SeekingHeaven

Thanks for the advice Batoul, but I feel my main issue is nervousness when wanting to approach a girl, I also think this is due to the fact that throughout high school I completely shunned everyone because I believed they would be a bad influence on my religiosity. This means that I have never had a friend that is a girl, which means I have no clue on what to talk to a girl about... I also need to work on my self esteem but I’m not sure how to go about doing so, I start getting anxious when talking to someone new, especially a girl and then start beating my self up about.

I truly wish this was the way societies did this but it’s not. I would probably faint before I say this to a girl who I have never spoken to. Also I am referring to a girl who I don’t even know the name of... just seen here and there and think that she is respectful and would like to talk to without sounding creepy or like I’m lost

I am talking about a girl that I have never spoken to before, also I live in the US, I can’t just go straight to her parents without talking to her first, that would probably look strange in her eyes...

Salam, I want to know how you would like a man that is interested in talking and getting to know you, to approach you. What should he say? what should he not? Say, I have seen a girl in my city here and there but we never spoke, how should I go about talking to her? Normally guy’s here try to impress her or compliment her and expect her to smile and open a conversation from there to try and get her number... so please help us in understanding the proper way of doing this

That is true, this sin is hindering my college studies, workouts, and job and spirituality. I have made a commitment to stop today. Thank you sister

Should I wait till tomorrow when she is awake so I can tell her or just delete my account now? I feel like I should warn her not to fall for guys pressuring her into sending them pictures. Because she was reluctant but I influenced her into doing so. She even said she doesn’t wanna do it but I persuaded her. I don’t want to be the reason she messes her life up.

I have managed to quit masturbation for a month but i returned to it last week and I did feel the benefits of not masturbating but it also let me let my guard down because I thought I had it under control. Only to return to it once again. This time I dragged a girl into my sin and managed to make it worse. I feel like a disgrace right now but am also afraid that I might not care tomorrow or even in a few days.

Salam, sorry for the long post!! I am a male that lives in the us and around 6 years ago when I was in the middle of high school I changed my life completely and began fulfilling all my wajibats and all I wanted to do when I was not busy was listen to lectures and gain knowledge and spirituality. Fast forward 3 years and after many ups and downs in spirituality I found myself returning to my old sins in small innocent steps. Specifically the one sin that would haunt me the most was looking at girls and masturbation. This was something that I had stopped completely in the beginning an

Salam brother, not sure if you’re interested in listening to a lecture about the topic but I will link one below:

Salam, this is an answer that I found on sayed sistani website, Question: What are the limits of obeying one’s parents? Answer: The duty of a child towards his parents is of two kinds: The First: To be kind towards them by providing for them, if they are in need. To provide for their day-to-day needs. To respond to their requests that are related to their daily lives at a level that is normal and usual for a human being, in the sense that if he refuses to fulfill them, it would be regarded as “not being good to them” — and that would differ depending on whether they are healthy and

I agree with you, I understand that getting addicted to it is not good but hamdillah I am not addicted.

I don’t follow that madhab, I follow sayed sistani.

I know there are halal and haram forms of music and I sometimes hear some that I don’t think are haram (binaural beats, soothing sounds etc.). I want to know if the following is haram or not I would likely listen to this while studying or stressed out.

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Salam, is it OK or RIGHT for a follower of the ahlulbayt to watch tv (shows, series’s, movies) during the first 10 days of Muharram? What about after the 10 days? Do you watch tv during Muharram? What should we watch other than lectures especially if you have younger siblings that can’t handle too much religion? All advice is welcome