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Posts posted by Ruqaya101

  1. 3 minutes ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

    Yeah even if they know, there's nothing wrong to bring these discussions up. There's etiquettes to be learnt when interacting online and the more we discuss, it gives us a chance to reflect and improve.

    There’s nothing wrong with it, of course, but it’s discussed fairly a bit on the chat itself, so the awareness is in the place itself anyway. 

  2. 1 minute ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

    @2Timeless and @Ruqaya101 

    I agree with youse that many informative discussions take place and there's a lot of benefits.

    However he's raising awareness for maybe those who might not know. Sometimes we may have little teenage kids who join chat and may be unaware when it comes to all this banter etc. There's nothing wrong if they learn the proper etiquettes of chatroom. This is not targeted towards anyone imo.

    LOL they’ll know and they most probably know. It’s individually a choice they make, you can do whatever you can and advise but at the end of the day, they know. 

  3. 12 minutes ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

    This thread has nothing to do with decent men. I’m merely addressing a reality that guys are more sensitive when it comes to these issues, and it’s how their brain is wired. Islam comes and tells both genders to maintain social hijab because our expectations can be different. The so-called “decent” men out there can also deceive sisters and may be emotionally attached or attracted. This thread is not about men being the ones at fault.

    I’m not saying their the ones at fault. But your message shouldn’t have been directed at sisters only. That’s subjective especially when the message really relates to men

  4. 6 hours ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:


    I do think that a lot of women out there can be oblivious when it comes to the behaviour of men. I think women need to be educated to understand the psychology of men and how their brain functions. The things I am going to say may also relate to women, but in my opinion, this is something which refers to men a bit more. I may even sound harsh at times, but trust me, I am trying to be honest. Also, I'm not saying this is always the case as there's always exceptions.

    Firstly, being excessively charming, sweet, nice to men, be it in real life or over the text, puts you in a vulnerable position. I do not deny the fact that you may have pure intentions, but sometimes being overly nice allows men to develop certain feeling towards you, even if it may be extremely subtle. It’s an entirely different story if you are interested in a specific guy and want to show a bit of your care and affection towards them, obviously within boundaries. However, being excessively nice to every John, Bob and Harry, is not the best way to carry yourself. It’s okay to be blunt at times. Let men out there know that you’re not easy.

    Secondly, there is a social experiment conducted which you can find on Youtube – ‘Guys and Girls Can’t Be Friends’. Even according to psychology, it is not possible for those who are non-mahram to each other to be ‘friends’. Women can sometimes be oblivious when it comes to this reality. Be careful when a brother is playing around with you. You have no idea how the brain of a man works. There may be exceptions due to age barrier etc. but the majority of guys out there will develop some feelings towards you and an emotional attachment. I wouldn't call this lust, but it could be an excessive admiration, love or even attraction. Even if your friendship is dead-ended, and a guy knows there is no potential for halal growth, he may be carelessly taking short-term temporary pleasure by talking to you the way he would speak with his mates.  It's just a heads up for every sister out there. 

    What are your thoughts?

    hmm, many of us women know this already, this message should be directed at men more so than woman. 

    Women, though, should make it clear that there are boundaries and shouldn’t be crossed. 

  5. 17 hours ago, EasternQibla said:

    I shall write after the weekend. I want to see what Muslims - specifically either Shia or Sufi - think of it. Many years ago I joined another Muslim forum, and also asked about the Light of Muhammad, and got a strange reply about his teaching being his 'light'. I later discovered that this was wahabi or similar. oops!

    lol, stay cool?

  6. 8 hours ago, EasternQibla said:


    I would like to know more about the concept of the Light of Muhammad. I know that this can be a controversial topic, but from what I can gather, Shia accept the existence of the Light of Muhammad as being created from the Light of Allah. It is this that I would like to be clarified.

    By saying that the Light of Muhammad was created from the Light of Allah, do you mean:

    1)   That the Light of Muhammad was created from nothing, but appeared to be like the Light of Allah?

    2)   that a ‘part’ of Allah’s Light ceased being part of Allah to become the Light of Muhammad? 

    3)   That the Light of Muhammad never left Allah’s Light, but exists within It?

    4)   That the Light of Muhammad is part of Allah or of Allah's Light?

    5)   Or something else!

    I’ve looked at certain Sufi books, and there never seems to be a clear answer? 

    whats your theory of his light?

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