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Ruqaya101

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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from AmirioTheMuzzy in I need some advice on a serious matter.   
    im so, so sorry. 
    you are not impure! 
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from Guest101 in I need some advice on a serious matter.   
    im so, so sorry. 
    you are not impure! 
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from aaaz1618 in I need some advice on a serious matter.   
    im so, so sorry. 
    you are not impure! 
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to Guest101 in I need some advice on a serious matter.   
    Salaam, 
    I've just created this new account for identity purposes. If the mods think this is too inappropriate then I guess it will be removed... 
    This is the first time I've ever told anyone about this. Straight into it. When I was about 9 years old, my brother was about 13. One day he called me into my parents bedroom and he locked the door. He told my Mum that we would be playing a game. But no. He lied down on the bed and removed his clothes and told me to take mine off. He was my older brother and at the time I didn't see anything wrong with it, so I did. He then told me to start touching his pe*is and basically give him oral sex. I didn't want to but I just thought it was a game. Then after sometime he made me lie down and said he was going to lick me as well. But when he did, I started laughing and told him that it was tickling me, he stopped obviously so no one heard me. Then the worst happened. He told me to go on all fours, then he penetrated me. It hurt so bad, I said that I wanted to go downstairs but he said that he would give me sweets if I stayed, so I did again I just thought it was a game. He started again and it hurt me but I didn't say anything. Soon he asked "Can you feel anything wriggling". Remembering this now is so disgusting. I said no. But eventually he finished. After he said not to tell anyone because it was "our secret little game". But he never did it again. So for a few years I didn't tell anyone anyway. But somewhere along the line I learned what he was actually doing to me. So the reason for not telling anyone changed. I felt embarrassed, ashamed and dirty. I was scared that I would be punished for not telling anyone before. Ever since I learned that it wasn't a game we played I've felt uncomfortable and really impure, anxious and sick around him. There wasn't really enough space growing up and me and him shared a room, God forbid he ever did anything to me while I was asleep. Fast forward today and I still haven't told anyone. Now I know if I told someone then he would basically get disowned. But I haven't been able to bring myself to do that. It would destroy everything my parents have worked for and that would be selfish. My parents would be mentally destroyed. So I'll just keep this with me for the rest of my life.
    My question is, has anyone been through or known anyone who has been through something like this? I've been finding it really hard to cope recently, I just feel so ashamed around him now. He must know that I still remember but I don't know if he even remembers still... What should I do?!
    PS: Mods I understand if this does not get approved but if there is a way with censorship then please censor away... 

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    Ruqaya101 reacted to Ashvazdanghe in I need some advice on a serious matter.   
    Salam unfortunately he caused a big trauma in your heart & mind but you don't do any sin & you are clean & pure because you were immature & didn't know the ruling 
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in I need some advice on a serious matter.   
    im so, so sorry. 
    you are not impure! 
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from AMR5 in What do you want to achieve this Ramadan   
    An increase in Taqwa. Increase in imaan. To be stronger mentally and spiritually.
    To come out of it a better person and a muslimah.
    To reflect on my sins and mistakes and how I can improve myself. To Submit 
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to ali_fatheroforphans in Major setbacks in life   
    Salam,
    In life we have major setbacks, sometimes it can be if we are unemployed, go through depression, lose a loved one or simply get bullied. In times of difficulty it can be hard to think straight and have that clarity while we do our obligatory duties. What is your way to put aside all the worries and just maintain that connection with Allah? Try to be more specific, what exactly do you guys do? Will you instantly pick up the Qur'an and recite a few verses? Talk to someone? or Perhaps prolong your dua?
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to Hopeless wonderer in What do you want to achieve this Ramadan   
    Inshallah you will! 
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from Hopeless wonderer in What do you want to achieve this Ramadan   
    An increase in Taqwa. Increase in imaan. To be stronger mentally and spiritually.
    To come out of it a better person and a muslimah.
    To reflect on my sins and mistakes and how I can improve myself. To Submit 
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from HakimPtsid in TAQWA IN RAMADHAAN   
    AAMAL TO BE PERFORMED ONLY DURING NIGHT
     
    The recommended rites that are dedicated to the nights of Ramadan are as follows:
     
    First: It is recommended to postpone breaking one’s fast later than the Isha’ Prayer unless one is too weak to keep fasting or one is being waited by people to break the fasting altogether, in an invitation for example.
     
    Second: It is recommended to begin breaking the fast with utterly legally gotten food, especially dates. This act doubles the reward of the prayer to four hundred folds. It is also advisable to break the fast with dates, ripe dates, candy, sugar-candy, and cool water.
     
    Third: It is recommended to say the familiar supplicatory prayers of breaking the fast, such as the following:
    اَللّٰهُمَّ لَكَ صُمْتُ، وَعَلٰى رِزْقِكَ اَفْطَرْتُ، وَعَلَيْكَ تَوَكَّلْتُ،
     
    One who says this supplicatory prayer will be awarded, by Almighty Allah, the rewards of all those who observe fasting on that day.
     
    Sayyid ibn Tawus and al-Kaf’ami have narrated the supplicatory prayer that begins with:
    اَللّٰهُمَّ رَبَّ النُّوْرِ الْعَظِيْمِ
     
    This supplicatory prayer also brings about a great merit.
     
    It has been narrated that Imam Ali((عليه السلام).) used to say the following supplicatory prayer when he would break his fasting:
    بِسْمِ اللهِ اَللّٰهُمَّ لَكَ صُمْنَا وَعَلٰى رِزْقِكَ اَفْطَرْنَا فَتَقَبَّلْ مِنَّا اِنَّكَ اَنْتَ السَّمِيْعُ الْعَلِيْمُ۔
     
    Fourth: It is recommended to say the following imploration for forgiveness at the first bite of the food with which the fasting is broken:
    بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ، يَا وَاسِعَ الْمَغْفِرَةِ اِغْفِرْ لِيْ۔
     
    Forgiveness of Almighty Allah is the reward of those who say this imploration.
     
    A Hadith reads: Almighty Allah releases from Hellfire one million persons at the last hour of every day in Ramadan; therefore, pray Him to include you with these released ones.
     
    Fifth: It is recommended to recite Surah al-Qadr at breaking the fast.
     
    Sixth: It is recommended to give alms at the time of breaking the fast and to offer food to the other fasters even if with a single date and a drink of water. Concerning this, the Holy Prophet ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم).a.) is reported to have said, “Verily, anyone who offers food for a faster in Ramadan will have the same reward that is decided for the faster without having any amount of his reward reduced and will have the same reward of acting good deeds according to the power of that food.”
     
    ‘Allamah al-Hilli, in al-Risalah al-Sa’diyyah, has narrated that Imam Ja’far al-Sadiq((عليه السلام).) said, “As for any believer who feeds another believer with a single bite of food in Ramadan, Almighty Allah will decide for him the reward of manumitting thirty believing slaves and will decide to respond to his prayers.”
     
    Seventh: Narrations have confirmed that it is advisable to recite Surah al-Qadr one thousand times a night.
     
    Eighth: When possible, it is recommended to recite Surah al-Dukhan (No. 44) one hundred times a night.
     
    Ninth: Sayyid ibn Tawus has mentioned that if one says the following supplicatory prayer each night in Ramadan, his sins of forty years will be forgiven:
    اَللّٰهُمَّ رَبَّ شَهْرِ رَمَضَانَ الَّذِيْ اَنْزَلْتَ فِيْهِ الْقُرْاٰنَ، وَافْتَرَضْتَ عَلٰى عِبَادِكَ فِيْهِ الصِّيَامَ، صَلِّ عَلٰى مُحَمَّدٍ وَاٰلِ مُحَمَّدٍ، وَارْزُقْنِيْ حَجَّ بَيْتِكَ الْحَرَامِ فِيْ عَامِيْ هٰذَا وَفِيْ كُلِّ عَامٍ، وَاغْفِرْ لِيْ تِلْكَ الذُّنُوْبَ الْعِظَامَ، فَاِنَّهُ لَا يَغْفِرُهَا غَيْرُكَ يَا رَحْمٰنُ يَا عَلَّامُ۔
     
    Tenth: It is recommended to say the previously mentioned supplicatory prayer known as Dua al-Hajj after the Maghrib Prayer.
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from ali_fatheroforphans in TAQWA IN RAMADHAAN   
    @2Timeless
    @3wliya_maryam
     
     
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from 3wliya_maryam in TAQWA IN RAMADHAAN   
    people, as to those among you who behave politely in this month, they shall be permitted to pass the Discriminating Bridge (sirat) on the day when many feet will slip (I.e. the Resurrection Day). As to those among you who relieve their servants from a part of their jobs, Almighty Allah shall make easy for them the interrogation on the Resurrection Day. As to those who stop bothering the others, Almighty Allah shall save them from His ire on the day when they shall meet Him. As to those who honor an orphan in this month, Almighty Allah shall honor them on the day when they will meet Him. As to those who keep good ties with their relatives in this month, Almighty Allah will keep good ties with them through His mercy on the day when they will meet Him. On the other hand, as to those who rupture their relations with their relatives in this month, Almighty Allah will prevent them from receiving His mercy on the day when they will meet Him. As to those who voluntarily offer a prayer in this month, Almighty Allah will release them from Hellfire. As to those who perform a religious rite in this month, they shall be given the reward of performing seventy religious rites in other months. As to those who very frequently invoke Almighty Allah’s blessings upon me in this month, Almighty Allah shall make their scales heavy (I.e. full of good deeds) when the others’ scales will be light (I.e. lacking good deeds). As to those who recite a single verse of the Qur’an in this month, they shall have the reward of one who has recited the whole Qur’an in other months.
     
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from 3wliya_maryam in TAQWA IN RAMADHAAN   
    what are ways that you increase your taqwa during Ramadan.
    what deeds do you try to do during the day and even after iftar. 
    could be the smallest mustahab deeds, or good deeds in general, such as saying bismillah and reading Qur'an everyday?
    what does your day of Ramadan usually go like?
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to Mohammed-Mehdi in TAQWA IN RAMADHAAN   
    https://www.Sistani.org/english/archive/25240/

    First: It is necessary to truly believe in God, the Glorified, and in the Hereafter. Never neglect this belief. It is proven by clear evidence and decreed by the straight path. Every creature in this world –if man can explore its depths– is a novel production that attests to an omnipotent maker and a mighty creator. The messages of God have come incessantly through His Prophets to remind mankind of this fact and to indicate that this life –as He planned it- is in fact an arena in which He tests His servants to see who is best in conduct. A person who is blind to the existence of God and the Hereafter would not know the meaning of this life, its horizons, and its aftermath, and would be walking in darkness. Therefore, maintain your belief and make it the most important and the most precious of your belongings. Try to increase your certainty of it, make it present with you at all times, and preserve it with strong foresight and penetrating vision.
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from ali_fatheroforphans in What are you doing to better yourself?   
    you just had to put the (lol), LOL.
    I recommend EVERYONE to try this, its an amazing reflective tool to see change, motivating too.
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from Simon the Canaanite in What are you doing to better yourself?   
    you just had to put the (lol), LOL.
    I recommend EVERYONE to try this, its an amazing reflective tool to see change, motivating too.
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from AStruggler in What are you doing to better yourself?   
    you just had to put the (lol), LOL.
    I recommend EVERYONE to try this, its an amazing reflective tool to see change, motivating too.
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from Hussaini1912 in How to spot genuine and true friends   
    Thats me for sure, LOL. 
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    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in What are you doing to better yourself?   
    you just had to put the (lol), LOL.
    I recommend EVERYONE to try this, its an amazing reflective tool to see change, motivating too.
  21. Haha
    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from ali_fatheroforphans in How to spot genuine and true friends   
    Thats me for sure, LOL. 
  22. Completely Agree
    Ruqaya101 got a reaction from 3wliya_maryam in How to spot genuine and true friends   
    Thats me for sure, LOL. 
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to 3wliya_maryam in How to spot genuine and true friends   
    A true friend will always be there for you, even if you don’t ask them to
    She will give you solid and real advice bc she knows best
    she gives you a shoulder to cry on
    she gives you space to rant
    she pisses you off but that’s okay 
    and sometimes you choose her over your family because theres no other person you can relate to
    She’s happy when you’re happy
    she tries as much as she can to fulfill other people’s favours
    and even if we got into the worst beef, she will never leave you and never stop being your friend.
    @Ruqaya101
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    Ruqaya101 reacted to ali_fatheroforphans in How to spot genuine and true friends   
    Yeah it doesn't matter if they are non-Muslims. My best friend is a Hindu and I consider him to be a true friend.
  25. My Prayers
    Ruqaya101 reacted to Diaz in How to spot genuine and true friends   
    You just described my best friends. One of them is Sunni and the other one is Christian. 
    I use to have a lot of friends, but all of them are 2 faces (except my 2 best friends) 
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