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Assalamu alikum. While I agree with the other user that her dad might be asking you because he thinks no one else will want her, make this about you and her, not about her dad. I'm kind of skeptical that she would have done black magic. If I were you, I would try to find it in my heart to forgive her. But I wouldn't jump too fast into the relationship. Take it slowly. But that's just me. You asked what I would do. I hope you do the same but it's really up to how you feel. May Allahسُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى Help you in finding what's good for you.
assalamu alikum. How do you deal with sexual frustration when masturbating is haram? (Female,18) I really like this boy, my age. And this isn't one of those silly crushes where you have feelings for someone and that's about it. Obviously I've always had those, but I'd never think much of them because they're just feelings and not people I'd want to be with. But now, with the boy, he's the first person I actually like and feel this way about. He's religious and his personality is great, it's not even so much his appearance that attracts me. We don't do/speak in any way is haram. Sometimes we message and when we see each other in person usually someone is around (i.e. my brother or mom, because he's a family friend). I get really intense feelings and heavy breathing. It's not as easy as just not thinking about him. I tried to reach tv to get my mind off him but I find myself out of focus from the tv show. Istaghfir Allah, I go out of focus in prayer too. And it's not like marriage is an option. I'm going to college as is he, and our parents definitely won't let us get married unless he's financially stable. I just don't know why masturbation would be haram? I know Allahسُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى Knows Best (i.e. it could be addicting or lead to haram things) but at the same time what is someone supposed to do when so sexually frustrated, when it's affecting my day to day life? Please be open minded when answering Thank you and wa salam
Assalamu alikum. I started thinking about this question recently when I overheard my dad telling my brother "if you find yourself in need of relieving sexual frustration, do it the halal way, with mutah." This made me really angry because my dad is close minded and too traditional; I wouldn't even dare ask my dad to give me permission to do mutah. So my brother (20) gets to relieve himself with a girl he has a contract with (he told me he didn't yet but plans to) and my parents don't even have to know about it. And then there's me (18). I basically have to wait til marriage, my estimate is around 24, until I can have intercourse. It's not so much that I wanna have intercourse so badly (Yes, I get really excited, but I really don't have anyone to do it with anyway) but that men can do it whenever and many women can't because they need permission, and thanks to traditional parents, that permission is never gonna happen. I know Allahسُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى Knows Best (for reasons such as not tricking the woman, blackmailing her etc) but didn't Heسُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى also know that many women are gonna be deprived of mutah just because they need permission? What about a case such as mine; is it similar to normal marriages where I can do it without permission if my father is denying it solely on the base of culture? I.e. I think I read that in (shia) Islam, if the girl is being denied a religious good man solely on the base of personal distaste (such as racism) then she can marry him without permission. Is it the same with mutah? Again, It's not so much that I wanna have intercourse as I don't even have anyone I'd do it with (I'd only do it in a relationship), but this is frustrating. Please respond open mindedly. Thank you wa salam