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In the Name of God بسم الله


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  1. Salam dear sister. Allah has ordered Hijab for women to leverage their status and to make them covered (because women have a great divine quality - Haya/Chastity/Modesty). Allah has made women beautiful and has asked them to keep their beauty hidden from everyone except their husbands. Hijab makes your pure. When you remove your hijab, you only remain an object which satisfies wild lustful eyes of men who are preying on women. Dear, Islam came for people right from 7th century to QIyamah. Its not like Hijab was a timely thing. No. The laws of Islam applies in the same way as it was applied to the family of the Prophet (saws). Please Sister, don't loose your Haya and protect yourself from wild animals out there. May Allah protect you.
  2. I don't appreciate such over protective ambitious parents. This is a sickness and this is against the very spirit of Islam.
  3. Contacting Shia marriage agencies would be the best option as of now (provided you are a female, for males its relatively easier to find a girl). But be very stringent in reviewing your potential spouse and never try to rush into a marriage. If you use facebook, there are tonnes of pages of Indo-Pak Shia marriage agencies. You can use them to reach them.
  4. Yes, but it was for her time. We are the Ummah of RasoolAllah (saws) and we follow his commands and take him as our role model. Before Islam came, Monasticism also has been the practice of the nation of some of the previous Prophets advised by the Prophets itself, but we don't need to follow it now. We have our own time, own requirements and own ways to deal with us and God.
  5. I appreciate your disagreement. Yes its true that not everyone wants to remarry. But a girl who is young and having a divorce for valid reasons should sincerely try to remarry before she gets into her 30s. That would be better for her spirituality and her material life as well. This is what Islam tells us about marriage (its helps spiritually and materially), only if the marriage is done wisely (with a religious, understanding and compatible partner).
  6. You're missing the point brother. The problem is her Husband and not the marriage. Her husband is not religious, not trustworthy and a source of all those problems she has described. I'm not telling her to remarry asap but not to shun marriage forever (as Anonymous2144 said to be single and like like Bibi Maryam(s.a)).
  7. Only and Only if you have no chances of getting remarried. Highly Highly Mustahab. The Messenger of Allah (S) has said, "There is no foundation that has been built in Islam more loved by Allah, (The Greatest and Noblest) than marriage." This hadith shows us the great importance that Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى and His Messenger (S) have placed on marriage, such that it is the most loved foundation or establishment upon which the Muslim man and woman can build their life upon. If such a foundation is built with love, honesty, sincerity and true faith in Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى and all that He has commanded, then there is nothing that could destroy such a firm building. It has been narrated from Abi Abdillah that, "A man once came to my father. My father asked him, "Are you married?" The man replied, 'No.' My father (as) replied, 'I would not love to have the world and all that is contained within it if it meant I had to spend one night without a woman (beside me).'" This saying from our sixth Imam (as) shows the importance that the rightful successors of the Prophet (S) placed on marriage. In this hadith, we are told that the Imam (as) would not even trade all the beauties and material treasures that exist in the world, if it means that he had to spend even one night alone! This may point to the fact that the evil whisperings of Shaitan may penetrate a single man or woman to go towards the prohibited and thus, contaminate his or her faith and belief. "And of His signs is that He has created spouses for yourselves from your own selves so you might take comfort in them and He has created love and mercy among both of you. In this there is evidence (of the truth) for the people who (carefully) think." (Surah 30, Verse 21). Really? Spiritual? GET A WIFE/HUSBAND!! Don't be like Iblis who said - God I want to worship you but the way I want to. (Not prostrating to Adam) Complete Submission is to follow what God Wills.
  8. Parents nowadays are having this sickness of making their offspring suffer the pangs of marriage.!! Really disgusting Firstly, why your parents are not looking for someone for you? Secondly, even if you found someone, would your parents allow your marriage (permission of a Wali is necessary sister) ?
  9. She can remarry to other good guy too! Man, your Qisas is brutal. Stay away from doing such rubbish and foolish things!!
  10. I would ask you to do Istekhaara (via an Aalim/Sheikh) whether to divorce him or not. If answer comes yes, Just divorce him. (because all the things you mentioned makes him mentally unstable. He is not mature enough to make concrete commitments and to take huge responsibilities of establishing a healthy family).
  11. Some people are fond of rejecting things bro
  12. The "ugly" Sahabi and a message to our elders and youth. Julaybib (Arabic: جليبيب) was a martyr and one of the less known companions of Prophet Muhammad in the early Muslim community. His name was acquired prior to his acceptance of Islam and is considered unusual and incomplete. In the Arabic language Julaybib means "small grown" being the diminutive form of the word jalbab, indicating that Julaybib was small and short, even dwarf-like. He was also described as being damim, meaning ugly, deformed, or repulsive. Julaybib's lineage was unknown and there is no record of his parents or what tribe he belonged to. All that was known of him was that he was an Arab and that he was one of the Ansar in Medina. With Julaybib in mind, Muhammad went to an Ansari man and said: "I want to have your daughter married." "How wonderful and blessed, O Messenger of God and what a delight to the eye (this would be)," he replied. "I do not want her for myself," added Muhammad. "Then for whom, O Messenger of God?" asked the man, obviously disappointed. "For Julaybib," said Muhammad. The Ansari went to consult with his wife, telling her of Muhammad's desire for their daughter to marry Julaybib. His wife was repulsed, and protested saying "To Julaybib! No, never to Julaybib! No, by God, we shall not marry (her) to him." While the Ansari was preparing to inform Muhammad of what his wife said, the daughter hearing her mother's protestations, asked: "Who has asked you to marry me?" It is said that she the daughter was so beautiful that there was none among the women of that clan who could compete with her looks. She was so shy and modest that perhaps the sky itself had never seen her head uncovered. She had so much fear of her creator and piety, that she would spend her days and nights in worship. The daughter asked what was happening, she was told that the Messenger of God wants your hand in marriage for Julaybib. As the Mother continued her crying and wailing the daughter spoke she said, "O my Mother fear Allah think of what you are saying are you turning away the Messenger of God. 'O my Mother it does not suit a believer to make their own decision once God and his Messenger have decided on a matter. Do you think that the Messenger of God will disgrace us? How blessed is the status of Julaybib, that God and his Messenger are asking for your daughter's hand on his behalf. Don't you know that the angels themselves envy the dust on the feet of one who is a beloved of God and His Messenger. Ask the Messenger to send me Julaybib for there is no greater privilege than for me to be blessed by such a husband, the Messenger of God has arrived with such a wonderful gift yet my Mother you cry and wail." She was married by Muhammad to Julaybib and they lived together until he was martyred in an expedition. She was married by Muhammad to Julaybib and they lived together until he was martyred in an expedition. On the day of the expedition his father in law, had pleaded with him: "'O Julaybib this is just an expedition, it is not a compulsory Jihad, it is a voluntary Jihad, therefore you are newly married spend some time with your wife." Julaybib, the one who had spent a lifetime in despair, had now found a loving wife. But he replied to his father in law's request and said, " 'O my father you say a strange thing, my Beloved Prophet is in the battlefield facing the enemies of Islam and you want me to sit at home with my wife, nay I will sacrifice my blood and my soul rather than see my Prophet facing hardship while I sit at home in luxury". Julaybib participated in an expedition with Muhammad in which an encounter with some enemies ensued. After that battle the Prophet of God, asked his companions to go and to see if anyone was missing from their family's and clans. Each one returned accounting for all his family members. Then the Prophet spoke with tears in his eyes he said "But I have lost my Beloved Julaybib, go and find him." They found his diminutive body lying next to seven enemies he had slain in the battle. The Prophet of God asked for a grave to be dug, as the Prophet of God held the body of Julaybib. The companions wept profusely "May our Mothers and Fathers be sacrificed for you O' Julaybib, how great is your status." Thus a companion who had once lived as an outcast, shunned by the society around him. He loved God and his Messenger and reached such a high status. He who was not good looking was blessed with a beautiful wife, he who was poor was blessed by a wealthy wife, he who had no family or status, was blessed by a wife with noble status and lineage he who had lived in loneliness and despair, was loved by Allah and his messenger, He had the Messenger of God say: " O Allah he is from me and I am from him." It is said: "That upon his martyrdom, that the sky itself was filled with thousands of angels who had come to participate in his funeral." Julaybib 'The Lonesome one' had become a beloved of Allah, and his prophet, he was lonely no more. Such is the status of the lovers of the Prophet. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Now after reading this "authentic" tradition, how many of our youths are ready to select a spouse only and only on the basis of piety and faith no matter the potential spouse has any physical defects (which are put in him/her to test him/her as well as those around him/her)?? How many parents are ready to accept such spouse? This is the deen of Islam. The All Encompassing deen which doesn't discriminates among its followers on the basis of physical appearance. Taqwa is the only standard. If you really are a Muslim (of logic, reason, knowledge and love) then break the cultural taboos you've build around yourselves and break the face of Shaytan. Only Allah knows how much reward will this act hold for you on the Day of Judgement to marry someone pious completely ignoring their physical differences.
  13. I know no one here could write a piece that could ease your pain but we can all pray and ask you to be "Patient". The case you are describing looks like almost lost as she has given up on her. And you two are struggling so hard for your own lives as well. Just be with her and make sure you don't make her feel alone. InshaAllah you both will be rewarded. God puts severe tests for those whom He loves the most.
  14. Our standard is Islam. Islam is the Absolute, All Encompassing religion dear. We Muslims don't take people as examples. We take Qur'an and Ahlulbayt and our own intellect to show us what is right and wrong. And yes, this is not modernity what you wrote above, its Modern form of Jahiliya (ignorance).
  15. Start reading and listening Qur'an. I tell you this sin will go away surely. Surround yourself with spiritual people. Don't ever watch pornography (and think about sex) and focus on your studies. Be in Wudhu as much as possible and improve your sleeping postures. All of this will help you become a better man. May Allah help you.
  16. You can mail the office of Ayt Sistani and they'll answer you accordingly.
  17. She is not asking for the first time of wash. She again washed her right side and thus as an obligatory precaution needed to wash her left side as well. (according to Ayt Sestani).
  18. MashaAllah you are blessed so much to become a Shiah of Fatema and Ali (a.s). May Allah accept your deeds. Coming to your question, before attending to his proposal try to find out his authenticity. Can you tell us where he lives? America? Iraq? Why did he divorced? He is an Aalim/Sheikh, What made him take such a big step knowing divorce is not very pleasing act near Allah (only allowed in dire circumstances). Why he wants to remarry and that too to a convert? (Din't he got Muslims to remarry?) Research sister, Research more about him, but don't doubt too much. I would say try to meet him (if you haven't met him) and see his sincerity. If all those questions are answered and you find him really worthy then don't put any bogus thoughts and just remarry. Provided (if) he is a (true) Sheikh then he can teach you Islam better. The romance part will eventually come into being once you both get well together. May Allah continue shower His Blessings on you.
  19. You can make your ghusl right by inclining to another Marja for the 'obligatory precaution' part who deems the Ghusl to be correct even if the left part is not washed the 2nd time. I see your previous queries are also about doubts. The only way you could conquer this problem (which Satan is trying to make you fall for) is IGNORING the doubt everytime it occurs to you. Another way is to make sure yourself about the completion of Ghusl and Wudhu everytime you do it. Like try to practice doing wudhu with just one glass of water. Try to take small scoops of water and once you have rinsed your hands for example, rub your other wet hand on properly on the hand you are making wudhu to make sure its completely wet for the allowed portion. For more help you can PM me as well. Also please see this thread - It'll be helpful on how to remove doubts and make your ghusl/wudhu right. https://www.shiachat.com/forum/topic/235060386-need-help-brothers-only/?tab=comments#comment-3187122
  20. Try to make an Aalim talk to your parents as this is not Islamically right to reject someone purely on the basis of cultural differences. Also try to make them understand that you will be happy with him this is what marriage is all about. Its you who have to marry and not them.
  21. Just think like this dear sister - Everything GOOD comes with patience. We all here are for test. And we all are tested every second of our lives. Put your Trust in Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى. The ONE who created you and is fully aware of your state and needs. Pray to him alot. I mean ALOT. Sometimes Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى keeps away His material blessings from a person to make that person come to Him, beg Him and spend time with Him. Go to Him and InshaAllah He will provide you. He is Khayyr ur Razeqeen. He is your Lord. Your Creator, Cherisher and your Sustainer. Keep your search and Rely on Allah's Wisdom.
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