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    Ruqaya101 reacted to Islandsandmirrors in Little boy killed in Medina just for being Shia   
    A Shia boy was killed in Medina by a Sunni man. Someone please find the link. 
    May Allah bless this little boy with paradise. 
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to ali_fatheroforphans in Older and younger sisters   
    Every generation considers itself to be open-minded and will play the victim game. It's not that simple to say that the younger sisters are superior than the aunties, vice versa. There needs to be a mutual understanding between both. People from both generations have flaws.
    The younger generation claim that the older generation are close-minded because they hold onto myths and do blind following.  The older generation consider the younger generation to be close-minded because they blindly accept any worldview from any Tom, Dick and Harry.
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from Sumerian in Older and younger sisters   
    Let’s be honest.
    For some reason, conservative ideas get thrown around in society way more often then we would appreciate. And for whatever it’s worth, the older sisters and aunties seem to like the “authority” they have being the elder. I hope for my sake and others that when I become a mother and aunty, I won’t abuse my authority to make assumptions neither make senseless judgement that spreads toxicity through a clean and pure environment such as Islam. 
    We should learn and discipline, teach to judge ourselves before we judge others. We should learn and teach ourselves to place ourselves in others shoes and see through their struggles. We should bear each other’s struggles and pain as if it’s our own. Not to judge and not to comment when it’s not going to be of any use or help or support to ourselves or others. 
    Mae should always learn to speak good and spread good. That kindness should be instilled within our hearts. 
    I think it’s time that we should come forward with love and appreciation and apologise to whoever we have wronged, been judgemental to, been harsh to and to let bygones be bygones. Life is so so so short... let us leave a positive message and rememberance in the hearts of one another... let us remember each other for the kindness and passion of our religion. Let us remember each other for the respect we give and take. Let us remember each other for the prayers we give. 
    Thank you brother @Sumerian.
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from Sumerian in Older and younger sisters   
    Let’s be honest.
    For some reason, conservative ideas get thrown around in society way more often then we would appreciate. And for whatever it’s worth, the older sisters and aunties seem to like the “authority” they have being the elder. I hope for my sake and others that when I become a mother and aunty, I won’t abuse my authority to make assumptions neither make senseless judgement that spreads toxicity through a clean and pure environment such as Islam. 
    We should learn and discipline, teach to judge ourselves before we judge others. We should learn and teach ourselves to place ourselves in others shoes and see through their struggles. We should bear each other’s struggles and pain as if it’s our own. Not to judge and not to comment when it’s not going to be of any use or help or support to ourselves or others. 
    Mae should always learn to speak good and spread good. That kindness should be instilled within our hearts. 
    I think it’s time that we should come forward with love and appreciation and apologise to whoever we have wronged, been judgemental to, been harsh to and to let bygones be bygones. Life is so so so short... let us leave a positive message and rememberance in the hearts of one another... let us remember each other for the kindness and passion of our religion. Let us remember each other for the respect we give and take. Let us remember each other for the prayers we give. 
    Thank you brother @Sumerian.
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from Sumerian in Older and younger sisters   
    Let’s be honest.
    For some reason, conservative ideas get thrown around in society way more often then we would appreciate. And for whatever it’s worth, the older sisters and aunties seem to like the “authority” they have being the elder. I hope for my sake and others that when I become a mother and aunty, I won’t abuse my authority to make assumptions neither make senseless judgement that spreads toxicity through a clean and pure environment such as Islam. 
    We should learn and discipline, teach to judge ourselves before we judge others. We should learn and teach ourselves to place ourselves in others shoes and see through their struggles. We should bear each other’s struggles and pain as if it’s our own. Not to judge and not to comment when it’s not going to be of any use or help or support to ourselves or others. 
    Mae should always learn to speak good and spread good. That kindness should be instilled within our hearts. 
    I think it’s time that we should come forward with love and appreciation and apologise to whoever we have wronged, been judgemental to, been harsh to and to let bygones be bygones. Life is so so so short... let us leave a positive message and rememberance in the hearts of one another... let us remember each other for the kindness and passion of our religion. Let us remember each other for the respect we give and take. Let us remember each other for the prayers we give. 
    Thank you brother @Sumerian.
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to Sumerian in Older and younger sisters   
    Personally, based on what I've observed on the internet and in real life, there seems to be a generational gap between older sisters (aunties) and younger sisters. 
    My aunties irl, many times they speak against the current young generation of women. The reasons can range from modesty to authority - implying women these days are trying to be the boss.
    I even see it on this forum, in some threads.
    Do you people, especially sisters, agree or see this?
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to IbnSina in Backbiting, gheebah   
    Salam aleykum,
    Backbiting also called gheebah is a very serious sin within Islam, but also in most of the major religions of humanity.
    I would like to remind my brothers and sisters of this as unfortunately I have seen this shameful and disgraceful practise more and more popular. Sometimes it is done without realizing it and sometimes it is done without caring about it being a grave sin.
     
    First of all, lets define what backbiting is according to the general dictionaries out there before looking at what Islam says about it:
    To say mean or spiteful things about a person (such as someone who is not present) To attack the character or reputation of (a person who is not present). To talk spitefully about (an absent person) The above is the definition of backbiting according to several different dictionaries online.
    If we look at how Islam defines it then we have a hadtih from Rasulullah(S) who says:
    “Backbiting is to mention your brother's name in connection with what he hates." Nahj al Fasahah, tradition No. 255. Page No. 42.
    "Backbiting is to say something about your brother that he would not like." Kanz al Ummal, no 8024.
     
    Further more Rasulullah(S) says about backbiting:
    "Do not backbite Muslims and do not try to discover their faults." Nahj al Fasahah, tradition No 463. Page No. 68.
    "Backbiting is worse than adultery', at which he was asked, "How so?" He replied, 'A man commits adultery, then repents, and Allah pardons him for it, whereas the backbiter is not forgiven until his victim forgives him." Al-Targhib wa al-Tarhib, v 3, p.511, no 24.
    "Backbiting eats away at a man's faith faster than a gangrenous sore can eat away to the inside." al-Kafi, v 2, page 357, no. 1.
    "Whoever backbites a fellow Muslim man or woman, Allah neither accepts his prayer nor his fasting for forty days and nights, until and unless the victim of his backbiting forgives him." Bihar al Anwar, v75, p 258, no 53.
     
    In the holy Qur'an, we find that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) tells us:
    “Believers, stay away from conjecture; acting upon some conjecture may lead to sin. Do not spy on one another or backbite. Would any of you like to eat the disgusting dead flesh of your brother? Have fear of Allah; Allah accepts repentance and is All- merciful (49:12).”
    “Allah does not love public accusation unless one is truly wronged. Allah is All-hearing and All- knowing. (4:148)”
     
     
    Please dear brothers and sisters, I urge all of you to be very careful not to do backbiting whether that is done on purpose or not done on purpose. Calling a brother or a sister who is not present a lair or two faced, which both means he or she is being called a munafiq is a very serious accusation. Please be careful not to backbite brothers or sisters who are not present to defend themselves or to explain themselves, try and maintain your own diginity at all costs and if you run upon a brother and sister who is backbiting for whatever reason, ask them to stop and if they do not stop then remove yourself from such company.
    Ya Ali!
  8. Completely Agree
    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from ali_fatheroforphans in Freedom of opinion   
    You’re very true in what you say @2Timeless, it’s very unfortunate that hurtful and rude comments and statements are said so freely and openly. 
    May Allah guide us all. 
    To the sisters and brothers and they know themselves, I advise that next time you make comments... ask yourself if it’s necessary and whether it will be of any help to you or to others. Is it beneficial in the smallest way? 
    Our words hold power, much more stronger than the pen and the sword. Be wise in what you say. 
  9. Completely Agree
    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from ali_fatheroforphans in Freedom of opinion   
    You’re very true in what you say @2Timeless, it’s very unfortunate that hurtful and rude comments and statements are said so freely and openly. 
    May Allah guide us all. 
    To the sisters and brothers and they know themselves, I advise that next time you make comments... ask yourself if it’s necessary and whether it will be of any help to you or to others. Is it beneficial in the smallest way? 
    Our words hold power, much more stronger than the pen and the sword. Be wise in what you say. 
  10. Completely Agree
    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from ali_fatheroforphans in Freedom of opinion   
    You’re very true in what you say @2Timeless, it’s very unfortunate that hurtful and rude comments and statements are said so freely and openly. 
    May Allah guide us all. 
    To the sisters and brothers and they know themselves, I advise that next time you make comments... ask yourself if it’s necessary and whether it will be of any help to you or to others. Is it beneficial in the smallest way? 
    Our words hold power, much more stronger than the pen and the sword. Be wise in what you say. 
  11. Completely Agree
    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from ali_fatheroforphans in Freedom of opinion   
    You’re very true in what you say @2Timeless, it’s very unfortunate that hurtful and rude comments and statements are said so freely and openly. 
    May Allah guide us all. 
    To the sisters and brothers and they know themselves, I advise that next time you make comments... ask yourself if it’s necessary and whether it will be of any help to you or to others. Is it beneficial in the smallest way? 
    Our words hold power, much more stronger than the pen and the sword. Be wise in what you say. 
  12. Completely Agree
    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from ali_fatheroforphans in Freedom of opinion   
    You’re very true in what you say @2Timeless, it’s very unfortunate that hurtful and rude comments and statements are said so freely and openly. 
    May Allah guide us all. 
    To the sisters and brothers and they know themselves, I advise that next time you make comments... ask yourself if it’s necessary and whether it will be of any help to you or to others. Is it beneficial in the smallest way? 
    Our words hold power, much more stronger than the pen and the sword. Be wise in what you say. 
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to ali_fatheroforphans in Freedom of opinion   
    Seriously some threads are getting toxic, I seriously think we need strong leadership. In the name of religion, no one should be allowed to say hurtful things. Let's be human first, and it's not that difficult. These kind of fights lower the standard of the site. Imagine if reverts were to come across this site, how will they react to all this?
    If we want to please the Imam of our time, it's not about always being on the prayer mat, giving khums etc. It's whether we can get rid of our hatred and love each other for the sake of Allah and the Ahlul Bayt (عليه السلام).
    Every day we listen to Ziyarat Ashura but these words don't sink in our hearts:
     I am a friends to those who are friends to you and I am an enemy to those who are enemies to you
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to ali_fatheroforphans in Ate/Eating/Will Eat?   
    @2Timeless @Ruqaya101   ^^^^^
    That's why I was busy yesterday lol
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to IbnSina in Marriage   
    The world is very big, ask your parents to increase their search area. Usually there is someone responsible for match making in every mosque/community in different cities.
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to Fakeha in Marriage   
    I'll rephrase it... What's the solution for parent's desperateness when they can not find the potential spouse for their child which eventually makes the child desperate too... 
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to Marbles in Marriage   
    Marriage.
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from Asghar Ali Karbalai in Nahjul Balagha   
    Sermon 11 
    The first sentence is this: 
    “Mountains May move from their position, but you should not move from yours” 
    ( this is talking about that mountains move by continental drift of continents and natural disasters)
    I heard this somewhere.
    that the sentences of the sermons all represent a scientific aspect of the Earth and the skies and what is in between.
    another one is sermon 72
    “ My God, the spreader of the surfaces and keeper of the skies...”
    He is talking about the tectonic plates and how it seperates on the surface. And generally, apparently the skies refers to the seven layers of the Earth. 
    I may be wrong because I remember this only from what I heard and understood. Btw it is hidden knowledge yet many scholars still try to find the scientific knowledge within them and make estimates of what it could mean.
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to Laayla in Should I leave Shiachat?   
    Bismehe Ta3ala,
    Assalam Alikum Brother,
    Sure you can cut down on the number of hours you are on ShiaChat.  Let's say an hour a day and time yourself.  That way you know what is going on in the forums and also contribute what you find interesting.  
    Life is too short brother, less time on the internet is actually better for you.  You can use your extra time by making up visits to family and friends, reading a book you always wanted to finish, working out in the gym, or any other activity you had in mind.
    Do you currently hold a job?  If you are a student, it would be nice to get a part time job, save up your money and go for ziyarat brother.  I promise you, once you go once you always want to go again!   @starlight  @laithAlIRAQI  @Darth Vader Just ask our dear members about their ziyarah.  Unforgettable!
    Please recite fatiha for me brother to fulfill my wish to go for ziyarah.  God bless you.
    M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah
  20. Respectfully Disagree
    Ruqaya101 reacted to ali_fatheroforphans in Should I leave Shiachat?   
    I'm warning you it can be addictive.  It's mainly run by a bunch of youth who only talk about marriage.
    @2Timeless runs that group and facilities marriage discussions.
    Also @Ruqaya101 instigates marriage topics.
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from Asghar Ali Karbalai in Nahjul Balagha   
    Sermon 11 
    The first sentence is this: 
    “Mountains May move from their position, but you should not move from yours” 
    ( this is talking about that mountains move by continental drift of continents and natural disasters)
    I heard this somewhere.
    that the sentences of the sermons all represent a scientific aspect of the Earth and the skies and what is in between.
    another one is sermon 72
    “ My God, the spreader of the surfaces and keeper of the skies...”
    He is talking about the tectonic plates and how it seperates on the surface. And generally, apparently the skies refers to the seven layers of the Earth. 
    I may be wrong because I remember this only from what I heard and understood. Btw it is hidden knowledge yet many scholars still try to find the scientific knowledge within them and make estimates of what it could mean.
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from Asghar Ali Karbalai in Nahjul Balagha   
    Sermon 11 
    The first sentence is this: 
    “Mountains May move from their position, but you should not move from yours” 
    ( this is talking about that mountains move by continental drift of continents and natural disasters)
    I heard this somewhere.
    that the sentences of the sermons all represent a scientific aspect of the Earth and the skies and what is in between.
    another one is sermon 72
    “ My God, the spreader of the surfaces and keeper of the skies...”
    He is talking about the tectonic plates and how it seperates on the surface. And generally, apparently the skies refers to the seven layers of the Earth. 
    I may be wrong because I remember this only from what I heard and understood. Btw it is hidden knowledge yet many scholars still try to find the scientific knowledge within them and make estimates of what it could mean.
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to OnThePathToWisdom in Nahjul Balagha   
    I know these ones already. Thank you though
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to Qa'im in The Rise of the Qaim - paperback and ebook   
    Salaam alaykum,
    I am very proud to present the culmination of nearly ten years of research on the Twelfth Imam, al-Hujja b. a-Hasan, al-Mahdi, al-Qa'im, the Patron of Time, peace be upon him.
    This is by far the most comprehensive English work on the subject.
    It is a compilation of the most ancient and most reliable hadiths on the Mahdi from Twelver Shīʿī sources. Learn about the birth of the Twelfth Imam, his occultation, his ambassadors, his inevitable return, Islamic eschatology, and much more.
    Paperback now available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1790653827
    E-book available: https://www.amazon.com/Rise-Qaim-Appearance-Established-Narrations-ebook/dp/B07L2K8GW2/ref=sr_1_sc_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1543840819&sr=1-1-spell&keywords=the+rise+of+fthe+qa'im
    Big big thanks and duas for those who helped me in this project. Namely, @Abu Nur @Ibn al-Hussain @Cake
    @Abu Tufayl @Hannibal 
    May you be rewarded for your assistance.
    ----------------------------
    "... an essential compendium concerning the concept of the Mahdi in the English language ... A highly welcomed effort, it is useful for researchers as well as those wanting to understand the idea of the Mahdi within the context of the classical literature on the subject." -- Sayyid Hussain Makke
    "... a fresh and insightful approach to the translation of traditions concerning the twelfth Imam and the rising of the Qa’im ... it is my hope that this work will be of benefit to all seekers of knowledge who wish to become further acquainted with the Twelfth Imam (ajt) and his coming." -- Shaykh Vinay Khetia
    "A long awaited and much-needed work for the English-speaking world. In an age where skepticism regarding religious beliefs is prevalent, the author has collected many of the reliable traditions on the subject of the Mahdi (a) and has made them readily accessible." -- Sayyid Ali Imran
    "The most comprehensive hadith compilation about the twelth Imam present in the English language." -- Dr. Taymaz Tabrizi
    "Trained in both secular academia and in the sciences of the seminary Bilal Muhammad combines the very best of both worlds especially when it comes to his methodological rigour in selecting the narrations of this work." -- Dr. Francisco Luis

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    Ruqaya101 reacted to ali_fatheroforphans in How to strengthen your Iman   
    Salam,
    This is probably a question everyone begs to ask. I spoke with a respected sheikh and he gave some very good and brief tips. I hope everyone benefits from this, nothing complicated.
    There are three stages you have to keep in mind when we talk about faith (iman).
    (1) Confessing by tongue
    (2) Belief in heart
    (3) Actions
    The most important stage is the second one. We will often confess by our tongue, do our wajibats, but there is no presence of heart.
    The Sheikh stressed on the fact that some people don't have true belief, giving an example of his encounter with a salafi student. The student believed in some violent verses and refused to believe the peaceful ones. The sheikh translated a peaceful verse right in front of him, but the student refused to accept out of ignorance, saying "wait till I learn Arabic, I'll prove you wrong". 
    The sheikh said that these types of people don't have an attitude to learn, and nothing goes through their hearts, which is why they find it hard to accept even if they are convinced.
    Faith is something everyone has. Allah has created a system where we have Iman the minute we were born. In the world of particles, we even confessed to Allah - "there is no God but Allah". However just because we can't remember it doesn't mean that we don't have faith. It is our duty to unlock faith in a world of corruption and materialism. Our blurred vision is through desires, lust, sins etc.
    The best way to unlock faith is to observe nature. Most Prophets were shepherds, so you can imagine how they observed pure nature. Nature is pure and it reflects the signs of Allah. The Qur'an constantly tells us to look around and not to be so restricted. If we simply spend a few minutes just looking at a tree with pure intentions, knowing how this was not created in vain, our iman will be strengthened.
    Obviously other ones are obvious such as refraining from sins etc.
    Also what are your opinions? How do you think we can strengthen our iman?
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