. They will talk about how the main reason behind wearing the hijab is to cover up in front of men, and although that is one of the reasons, it is not the main reason. The main reason for the hijab is for the sake of Allah, not for the sake of men. It is solely an act of worship. Why do you think we wear the veil when we're praying salah at home, even though there isn't any non mahram around? That further proves the point of the hijab's purpose. Our communities need to do a better job.

baffled as to how the mods approved this user's post yet do not approve the posts of other anonymous guests.

I'm sorry to say this but unfortunately a part of it has to do with his upbringing on the both the parents' end. Hanging out in the wrong crowd is also a major factor. Both of my parents are also considered "religious", but my brother is in a similar situation as the son. I don't think it has to do with how religious the parents are but more so HOW they instil the love of Islam into their children. The HOW is very important. The only thing she can do is advise him. If he doesn't listen then its on him. Maybe she should try and befriend him whilst also reminding him that she's unhappy with what he's doing. If the single mother decides to go on holiday to an Islamic country, she should take him with her, not to keep him there, but maybe allowing him to be surrounded by more Muslims and an Islamic environment might be good for him. I'm not saying that this will work and change him, but it might provide him with a new perspective. fee amanillah

You're hilarious

Really? Minimal mistakes? So enforcing the hijab onto every woman and other islamic teachings is considered a minimal mistake and success? It has caused nothing but fitna and further hatred spread on the religion of Islam and the true purpose of the hijab. And you call that minimal? And just because they're the only Shia based government in the world, we are OBLIGATED to support them?!! What the heck. The Ahlulbayt(عليه السلام) never enforced their beliefs and practices onto people. I don't need to provide evidence, its basic common sense, and every single Imam (عليه السلام) never enforced Islam onto anyone and the Holy Quran itself states that there is no compulsion in religion