3wliya_maryam

Brother, if you don't mind telling me what planet are you living in? Allah has given her the free will, but you end up finding a vast majority of men abuse that.

Salam, I want to understand why people (including myself) do this. Any tips on how to stop doing that? jazakallah

Because humans suck period

Salam alaikum, I was hoping if anyone here could give me an insight on what their communities/culture is like. What are the core values, the positive/negative aspects etc. I am currently writing a non fiction story that addresses the issues of Muslim communities. jazakallah

its an urgent matter

salam I was wondering if anyone here knows a certain dua or prayer to expose the hidden secret or truth of someone else. fee amanillah

I agree that both sides need to be honest about eachother's past because that's one of the main ways of building trust. But what you also need to understand is that in ignorant communities where there are some girls who feel pressured and refuse to talk about their past in fear of rejection. You find that most men want a 'clean' and 'chaste' women who has never had sex or dated anyone. Yet the dude isn't even perfect himself and slept with multiple women, and rejects the idea that its okay to marry a woman who did that once in the past. Its the prejudiced society for me.

- egotistical / arrogance/ narcissism/ misogyny / patriarchy - culture over deen - marrying women without their knowledge a.k.a ‘halal cheating’ - not letting them work - he can force the woman not to leave the house if she wanted whether she likes it or not -she gotta obey the man of the house whether she likes it or not - she can’t do anything without his permission - he’s allowed to invade in her privacy but she can’t invade in his

I'm honestly shocked as to how clueless some of you people are on this matter. Mate on what part of planet earth are you living in

Sadly it’s not. Yes. Very much so , even in my own home. it’s common almost everywhere so I guess the community u live either there’s no mysogyny whatsoever or maybe you fail to see it cause you’re a male yourself. Often men aren’t able to understand what women go through and have this idea that they tend to exaggerate

All i know is looking out for major red flags is a must. Know whether he's serious or not by asking the right questions. Don't rely on just knowing him and his family's reputation 'cause thats how the community may see them, but they might turn out different to what u expected. some communities don't allow the engagement period to extend, which is a problem

Why do people forget that there are many so called faithful pious men that turn out to be pieces of garbage? The world's a scary place and sometimes one can't distinguish between good or bad especially if they're blinded with love. It may sound like I'm bashing men and like I even care, but I also don't understand where you find women who continue to live with their husbands amidst the emotional and physical abuse.

Many ‘pious God fearing men’ appear that way until they show their true colours after marriage.

Direct descendants of the Holy Prophet (sawas) For a male hes known as sayyed and girl is called 3elwiya (in other countries they name it differently)

you clearly didn't read my thread properly. i never said all of them, i said MAJORITY of them are like that. You'll only find a few that will be humble and won't boast about their status. That's just the reality.