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  1. I think physical attraction is important but not as essential as religion and personality. I also don't think it's wise to be excessively picky and have a set criteria for your partner's appearance, e.g. a specific skin colour, hair colour/length, height, etc. You might never find a person with the exact features you're looking for. On the other hand, you might find them and also find out that you both share nothing in common, or perhaps you might have views that conflict with theirs regarding religion. In the end, however, to each their own... I just think it would be worthwhile to give people a chance, even if you don't think they would suit you. You won't lose anything by doing so and, subhanAllah, you might end up liking the very person you thought you never would. I'd also like to add the importance of being kind to your fellow muslim brothers and sisters and to not judge them, regardless of their looks. Please don't make assumptions about how a person lives based on their appearance. If they're overweight, have acne/acne scars/rough skin/stretch marks, have dark circles/bags underneath their eyes... y'know, things that are typically considered to be not aesthetically pleasing... please don't assume things. Please don't assume they're just lazy, are not prioritising themselves, have no time management, don't know how to take care of themselves, etc. Most people are actively trying to find a solution for their problems and haven't found one yet. Some are absolutely trying their best and it's just not working out. Everyone has different circumstances, and I'm sure we can all agree life isn't as simple as a lot of people make it out to be.
  2. JazakAllahu khayran, thank you so much for bringing more awareness to this.
  3. If you really love her, don't let her be misguided like this. This is a situation where the rules are clear - it's not allowed, regardless of how much you love her or she loves you. It isn't an attack on either of you, but the rules are right there in the Qur'an. Even if you do get married, as previous users have stated, it would not be an Islamically valid marriage. You would just be leading her into more sin. If you love her, why would you sacrifice her eternal life for this temporary one? Please think about your actions and its consequences.
  4. Do you know of a reliable online source that identifies which of the ahadith in Bukhari are incorrect/weak?
  5. What about women who are unable to raise children? If the main role of a woman is, as you say, to be a mother, and by Allah's will that ability is gone, what is her role then? Not looking to start an argument or discussion, I'm just curious as to what your perspective is on this.
  6. I'm an Arab and I hate hummus. Hummus lovers, fight me.
  7. The occupied have the right to resist the occupation. It's a different case when your home is being destroyed and your people are being beaten, jailed and killed every day, including women, children and the elderly. I appreciate the need to try and calm things down, but you don’t tell people who are suffering, and have been suffering for an extremely long time, from constant oppression and aggression to ‘not be angry.’ Islam is a religion of peace but it is also a religion of justice.
  8. Indoors squad! @notme How come you don't get to spend much time outdoors?
  9. First, get your bloods done to rule out any underlying cause that might be contributing to your fast metabolism. When everything's in the clear, try eating more frequently, so 5-6 meals spread throughout the day rather than just 2 or 3. Make sure they're balanced and nutrient-dense meals, you don't want to be filling yourself up with bad food! Once you've got your diet sorted, add in exercise, especially strength training to build up your muscles. Try doing this for a month, so weigh yourself at the beginning and once the month is over, weigh yourself again to see if anything has changed or if you're still the same. If you're finding that you're stuck, it would be worthwhile seeing a dietitian or nutritionist to help you with a diet and exercise plan for weight gain.
  10. Alhamdulillah for everything. I know how hard it is to be depressed. I also know how hard it is to see people leave. Please don’t put pressure on yourself to have everything sorted out as quickly as possible. Be kind to yourself. Healing takes a lot of time and patience. Keep up your studies and 5 daily prayers, even if you don’t feel like doing them at all. It’s the smallest things, done consistently, that are the biggest achievements. Try talking things out with someone you’re still connected to. If you don’t feel comfortable doing that, try counselling. Talk to Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى as well. Pour your heart out and make lots of dua for a solution. You will always have Him to turn to. May Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى help you get out of this situation, replace the people you have lost, and fill your life with love and happiness. May Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى reward you each time you get up to do something for yourself, be it studying or prayers, because I know even the simplest tasks become so hard to do when you feel empty.
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