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  1. On 11/2/2019 at 7:24 PM, ali_fatheroforphans said:


    Common sense and reason dictates that those who had expressed feelings for each other in the past shouldn't talk at all (if they break up for a reason). Even non-Muslims agree on the fact that it's best to cut the person off because they aren't relevant anymore. It's weird for your ex to check up on you as agreed upon by everyone.

    What is the Islamic opinion when it comes to this issue? Does Islam also tell us to never maintain any contact or respond to their salams etc. 

    If you’re a Muslim, and you’ve never dated someone, then they’re not your “ex”. If you’re saying that about a Muslim sister, then you’re harming her dignity whether you mean it or not.

    Also, it is rude to not answer back to them if they simply want to say sallam and ask about you as their **brother**. 

    This is Islamic opinion by the way, think about the way the Prophets treated women and do not compare it to “western societies where they don’t talk and ignore their ‘exes’”.

    May Allah guide us all. 

  2. 45 minutes ago, Sisterfatima1 said:


    if I ask my son a question and he thinks I’ll get angry he will lie and say no mummy 

    he is 3 years old how can I teach him in a nice way it’s not good to be lying 

    My little brother who is 6 now, also used to lie because he thought my mum would get angry at her, since usually whenever he did something wrong, she'd show an angry reaction. Eventually, whenever he did something wrong, my mum would shout out from the other room, "what happened, what was that noise" and my little brother would go,"nothing mama!", then he'd run to me and whisper "shh, don't tell mum, come with me" and then I would go and see what mischief he was up to, or what accident was made (like pooping on the ground because he couldn't reach the toilet). 

    So, he learnt that I never had an angry reaction to anything he did, and that whenever he did something, I would always console him that accidents happen but we must learn from them, and I would always sit him down and teach him what to do better the next time.

    However, whenever theres something that does need an angry reaction, I'd usually go tell my mum. We always do the "good cop, Bad cop" with him and it works wonders.

  3. 13 hours ago, karbalaii said:

    Salam. I think modesty is subjective to each person. I don't think the problem is with you not dressing modestly because everything you've mentioned so far seems modest enough to being worn in the West. I wouldn't suggest you to wear an abaya in the West, but even if you did, trust me.. I've seen girls get cat called even when they are wearing a loose abaya. Just wear what you feel is modest, at the end of the day, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) judges our intentions. If you know your intentions aren't to attract men, the sin will be on the men and not on you because you're not doing anything wrong. 

    Thank you so much. Im still kind of struggling with it, As I worry about my modesty. But inshallah khair.


    13 minutes ago, Guest Someone said:

    I think it would be better not to wear knee-high boots (ones that go up to the kneecaps anyway)

    I think one factor is that because they are unusual, they do grab people's attention and then get you more unwanted attention.

    And I'm not sure, but I think there is a tendency for flashy / Hollywood / sorority girl types of girls to wear them, which then perhaps creates a certain connotation for it... like how Birkenstock sandals have a connotation of hippies, even though they're just sandals. When a lot of people "of a certain type" wear a particular type of clothing, it creates a possibility that others who wear that type of clothing may get assumed to be like that as well.


    Yeah but my boots are just plain black, and theyre wide too, They don’t stick to my legs. and usually my dress passes the top of the boots too. It looks like any one else wearing boots, which a lot of girls do in my university as we have to have closed boots on for labs.

    But thank you. :) 


  4. 12 minutes ago, starlight said:

    This is sad but what I don't understand is that how did he end up in the refugee centre? 

    From what I understand, anyone who comes as a refugee must have sufficient evidence or good reason to be approved. If not, they'll have to wait in refugee centres till they're approved. Though, in his case, I'm not sure.

  5.  Manus refugee suicides in Brisbane, offshore detention claims another victim

    A 32-year-old mentally-distressed Afghan refugee, Sayed Mirwais Rohani, has committed suicide in Brisbane. The Afghan doctor jumped to his death from the 22nd floor of a Brisbane hotel on Tuesday, 15 October.

    Mirwais is the eighth Manus refugee death.

    Mirwais was brought to Australia from Manus Island in 2017, as his mental health badly deteriorated following his detention on Manus Island in September 2013. He had been living in community detention in Brisbane for the last year.

    The tragedy is shocking tale of deliberate abuse and neglect.

    Mirwais had a medical degree from a Chinese university which is recognised by Australia. He completed his degree in English and spoke six languages. He offered to work in the Lorengau hospital for free and was moved out of the Lombrum detention centre on that basis. Despite being moved he was not allowed to work in the hospital.

    As his mental health declined he was attacked, beaten and imprisoned.

    His father, a refugee living in Britain, travelled to Manus Island in 2016 in an effort to have him released so Mirwais could join his parents in Britain. Peter Dutton refused the request on the basis that Mirwais was over 18.

    There was a second attempt to try to get Mirwais to join his family in Britain after he was moved to Australia. That attempt also stalled with Peter Dutton and the Department of Home Affairs. His father visited Mirwais again in 2018.

    “Manus Island, offshore detention and Peter Dutton are responsible for yet another refugee death,” said Ian Rintoul, spokesperson for the Refugee Action Coalition, “In 2010, Australian of the Year, Patrick McGorry, labelled detention centres ‘factories of mental illness’. Mirwais death is yet more evidence of the damage that offshore detention is doing. It’s time offshore detention was ended.”

    Link to Refugee Action Coalition statement 


    Honestly, this is so sad. My close family friends were in the same position with 2 little boys and they suffered a lot of neglect until alhamdulilah, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) answered their prayers, but others are still left in there, people with so much potential that are being abused, neglected and mentally drained. 

    May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) help them all. 

  6. 8 hours ago, habib e najjaar said:

    Shia angle to come out.



    8 hours ago, starlight said:

    ll this because of wearing a little blush on the cheeks!!

    Why you surprised -_- they're men!

    7 hours ago, starlight said:

    (A tale of love)

    It needs a NAME.

    Aashique 3!

    8 hours ago, hasanhh said:

    she cried for three days, missed work, and was depressed for the week. Then she started to get better.

    Aww, poor thing, that hurt me :( 

  7. Sellamsi

    7 hours ago, AStruggler said:

    Hey Ruqaya I don't think this is true. Yes, Husky's might be part this and part that, but by common-view ('urf) they're considered dogs and so they'd be najis. I personally have always seen them as dogs and I'm pretty like everyone else around me does too. If I'm wrong then someone can correct me (@Sumerian).

    Edited 17 mi

    Simba was kept outside at all times, and in those five months, we never had to clean up outside. We still maintained mandatory hygiene whenever we did play with him, however, the people I was living with at the time, the person they follow had told them that huskies are pure, but hygiene must still be maintained. 

    13 hours ago, Propaganda_of_the_Deed said:

    All dogs descended from.a common ancestor of today's wolves regardless of breed. Does not make them "wolves".

    Huskies are a breed of domestic dogs and are not pure.

    So disappointed... that.... that...

    you didn't put a meme!

    Also, answers up there^^^^ 

  8. 2 minutes ago, hasanhh said:

    As l wrote, both families went-off the deep end. Her father jumped on a plane to make sure things came to a halt, and one of my own grandmothers threatened me (and they had the mean and the means to follow through on that). And other stuff.

    No point in trying to start a life when things are definitely going to be miserable.

    What story does this remind me of?

    Romeo and Juliet?

  9. 5 minutes ago, hasanhh said:

    This same thing/reaction happened in college. That one can clearly remember.

    There was this discussion l had with some other people that she over heard. From one comment l made she reacted, "anyone who says something like that l want to get to know." Here l can't remember what it was or what we were even talking about. That is why she got my number.

    Why exactly arent you married to her, if you both seem compatible?? Its like reading a fairytale

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